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Date: October 5, 2022
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You don't.
For one thing, it won't work. And for another, it will upset him, or at lest make him feel bad.
If you're having trouble executing a particular maneuver, you can mention that you're finding said maneuver difficult. (Unless he has an excellent sense of humor or is actively asking for it, I'd wait until after the session to mention the challenge). But if the only solution is weight loss, he'll have to be the one to come to that conclusion himself if you expect any difference to be made.
If you're unsatisfied with your sex life, you can sit him down for a heart-to-heart about your desire to try things that involve a certain level of flexibility or stamina or the ability to find his penis without burrowing through a bunch of flesh, but the only people who can safely and successfully tell a person they specifically need to slim down are doctors and coaches.
What is his excuse when you confront him about it? I’m sure he still finds you attractive. Maybe it’s a guy thing, we are visually stimulated creatures. In my situation I’m not getting the level of affection to satisfy my needs and I’m not a cheater so i settle for visual stimuli live. I was confronted about it too. There’s more to my situation though, some lies she told along with lack of intimacy set me down that path. I think it’s either a guy thing or a lack of intimacy. I could be wrong but either way I wish you the best of luck.
This right here is some really, really good sound advice.
That's so mean. You obviously nothing about the psychology of abuse. Shaming victims accomplishes nothing. It just scares them more.
Block him. He isn’t your bf-he is a catfish looking for underage porn. Your nudes will be live forever if you send them. Block him now.
It's about knowing yours and your person's comfort levels. There are times one of you isn't going to be mentally, physically, or emotionally in the mindset of being intimate. All of that is perfectly ok.
OP never stated if they were heterosexual.
I don't know if this was intentional, but your comment came off as aggressive. It's outdated to place all the effort on the man, but saying it's digusting is a little much.
OP doesn't have any experience dating. The only example she has is what she sees. Considering our society, it wouldn't be surprising if her only example is women waiting for men to make a move.
I know it's frustrating, but cut her some slack.
You seem very insecure. I'm not blaming you in any way but please just know that your insecurities have consequences, i.e. your boyfriend lying to your face.
People lie for a reason, in this case, his reason is “I'll lie to her to protect her” because he feels like if you know that he's watching girls on Instagram, you'll feel bad. That is his reasoning, it is really that simple: to him, lying is justified. To you, and to us, it's not, personally I think it's wrong, but I still understand where he comes from and it's important that you do too.
Remember that you can't prevent people (including your bf) to find other people attractive. He might find an instagram girl or someone at your college hot, and there is nothing wrong with that. He's human.
Now on what to do next, I'll second u/talkaden's comment in the open discussion you could have with him. Remember to stay open minded and don't attack him in any way, otherwise he might get defensive and in his mind you'll just become even more insecure.
What a piece of shit . First off , I am so unbelievably sorry that this happened to you . I am also horribly sorry that you had to also experience this asshole responding in this way. Please do not give him another chance . This response was cruel , thoughtless , immature , cold and unacceptable. Absolutely unacceptable. I don’t care if he apologized, there’s something wrong with this guy to respond like that how dare him . This actually made me so fucking upset reading this , I forbid you from dating him .
Thank you! I’m going to chat to her soon. What doesn’t sit well with me is that she’s consoled her friends a couple of times whilst we were together, and that’s what makes it more painful. Unless I’m reading into it
I don't think any of you are wrong but I just understand your GF's point better because it's the same for me. I enjoy and want to have sex with my partner regularly but he almost always iniciate just because he always wants it so it's just estadistics. Also, I think I could perfectly go years without it even though it's not the perfect scenario, I don't think I'd hate it. Also! Just because I feel like this I think it would hurt to hear my partner wouldn't have romantic feelings for me if there wasn't sex involved, for me it's not the case so it's like I would love him no matter what but he wouldn't so it's hurtful. I don't know how to explain it, it's like cake: it's awsome but you don't need it and not always crave it
Your sister assaulted you. This is not normal adult behaviour. Seems like a terrible idea to live in the same home as your sister. Your sister is violent, emotionally explosive and dangerous. She will amp up her abuse. She likely has undiagnosed mental health issues. Not much you can do when she is this volatile and violent.
