Op, as a woman, I can tell you that the only reason I would consider those strips would be if I wanted to get pregnant. So be weary.
But let's give her the benefit of the doubt and have a conversation about the future with her, talk about those things, see if she opens up. If she doesn't even open up or give you any explanation, she isn't worth it. Don't be with someone who compromises your future without your consent.
You have a right to be upset about anything you want to be upset about. My opinion? She did not say she doesn’t love you. She said she wasn’t attracted, and only after you sat her down and tried to convince her to tell you. I am a firm believer that a) you don’t ask any question that you aren’t prepared to hear an honest answer to and b) I want my marriage to be one where my partner can be completely honest with me.
Your body changed, you also admittedly stopped participating in your hobbies and became sedentary. I’m sure your body changing was part of what she found unattractive, since that’s what she said – but is it possible that it was also unattractive that you weren’t taking care of yourself, that you weren’t participating in your hobbies, and that you had changed as a person into someone who was no longer active or taking care of your health?
Is it possible that what actually upset you here is that she was right? Maybe you were already feeling insecure, and she struck a nerve?
I think it’s fair to be hurt by that, but look what it did – you started taking control of your health and became active again.
I think it’s unfair to ask someone to be honest with you, then get so upset about it that for days afterwards they feel they need to backtrack and say that it isn’t what they meant. If I was your wife, I’d feel like I had to walk on eggshells and couldn’t talk to you or express my feelings anymore after this.
All of that being said, it’s just my opinion, and opinions are like assholes. I think that, if you can’t seem to get over this, you need to see a therapist. Maybe together, maybe alone, I don’t know.
Op, as a woman, I can tell you that the only reason I would consider those strips would be if I wanted to get pregnant. So be weary.
But let's give her the benefit of the doubt and have a conversation about the future with her, talk about those things, see if she opens up. If she doesn't even open up or give you any explanation, she isn't worth it. Don't be with someone who compromises your future without your consent.
You have a right to be upset about anything you want to be upset about. My opinion? She did not say she doesn’t love you. She said she wasn’t attracted, and only after you sat her down and tried to convince her to tell you. I am a firm believer that a) you don’t ask any question that you aren’t prepared to hear an honest answer to and b) I want my marriage to be one where my partner can be completely honest with me.
Your body changed, you also admittedly stopped participating in your hobbies and became sedentary. I’m sure your body changing was part of what she found unattractive, since that’s what she said – but is it possible that it was also unattractive that you weren’t taking care of yourself, that you weren’t participating in your hobbies, and that you had changed as a person into someone who was no longer active or taking care of your health?
Is it possible that what actually upset you here is that she was right? Maybe you were already feeling insecure, and she struck a nerve?
I think it’s fair to be hurt by that, but look what it did – you started taking control of your health and became active again.
I think it’s unfair to ask someone to be honest with you, then get so upset about it that for days afterwards they feel they need to backtrack and say that it isn’t what they meant. If I was your wife, I’d feel like I had to walk on eggshells and couldn’t talk to you or express my feelings anymore after this.
All of that being said, it’s just my opinion, and opinions are like assholes. I think that, if you can’t seem to get over this, you need to see a therapist. Maybe together, maybe alone, I don’t know.