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Santiago & Lana, 22 y.o.
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Date: December 4, 2022
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No. Absolutely not.
You’re so much smarter than I am, I really don’t have advise. Except to say that we all meet someone who out does us eventually. Now it’s your turn I guess! Enjoy it!
I kinda feel sorry for her. When I read the post, I just felt sad.
Except we had agreed beforehand that that’s what she was doing. If she didn’t want to do that she could have said well in advance since we’d discussed it 2 weeks in advance. There is no issue to go to a bar and club with a friend to catch up
Not really sure why you're even asking this here op tbh
Did this all start after she started taking birth control? In long-term relationships, you might acquire some unhealthy habit from your partner, but not enough that would make you go like “hey, you are becoming worst than me.” My fiance switched birth control once and her persona changed by a lot. I'm a guy and don't want to assume is due to birth control, but if the changes happened after taking meds, that could be the reason, since she also mentions that she also thinks it could be the birth control. Anyways, to answer your question, no, is not you, but try to be more positive and be more like her 🙂
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3rd line of the 3rd paragraph
Is it somewhat a nod to her Big sister? I think it's quite the compliment. On the other hand he's only been involved in your life for 5 years so I get why you may feel at odds with it. I just think it's a Big Sis Lilly, Little Sis Lilly! I as well go by Lillie along with my parents Bird! ??♀️
He is immature to say the least , I could use others words You owe him nothing, it is he who owe you excuses for waking you up at 1 am when you work in the morning
Unfortunately she's not that into you.
Because it’s not a coincidence that every single age gap/ rage bait story is exactly the same thing.
Did she say she wasn’t interested as a joke? Ask her when you can take her on a date and you’ll soon have an answer to that. People are strange and feelings can’t always be explained, but they should be respected, even if they seem odd.
Then why did you say it was misogyny earlier? Misogyny is dislike or prejudice against women. So the sexual partner thing has nothing to do with it since I’m a girl.
Oh….. in this case, you need marital counseling. Once a spouse starts lying about agreements and lying about finances and spending, a death spiral is starting.
“Starting” is an important part of the description; if she’s not so far down the path that she’s completely up her own ass or checked out of the relationship, there’s a way back.
But something has triggered her to be dishonest and she’s probably using spending as an escape from something. It’s important to take this seriously and get to the bottom of it before you discover she has $600k in gambling debts.
Stop trying to save him. He needs to survive on his own. DO NOT FOR ANY LENGTH OF TIME LET HIM STAY WITH YOU. DO NOT GIVE HIM ANY MONEY!!
Tell him when he gets a job, a decent living situation, and can act like a full fledged adult to give you a call
I swear I read this exact same post from the BFs perspective over the weekend. The GF was going to a work conference and he was concerned about some male coworker when she asked for a hall pass for the weekend.
The advice was pretty much, “dump her, use the weekend to clear your shit out and be a ghost by the time she gets back.” Wonder if this is the GF?
I’ll just say it for you. You’ve had enough. Leave him. This is draining for you & your daughter.
don't know why people like to make broad generalizations about why someone else is going to the gym.
TF? It's a gym. A place meant for working out. So it's safe to assume people are going there to workout (or use other gym facilities). Gyms are not a great place to look for dates. Your statement just doesn't make sense. It's like saying “oh people are assuming she went to a grocery store to get some groceries” which is what that's for??? It'd be creepy to scout out a grocery store for dates. It'd be different if you were at public place more known for getting dates like a club/bar or even the bowling alley bc there we can'treally assume why theyre are there, but it's the gym. It's safe to assume why someone is there.
“She perceives as my lack of ambition”
Yeah I can see why she left from that alone. Clearly she has problems with the way you’ve conducted yourself and you aren’t interested in listening to her concerns. You don’t have a girlfriend anymore, she dumped you, and I would move on if I were you.
Protect yourself. I have been on 2 variations of the pill. First type I was on it for 5 years and never ever missed a day (I have OCD and HFA so I cannot miss it lol), got pregnant with my daughter. Second type, was on it for 8 years and got pregnant with triplets. I had sex with my husband daily during the entire time I was taking the pill but just somehow had a “breakthrough.”
Hurtful? I’m the one not defending a woman telling her bf to die as a means of helping him to calm down or whatever. Would you defend a man trying to help his wife calm down in a similarly empathetic manner?
There has got to be a place in between letting yourself get beaten up and blacking while beating the shit out of someone. I can’t blame the gf for being scared of him.
As someone who has trauma from violent family members, I can understand how she feels unsafe after seeing you like that.
This is a trauma response and I am sure she is struggling. Maybe you can suggest some therapy together, to worj through this?
Why is he asking you this now? You are 37 weeks pregnant and this has already been discussed. Unless, there is some major financial reason he should have tactfully waited until baby is born and you are both settled.
Having a baby is a major upheaval. There will be physical healing, exhaustion etc. Mentally and physically a baby can make changes to both of you.
You are 37 weeks pregnant and your hormones are rife. He needs to sort his attitude out and be more tactful.
Agree to consider what he says once you are settled with the baby. Now is the wrong time.
Because his childish view of the world is why he couldn't deal with the situation in the first place, that immaturity is just continuing into the comments section.
Do not buy a house with anyone you are not married to. He's welcome to buy a house himself if he wants one, and he's welcome to rent you space in it if he wants you to live! there and needs the money. Especially don't buy a house with someone you don't even want to live! with full time; given your last line, I wouldnht even advise moving into a rental together.
Tell him no, you can't afford a house at 22, and you're also way too young to be making decades-long financial commitments (which is what a mortgage on a jointly owned property would be), because you're still figuring out what you want to do with your life. You want to stay with him, but you're not interested in living with him, and even if you were, buying a house together is a bad idea before you even know if you get along well as housemates (live! together at a rental or a hkuse solely owned by one person for years before considering buying a property together).
