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I'm assuming that most of the people responding are men who have no experience with aggressive dudes who will stop at nothing to get your number whether you're taken or not.
Why would your girlfriend tell you when she gives her number out if she was trying to be sneaky? Sounds like she feels bad rejecting people (probably in part because women are so conditioned to be polite to men at all times regardless of their own feelings) and does the easier thing, which is to acquiesce and block/delete later. If that makes you uncomfortable, you can absolutely tell her.
Does she ever respond to these men? Is she cagey about her phone? Or does she ignore them?
The baby brother suggests it could be post partum depression but we don't have enough info to know. It doesn't seem like a mentally healthy way to behave but there is potentially a lot more going on
I agree with other commenters on this, but with one addition: In the future, it might be a good idea to establish a safeword (some people use a “colored flag” system as well). Some people are awful with tone (I’m one of those people lmao) and it can make sexual interactions with bratty types very frustrating and unsatisfying for both parties. This isn’t to suggest any of this is your fault btw. This guy is completely at fault here. But it seemed worth mentioning with the “No doesn’t always mean no” comment.
You should think about what would happen if you “accidentially” got pregnant. Not only women can babytrap men, the other way around is possible, too. Please think long and honestly about it – would you want this child? Could you take care of it? Would you have help from your partner or is he the “I need a kid to have it as a status symbol” type? Are you financially secure? What if he tries (and he will) to pressure you to keep it?
And obviously it depends. Did you notice that she started changing her habits towards eating and exercising and then gaining weight or did she just start gaining weight without having made any visible change to her habits?
He's lying and the fact that he got mad about it just proves it even further. If he did nothing wrong then he wouldn't be upset that you found a bra in his car. Cheaters give themselves away with that.
I still dont really think it's about the money but I think both of you have a lot of understanding of the other person to do. I do think you are being a little too sensitive but that doesn't mean that it shouldn't be brought up. Both of you need to learn to work through your problems and not just assume the other is supposed to understand.
You traded something real for a bag of magic beans.
But why? Is it a bunch of guys that he wants you to stop hanging out with? What is the dynamic that is causing the insecurities? Have you slept with any of them in the past?
this reminds me of the phrase “beggars can’t be choosers”. You’re clearly out of options here you need to wrap it or tell her to get another form of BC
Go apologize to your boyfriend for starting a fight. Like a sincere apology and find something to do while he's gone.
Lol I get it, you're so focused on making the man the problem you don't want to accept the difference between “abusive” and “completely done with the bullshit”.
He's not being manipulative. He's done with her bullshit. She's constantly insulting and gaslighting him. Has gotten physically violent multiple times. Is doing literally everything for their house and their child. Is dealing with someone who refuses to get help until he does something she can use to blame him for everything going wrong in her life right now.
And you want him to be the problem because you think him saying “I will remove myself and my child from this situation if you hate it so much” is manipulative.
No, saying “I will remove myself from this situation if you hate me so much” is not manipulative. It's a wake up call that she desperately needs. Saying “I will seek full custody” is not a threat, it's a promise. He's saying that if she hates this situation so much, he will change the situation for her. Since she is so adamantly refusing to change it herself.
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He was upfront with you about his stance on being in a non monogamous or non traditional relationship. If that's not something that can work out for you, you have to end the relationship. When you keep bringing it up, you're creating more insecurities and also hurting him.
I mean I have certainly learned, but was it my mistake? Of course people can change their minds but we are both quite in agreement on the subject.
Absolutely unacceptable. Your girlfriend has no reason to have a relationship with your abuser. Cut them both out of your life.
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Thank you all for the advice on what it can be, I'm used to just, well…. My partner doesn't take it seriously, like he takes me to the Dr.s but if he comes home and I start complaining to him abt how much I'm hurting that day he just doesn't react much and when I tell him that it hurts me that he doesn't even acts a little concerned he goes like “Well im not a Doctor, complainingto isnt gonna do anything, you're always in pain or have something smh” like…. I'm all saying is hey baby, my backs hurts so much today, expecting from him that he gives me a hug or tell me to sit down cause I've been on my feet all day long cleaning or cooking or doing some chores, and he goes and snaps at me like that
There is no expectation that partners should go to concerts together lol.
