Sorry I’m having a very hot time imagining that? could you maybe tell me in kilos (I’m German)
Of course changing habits is the goal to getting healthier and losing weight. But you have to change your mentality first, if your depressed or have any other mental health problem, you have to take care of that first and not the other way around.
Always a possibility I guess. Important to not write in additional bits of the story ourselves though! OP will know if it's a good idea, just doesn't seem to have been considered thus far is all
The only way to resolve things is for her to prove to you that he is cut off. Then it's going to take time for you two to heal from this and for her to continually show that you can trust her. With time you'd have a chance of feeling confident about things.
That's the answer to getting past a lot of relationship issues: time.
Everyone I know who got together young and whose partner decided they needed to go off exploring is now divorced. Save yourself the time and heartache and end it now.
Absolutely innapropriate. why did he not remove her arm?
He told me then let her put her number in his phone to avoid him giving her his number and that he is deleting it.
Should have never been stored for more than 5 minutes. the minute she put it in, immediately delete it.
Him telling u on “his own”. means nothing. believe me. i used this exact logic to say “well he didn't have to tell me so he must be telling the truth. cause why else would he bring it up”
there needs to be boundaries and her number needs to be blocked. u should express to him how u would like him to keep to boundaries if ever in a situation like this. As in, the inappropriate physical touch and putting number in. why is he acting like he cant say no?
Than give them back their money now. Give them back whatever you took from them. In that kind of a job you were supposed to NOT IGNORE their needs too. You were a fraud who took advantage of some kinky people.
Love can be blinding. I’m glad you have your head on straight. I have a friend who got taken for a ride by her bf. she’s left with 1,000s in credit card debt ?.
Also, being on fixed incomes are all your funds shared? Or do you just share an expenses account and she used that? Because using half your money for your (shared) birthday gift which she would enjoy more than you would is pretty shitty.
Girl, he’s lying. He runs to mommy after every disagreement. That’s how his family knows all about your relationship issues. Do you want a lifetime of this???
Go get involved in something you're interested in. Join a book club. Take a cooking course. Play on a beach volleyball team. Join a running group. Volunteer at an animal shelter or a soup kitchen. Whatever it is that you care about and find meaningful or enjoyable.
You will meet people organically by getting out there and involved in your community, much more so than by working out at the gym alone and hanging out with your family. Some of those people will become friends, which you need just as much as a gf (or more). Some of those people might be potential dates.
I'm glad to see a differeing opinion. Pretty sure “boys only all weekend bashes” that are tolerated in the beginning of a relationship won't be tolerated as well as the relationship matures. Being off the grid the entire weekend also is how some people have a 2nd family.
When my wife and I were still dating (about four years in) we had two weddings on the same day. Mine was a good friend from law school, hers was a good friend from law school. So we just went to our individual weddings. ??.
The vast majority of Craig’s list is stuff like, “I’m selling an old refrigerator that’s kind of broken for $25 if you come pick it up.”
It used to have more loosely regulated ads for meetups like you mentioned, and I’m sure they’re still there but they made it so you can’t be obvious about it.
Personally, After going through what you already have I would give him exactly ONE chance to choose his family over alcohol and I would take the kids and leave.
then they don’t text for 12 hours.
12 hours isn't even a long time…
How old are you? I'm assuming you're a teenager.
Sorry I’m having a very hot time imagining that? could you maybe tell me in kilos (I’m German)
Of course changing habits is the goal to getting healthier and losing weight. But you have to change your mentality first, if your depressed or have any other mental health problem, you have to take care of that first and not the other way around.
Always a possibility I guess. Important to not write in additional bits of the story ourselves though! OP will know if it's a good idea, just doesn't seem to have been considered thus far is all
Y’all group the extremists with all women and then blame your issues on us but mmkay. No surprise you’re transphobic
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Maybe she asked him to.
Your made up scenario is irrelevant. This is a planned trip which you could've and should've invited your girlfriend on.
The lack of consideration is why people are saying you're not ready for a relationship. I would never plan a trip and not invite my girlfriend.
The only way to resolve things is for her to prove to you that he is cut off. Then it's going to take time for you two to heal from this and for her to continually show that you can trust her. With time you'd have a chance of feeling confident about things.
That's the answer to getting past a lot of relationship issues: time.
Everyone I know who got together young and whose partner decided they needed to go off exploring is now divorced. Save yourself the time and heartache and end it now.
Even if it puts your newborn baby at risk of serious illness or death??? I think this is an exception dude.
She apparently put her arm in his and all that.
Absolutely innapropriate. why did he not remove her arm?
He told me then let her put her number in his phone to avoid him giving her his number and that he is deleting it.
Should have never been stored for more than 5 minutes. the minute she put it in, immediately delete it.
Him telling u on “his own”. means nothing. believe me. i used this exact logic to say “well he didn't have to tell me so he must be telling the truth. cause why else would he bring it up”
there needs to be boundaries and her number needs to be blocked. u should express to him how u would like him to keep to boundaries if ever in a situation like this. As in, the inappropriate physical touch and putting number in. why is he acting like he cant say no?
Than give them back their money now. Give them back whatever you took from them. In that kind of a job you were supposed to NOT IGNORE their needs too. You were a fraud who took advantage of some kinky people.
Don't sleep with your landlord.
Love can be blinding. I’m glad you have your head on straight. I have a friend who got taken for a ride by her bf. she’s left with 1,000s in credit card debt ?.
If I asked my man what it is that he likes about me and he struggled to think of something, that wouldn't be my man anymore.
You deserve more than that.
Also, being on fixed incomes are all your funds shared? Or do you just share an expenses account and she used that? Because using half your money for your (shared) birthday gift which she would enjoy more than you would is pretty shitty.
If she knew you wanted kids, and she didn't the whole time, she is a manipulator.
Don't know a thing about her mother, but that's the part you should apologize for.
Girl, he’s lying. He runs to mommy after every disagreement. That’s how his family knows all about your relationship issues. Do you want a lifetime of this???
I’d leave the second he mentioned wanting another woman
this really opened my eyes to the whole situation, thank you
Anyone who says their relationship is amazing but….You can almost guarantee is full of red flags ?
Marry the girl but negotiate for guarantees for you education.
Go get involved in something you're interested in. Join a book club. Take a cooking course. Play on a beach volleyball team. Join a running group. Volunteer at an animal shelter or a soup kitchen. Whatever it is that you care about and find meaningful or enjoyable.
You will meet people organically by getting out there and involved in your community, much more so than by working out at the gym alone and hanging out with your family. Some of those people will become friends, which you need just as much as a gf (or more). Some of those people might be potential dates.
I'm glad to see a differeing opinion. Pretty sure “boys only all weekend bashes” that are tolerated in the beginning of a relationship won't be tolerated as well as the relationship matures. Being off the grid the entire weekend also is how some people have a 2nd family.
Could there have been red flags that I have missed?
Well the fact you're 18 and he's over 30 actively trying to get with teenagers is a pretty giant flag .
You’re able to go to separate weddings.
When my wife and I were still dating (about four years in) we had two weddings on the same day. Mine was a good friend from law school, hers was a good friend from law school. So we just went to our individual weddings. ??.
Scheduling conflicts happen.
The vast majority of Craig’s list is stuff like, “I’m selling an old refrigerator that’s kind of broken for $25 if you come pick it up.”
It used to have more loosely regulated ads for meetups like you mentioned, and I’m sure they’re still there but they made it so you can’t be obvious about it.
Personally, After going through what you already have I would give him exactly ONE chance to choose his family over alcohol and I would take the kids and leave.
Keep the name of your child.