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Be honest and kind. If the expectations are that he leave immediately upon breaking up I would say maybe do it Monday morning and that gives him a few days to figure something out. Try to get away from your house maybe? It might help to make a list of reasons and that way you can track your conversation/thoughts. If it's just not working for you that's totally understandable but you need to be able to stay on track in order to avoid lots of push back. Be reasonable since it doesn't seem like things are toxic or anything else. Don't bad mouth his kid, I doubt that would be received well.
Yeah it’s been a few times now where we’ll make plans and be messaging up to the point of around when he should be heading over to me and then I’ll just get nothing the rest of the night. It’s been like 4 times in a row now.
To respond to your update, it sounds like you're both fighting over very immature things. And mostly communication issues.
The question, “who would you kill” is always a trick question when it involves people you know. Others only ask it to start drama, and answering it makes you look bad, even if you have an objectively reasonable answer. How would you feel if you overheard your boyfriend joking about how he would kill you for your best friend because he's known you for less time? Probably not great. Keep in mind how others might feel if they heard you say something about them.
On the same token, your boyfriend should not be making fun of you to his friends (or anyone). He, presumably, knew you could overhear, and that's a shitty move, even if he thought he was just bonding with his bros over some harmless jokes. If they hurt you, they're not harmless. Him ignoring you for the most part also sucks. But if he hadn't seen his friends in a while, maybe he got caught up in catching up with them. If he continues to ignore you at social outings, it's a problem.
The driving thing. You absolutely should not offer something you don't want someone to take you up on. That's silly. You were testing him, it sounds like, and ended up putting yourself in a serious situation (if you'd been pulled over, a DUI can make it impossible to get certain jobs, not to mention the higher risk of getting into an accident). I wouldn't bring it up at all, unless you're going to say, “If I offer for you to let me drive back alone after drinking, say no. I don't actually mean it and I'm not safe to drive.” You said he could leave, so he did. Unless you were visbily unsafe to drive, your boyfriend didn't do anything wrong here.
These miscommunications hint at incompatibility. Like I said before, it is possible to work on communicating if you want to make this work. Be mindful of what you both say to and about each other.
Be honest and kind. If the expectations are that he leave immediately upon breaking up I would say maybe do it Monday morning and that gives him a few days to figure something out. Try to get away from your house maybe? It might help to make a list of reasons and that way you can track your conversation/thoughts. If it's just not working for you that's totally understandable but you need to be able to stay on track in order to avoid lots of push back. Be reasonable since it doesn't seem like things are toxic or anything else. Don't bad mouth his kid, I doubt that would be received well.
Yeah it’s been a few times now where we’ll make plans and be messaging up to the point of around when he should be heading over to me and then I’ll just get nothing the rest of the night. It’s been like 4 times in a row now.
To respond to your update, it sounds like you're both fighting over very immature things. And mostly communication issues.
The question, “who would you kill” is always a trick question when it involves people you know. Others only ask it to start drama, and answering it makes you look bad, even if you have an objectively reasonable answer. How would you feel if you overheard your boyfriend joking about how he would kill you for your best friend because he's known you for less time? Probably not great. Keep in mind how others might feel if they heard you say something about them.
On the same token, your boyfriend should not be making fun of you to his friends (or anyone). He, presumably, knew you could overhear, and that's a shitty move, even if he thought he was just bonding with his bros over some harmless jokes. If they hurt you, they're not harmless. Him ignoring you for the most part also sucks. But if he hadn't seen his friends in a while, maybe he got caught up in catching up with them. If he continues to ignore you at social outings, it's a problem.
The driving thing. You absolutely should not offer something you don't want someone to take you up on. That's silly. You were testing him, it sounds like, and ended up putting yourself in a serious situation (if you'd been pulled over, a DUI can make it impossible to get certain jobs, not to mention the higher risk of getting into an accident). I wouldn't bring it up at all, unless you're going to say, “If I offer for you to let me drive back alone after drinking, say no. I don't actually mean it and I'm not safe to drive.” You said he could leave, so he did. Unless you were visbily unsafe to drive, your boyfriend didn't do anything wrong here.
These miscommunications hint at incompatibility. Like I said before, it is possible to work on communicating if you want to make this work. Be mindful of what you both say to and about each other.