This is fake
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. It’s not fair, and it’s a really hot realization that maybe he wasn’t the person you thought he could be.
In all likelihood, the reason he has continue doing the things that made you break up is that he didn’t really care enough to change in the first place. I don’t think he ever intended to change for you. I think he was probably OK with you sticking around as long as you wanted to, but never really felt the same commitment to the relationship that you felt toward him.
At least, that’s what I’m getting from your post…
Set a high bar for the next person you date; you deserve it. Don’t settle for clowns like this guy.
Are you in a monogamous relationship?
Like she told you she can do whatever she wants when she is single well she is single now and block her and don’t respond move on don’t go back into that cycle it hurt you once don’t go down it again
Exactly. At this point she is either feeling the same way or isn’t. The relationship can survive a date request. They usually can’t survive proffers of love before the first few dates.
So there is a way to work this out just sit down with him and agree about how the frequency and take his feelings into consideration. We (women my age) went from men taking advantage of us to never wanting to give them anything. It is OK to have sex time sometimes when you’re not really that into it because you’ll get into it. And it’s OK to say no sometimes too but you got a find a balance so his needs are being met also.
What does he “love” about you after a month? You’re logically strangers.
Add in the fact that you’re here for a reason. What logical reason is a 26 year old dating a 19 year old?
Take a step back. What red flags have you brushed off?
If you don’t cut her off she will try to ruin your relationship with your girlfriend. I’ve seen it before and it sucks. Just cut contact with her.
I would probably not move in with her. My bf and I had previously seen each other for about 4 months, then he ended things. Then 2 years later we reconnected and he asked me to find a closer job and move in about 2 months after we dtr. I think that it is rare for a situation like ours to work out. The only reason why I feel it is working out, is that we have very compatible living styles, we only have 2 full days a week together (i commute and he wfh), and we were comfortable around each other from our prior time together. I am not saying it wont work out, but there are a lot of factors you do not know about a person after a week. Realistically, if you are the person paying the rent, you are the one who should initiate moving in when you feel certain you are ready.
Bro, there are books written about this. All I can say is get mentally prepared. When your wife all of a sudden (15-20 years later) starts going to girls nights out at the bars and clubs with younger (but more importantly) single friends, more often than not disaster strikes. If you want to stay married, I'd look in to getting some help. You need to find out the reason why. Like now. Sounds like she is either pulling away or checked out already.
Yes that’s a good idea, thank you!
I would be wary of having my tubes tied. There’s still a chance of pregnancy. If you are open to surgery they can remove the Fallopian tubes completely. I’m having my second and last child as a scheduled c section and having my tubes removed at the same time. It’s permanent sterilization without the need of hormones.
It can really depend on what one does. As a young person I was into DnD and Judo, so most of my friends were male. Then as a STEM person in a field that is ~15% women, it just naturally happened that most of my friends are male.
So what if under boob tattoos are popular right now ? He's a controlling asshole. Get the tattoo , get as many as you want. I've got tattoos that cover self harm scars too. He is not the man for you with this awful attitude, if he thinks he can dictate what you do to your own body to help you heal , what's next ? Controlling what you eat and who you speak to ? Dump him , get the tattoo.
I found if I breathed in and held it it was alright
If it's his child, then taking the kid away would be parental kidnapping.
Well I'm not drinking for my health. It doesn't greatly impact health and eating bacon, carbs, breathing in street fumes etc also impact health. There will always be studies to state these things. It's also fine, because I'm a grown-up who can decide what is okay for me to do.
And again, my original comment was a joke (you know those things…not serious?) but if he's unable to remember things the next day, he shouldn't be drinking that much. I'm concerned that everyone cares more about my comment (I don't get memory loss etc) rather than picking up on that fact.
Ps, I drink two large gins every three weeks, so I think I'm okay 😉
Absolutely not, they all have fucked up trauma that’s warped with toxic culture. I still love my husband. It’s probably because I don’t have anyone else. I’m trying to work through it.
