You sound exhausting. Your expectations are ridiculous and the crying and sleeping apart bullshit is straight up manipulation. He is too old to be indulging these histrionics, and you need to do a lot of maturing before living with a boyfriend again.
Therapy may help you get the resolve.
Meanwhile, try r/JustNoMIL and r/JustNoFamily for his parents, and r/JustNoSO for him.
You sound exhausting. Your expectations are ridiculous and the crying and sleeping apart bullshit is straight up manipulation. He is too old to be indulging these histrionics, and you need to do a lot of maturing before living with a boyfriend again.