I am seeing a flurry of “body count” posts lately.
1) Sex is more than penetration. Oral, hands, toys, etc are all considered sex. Maybe his number would be different based on that lol.
2) First date is a bit much. It can throw someone off but a good response is, “Is this important to you?” Regardless, people are going to have an opinion on everything (hehe hi all you redditors), and it might be difficult to wrap your head around theirs if it's so different then yours. Literally just commented on a post about a guy breaking up with his girlfriend over her number of sexual partners. It's something some people value and before moving forward, something they should talk about.
3) Since he was so casual about it, you are totally allowed to call him out about it. “Hey, I appreciate your curiosity but your timing was really poor and it's thrown off my mood. Maybe ask this in a seperate discussion next time?” Some people just blurt shit out the second they think it ?♀️ Without pausing to understand how inappropriate it might be.
4) You can be honest with him, just like you were in the last paragraph. Its the first date and you have nothing to lose by asking him about it. “My sexual past was weaponized against me previously, I don't want to go through that again because I believe it shouldn't matter. Is this something thats really important to you?”
Common theme = call him out. If he doesn't like it, he shouldn't have asked. The first date is a perfect time to feel someone out and not waste a lot of time. Maybe that's what he was doing but his reply tells me he didn't think about it before he asked or he's not being honest with his intention.
Think about your options but don't let someone leave a sour taste in your mouth (no sexual pun intended)! How you two handle/communicate through this will show you a lot about this dudes potential as a partner.
He’s a truly horrible person, and you’re in no position to raise a baby. If you’re opposed to termination, you should put this baby up for adoption.
If you keep this child, I can’t think of anything worse than bringing your toxic, abusive ex into its life.
You emailed him. That’s enough. The rest you’re going to have to do on your own.
I am seeing a flurry of “body count” posts lately.
1) Sex is more than penetration. Oral, hands, toys, etc are all considered sex. Maybe his number would be different based on that lol.
2) First date is a bit much. It can throw someone off but a good response is, “Is this important to you?” Regardless, people are going to have an opinion on everything (hehe hi all you redditors), and it might be difficult to wrap your head around theirs if it's so different then yours. Literally just commented on a post about a guy breaking up with his girlfriend over her number of sexual partners. It's something some people value and before moving forward, something they should talk about.
3) Since he was so casual about it, you are totally allowed to call him out about it. “Hey, I appreciate your curiosity but your timing was really poor and it's thrown off my mood. Maybe ask this in a seperate discussion next time?” Some people just blurt shit out the second they think it ?♀️ Without pausing to understand how inappropriate it might be.
4) You can be honest with him, just like you were in the last paragraph. Its the first date and you have nothing to lose by asking him about it. “My sexual past was weaponized against me previously, I don't want to go through that again because I believe it shouldn't matter. Is this something thats really important to you?”
Common theme = call him out. If he doesn't like it, he shouldn't have asked. The first date is a perfect time to feel someone out and not waste a lot of time. Maybe that's what he was doing but his reply tells me he didn't think about it before he asked or he's not being honest with his intention.
Think about your options but don't let someone leave a sour taste in your mouth (no sexual pun intended)! How you two handle/communicate through this will show you a lot about this dudes potential as a partner.
Good luck, OP!
He doesn’t even pay more. If you add it up he ends up paying only $120 more per month which is so little…