Like… weddings would be one thing, but concerts? It’s basically a hobby, and people sometimes like to do their hobbies on their own terms.
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Op says in another comment that after about a week of them formally going out she dropped the fwb. So it's not like she was leading OP on and sleeping with the guy after for 3+ weeks.
She also didn't lie about having a FWB just sounds like she didn't mention it when he asked about her past with men. Which yea why would you?
My fiance and I both had other dates set up the day he and I were supposed to go on our first date. His actually wasn't a date they were supposed to hook up. Before talks of exclusivity I think it's wrong to expect the other person to be on the same page as you automatically. Some stuff needs to be communicated. My personal take is until there are titles involved everyone is free to do as they wish. Until then we're 2 adults enjoying each other's time.
Stop having sex with him
I'll have a serious conversation with him about it, and if breaking up is the best thing then thats whar I'll do
He doesn't get to bow out completely out of his responsibility for birth control. It is completely unfair to put all of that on you and you alone, just because he doesn't feel like wearing a freaking condom! I wouldn't want to have sex with someone who isn't an actual partner and accepts, that he has sex, too, and he has to do his part too, when it comes to birth control.
Oh woah, she sounds exhausting. I married a guy once with a true negative worldview, lots of rage, and a martyr complex and let me tell you, that’s not just a woman thing but it is a run-no-matter-what-friends-say thing. It drains your own joy and it’s not worth it.
You made the right call. There are genuinely optimistic and empathetic people out there, don’t settle.
Stop right now with that toxic masculinity “boys will be boys” crap. It isn’t a compliment to have a work colleague talk about your body in a sexual way. Other people’s bodies are none of our business.
You wouldn’t be ruining anyone’s career. You weren’t the one sexually harassing a team member n
Yeah, it is the decent and right thing to do. If I were in that position, I would prefer to be informed.
You should tell him and it’s not your fault only. If he wants to prevent him from being a father he could have used condoms or an other form of protection. I would also tell him so he can understand if you behave not like normal now or after the abortion.
The answer would be the same. It’s not okay to wear panties near a teenager boy whom you are not related
If I married the guy I dated at 26 I would be happily divorced. Instead, I married the guy I met at 28. We are 34 now and life is pretty awesome.
Bruh…can guys just not say no anymore?
If your problem is communication and connection, opening the relationship will destroy it. You need good communication for making an open relationship work. Hell, you need it for making any relationship work, period.
For fucks sake, you're missing the point, I'm pointing out the ridiculousness of your previous statement “even if he did an anger management course?” Because it's meaningless.
Alright, less extreme example. Would you trust an accountant with convictions for fraud and embezzlement? And would them having taken a “stealing is bad” course change your mind?
Gee I wonder who was raising their kid for eight years if she’s just been sitting on her ass and OP has been away at work. It’s a mystery. Guess we’ll never know.
As someone who abused and took her abuser back when he pulled something similar it is a big mistake. He claimed he went to therapy and changed. He loved me and would never hurt me again. I was a precious gift. Worst mistake of my life. He then went from emotional abuse to physical and giving me a black eye within two weeks of getting back together. This was in front of my child. She sounds like him. She is the same person who tore his life apart and treated him like scum. I guaranteer that if he goes back her family and her will go back to treating him horribly and probably it will be worse as he will be back under her circle. I know people will say I am projecting but domestic violence (even if just emotional at the time) doesn’t get better but worse. I know you were trying to help but she deserves to feel terrible. She deserves to see him happy with someone who treats him with respect and who actually love him. Abuse is not love. I feel for the kids also living in the vacuum of abuse and seeing their dad treated horribly.
YTA
Oh, wrong sub? Doesn’t matter. Still TA.