Here's the REAL problem: Can you trust this guy not to stealth you?
He doesn't like condoms; he refuses to wear one. If you demand one before sex, what makes you think he won't take it off during sex and say nothing OR say, “Oops, it must have slipped off!” if you do notice?!?
This would honestly be a deal-breaker for me.
You shouldn't trust him…he's selfish and unreliable (“…we'll figure it out after…”) You shouldn't have sex with people you don't trust.
Your comment is a real stretch. Why tell him about the first time if there were more later? Quit looking for excuses to hammer the gf.
Feelings evolve. People become attracted at different times. She made a decision two months into their dating to go exclusive with the OP. If the OP can't live with it, so be it. It still wouldn't be fair though.
Definitely am. I know my worth and I’m not gonna let him bring me down! I deserve better.
When I was 19(F) I started dating a 35 year old and it was a whole thing for a while. Let me give you some advice from someone who’s been there.
You are an adult. Yes. You have the capability to make these choices if you’d like to. I did. I don’t necessarily have any regrets. But let me tell you about it.
We met in a situation where he wasn’t seeking out girls my age. I went to a show his friends’ band was playing at. It happened to fall on a night the club did 18+ instead of just 21+. He went to go see his friends play and I went because it was the night my friends and I could all go. We met by chance and he got my number.
Your situation is a little bit different. As far as I’m aware, you have to set the age range for people you’re interested in matching with on the apps. So there’s a possibility that your boyfriend is exclusive looking for young partners. If that’s the case, I’d consider it a bit of a red flag. If they’re open to a larger age-range (including people his own age) then I’d say it’s a bit less concerning.
My ex and I dated for almost a year. He was fresh out of a LTR and wanted something causal and chill. I was trying to be chill but also VERY eager for this to be my “One”. We got along until we didn’t. It wasn’t necessarily toxic or harmful to my sense of self. But I wanted us to be madly in love and I think he realized that we were not on the same page, maturity wise. My age was a novelty, sure. But it was never the point with him. And even now that I’m in my thirties, I don’t have any ill feelings about him. Looking back, though, I can ABSOLUTELY clock moments where I acted unbelievably immature. And it makes me cringe. I wasn’t doing anything inherently wrong, but it was immature and definitely not where someone in their 30’s-30’s would want to be long-term. And ultimately it was a big part of what pushed him away from me. Me being hot and young and innocent didn’t supersede how my immaturity was unattractive to him.
So. If your partner exclusively seeks out and dates significantly younger people, it would imply a maturity issue or some other chronic incompatibility with people their own age. Or it could signal that the ONLY thing they care about (or care MOST about) is you being hot and young and innocent. Which is not the foundation of a healthy relationship with trust and respect.
Your responsibility to yourself is to not be the boiled frog. Pay close attention to how they treat you. Stay aware of how you feel day-to-day. Do they treat you with respect? Do you feel like a true equal? Do they value you for you? Do they communicate in a healthy and respectful way? Are you able to maintain your own sense of identity outside of your relationship? Are you able to exit the relationship without your whole life falling apart?
If so? Go for it. You probably are ultimately not mature enough to build a long-term relationship with this specific person. You’re at a different phase in your life. Nothing wrong with that. Enjoy the ride, just proceed with a clear head.
If you sit back and look at everything as a whole, and you see a red flag here and there, then be honest with yourself about what this person’s intentions might be. And be ready to exit the situation.
Maybe she just like to see you work that body 😉
I see your points. But how do I accept that she is essentially asking me to sacrifice more of my potential future financial security so she doesn't have to sacrifice as much as hers, which is essentially expecting me to be more committed to this relationship than she's willing to be? It's a tough pill to swallow, and I don't want to end up resenting her.
I suggest you research a Covert narcissist, which expresses the disorder in quite a different way from the grandiose. It can be very difficult to spot it.
What I would say to this issue of “her agreeing to meet with me” is… She is not the problem. She should not be the problem.
