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Do not wait around for her to decide, find someone who cares about you.
but elaine doesn’t confide in you so therefore either she doesn’t trust you or is after your man? you could try bringing up what your bf told you see how she reacts? but honestly i don’t see why your sister wouldn’t confide in you , i would confide in mine. unless her intentions are not pure!!
were we dating the same guy? he sounds like a narcissist.
There are no amount of photos and videos you can send that will make a guy stop watching porn. They don't even really hit the same buttons in most cases.
I find that I’m always the one initiating dates and trying to find time to hang out.
That's probably a sign that you should be talking to other people, or backing off for a while. This one doesn't sound very enthusiastic.
It sounds controlling. You ask your boyfriend not to hang with friends but you can, and then you dictate for yourself and him what matters in this situation (ie. sexuality). I think the most alarming thing is how you worded your post. Your boyfriend came to you ask for permission to hang with someone, but you went to him and told him you would be hanging with your friend with no room for discussion.
Being gaslit and disrespected isn't a sign of a healthy relationship, dude.
Yep! Double standards you said it well. Whereas I'd really like for her to get some help, I feel exhausted from this and I can't put up with these scenes anymore.
It’s time to find a new boyfriend.
is it because she was a “hoe” (his words not mine) before you or is it because she has done things you want to still try and now she doesnt want to do those things?
She crossed a line a couple times. I would tell her this and tell her that you don’t want it to happen again. Any eluding to anything sexual or physical like a kiss is not okay. Her changing his intent to pass the fork for her to feed herself is crossing a line. Although she shouldn’t used her own fork.
So you're jealous of her past and feel like you've missed out on lots of sexual partners and experiences. You called her a hoe for her past and feel that women shouldn't have fun sexual adventures with different men but at the same time, you wish you had had them yourself. Well, aren't you just a hypocrite. You're not mature enough to be in this relationship. By your own admission she is a good gf and an enthusiastic lover. Shes fulling your needs but you can't let go of your sexism and quite frankly, insulting view of her past. Break up with her so she can find someone who doesn't care about her past and enjoys her confidence in the bedroom.
before this happened, did you think he'd kick a kitten down a set of stairs and make excuses about it? how long have you been with this dude and how old are both of you?
There’s nothing I can change or do with my ex so why waste energy getting mad about it?
I do understand being a SAHM is vulnerable in a divorce. But since everything would be split 50/50 in a divorce, she knows she would be ok.
No, but it cant be the bed it cant be the covers it cant be any of that, because when when we’re home he lays in bed all day and falls asleep on it very frequently.
You're literally saying if she changes her behavior, she won't get raped.
Yes. Don’t expose your children to your r/JustNoMIL. See the sidebar of that sub for resources on setting and enforcing boundaries.
I'm doing therapy right now for my CPTSD, she doesn't seem to care about it rn or doing anything with me. Although sometimes she shows she cares and encourages me to continue with it. I feel like she needs it too but yeah she's not the one to follow other people's advice.
I modelled when I was a teenager and in my early 20s. This is not how the process works.
It’s just a scam and your comments show you’re too stubborn to accept that.
Do it. Lose your money. Learn the lesson. Or realise you got this wrong and save yourself.
Your choice.
You’re likely going to have to issue an ultimatum that you are going to follow through with. If he doesn’t go to therapy, you leave. As nude as it will be, you’ve already had the conversations with him and nothing is changing. I’ve had a few clients with diagnosed bipolar and without exception the only thing that has made them seek treatment was a life altering event such as a brush with death or the possibility of incarceration. It’s very difficult for the affected person to see that there is anything abnormal with their functioning.
No its not. Its disrespectful of her to not tell him who she hangs out with and them excluding him. On what basis did they do that? Surely because something is going on
“Not sure how to react” ? He just called you and your gender slow.
We’ve always agreed on not going to bed while we are angry or upset. I always remind her I don’t want to go to bed upset, even if it ain’t me. I think it’s important to talk about things, and just communicate it through with me. However, she never wants to talk and just ’forget about it’. It’s not unusual for her to suddenly hit out of nowhere or to kick (mostly playfully), and in my own doing she was in the exact setting of when it ”usually” happens. I fully own that mistake, we do play fight alot and pushing/pulling is involved in that too.
