Approximately once a month or every 6 weeks, my friends of a similar age and I go to concerts or dancing. My spouse looks after our 3-year-old on those nights, and I usually return home between 11 pm and 1 am. Occasionally, my mother offers to take care of my child overnight because she wants to, and I cover these expenses from my personal funds. We both work full-time in well-paying jobs. During these outings, I don't engage with men or partake in wild activities; it's my way of unwinding and enjoying some girl/me time. My spouse is an introvert and isn't interested in this scene despite my previous invitations.
Recently, my spouse expressed concern about my outings, primarily due to frequent social media posts where my friends tag me. These posts typically consist of a post/story showing the venue's stage, clinking glasses, or posed group photos. They don't depict wild dancing or excessive drinking. He mentioned that I'm friends with my colleagues on socials and what they might think, given my higher-up position within the company. He also pointed out that his parents have made comments about my nights out, which bothers me because they don't comment on his game nights, where I won't see him for hours 1-2 nights per week. He said he thinks it’s weird at my age to go out like I do.
So, my questions are: Is it unusual for a 33-year-old woman who is a working professional, married, and a mother to go out occasionally? Is it fair that my spouse has his hobby 1-2 nights a week while I can't go out once a month? Is there a potential compromise to consider? I'm now concerned about the public perception I might be projecting.
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