As a woman whose partner sometimes gets mad at me, when I don’t say a word, based solely on my involuntary facial expressions, I actually feel that you are asking your wife (at best) to hide her emotions and thoughts from you. At worst, you are trying to control her emotions and thoughts completely, telling her that she can’t have them, much less express them – as it sounds like she is already likely not expressing to you how she really feels with words. Your actions here are borderline abusive, whether either one of you realizes it or not. The communication between the two of you likely sucks because she knows you’re gonna react or respond with BS like “don’t disrespect me with your eyes.”
OP, what do you like to do for fun?
You know that question stumped me, and now, having noodled on it a while, coming up with nothing, makes the problem so much more clear. I can't think of a single thing I do for fun.
Probably having friends or hobbies I would not draw such blanks on what to do or where to go.
Wah you are a raging freeloader. You are entitled to 0 of her money and have 0 weight on the decisions she makes for her.
What gets me is that part that you want him to be happy and healthy yet pay for his vapes and weed. This seems extremely counterproductive
I can't think of any advice but to leave. Leave sooner rather than later.
Well you appreciate her god damn honesty about it
So basically he wants your permission to cheat on you because that's what it is regardless of gender.
You aren't responsible for his happiness. Go to museums with your daughter.
He can disagree with it while still respecting her opinion / views.
Porn is a disgusting industry where sex trafficking is rampant – I wouldn't want to be with somebody who supports this industry either, and especially not somebody who can't even have a mature conversation about the subject.
That’s a great idea. I have no qualms about that, I’d be willing to set something like that up with both of them agreeing to it as well.
You guys are just sexually incompatible. I would just end it now if sex is even remotely important to you. As a woman, if I were three months in having this problem (which I have been), I would chalk that up to a loss and move on
It’s hypocritical and unfair to ask you for a 3sum mmf but not give you mff in return, also not abiding to boundaries. If you don’t want to do a 3sum then don’t, tell her it’s a nude boundary and if she can’t respect that you’re monogamous then she can become single and experiment without you.
So your kid's a bully and you've done nothing. I'll just say this, at some point, someone is going to do what needs to be done and stand up to the bully. Don't you dare go to the school and be upset then, or allow your husband to be. If this was happening to my kid, I'd have having “words” with your husband in front of your kid.
Does your gf know what’s going on?
Bully her back is the worst advise you can give to a person who clearly isn't a bully. Don't try to become a dick for other people's sake @OP!
Going NC or LC with your family if they don't take you seriously when you talk about it, or just really choosing not to be present when she's around is much better for you as a person. If your family chooses her side over yours they are trash and you better just be close with real friends who aren't dicks.
Leave her alone and let her live her life. If you truly care about her you would go on. You put her through it. I would never take you back. Just make sure you do better and take the lesson from this. Good luck.
Agreed ? ?
Lordt, don't ever let her Minecraft or Animal Cross…those were my husband and my downfall. ?
Yes that sounds final and like yall have had a lot of issues over the years. And probably do need to do some self work to get yourself into a healthy place
Supposedly he doesn’t do anything distance wise. Not sure if that’s just a excuse because he’s not attracted to me
She does. He met her through his roommates
Sounds like you were raped
I’m kind of wondering if he had some kind of trauma in the education system as a child. Parents who pushed him too nude, educators who were cruel to him, abuse, etc. It would make sense then that his gut reaction would be to have control over his child’s situation, if he didn’t have control over his own.
This is NOT legal advice.
Hire a lawyer, and not one who is friends with your fiancé. Ignore these people telling you it’s like an insurance policy and you should just sign it. A pre-nup CAN protect you too, but whatever your fiancé proposes could also be a completely one-sided agreement designed to protect him and his future earnings, but leave you broke and homeless, when he decides to create family no. 2 with a 20 yo in 15 years. He is a lawyer, after all. His proposed pre-nup is an opening offer that’s meant to be negotiated.
The terms matter. A pre-nup should account for the fact that if/when you have kids, your future earning power will drop substantially, while his will increase (because patriarchy). It should account for the fact that you will likely do the vast majority of the emotional labor, household management, and childcare, and invest a lot of time and effort into supporting his ability to further his career. There are a lot of things to consider that depend on your assets, lifestyle, and life plans. A fairly negotiated pre-nup probably won’t look as appealing to him as the one he’s offering. Hire a lawyer to look out for your interests.
