What happens when someone communicates interest in you is you turn them down and you don’t want consider the friendship with them. Out of respect for your partner. It seems you continue to build some sort of friendship with this person. It could probably be confusing and some mixed messages. If someone was to slide and message me telling you they like me I will tell them no thank you I have a girlfriend, and if they didn’t respect it, I remove them from my life without being told.
I am also a very touchy person. Touch is my language. However, you sound like me when I was 19. Touch is also a means of justification to open doors and give comfort. Touch without boundaries is dangerous and unacceptable in a relationship. You need to set boundaries of touch of is it is not acceptable and what is OK. I don’t walk in and give my coworkers hugs. In a professional setting, I might shake your hand. I have very few female friends that I would give a hug to. The ones that I would, have been strictly friends since childhood. Any partner I have ever had has known this.
Right now you were learning what commitment actually means. Today we live in a world when we can just talk to anybody at any time. Anybody can reach out to us and we can look for comfort anywhere we see fit. Unfortunately, that is the opposite of commitment. if you truly are committed to a relationship, you don’t enjoy those conversations with other people who are interested in you. You don’t begin to crave things from other people. When you are committed you establish boundaries and you hold firm to them and you see a relationship to the end, knowing that you and her did not work out because you and her we’re not compatible. This does not happen anymore. As soon as someone feels there unhappy they just MoveOn. It’s everyone’s right to do that but it’s also destroying the world. We online in as far as relationships.
If you’re committed to your girlfriend, stop your crap. If you’re not committed to her, let her find somebody who will be committed to her. You are having micro affairs with this person.
I understand his desire to not make a parent upset. I don't think any son or daughter that loves their parents takes that lightly. However, sometimes having a conviction of a certain subject will cause that. A strong relationship requires strong convictions.
He can be respectful, gentle, but also firm with approaching this situation with his mom. If he does that, he's not responsible for how she reacts.
Thank you ! You said you met your gf on tinder, how did you two initially get to know each other better? I’m kind of a shy/awkward person and it’s been naked for me to open myself up completely to him
Gross Why? Not a kink I've heard of but I haven't heard them all Id be very concerned he wasn't joking about that For the love of God, don't let him do this. Even as a joke, or kink or whatever
Your being groomed to be a substitute “husband” and if i were you i would run till my feet hurt.
She is going to on-line a long time.
I hate to say this, you have boundary issues.
What happens when someone communicates interest in you is you turn them down and you don’t want consider the friendship with them. Out of respect for your partner. It seems you continue to build some sort of friendship with this person. It could probably be confusing and some mixed messages. If someone was to slide and message me telling you they like me I will tell them no thank you I have a girlfriend, and if they didn’t respect it, I remove them from my life without being told.
I am also a very touchy person. Touch is my language. However, you sound like me when I was 19. Touch is also a means of justification to open doors and give comfort. Touch without boundaries is dangerous and unacceptable in a relationship. You need to set boundaries of touch of is it is not acceptable and what is OK. I don’t walk in and give my coworkers hugs. In a professional setting, I might shake your hand. I have very few female friends that I would give a hug to. The ones that I would, have been strictly friends since childhood. Any partner I have ever had has known this.
Right now you were learning what commitment actually means. Today we live in a world when we can just talk to anybody at any time. Anybody can reach out to us and we can look for comfort anywhere we see fit. Unfortunately, that is the opposite of commitment. if you truly are committed to a relationship, you don’t enjoy those conversations with other people who are interested in you. You don’t begin to crave things from other people. When you are committed you establish boundaries and you hold firm to them and you see a relationship to the end, knowing that you and her did not work out because you and her we’re not compatible. This does not happen anymore. As soon as someone feels there unhappy they just MoveOn. It’s everyone’s right to do that but it’s also destroying the world. We online in as far as relationships.
If you’re committed to your girlfriend, stop your crap. If you’re not committed to her, let her find somebody who will be committed to her. You are having micro affairs with this person.
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Np and I hope it works out for the both of you.
I understand his desire to not make a parent upset. I don't think any son or daughter that loves their parents takes that lightly. However, sometimes having a conviction of a certain subject will cause that. A strong relationship requires strong convictions.
He can be respectful, gentle, but also firm with approaching this situation with his mom. If he does that, he's not responsible for how she reacts.
His financial instability is not your problem. He sounds like a leech too after your comment. From what you wrote, he treats you shitty.
Thank you ! You said you met your gf on tinder, how did you two initially get to know each other better? I’m kind of a shy/awkward person and it’s been naked for me to open myself up completely to him
Gross Why? Not a kink I've heard of but I haven't heard them all Id be very concerned he wasn't joking about that For the love of God, don't let him do this. Even as a joke, or kink or whatever