No that’s not what she said, she said he wouldn’t be comfortable if she did that but he still wants to do that. If he is not happy with „rule“, then she should be allowed to do the same otherwise it’s hypocritical.
It’s really not their business though and 10/10 they will absolutely use it against you. I was naive and thought yeah I should share EVERYthing but nope some things, keep to yourself.
They don’t understand that you had trauma, you were young or you didn’t have guidance. It’s a patriarchal world unfortunately.
It sounds like she’s looking for a different kind of relationship experience than you are. You guys are in two different places. You can slow slow down. Or just move on.
The fact that your wife wants to maintain a friendship is a glaring red flag. Is it possible to sneak a look at her phone and their texts? It could confirm if there really is an affair taking place
She was basically trying to tell me that she would never cheat on me and all and that the message I saw was the guy trying to convince her to meet up with him by saying he wants to eat her out but she didn’t meet with him.
Wow, I didn't realise it was this bad. Thank you for being straight forward, I really needed it! I've been living in the bubble of hoping things magically change somehow.
She honestly doesn't HAVE to tell you anything because this happened BEFORE you and her were together. Besides, if you're panties are so twisted over this, you should be mad/upset at your best friend since he didn't say anything either.
This is dumb. Grow up. She doesn't have to tell you anything unless she absolutely wants to.
I agree he needs to talk about this when they're both sober, but calling guys “slang for vagina = weak” is gross, man. Vaginas are strong af, you and everyone else had to pass through one to be here. Women aren't weak/dumb/bad, and we should really stop using that comparison as an insult towards men.
I'm sorry I'm not understanding. What did you saw in the pictures?
I think you need to leave him
No that’s not what she said, she said he wouldn’t be comfortable if she did that but he still wants to do that. If he is not happy with „rule“, then she should be allowed to do the same otherwise it’s hypocritical.
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It’s really not their business though and 10/10 they will absolutely use it against you. I was naive and thought yeah I should share EVERYthing but nope some things, keep to yourself.
They don’t understand that you had trauma, you were young or you didn’t have guidance. It’s a patriarchal world unfortunately.
It sounds like she’s looking for a different kind of relationship experience than you are. You guys are in two different places. You can slow slow down. Or just move on.
Block him everywhere. This guy is a fucking creep.
What I asked was how to come to terms with the situation and accept it.
Are you for real? Giiiiirl….
The fact that your wife wants to maintain a friendship is a glaring red flag. Is it possible to sneak a look at her phone and their texts? It could confirm if there really is an affair taking place
She was basically trying to tell me that she would never cheat on me and all and that the message I saw was the guy trying to convince her to meet up with him by saying he wants to eat her out but she didn’t meet with him.
Talk to a lawyer see your rights.
Also what happens if you have kids??
Are you stuck covering everything ? Will they be covered by him??
Personally I would not marry him Thats not love thats selfish and controlling .
Wow, I didn't realise it was this bad. Thank you for being straight forward, I really needed it! I've been living in the bubble of hoping things magically change somehow.
Sorry telling you to shut up was uncalled for
She honestly doesn't HAVE to tell you anything because this happened BEFORE you and her were together. Besides, if you're panties are so twisted over this, you should be mad/upset at your best friend since he didn't say anything either.
This is dumb. Grow up. She doesn't have to tell you anything unless she absolutely wants to.
I agree he needs to talk about this when they're both sober, but calling guys “slang for vagina = weak” is gross, man. Vaginas are strong af, you and everyone else had to pass through one to be here. Women aren't weak/dumb/bad, and we should really stop using that comparison as an insult towards men.
I don’t want to be a jerk… but you wrote a pretty long response without reading her whole post.
She gave him a chance. She said she was pregnant. He said he wanted nothing to do with her or any kids.
That makes a huge difference in my mind. She didn’t hide anything, she gave him a chance and he refused. He can’t waltz back in at his convenience.
You could say that the same applies to his penis: it’s not rare, ideal or special.
Thank you 🙂
He’s 100% cheated before that