I want to note that this could also be a result of his own feelings. He might be implying that it’s about what you’re going through, but you need to remember that his girlfriend has cancer. I’m not saying you should be comforting him or anything, you’re the sick one after all.
But, he might simply not have much of a sex drive right now due to his own mental health. It is entirely possible that he is struggling more with the situation than he lets on. If he is, and just doesn’t want sex right now, you shouldn’t pressure him.
You need to have a direct conversation, let him know that you are fine and still want sex, but also ask if there is anything else going on.
I was married for 10yrs but together with him for over 15yrs total and I would never call my husband disgusting, lazy, or any of the names that you called your partner.
Yes, you become more comfortable with that person. You can joke or be a bit more open with your comments so long as they understand that it's coming from a place of love. Your comments seem downright rude and abrasive though. I don't know your relationship or how you two communicate, but honestly it would hurt if my partner called me things like that. There's being concerned for your girlfriend and then there's being a jerk. Lord knows if you've made other comments like that, that are slowly tearing down her confidence throughout the years you've been together.
It's very possible that she's simply just tired and wants to stay in bed after getting comfortable, but there's just as high of a chance that there's mentally something going on with her. With you acting like that she may simply be too scared to talk to you about it though. As someone else in the comments said, sit her down and have a serious conversation about what's going on. Tell her that you're worried about her teeth (especially if she likes sweets) and see if you two can brush your teeth together or make it enjoyable so that she is more willing to brush them.
Not brushing her teeth may not be a breaking point to you in your relationship but you calling her all of those nasty names may just be one for her so be careful.
Staying with her isn’t helping her. She’s spending all of her energy & focus on obsessively controlling you instead of focusing on her mental health. She needs intensive medical treatment from a professional. And she’ll never get that as long as she has you to be her servant & bandaid. If you are really objectively honest here – leaving her could actually be the best thing for her. Without you as her crutch maybe she actually gets help. It’s certainly the best thing for you.
Dump her. But tell her to have a threesome with that girl first.
I want to note that this could also be a result of his own feelings. He might be implying that it’s about what you’re going through, but you need to remember that his girlfriend has cancer. I’m not saying you should be comforting him or anything, you’re the sick one after all.
But, he might simply not have much of a sex drive right now due to his own mental health. It is entirely possible that he is struggling more with the situation than he lets on. If he is, and just doesn’t want sex right now, you shouldn’t pressure him.
You need to have a direct conversation, let him know that you are fine and still want sex, but also ask if there is anything else going on.
She probably met someone new she is interested in having sex with, so now she doesn’t feel comfortable having sex with someone who is not that person.
I was married for 10yrs but together with him for over 15yrs total and I would never call my husband disgusting, lazy, or any of the names that you called your partner.
Yes, you become more comfortable with that person. You can joke or be a bit more open with your comments so long as they understand that it's coming from a place of love. Your comments seem downright rude and abrasive though. I don't know your relationship or how you two communicate, but honestly it would hurt if my partner called me things like that. There's being concerned for your girlfriend and then there's being a jerk. Lord knows if you've made other comments like that, that are slowly tearing down her confidence throughout the years you've been together.
It's very possible that she's simply just tired and wants to stay in bed after getting comfortable, but there's just as high of a chance that there's mentally something going on with her. With you acting like that she may simply be too scared to talk to you about it though. As someone else in the comments said, sit her down and have a serious conversation about what's going on. Tell her that you're worried about her teeth (especially if she likes sweets) and see if you two can brush your teeth together or make it enjoyable so that she is more willing to brush them.
Not brushing her teeth may not be a breaking point to you in your relationship but you calling her all of those nasty names may just be one for her so be careful.
Staying with her isn’t helping her. She’s spending all of her energy & focus on obsessively controlling you instead of focusing on her mental health. She needs intensive medical treatment from a professional. And she’ll never get that as long as she has you to be her servant & bandaid. If you are really objectively honest here – leaving her could actually be the best thing for her. Without you as her crutch maybe she actually gets help. It’s certainly the best thing for you.