She's an exaggerator. Congrats.
Regardless of what other people are saying here you don't have to justify why you want out. She was abusive …that's all anyone needs to know.
If she can go out shopping while the kids are in childcare then she can get her ass a job and earn some money. I would talk to an attorney about the child support issue so that you can get a clearer idea of how much child support you would be responsible for.
As far as alimony goes you never married so she has no claim on any of your property. I would give her the car she's driving and I would tell her that she has x amount of time to find a job and save up some money. If you're feeling really generous you could pay 1st and last month's rent on an apartment for her.
This is almost as bad as mine! My own wife cheated on me and gave me herpes 5 years ago.
Tell your Dad that a disabled Marine Veteran that got herpes from his wife said “The more I resist the negative thoughts the more they will persist”
Have to let your mind fuck with you to the highest degree before it will be satisfied and new thoughts can come in
He said there has to be a line drawn at some point.
there sure does…kinda like the line of when he is telling you he will break up with you if you see your family and a drag show…go ahead and draw the line and boot him out. He wants to be christian then he better follow all the rules, not just the ones that get portrayed in the news. Tell him no sex before marriage, end of story. You want him to be the best christian he can be and goddamn it, if it means no more pussy for him then so be it.
How do you not know all the details
she does laundry, dishes, sweeping/mopping, and cooks. I do trash, litter box, make the bed before I leave for work, and fold the living room blankets at night before bed
Who cleans the bathroom? Who cleans the kitchen? Who does the grocery shopping? Who tidies up when things are left out around the house? Who does cat maintenance outside of the litter box?
The fact that you've omitted so many major things and yet felt like including “folding living room blankets” as though that is somehow its own independent chore tells me that you have no idea nor interest in understanding how much work she puts into maintaining the household.
You two should really sit down together and list out everything you do during the week (domestic labor and work/school) and how much time it takes.
You are throwing things. It's over.
I wish I knew what you do. I don’t understand this one
Such a BS post. Next time use a reasonable number like maybe 1-2 million. You chose 24 million which completely blew your story up. The rest is decently written fiction.
Science??? Check your facts. There are 2 genders, male and female. This has been the case for millions of years. I guess you have the same views as people that identify as cats or dogs etc ??
OP just leave, leave without telling him anything, leaving him wondering will eat away at him always.
Thank you. This is good advice. As others have pointed out, I didn’t ask a question. This is what I came here for.
“I made an appointment with a therapist”
Good move. Let a skilled person look into that, lift you up and explain to you how his manipulation works.
“and got a membership at a different gym than him.”
Great idea. Be out of his zone.
“But then 5 hours later, he unblocked me”
Oh nooooo! The usually DO come back after having messed once with you. So as a rule: block who ghosts you.
“and sent a long paragraph about how he shouldn't have been so hasty and was willing to change to make things work. “
That' one manipulator and gaslighter at work, and a skilled one at that!
He understood that he oveestepped boundaries and that he had lost his prey (you) by making that move.
What he did then is called “love bombing”.
It's going along with a narcissistics persons box of tools to get power over another person. Serving in the end to totally win power over that person and break their will.
You dodged that bullet once! Don't get back. Stay away from him.
Block him. Remember the snake Kaa of the jungle book by Disney?
THIS is what he does right now. Gaslighting you into believing he could change from a manipulative ah person into a liberal “good to be with” dude. ??♂️
No effing way this is true!
If you have dealbreakers that suddenly “activate” 10 years into the marriage without any fault of your spouse whatsoever, you're just a shit person period. Stop apologizing for her.
I'm married for 6 years together for 7 years with my husband. We have a 4 year old kid. I would leave today if I learned he had a kid from a former relationship. I married a single man with no kids so I didn't sign up to be a step parent. Being a step parent is naked. You get to take care of a kid, you have responsibilities, you feed him and pay for his things but you can't discipline him or be a part of the important decisions like the bio parents. You can do your best but still be rejected.
In this case, OP will have full custody not even a shared one so there will be a kid in the house but she won't be his mother. So it's very different from adopting. The kid is going to want his mother there every birthday, vacation, graduation, etc. So the wife will have to deal with another woman who will be involved in their life from this point on. I would be suffocated by this.
OP has no fault as he didn't even know his son existed but I can't blame the wife for noping out as being a step parent is not for everybody.
So. He shames you. He wants you to pay for things he can afford. Why are you tolerating this?
It'll cause you to focus on everything else more. Which will result in an endless cycle of dissatisfaction and surgery until you look nothing like yourself and you still hate how you look.
Also getting hair surgically added to your forehead won't stop you from going bald.
I used to think the same. We were going to wait longer but we had to get married to get him a visa to live! with me while I attended my dream school, which I gave up for him later on. I regret leaving that school, I just thought there would be other opportunities and he loved me so what could go wrong..
Tell Prada to enjoy the next 3 years before she's due to be traded in…
She’s literally what, a size Medium now? Formerly S- XS? You are horrendously shallow and dealing with issues, possibly projecting your own fixation with being thin onto her. You are incredibly judgemental and vain, you need therapy, instead of finding problems with her to fix.
Holy. 20 yr age gap.
So, I confronted him because he disappeared the whole day. I spoke with a friend as well; they said that I made myself clear of what I needed. Now he won’t reply to my messages and said that it’s best to let it be because I called him a “grub”. I start to feel he is just immature? Was I wrong/entitled?
That’s life tbh ??♂️
He isn't there for you. You have a lot on your plate. Take care of yourself and your family emergencies. As for your BF, move on.