Unlike most people here, I think it is just how he thinks from being in that male dominant world. How is he usually? How does he view women? How does he treat his mom, you, other women? What were the other major disagreements about. I think it depends on if this is his whole personality or not whether you continue the relationship
Discuss communication. Remind each other that SA – children or not is a difficult thing. Make clear that sex is a sign for love in normal relationships. Discuss your communication!!!
If you can not fix this your relationship is doomed.
I’m 26 and I won’t even date a 20 year old lol
You cant date -18 bc they are child but you shouldn't date -25 bc they are still child. Find someone who are older than 25 and even at their late 20s like 28-29 at least.
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You cheating has nothing to do with her rejecting your advances. You know who blames cheating on the victim? Cheaters. You have higher libido than her, if she doesn't want sex you can always take care of yourself – it's a red flag that your first move is to start looking at other women.
Libido changes after having kids, usually because of hormones and the stresses of raising kids and as others have pointed out – imbalances of work load at home.
If you want the sex you need to put in the effort to make her feel good, not exhausted and gross (very common feelings when raising young kids). Instead of just letting her sleep in one day, get childcare for the kids once a month, take the day off work and get her out of the house and have a date. And make that date something she enjoys, maybe a spa day, massage, get a hotel room so she doesn't have to think about house work, etc. Romance her once in a while.
Just end it and move on. You'll not regret the decision in the long run.
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Everyone telling him to shame her back— implying she’s loose are brain dead hypocrites. She shouldn’t have told you as you can’t change your size; leave her and move on. There are plenty of potential partners who don’t care about certain sizes— find one.
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Then you need to take a step back and realize that she's doing an awful lot right now. She basically had two full time jobs, but if you're taking over almost all the childcare and household duties then so do you.
My suggestion is that you need marriage counseling ASAP. You're both overwhelmed, and you're both working all the time.
If marriage counseling isn't possible at this time then you guys need to sit down together and figure out how you're going to reconnect with each other. Maybe it's taking turns making each other a special dinner once a week after the kids are in bed, or maybe it's snuggling up after a movie? Or maybe just your wife acknowledging she's neglecting your physical needs and trying to hug you more etc would help?
Thank you for your insight… I don’t think I will bring it up I will see if he does it again.
I believe he followed her by accident whilst he was checking out her page. He has now unfollowed her. He only follows around 10 people so it’s pretty obvious for him to see who he follows etc
I don't have any intentions. I don't want to be responsible for the breakup of a relationship, and in any case I on-line in a different city, which is always harder.
Equally, I feel she says stuff which is a bit iffy if you were coming from the perspective of her current boyfriend.
So he's asking you to throw away your career in exchange for checks notes… Nothing?
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You want a $1m per year salary. You will be working…as a housewife. That's your commanding salary. Your fiance is ridiculous. If you have to give up your independence, ge has to give you half his shit. Fair is fair.
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could something have happened to her? something she hasn't told you about?
it would explain the fact that she refuses to talk about sex at all. maybe something traumatic? gently bring up the subject with her, don't say “did you get r–ed” or anything like that, ask if there's a reason for it, and that you're there if she ever wants to talk to you.
The example you gave was where she did tell you what was wrong. If however the problem is she won’t tell you right away, often people learn to clam up when the other person doesn’t validate their feelings. So this might just be a response to you not validating her enough. Or it could be a response from someone else doing it to her. And you can work on this with her, and it can improve but the the question is do you want to? It might be better to break up anD work on yourselves individually.
Im sorry to say this but it sounds like he was just using you to get along in life. He wasn't held accountable for anything or any decisions because he has his mom making them for him, now his wife is.
Especially if they had talents for writing
My [39M] wife [35F] of 14 years the last 6 months has experienced an increasing amount of insecurities in our marriage. She has accused me of being gay, sleeping with guys (no prior actions to give her that idea), sleeping with other girls, lying about where I was, skipping work early to see someone on my way to take her to lunch (?), and the list goes on.
Does she have body image disorder or has developed eating disorder? Have she gained too much weight lately? This may increase her insecurity that you don't find her attractive? If the sex has become infrequent (because of health related issues) it's feeding into her frenzy that you are sleeping with other people.
Back in the summer I was having health issues related to blood pressure, endocrine stuff and weight; so I got some of those magic blue pills so she wouldn't think I didn't find her attractive when things got “hot”, and I didn't want to her to feel insecure about me needing them so I didn't tell her (guess I should have).