One can't go through a relationship telling people outside the relationship what to do or not do, in order to make one of the partners feel better. Right? How she behaves/does/says is out of your control, and it should be.
The only person that should take any action is your BF. He is the one with the “responsibility” to respect your boundaries. His lifestyle/friends/choices are clearly making you feel insecure, so it is HIS responsibility to change HIS behaviour for the sake of your relationship. Not demand another person to change THEIR behaviour for you. It is absurd for him to put you in this position, where you are now submitted to another woman's choice, in order for you to trust your BF and feel better about your relationship with him.
Do you see what I mean?
What you are saying is that, apart from the problems, you get along very well.
But that's the case for everyone. Relationships that work, work because 2 people behave in a way to AVOID “hard” problems and, when issues arise (because they do), the two parts compromise.
But that's between the couple. You can go around expecting other people to do things for you in order for the relationship to work. And unfortunately, it seems he has put you in this position because he refuses to respect your boundaries. It seems that your feelings being hurt are not enough to make him choose a different option.
I don't know if he's having something with her. There is not enough information in your post for that conclusion.
BUT it is unacceptable, at any point, to have a relationship with one person while keeping a close friendship with someone else who is in love with you.
Most people would not accept that, because that's neither emotionally healthy nor it says “I like/love you and respect you and am committed to you”. In fact, it says exactly the opposite.
We’re going to need an update on this one, I’m genuinely worried for your sake. Being with someone like this is going to be very bad for your mental health and self love in the long run. This isn’t normal behavior, get away from this man ASAP!
Wait they’re blaming you for his shitty behavior. Your sister needs to take some responsibility for what she did to you. Where is her apology? He wasn’t abusive to you but to get and that’s your fault. Your parents never once ever thought of he could easily cheat he’s cable of other things. They’re all shitty. That’s your family but time to cut the strings
You’re totally right. Thank you so much!
Yes, I don't see why not?
The guys were drunk and acted like drunk guys. The female didn’t like you and was trying to humiliate you.
Do you even want to go after your entire family have been insulting you over this?
She was just 20 when she had you. Apparently the younger the mother, the less likely they are to be affectionate and empathetic to their children. Older mothers are more mature and can relativise better, and they're more likely to have chosen to get pregnant rather than have a contraceptive accident. When you've chosen to get pregnant, you're more likely to make an effort to give your kid a good life.
My mother was never affectionate and I suffered from that. Nowadays I try not to blame her for the mistakes she made. After all, I know she had a much harder childhood than I did: her parents were very poor, she grew up in slums, and lived through the war in London as a little girl. Her mother died before I was born so I never met her, but I expect she wasn't at all affectionate, and I never saw the slightest sign of affection in my grandfather.
Virtual hugs for you!
Ask her to show her chat with him. Check if the messages aren't deleted. Ask her to explain why she is so close to him.
Consensual sex should not be harming her mental health.
Im thinking thr problem is either: -Sex with you is degrading because you aren't respecting her; -She does not have feelings for you, the way you do for her; -She has lost interest in you; -She has an unhealthy relationship with her body image; -She feels shame for having sex; …
No. That’s my internal dialogue.
Doesn’t sound perfect together OP-this is a huge red flag. He has major anger issues.
What is it that you want him to do?
Everyone focusing on the fact that he's probably cheating hence the reason he's projecting.
The bigger picture here is you don't marry someone who doesn't trust you, and you don't marry someone who wrongly maligns your character. He's telling you that you're a bad person in his mind. That's what cheaters are.
I would give him the ring back and then start rethinking the entire relationship.
Exactly. Wtf would u think a crush on a kid is OK. Even if this girl and she is a girl! Was 20 thats still too fucking young for OPs wife at all!
Ugh i can't man. This whole post makes me feel icky. I've gone through something similar being Emma. It's just manipulative.. u think some older woman cares about u and can advise u.. bt the only thing they care about is getting you into their beds as some ego boost or because they are obsessed with your youth. It's just sick.
You keep going for the same type and expecting different results.