I mean after she became very clear that it isn't what she wants, and he is still continuing to hint to her, and downright say to her that he's basically going to do it anyway. And the whole issue of the mind-blowing sex, after which he says I want to do that with other women… he deserves whatever she decides to do to him after she finally gets rid of him.
Dude it's been 6 months and she already cheated and there freaking too much shit and drama going. Why would you put up with that? You're just inviting needless drama and turmoil into your life
Are you feeling worried about it being a one night stand and you are trying to cover up your feelings by brushing it off as weird in case she doesn't want to meet up again or have a serious relationship with you?
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Yup, me too. Dude I’m dating attempted it once. I told him i hated it. He hasn’t done it again. Even apologised once cos his hand went near it. Unnecessary, but considerate. OP’s bloke is just a douche.
Excatly! And its like wtf did he just say? Everything was going great, but then.. are you for real? And you ask again the next day while thinking about it the whole night because you know your gut is telling you ”that was really bad girl”. Next morning I ask the same question to see if he actually was joking. But it seemed like he didnt regret it. Very hot man, best kisses best connection ive had with anyone honestly in my life and yeah had to let him go.
Absolutely no worries, gave me a good laugh. But I think the only conclusion is that she’s cheating. Nothing else really makes sense. So I guess I just need to sit down and break up now
All right , so even though there was the aspect of him being chubby and no longer chubby, but I'm just going to go ahead and say this out there… A lot of times when people lose weight , they look better. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to how they look later on, versus how they used to look. There are even reddit t forums for before and after pictures, and there's no denying that people respond better to the after pictures.
So you can tell your feelings now and see if this trip might be something different between two people who like each other , instead of just two platonic friends.
Or you can tell you feelings on the trip and risk having a good time or having a horrible time.
Or you can tell your feelings after the trip, and your trip itself will have been what you guys expected , so no problems there. But the rest of the relationship after the trip could be different, based on how he responds.
I can say that unless he just wants to resist you for his own morality of not giving in to you after you rejected him, if he is still attracted to you and wants something with you, chances are that if you make a move on him, he will respond positively.
I mention these two conditions because he can still be attracted , but if he doesn't want to go that route , he might still refuse you. And if he's no longer attracted to you , then he might still refuse as well.
Yes and yes. However he is bad at taking accountability. So this instance is not the first time he’s acted this way and tried to act like it’s not a big deal.
Your friend is a taker and you're a giver. I don't think you need to cut her off entirely. Just don't be as responsive and don't allow her to go on for hours about some guy problem. Maybe ghost her a little. Pick back up again when you feel like talking to her – which might never happen.
They have every right to ignore you. They aren’t your friend and have made it very clear that they don’t like you. I’m not sure why you are trying to make jokes with them, when that is clear. They don’t want to forgive you and have no interest in a friendship with you.
What you actually have is a friend problem, not an ex roommate problem, as your friends keep flaking on you. The reason is pretty irrelevant, the fact is you had plans and now they keep cancelling on you. You will need to sort that out with them or find friends who are more reliable. I’m sure the players could get the coach to either announce training sessions earlier or not take part in sessions if they have pre-existing plans. If they aren’t doing that, then they clearly don’t feel very strongly on the point.
Have you told them how it makes you feel, when they keep flaking?
Staying with him is excusing his behavior. He has faced no consequences for his actions. You constantly live with depression and anxiety FROM being with this person. This person you can’t trust. This person who your gut is screaming at you to leave and you ignore it, which causes even more anxiety and depression.
You cannot trust him. You want to but you can’t. You will forever be in this limbo of wanting to trust but being afraid of being hurt again— because …. YOU CANT TRUST HIM.
Well it's definitely not all in your head. You have the proof of him being sneaky before. Sorry that you are dealing with this issue from two different men. You don't have to put up with this treatment.
Miss , let me tell you a story…my 19 yr old friend had a ? teacher. He is married and has 3 kids. He liked her more than as a friend. She knows he is married, but she was wondering if it ok to continue talking to him.. So what do you think I should tell this friend…
I think you're generalising to give yourself the comfort of suggesting you're a 'nice guy' she has a problem. People just grow apart or find they want different things now.
Yeah, basically what happened is this. Your gf's bf told her to come to their wedding but without you and your gf is okay with it. They are telling her, we are not okay with your partner coming, we don't respect your relationship. Your gf doesn't mind.
Well I'll try to give some insight as a man. Yes, logically the one that has the higher earning potential works and the other would stay. However, I don't think women fully grasp that asking a man to do that is social suicide. To be wholly dependent on your wife is an extremely emasculating experience and will result in humiliation in front of his relatives, his friends. Logic has nothing to do with it, there is a social cost to that financial gain that is unequal between the sexes.
Your link says it can lie dormant not undetectable by health screening. That means you can have it without realising not that it wouldn't be detected of tested for.
Anyway as I said, you've lied in either this post your comment history so completely uninterested in your lies now :).
One of the many reasons it's common sense to not date coworkers is because that kind of daily familiarity tends to lead to misunderstandings like this one. You've been seeing this guy for a month, 30 days, chances are he's been friends with this coworker for far longer than that. Because you work there surely you noticed this friendship before you agreed to start dating him. Meaning your eyes were open and this isn't some secret he was keeping from you. You can't enter someone's life then start demanding that they change themselves. All you can do is decide whether or not to be upset by him continuing to do as he's always done, talk to this platonic work friend at work. Honestly, if you want to date this guy you're going to have to get over this.
Girl, move on.
I mean after she became very clear that it isn't what she wants, and he is still continuing to hint to her, and downright say to her that he's basically going to do it anyway. And the whole issue of the mind-blowing sex, after which he says I want to do that with other women… he deserves whatever she decides to do to him after she finally gets rid of him.