You should've communicated your needs to her and what's you're going through. The more secret you keep the more fearful she becomes.
During all the accusing me of stuff I've asked her a number of times if she trusted me, she always refused to answer and would deflect leaving me wondering.
This called Stone walling. It happens where one partner suddenly stops responding or refuses to communicate during an argument or conflict.
Finally I wanted an answer so while she is gone on business I start to flush the pills one by one, few weeks go by and she doesn't say anything; thought cool she does trust me. Then tonight she confronts me asking where the pills went, saying some one broke in for the pills, all this crazy talk.
You are just feeding her insecurities more and more. She's oblivious to why you are using viagra. She thinks you are cheating.
The way I see it both you and her are in desparate need of couples counselling if you want to save this marriage. The more you delay more it will worsen your state of marriage.
Yeah, your relationship is doomed.
Yeah- I guess- but the things added to me didn’t seem needed- I already had planned activities and stuff- it went from a 7 night trip to 13 nights… which I said is ok but we would have to stay somewhere cheaper, but my cheaper and her cheaper are not the same ? spas trips and renting atvs ect… I kinda wish I just didn’t let her be apart of the planning and just do it as a surprise ??♂️
Thanks for the response tho- I do try hide my discomfort but it makes sense to pick up on things- we both read each other a bit too well
My oldest sister is Muslim, her boyfriend and father of her child is a white atheist. Yes, our parents didn't like it at first. But they eventually accepted it.
The thing is, my sister is more open minded to people of other religions or beliefs. She personally has no problem with her BF's belief. Nor has she ever told her BF if wouldn't work out and get parents would be against it etc… Yes, she knew it'd cause issues. But she loves him so she did it anyway.
Your BF however is already telling you it won't work out. That gives me the impression he himself believes that too. And if you'd have a future, he'd pressure you to convert probably. Converting for, “love” is pure bullshit. It doesn't make you Muslim. It's faking shit to stay with him. But he has to grow the balls to present you to his parents just the way you are. Not based on lies. Because you'll be lying to his family for the rest of your life. You'd have to never eat pork or drink alcohol anywhere near his family. Maybe even wear a hijab.
As a former Muslim, please don't start making a fake life to appease the damn parents of your partner. If your BF cannot stand up for you, he's a useless partner to begin with.
I read when I’m stressed out and want to relax. Maybe try different things and see if that helps, because like everyone else is saying, the habit is forming.
I'm glad your community wasn't toxic. Many of them are. It doesn't take long to find the stories or their survivors. Maybe take some time to read about it. Not all Mormons are the same.
Mine also goes to the poor dog that got rehomed!! Haven't seen anyone mention that
Yea, breakups are very hot. The thing that most people struggle to understand right after a breakup is that closure doesn’t come from your ex. You don’t get closure by talking to your ex, saying goodbye, talking through everything that happened, etc. Talking to your ex is only going to make you realize how much you miss them and second guess your decision. The neurotransmitters that fire in your brain during a relationship are just like an addiction — meeting up to talk to your ex is essentially a relapse when you’re trying to sober up.
People who have successfully moved on from a breakup can tell you that closure comes from within. It comes from realizing that they’re not longer part of your life and accepting that. Your relationship was just a singular chapter in your book, and you won’t get to reach the climax of the story until you flip past the last page of your relationship’s chapter. You’ll never reach the climax if you keep flipping back and re-reading the character development.
Good luck
How absurd. How does any of this affect your relationship? This might genuinely be the dumbest reason to breakup with someone that I’ve ever heard. How does her not laying out her medical history in the first month together make her selfish? And how is you leaving her due to completely manageable health issues not?
What were your interactions before she was 18?
Hahahah thanks
Tell him that you just sign up on Tinder and Bumble too so you can meet the local men for friendship.
Because 50% of the DNA is his and 50% is yours. Just like you know and will always remember that you took part in creating this pregnancy, he likewise deserves to know and remember it.
Orrrr just freeze your eggs?
“I didn't try to kill her, I only abused her and it was her fault anyway. And I didn't tell you about it because I consider women inferior to me and knew you'd overreact, just like you're doing now. It's nothing, just ignore it.”
He was convicted of domestic violence charges and went to jail, then his his past from you. Stay and you'll be as lucky as his ex was to get out alive.
And I tend to sabotage so when the inevitable end comes it hurts less. And then I can say I wasn’t surprised. I protect myself from hurt a lot by destroying good things
Besides asking Trevor if anything happened, have you ever just talked to either of them and asked them what the nature of their relationship is?