He keeps changing the story.
If they're non-human children, then people who share custody of pets should present themselves as single parents when dating. It should be very clear from the get-go that they will be in frequent if not daily contact with their ex, will have to work around custody time, their pet will always come before their SO, etc.
Why didn’t this clown have a place to live ?
You have only been together for a year. He's not ready to move in with you. That's very understandable. A year is very quick for a huge step like that. You have to accept that.
And about the kids and marriage. You didn't say your stance on the subject. If you think differently, then he does. Then it's probably time to end things.
I think this is the problem. I want sex too, but I feel like when I do I regret it with pain. It’s not that I have no drive. I was still giving him affection and I feel like it would always lead to something more or just playfully touching would lead to more (on my part too) then I’d struggle walking the next day and be down for a few days (strictly a pregnancy issue). So I started limiting sexual touches to try to limit those urges, but I feel like I’ve shut it all off even just holding hands. I hate this. It’s our main love language.
It’s not about being late it’s about him not listening to you
He says all the right things when we argue about this, but he doesn't have any of the actions to prove it. It just sucks because now I have to let this vacation thing fester between us for the next couple of months until it happens. If he goes without me…I don't know what I'm going to do.
I go by, ‘If I couldn’t easily tell them every detail with honesty, I shouldn’t do it.’
Trust your gut. If you feel uncomfortable with her explanation of this event don't brush that aside. Spouses will usually mention their prospective affair partners right up until it becomes a thing. Odd she's mentioned this dude previously and now there is a work event that spouses aren't allowed at. I've been in corporate work for many years and after hour events that exclude spouses are very rare. Usually company only events happen during the work day and after hours events are for meeting spouses.
She's lying to you bro. Stopping her from going won't prevent her cheating tho. Let her do her thing, act chill and find the evidence you need.
He says his father is a “changed man”
here's the thing. I think that in a society with accessible mental healthcare like ours for people who are middle class or above, we can rehabilitate most people and have them change.
My problem with this post is that I don't see any evidence of this ever having happened, but that the family gaslit or shamed the victim.
His father is a functioning alcoholic
We have evidence that his father still has very problematic behavior. How am I, you, or OP to believe that this man ever changed? You are able to change yourself on something usually when it's a small thing, like how you almost got into a car accident or how you may have interacted with someone in a way that you regret.
Raping a child is not something you can sit down and say “yeah I understand why I did this and will never do it again. I am redeemed!!!”
Your comment was incredibly misogynistic. “The ol' ball and chain” conversation piece is no longer a thing. If you don't like your wife, it's the 21st century, get a divorce. I'm sure she'll be all the happier for it.
I don't have friends that would allow me to talk shit about my husband. They all love him and our marriage. If I complained, they'd set me straight. If I need genuine advice, I go to my elders and my family. And not as a complaint, but for advice.
I imagine girls talk about their guys far more
It's like you don't even know women outside of James Bond movies. We talk about Harry Potter, work, Starbucks, the state of the economy, Betsy's new baby – we don't just sit around complaining about our husbands ? Most of us actually like our spouses.
Even in this message you aren't making it about improving yourself FOR YOURSELF Your making it all about him Someone who's literally not in your life- and you say you have no plans of being in his either
So why are you wanting to improve yourself for him, instead of yourself? ? That's the obsession
Of course, 90% of the time she does. She’s told me what she likes and I do it, it’s just after the matter that she acts like this
Nothing predicts someone's future behavior like their past behavior.
Its a very disappointing truth.
It wasn't very nuanced but how can you, as a woman, date a man who thinks that a misogynist such as Trump was a “good president”?
This is a sign that this guy is either oblvious to misogyny, which is nude to justify in the 21st century, is a misogynist, or believes that Trumps political actions are more important than women having autonomy in our society.
There's just no good look here.
Can he not look after his own kids? Or be tempted to say 'oh awesome, you are here to help. I'll be back later' and go out, either with the kids or without.