Girlfriend even if you had NO JOB AT ALL you deserve someone who respects you. Throwing laundry in a machine and turning it on for you before heading to work is not too much to ask for. Or preparing some meals for the both of you.
I hope it gets better for you and that he comes to his senses.
You're acting like your friend's girlfriend's postings are a personal attack on you. It has absolutely nothing to do with you, different people are okay with different things.
I post provocative things on Instagram. I'm in a committed, monogamous relationship. My boyfriend is well aware. He does not care one bit.
Also, you don't get to dictate what your significant other gets to post on social media. You can discuss what you are and aren't comfortable with. You can have a discussion on boundaries and see if you two can come to an agreement. But you don't get to have the final say.
I'm not making assumptions, I'm literally quoting what you said. It just doesn't make sense. You waited outside of your airbnb in the freezing cold for 20 mins, when you simply could have gone back inside. Then you decide to go wait at the train station instead …? I'm just saying you could have saved yourself a lot of headache had you just waited instead of being so impatient.
Yeaaahhh i have gotten multiple since we got together. I talked to him about it and he took it really badly and wouldn't touch me at all for like a day. Since then i dont really let him touch me with his fingers..
You're going to have different types of lessons. You're at the right age to start considering what types of lessons you want to learn, and surround yourself with people who can get you through them. Not as in helping you through them, you're not looking for caretakers or teachers. People are just out living their lives and will react with you and you'll learn from the experiences.
The 40s/50s house wife comparison is actually highly accurate. Women back then weren’t allowed to have bank accounts (all in the husbands name) and were forced to stay with their S/O because he controlled all the money. It’s seen as controlling and toxic now a days (rightfully so) yet, that’s what people are recommending OP do. Stay with a toxic S/O because he has the money.
You’ve been together for a few months and already wanting her to ‘get rid’ of her companions… I think the relationship needs to end and some growing up needs to happen… you barely know someone within a few months let alone hold any position to ask her to get rid of her cats… this ‘love’ is just the excitement of a new relationship
Thank you. ??? you’re right though. We live! together in a rented apartment but I could easily take over the tenancy, or I could find a friend to move in. Maybe I will message the landlord privately and take care of this first. Thank you for your words x
1) Would you be okay with your husband wanting to involve himself in an activity/sport that involved him rolling around on the floor with, grabbing, and touching predominately young, fit females? If the answer is no, then you’re being a hypocrite and need to abstain. If the answer is yes then you’re not being a hypocrite and proceed with your plan and have a great time!
2) Have you ever made a request of your husband for him to do or not do something that by societal standards was silly of you to ask but because of how you felt you asked him anyway? Did he respect your wishes and request or did he blow it off? This indicates whether he is being unfair or if you’re not reciprocating.
Relationships are about balance and mutual respect for one another. Not about principle or what other people think. A thing most people would be okay with might make others uncomfortable and if you want people to respect and be understanding about what you dislike and what makes you feel uncomfortable then you have to show other people that same respect and courtesy. Now if your husband is doing things regardless of how they make you feel and doesn’t respect your wishes when it comes to this type of thing then your obviously under no moral obligation to respect his, and probably need to not be in that relationship.
I don't see it like that. I think advocating for yourself here is actually a pretty big act of love and care. You are invested in your relationship enough to say the hot thing.
RUN my friend
His birthday is next month. Maybe text him with that suggestion on his birthday?
Girlfriend even if you had NO JOB AT ALL you deserve someone who respects you. Throwing laundry in a machine and turning it on for you before heading to work is not too much to ask for. Or preparing some meals for the both of you.
I hope it gets better for you and that he comes to his senses.
Gaslighting. And super huge red flags. Good on you for calling him out but it will only get worse. Get out now before you fall down that rabbit hole
i’m having a hard time understanding where surrogate comes in & also the prostitution?? why does he think she’ll be a prostitute?
Nine-TEEN
Nine-TEEN
You're acting like your friend's girlfriend's postings are a personal attack on you. It has absolutely nothing to do with you, different people are okay with different things.
I post provocative things on Instagram. I'm in a committed, monogamous relationship. My boyfriend is well aware. He does not care one bit.
Also, you don't get to dictate what your significant other gets to post on social media. You can discuss what you are and aren't comfortable with. You can have a discussion on boundaries and see if you two can come to an agreement. But you don't get to have the final say.
No point in trying to compete with the algorithm. He should appreciate you for who you are not how you dress.
So isn't marriage and family counseling for us as a couple? What is the one that I'd look at for myself?
I'm not making assumptions, I'm literally quoting what you said. It just doesn't make sense. You waited outside of your airbnb in the freezing cold for 20 mins, when you simply could have gone back inside. Then you decide to go wait at the train station instead …? I'm just saying you could have saved yourself a lot of headache had you just waited instead of being so impatient.
Yeaaahhh i have gotten multiple since we got together. I talked to him about it and he took it really badly and wouldn't touch me at all for like a day. Since then i dont really let him touch me with his fingers..
We went on a date..
I don’t know if I’d be interested in dating him. I just want to have the option
Learning lesson…look back and try to find the warning signs you missed.
You're going to have different types of lessons. You're at the right age to start considering what types of lessons you want to learn, and surround yourself with people who can get you through them. Not as in helping you through them, you're not looking for caretakers or teachers. People are just out living their lives and will react with you and you'll learn from the experiences.
Run
Surprise surprise people can be arseholes regardless of their ‘scene’ or politics viewpoints.
Who would have guessed!
She is a hoe
Update Me! 3days
The 40s/50s house wife comparison is actually highly accurate. Women back then weren’t allowed to have bank accounts (all in the husbands name) and were forced to stay with their S/O because he controlled all the money. It’s seen as controlling and toxic now a days (rightfully so) yet, that’s what people are recommending OP do. Stay with a toxic S/O because he has the money.
Whoops – wine and Reddit isn’t typo free.
This sounds like something you should've brought up to him years ago. Now it's firmly entrenched as normal and will be more difficult to adjust.
You’ve been together for a few months and already wanting her to ‘get rid’ of her companions… I think the relationship needs to end and some growing up needs to happen… you barely know someone within a few months let alone hold any position to ask her to get rid of her cats… this ‘love’ is just the excitement of a new relationship
Thank you. ??? you’re right though. We live! together in a rented apartment but I could easily take over the tenancy, or I could find a friend to move in. Maybe I will message the landlord privately and take care of this first. Thank you for your words x
Here is the real answer to your conundrum…
Ask yourself the following two questions:
1) Would you be okay with your husband wanting to involve himself in an activity/sport that involved him rolling around on the floor with, grabbing, and touching predominately young, fit females? If the answer is no, then you’re being a hypocrite and need to abstain. If the answer is yes then you’re not being a hypocrite and proceed with your plan and have a great time!
2) Have you ever made a request of your husband for him to do or not do something that by societal standards was silly of you to ask but because of how you felt you asked him anyway? Did he respect your wishes and request or did he blow it off? This indicates whether he is being unfair or if you’re not reciprocating.
Relationships are about balance and mutual respect for one another. Not about principle or what other people think. A thing most people would be okay with might make others uncomfortable and if you want people to respect and be understanding about what you dislike and what makes you feel uncomfortable then you have to show other people that same respect and courtesy. Now if your husband is doing things regardless of how they make you feel and doesn’t respect your wishes when it comes to this type of thing then your obviously under no moral obligation to respect his, and probably need to not be in that relationship.
I don't see it like that. I think advocating for yourself here is actually a pretty big act of love and care. You are invested in your relationship enough to say the hot thing.
Where did you meet this guy?