I think we may be missing a LOT of details from the OP on what is going on here. He doesn't specify how he initiates sex, but seems to be saying that she never does. He doesn't say if she comes during sex or how many times.
It's entirely possible she isn't enjoying their sex life at all and wants any excuse not to continue it. Possibly because of something on her end related to pregnancy or post partum issues, possibly something on his end – pressure, poor performance, etc. Possibly even something else or a combination of things. We just don't have enough information, and I think it's all speculation.
The point is consideration for your partner in what would essentially put us in a LDR. I want them to do what's right for them, and recognize that it's totally their decision to make! Again, would totally not hold them back from going, I just think it's an important space for a dialogue
Stay at a job where she was being physically attacked? Seriously? I agree the job wasn't hers.
Can I ask if maybe she has feelings for you? If she does maybe you being in a relationship with someone else is hurting her.
Thank you that’s what I needed to hear.
So there's a couple of possibilities here,
Both he and your old BF may have gotten nervous because your unwillingness to move in represents inflexibility on your part. I can't speak for them, but I would never enter into a binding legal contract with someone if I couldn't make sure I was going to enjoy living with them first. Your current BF might feel pressure to be a typical “man” and not being able to provide certain things (house, ring, etc) could make him feel extremely insecure. I would just go ask a person if they don't want to get engaged anymore or if they're having second thoughts. You're adults. If you can't have an honest conversation about this stuff (rather than having internet strangers guess at it) then that doesn't bode well… but it does seem very common, so what do I know.
Are both ceremonies literally at the same time?
Can't the wedding be a little flexible? Do they really need you all day?
Her new family is already ruined. You won't be the last side chick this guy has. Give her a chance to know what is real.
I think you should be upset that your brother deliberately picked the date of your graduation for his wedding.
Sounds like she really doesn’t care about your boundaries at all, dismissing you so clear cut like that. She definitely doesn’t have respect for you or your relationship when she treats you for granted like that, like she feels she can do any gross and ridiculous thing she wants because in her head she knows you won’t leave her. You really need to think if she’s worth more of your time and possibly starting a family with? Is it a good idea to invest more effort and time with someone that’s growing into the person she currently is heading toward 3-5 years down the line? Is she going to be able to provide you with a positive quality of life as a partner knowing that you’d have to tolerate this kind of nonsense long term? Think about that and then answer the next question of, can you find someone better than this that will treat you better too? Because you definitely deserve better.
Also, I initially read this in Bill Burr’s voice and it made me laugh, I’m so sorry OP lol
He sounds just like my ex, who I later found out was asexual. His ex tried to warn me, but I didn't listen. You can't change him, OP.
I think that is a fair thing to bring up feeling burnt out with her. Maybe you could talk to her about needing a little time to decompress when you first get home. I know I definitely need a very hot minute to drink some water and shake off the day when I first get home after a long commute. Maybe tell her something like you need at least 20-30 minutes to freshen up, change clothes, catch up on some memes, etc. so you both are on the same page about where to set expectations and meeting each other’s needs. If you consistently maintain this then she won’t have it in her head that you should always be on her schedule or meeting her energy level on demand.
The best course is to fire all 4 of them. Start with write ups, document, and keep at it until they leave on their own or you have enough to end their employment.
Again, say you know nothing about Judaism. Plenty of reform Hebrew schools have a high proportion of atheist students. If you knew anything, you might know that Hebrew school usually refers to ‘Sunday school’ for Christian’s. It’s usually not day school.
Peel her off slowly. Start doing your own thing. Physical separation will give her more independence and introspection so she can start to become emotionally independent. Who knows you may start feeling things once you do if she grows up and stops using the relationship as a crutch. People do lose feelings when they feel smothered.
OP, when someone reaches full adulthood and hasn't developed empathy, it's either through a psychological disorder or or by choice.
Your husband knows he's an asshole.
He just enjoys the response he gets by trampling your boundaries because negative interactions that don't upset him specifically and are fine as far as he is concerned.
You are a consistent battery for his malevolent and selfish impulses because the harm he does to you by treating you this way makes him elated. He enjoys the psychological damage and stress hes inflicting.
The only reason he'd do this to you is because he is comfortable being his awful self with you because you know who he is and haven't run for the hills!!
