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Date: October 30, 2022
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Oh dear. I understand that he can have reservations on whether you’ll be able to follow through, but ooooooooof.
That sounds like he’s hedging his commitment on your weight instead of who you are. ACTUALLY, it almost seems as if he’s entwining your integrity with your weight which is setting you up for failure ESPECIALLY with PCOS. That’s going to be a constant battle (as I am certain you are very, agonizingly, aware of) to prove your worth to him and earn that extra 10%.
I think your gut punch feeling is pretty justified. He may not be a lot cause, but some strong conversations on expectations and reality and what-ifs are on the very near horizon.
thanks for this insight. i don’t really see how he pushes at my boundaries. i said i was fine doing anything except sex. yes it escalated to sex and i hate that he still did it when i’d said i wasn’t ready seconds, maybe a minute before, but that’s the only thing. he was wrong to stick it in anyway, but even when he was wrong to me he was still gentle. not aggressive at all. and other than not understanding the daughter thing, im just so lost on if he’s truly a bad guy or not
Break it off.
You have been together for 9 years and you still call him just a BF? He told you in that action alone how he felt.
she told me that I'm not her type
Her type is a guy she can use financially. You voiced an objection to that arrangement so you got dropped. You're better off without her. Frankly, shame on you for allowing yourself to be used that way to begin with. Learn a lesson and move on.
His brother told me he cheated on me and I believe him
Yeah at this point basically every textile in the house needs to be either thoroughly cleaned with high heat or disposed of in a sealed bag. They should both be washing their hands religiously and if they sleep in the same bed it's likely to just bounce back and forth between them.
If I were OP I'd be fucking livid since all of this was very avoidable.
Sorry hubs, the time to explore your sexuality was before you got married.
I also realized that I am bi after getting married. It happens, we age and learn and realize new parts of ourselves.
Exploring relationships with women would be cheating on my husband, so obviously that’s not happening. Doesn’t make me less bi.
He’s asking you if he can cheat. You’re allowed to say no, and that wouldn’t mean you’re holding him back. Tbh…this is a complete out of pocket request on his end.
I wouldn’t say her reasoning is bizarre because I myself don’t like social media but if my girl ever ask to post a picture of us I wouldn’t mind it just I wouldn’t really go out of my way of posting my relationship online. Some things I just want to keep private but having pictures of her ex still up is very very bizarre I would ask her to remove those pictures if she won’t put any of you up and if she can’t even do that I honestly believe you need to stop with your bluff and stand on your word about leaving
Are you the only daughter? Or the youngest daughter? Could this be a case of “he's having sex with my baby girl”?
Is your dad less-than-happy that you and BF will be staying with him until Feb? Does he see him as “unworthy” of you because BF is not supporting you?
Take your dad out for coffee/donuts or out for a beer/burger. Just you two…no mom, no BF. Sit your dad down and tell him you just want some straight answers. Tell him that you need his honest opinion and you'll give due consideration to whatever he says. Remind him that his job was to raise you to be an independent adult and that you're trying to do that; you would appreciate his POV with regard to the situation.
You need money, he needs a receptionist, they have a kid together and thus it’s in his interest as a father that she’s employed. From the info you‘ve given there’s nothing shady about offering her a job.
What do you fear to happen? And I don’t mean a general “she might cheat“ which she could do any time if she wanted to. Realistically, what do you think is the threat here?
If anything, a history of a messy relationship including police involvement that’s not only been over for 7 years but was over before you even met her should be the least possible threat to your relationship. I mean she already knows he isn’t a suitable partner.
There is nothing in your comments or post that indicates that you are ready to be a mother. It’s like you’re shrugging your shoulders and saying “well, I don’t have anything else going on right now, might as well”. No. The job of being a parent is the most difficult and intense job a person can take on, and it’s even more so for a single parent. (I do not trust that this man will actually co-parent). This might be harsh, but you describe making bad decision after bad decision in your post and those are exactly the kind of decisions mothers cannot make. You have plenty of childbearing years left; take some of them to get yourself in order before you take on the task of guiding a new life.
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Again, you seem to have a problem following the story. He's allowed to not show up, he can pick up extra shifts after.
One is hatred based on nothing more than skin colour and feeling superior, the other is disdain because your people have been treated atrociously by the other skintone for hundreds and hundreds of years. I'm not saying OPs girlfriends fam was right to act like this, but it's not the same.
16months what an achievement! You can be proud of yourself!
Yup the dreams are way less common, but they can be really intense. It's part of the recovery I guess !
YOU BEAT ME TO IT ??
NAILED IT
Hello guy from You! I was looking forward to the nee season, this a teaser or…?
Girl, the mental gymnastics you’re doing is exhausting.
“Took her virginity” Sorry. But ick. What an archaic and gross saying.
Listen you either trust her, or you don’t. Sounds like you don’t and that isn’t good for either of you. She is 18. Doesn’t matter what her parents were like, most 18 year olds are immature and say silly things. She was sharing an anecdote with you. Doesn’t mean she wants to have sex on the beach with someone. Don’t be that guy who starts to tell her what she can and cannot do and who she can and cannot hang out with. Like I said, either trust her or move on.
I didn’t know I had HPV until I had abnormal cells. Two painful biopsies and a surgery (and a year) later it finally cleared. It fucked up my life for a while so it’s not always “no big deal”. People are allowed to be concerned about HPV.
I really appreciate this comment. And the time you took to write it. I just couldn’t bear to online without him, I am so so attached and I’m in love. And in regards to me searching for that male validation via flirting, it makes me feel so bad, like I’ve betrayed him. Do I also tell him this?
Well it’s not that I’m insecure, it’s that I’d rather not see her boyfriends earrings in every picture I take with her. Maybe that contradicts
Can I message you?
He's got a home to go to, he's got family to support him.
Doesn't he have any friends here?