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Date: November 30, 2022
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I don't have anything of value to add regarding your predicament, but in the chance you do leave us soon, I just wanted to say I admire your conviction and courage to speak about this, and I wish you the very best for what remains in this life and in the next if such a place exists. You are here, you were here. You are appreciated.
I have cooperated with the venue to pass his information to the girl he almost assaulted, it is up to her whether or not she decides to press charges.
If I saw your bf do that, I’d kick him down the stairs. Not only is it an animal, it’s a baby. You should read up on people who are violent to animals.
Disgusting.
No. You're all adults and everyone knows about your baby daddy. Go ahead and pursue your relationship.
My daughter went through this last year. This young man is manipulating and trying to hold her hostage, emotionally. He either is really having those thoughts or he is abusing your friend….either way, a trusted adult (or 5!) NEED to know. ASAP. This is very unhealthy and she needs to protect HER mental health. You're a good friend for asking for help
Your fiancé is likely going to have to be the one to set up boundaries. You may want to talk to him about a plan to move forward, since ignoring things doesn’t seem to be enough.
A good retort for the fiancé’s ex thing could have been: “That’s great; I hope they are as happy with each other as I am with u/SoftOrganization01” and an added hug for good measure.
When she tries to show him pics of women he should reply that she doesn’t need his permission or approval to start dating again. Then play dumb and ask why else she would show him the pictures?
Or he could simply but immediately get up, give you your coat, thank his mom for the visit and guide you out of the house. If she asks why, he can simply say that she is making him uncomfortable and disrespecting his relationship so he is leaving. If he does this every time she tries to pull stuff like this I guarantee she’ll get the hint and stop.
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She's not doogie howser lol, shes not a “medical person”. She's in first year college courses.
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If you get a text apologizing and saying he passed out or something (basically anything other than he was an an accident)…ignore it. Do not answer him. Celebrate Christmas tomorrow, let him sit in his own guilt. He will be very well aware of what he did wrong.
He will probably blow up your phone after a while. IGNORE THIS.
Do not respond until Monday, and give him a time/place you can get together to discuss what happened. He will agree to anything at that point.
She’s right. Sleep in the guest room if you’re going to bed really late like 1-2am so the baby doesn’t wake up. This won’t be forever, and baby will grow out of this phase I promise. Don’t get too in your head about it.
Sure, keep framing it that way in your mind. Whatever fuels your toxic rage
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At this point if he has set boundaries and have followed them you see where you lie in his life. Everything you’ve listed is a huge flag. It hasn’t stopped, it isn’t going to. He sides too much with his brother and he doesn’t see this as a problem. Don’t marry him or you’re in for a lifetime of this.
you could try things like those sleep machines.
also, do you have a spare room?? there's nothing wrong with having intimate time with someone but when its time to sleep, going into another room. i had an ex who was a chronic snorer. we'd have sex, fool around, whatever. when it was time to sleep, i'd wander into the other room. in the morning if i didnt sleep in, i'd get up early and sneak back into bed with her. it wasnt a lying thing, she knew i went into the other room, it was just nice to cuddle someone awake before starting the day.
We got engaged after 6 months but I was 39 and he was 45. Meh, it happens.
Learn to format and write and you'll have a shot at people reading your question, my dude.
Thank you. I appreciated reading this. It just sucks. I am proud of myself for walking away this time, it shows me I at least did make some progress after I exited my last relationship
Yeah, still her fault, right?
OP if you think breaking up with her and one of you moving out is going to be ugly, just leave it a few more months to let this really stew and see how ugly, stressful, exhausting and emotionally overwrought it’s going to get.
Your gf doesn’t love you, you’re a convenience. As many women are realising, if you can’t get what you truly deserve, yes, it is better to be alone. No relationship should be a constant minefield of carefully chosen words, one person freezing out the other to punish them, the playing mental games and emotional tests, the non stop screaming matches, getting no sleep, feeling like a failure because you’re being told or it’s implied you can’t do anything right.
If her ex was there, she’d chose him in a heartbeat and she wouldn’t even spend a moment feeling bad about hurting you. “Any” relationship is not better than being alone, especially if you’re being made to feel you’re only as good as what you can give her next. It sounds like she needs you more, and she resents it. I’d go as far as to say she probably doesn’t even really like you terribly much but justifies stays with you because there’s no other option.
All relationships have “balance”, both partners need to be putting in (emotionally, fiscally, quality time wise, being loyal, doing each’s share around the home, not taking each other for granted etc). If one person is always putting in and the other is always taking out of that balance, the relationship because uneven and the one always losing out will realise how little they are valued. If you don’t place a value on how you should be treated, and you’re with a emotional vampire, you’re always going to lose out.
She’s an adult, but don’t make the mistake of believing age means wisdom. She’s unable to communicate her needs clearly and maturely, and wants you to be a mind reader, to prove you deserve her. Just stop. You can do better, or you can do it alone.
Your friends are idiots. Plenty of white guys out there that are attracted to black women. Worst case scenario, your friends are correct, and the guy isn't worth your time anyway.