You don't mention what country or culture you come from.
It is normal for parents to be protective but they also eventually realize their kids become adults and have to move on to their own lives. At least that is the norm in the US.
This isn’t AITA, but otherwise agreed.
This sucks dude but it will get easier. You didn’t do anything, she did. This is why marriage is a sham, this happens all the time these days people have no loyalty and everything is about instant gratification. Be prepared for how it’s apparently all your fault too bc she can’t handle what she did to the family.
“Because it's a way to show her that I care and love her,” is what I would've initially said but now after reading all these comments I need to set my foot down and be honest with myself and her. I feel like after this therapeutic discussion with everyone, that I now have my foot out the door. Now it a matter of escape when given the opportunity. If this is where I am not even two years into a relationship, then 50 years from now sounds too far out to even imagine anything there at that point. Thank you for writing that question for me to answer. You, and everyone else have been incredibly helpful to me.
OK sorry about that, I get it now…
And I'm sorry about what she did. Good that you dropped her because that behavior doesn't change
How is this helpful at all to OP? Where’s the advice? It doesn’t make her feel less upset or less hurt. It doesn’t change the fact that she and her bf have different ideas of what’s appropriate in a relationship. It doesn’t really do anything except state the obvious – of course his body is his choice, the same thing can be said for anything: gaining excessive weight, going through a transition, staying out late with friends partying, sleeping with someone else… literally all of that could be covered under “his body his choice”. But they can all affect how the other partner feels and thus affect the relationship.
Yup, and the other mother is with the husband and wife. Granny is gonna be real alone real quick
Wow. That changes EVERYTHING. If she knows, suspects, or has a weird gut feeling..then her being grossed our sounds less like potential PPD and more like she's over his shit.
You leave. That is cheating. She doesn't respect you and obviously never will. Have some dignity man.
People really need to review the accounts they're responding to. OP has post all over the place, 33 last week, 50 the week before that, now he's 31 with another made up issue. Takes 5secs to look at a post history, stop wasting people's time AND people on this sub need to review the account they're responding to because they're wasting their own time. OP has some sort of mental illness, nothing we can do to help them with just ignore them.
I don’t think you should sexualize it unless you have some sign it’s sexual to her.
Staying with that ballsmeller is an ick.
Also, stop going down on him. Ultimatums do tend to work.
The ol’ “I will not go down on you until you learn how to wash yourself” is a motivator like no other.
Sis, how soon can you leave? Are you in college? If so, go talk to the residents life department about what you need to do to move on campus. If not, do you have any friends looking for room mates? Do you have a job?
Is your bio dad in the picture? If so, call him ASAP and tell him you need help.
I don't know how long this has been going on but I remember my mom was irrational while going through menopause but this sounds like much more than that.
He is her ex for a reason. If you think she is shallow enough to overlook your good qualities or you think she is not being honest or sincere in her interest in you, then you’re going to be a lousy bf. Either be confident in what you bring to the table or work on bringing more to the table. Try talking about things without doing it from the position of being insecure and get more insight into what attracts her to you.
these indeed big lies. you cannot online someone so untrustworthy about money.
i have often saw people confounding love and money. it is typical in families where parents work long hours and have just time enough with their kids to throw bank notes on the table.
i would go frontal :
you announce prices and salaries that don't reflect reality. it is very suspect. i am not with you for money. you don't have to boast how much you earn and how much you spend. but i cannot bind my life with someone that i cannot trust to manage the finance. so come clear and show me what this is all about.
Who tf comes up with this type of stuff…
What?
Unless he tried to do an actual stand up and tried to pass it of as his own joke, it's not “taking credit for someone else's work”. It's telling a joke.
I’m also not concerned that she is going to cheat. The relationship is healthy
I will, I promise.
Why in the lords name is a dinner lasting 5-6 hours.
OP the rules didn’t change. It sounds like he didn’t want you to hook up with this one particular person and you ignored it. And you kept ignoring it till the time when he decided he was done with it. You’re just mad because he doesn’t want to play your game anymore. It really does sound like you manipulated the situation to get what you wanted. Sounds like he went through with it until he’s tired of it. And now it doesn’t even sound like you want to be in relationship with him because you’re trying to put all the blame on him when it’s very clear in your post that you’re the catalyst to why your relationship ended.
this! well said.
😐 i literally said that i wrote bullshit and corrected it. But still thank you for your help