Dude it's been 6 months and she already cheated and there freaking too much shit and drama going. Why would you put up with that? You're just inviting needless drama and turmoil into your life
GOOD! Predators should not be given accolades for sleeping with their students. He's a bad name to his university.
I'm not sure why you are feeling weird.
Are you feeling worried about it being a one night stand and you are trying to cover up your feelings by brushing it off as weird in case she doesn't want to meet up again or have a serious relationship with you?
I was going to say if anything she’s the pedophile☕️
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lol what a muppet
Yup, me too. Dude I’m dating attempted it once. I told him i hated it. He hasn’t done it again. Even apologised once cos his hand went near it. Unnecessary, but considerate. OP’s bloke is just a douche.
Agreed bud. Trying very hot to move on
Excatly! And its like wtf did he just say? Everything was going great, but then.. are you for real? And you ask again the next day while thinking about it the whole night because you know your gut is telling you ”that was really bad girl”. Next morning I ask the same question to see if he actually was joking. But it seemed like he didnt regret it. Very hot man, best kisses best connection ive had with anyone honestly in my life and yeah had to let him go.
Absolutely no worries, gave me a good laugh. But I think the only conclusion is that she’s cheating. Nothing else really makes sense. So I guess I just need to sit down and break up now
I don’t know what you want to hear. You were advised to leave the relationship after he hit you with an object yet you’re still with him.
All right , so even though there was the aspect of him being chubby and no longer chubby, but I'm just going to go ahead and say this out there… A lot of times when people lose weight , they look better. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to how they look later on, versus how they used to look. There are even reddit t forums for before and after pictures, and there's no denying that people respond better to the after pictures.
So you can tell your feelings now and see if this trip might be something different between two people who like each other , instead of just two platonic friends.
Or you can tell you feelings on the trip and risk having a good time or having a horrible time.
Or you can tell your feelings after the trip, and your trip itself will have been what you guys expected , so no problems there. But the rest of the relationship after the trip could be different, based on how he responds.
I can say that unless he just wants to resist you for his own morality of not giving in to you after you rejected him, if he is still attracted to you and wants something with you, chances are that if you make a move on him, he will respond positively.
I mention these two conditions because he can still be attracted , but if he doesn't want to go that route , he might still refuse you. And if he's no longer attracted to you , then he might still refuse as well.
That’s not true. What happened between them is in the past and won’t happen again. Not all people are capable of cheating.
Yes and yes. However he is bad at taking accountability. So this instance is not the first time he’s acted this way and tried to act like it’s not a big deal.
Your friend is a taker and you're a giver. I don't think you need to cut her off entirely. Just don't be as responsive and don't allow her to go on for hours about some guy problem. Maybe ghost her a little. Pick back up again when you feel like talking to her – which might never happen.
After all, that's what she did to you.
They have every right to ignore you. They aren’t your friend and have made it very clear that they don’t like you. I’m not sure why you are trying to make jokes with them, when that is clear. They don’t want to forgive you and have no interest in a friendship with you.
What you actually have is a friend problem, not an ex roommate problem, as your friends keep flaking on you. The reason is pretty irrelevant, the fact is you had plans and now they keep cancelling on you. You will need to sort that out with them or find friends who are more reliable. I’m sure the players could get the coach to either announce training sessions earlier or not take part in sessions if they have pre-existing plans. If they aren’t doing that, then they clearly don’t feel very strongly on the point.
Have you told them how it makes you feel, when they keep flaking?
Staying with him is excusing his behavior. He has faced no consequences for his actions. You constantly live with depression and anxiety FROM being with this person. This person you can’t trust. This person who your gut is screaming at you to leave and you ignore it, which causes even more anxiety and depression.
You cannot trust him. You want to but you can’t. You will forever be in this limbo of wanting to trust but being afraid of being hurt again— because …. YOU CANT TRUST HIM.
Well it's definitely not all in your head. You have the proof of him being sneaky before. Sorry that you are dealing with this issue from two different men. You don't have to put up with this treatment.
Miss , let me tell you a story…my 19 yr old friend had a ? teacher. He is married and has 3 kids. He liked her more than as a friend. She knows he is married, but she was wondering if it ok to continue talking to him.. So what do you think I should tell this friend…
You get the idea…
how many times are you going to post this?
I think you're generalising to give yourself the comfort of suggesting you're a 'nice guy' she has a problem. People just grow apart or find they want different things now.
Yeah, basically what happened is this. Your gf's bf told her to come to their wedding but without you and your gf is okay with it. They are telling her, we are not okay with your partner coming, we don't respect your relationship. Your gf doesn't mind.
Well I'll try to give some insight as a man. Yes, logically the one that has the higher earning potential works and the other would stay. However, I don't think women fully grasp that asking a man to do that is social suicide. To be wholly dependent on your wife is an extremely emasculating experience and will result in humiliation in front of his relatives, his friends. Logic has nothing to do with it, there is a social cost to that financial gain that is unequal between the sexes.
Your link says it can lie dormant not undetectable by health screening. That means you can have it without realising not that it wouldn't be detected of tested for.
Anyway as I said, you've lied in either this post your comment history so completely uninterested in your lies now :).
One of the many reasons it's common sense to not date coworkers is because that kind of daily familiarity tends to lead to misunderstandings like this one. You've been seeing this guy for a month, 30 days, chances are he's been friends with this coworker for far longer than that. Because you work there surely you noticed this friendship before you agreed to start dating him. Meaning your eyes were open and this isn't some secret he was keeping from you. You can't enter someone's life then start demanding that they change themselves. All you can do is decide whether or not to be upset by him continuing to do as he's always done, talk to this platonic work friend at work. Honestly, if you want to date this guy you're going to have to get over this.