A lot of coparents have no idea how inappropriate/unrealistic their boundaries and relationship are until another significant other comes along. A lot of people are quick to assume it means the new SO is awful and insecure. Often it’s simply the first time they have additional perspective and realize they have some work to do with ripping the band aid off and setting appropriate boundaries with a coparent. To be clear, I’m not saying the kid shouldn’t be able to talk about their other parent. I’m also not saying someone who has this coparenting relationship should change if they don’t want to. But I do think it’s important to understand that being a stepparent is far more complicated than many really understand. Even the most secure people are going to have some challenges when navigating that circumstance. It doesn’t make them a villain or a bad person, it means they are human and they might actually have some fair points if we’d all just put down our guard and hear each other out. That’s all I’m sayin. ??♀️
I started doing a list, it also helps to stay focus and to feel like I can manage this shitty situation.
About my master's, I sadly have to send my thesis next week and the oral presentation is the following week. Those are non negotiable deadlines.
Yes I'll try to do that, I can see what you mean 🙂
You need to talk to her and let her know you aren't a backup plan for her. Communication is key. It may ruin a potential relationship in the future but it may also save yourself from some heartache as well. Next time you see her, or talk to her, let it be known that you won't be this potential child's father and she shouldn't even be considering you for that role given the fact you aren't romantically involved in anyway.
Turn the tables on her and ask if she'd be the mother to your child if you ended up with one after a brief fling and say the mother died during child birth, leaving you as the baby's only parent. Would she be the mom? I doubt it. I don't think a reasonable person would expect anyone to step into that role when they're not even dating. It's selfish and says something about how they view the whole relationship between you.
This doesn't need to end your friendship but it may come to that. If it does, that sucks but at least you're young and have your whole life ahead of you. Definitely be direct though and share with her how this makes you feel and that you may be her friend, you aren't her safety net. Keep the discussion in the present times as much as possible. Don't let her prey on what sounds like a potential crush you might have on her. I say that because you seem to repeat how you could see a romantic relationship coming in the future and no one says that unless there is some interest in happening now. Obviously she isn't ready for a relationship and neither are you, with her at least. She's got her own mess to straighten out.
Ooooooof girl you are smarter than this.
Hmm okay. That’s the general answer I’ve been getting. Some of the comments get deleted but I see the notifications. But, I probably don’t compliment her enough. She’s awesome. I never feel unloved around her even though we aren’t having sex. I don’t know why it wasn’t so obvious and other ppl had to say it. But, I’ll definitely try to be more mindful of how I treated her before and now. Maybe I’m just too comfortable
Just because someone has issues doesnt give him/her the right to project the problems onto other people.. she can not make you and your son suffer just because she has problems. And limiting your contact with your ex and cutting her out eventually will definetly damage everything. You cannot make your gf feel better… she needs to get help and work with a therapist.
It's an open relationship with 3 people in it, obviously you aren't going to get somebody's full romantic attention, it's part of how this arrangement works.
This is like asking why water is wet imo
Not that you deserve an explanation but if you must know – a condom AND plan b was used. But apparently this kid was determined to get here and who am I to decide otherwise. The circumstances of this child’s conception has NO affect whatsoever with the amount of love and care she would be raised with so again I say my child will not suffer. No need to project your negativity into my unborn child’s life.
No, OPs sister's children would be OP's daughter's cousins so the kids are one in the same.
You don’t want him to flirt with you??? I’m so confused— Then why do you want to know about his sexual abilities?
Thanks. I will do this tommorow. This is not the way i want it, but it seems she will keep acting like this, nobody will ever know why. But i have no other options anymore then call lawyer
Unfortunately in life we can't avoid confrontation in its many different forms. There are times when we will do all that we can to avoid it. I don't think this is one of those times due to the negative impact this is having on your life, not just the physical side of you clearing up behind her but the impact on your mental and emotional health too.
My suggestion would be the following:
You need to put together a case so you can present it to whoever makes the decision around moving into another dorm, if you can cope for a little while longer then do the following:
Invite the dorm manager in after you have tidied, discuss with them your concerns about how YOU are left to tidy up all the time.
Is there anyone you can stay with for a few days when she comes back? Once you know she has gone back to her boyfriend then return home. She will definitely have left a mess and ask the dorm manager when you get back to come in with you to see what she has left.
I wouldn't tell anyone else why you are going away because that will cut down on the risk of her finding out.
Once back text her to say she needs to come back and feed her cat etc, tell her that her cat is anxious without her and as she is her EMOTIONAL SUPPORT ANIMAL she herself must be struggling too.
Keep all texts for future evidence, doing all this and keeping your dorm manager in the loop!
Time to put yourself first, will this be pleasant honestly I don't think so, but YOU need to do this for YOU!
Good luck and update us if you can.
Homer Simpson hedge fade ?
Tell him that his liver does @ feel bad.
It only doesn't generate pain.
But intoxication! Goodness!
He needs to go see the doctor. Like … the day before yesterday.
And take those vitamins with him. They may be highly overdosed.
Also… he should consider therapy if he thinks he needs to try out random diets without medical supervision.
His behavior is concerning and dangerous!
According to her edit, she's pregnant with his child. I agree that she moved too fast, but it's also very common for abuse to start/escalate after a pregnancy. He may have kept the red flags hidden until he thought he had her trapped.
I think, she is trying to worm herself back into his life.
Didn't read past the title.
This is either fake or you're an idiot. What should you do? Lol