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I mean… It IS a health condition.
Yep. It's obvious. At least oral. Maybe more.
This dude sounds like a loser. That's why he's going for someone your age instead of pursuing women his age. Run bestie. It isn't gonna end well for you in the long run. You have a whole life ahead of you, so don't waste it on someone who isn't doing anything to benefit themselves.
Extraordinarily desperate. She isn't interested right now, and that's all that matters. Respect the clear but polite no you've been given.
Finances and emotions are wildly different.
He's telling you right now that if you do not continue to support him with your money while he refuses to find a job, he will stop treating you like a partner or honestly with even the basic respect of a friend or loved one, it seems like. Those words explicitly say “I am using you for your financial support and if you withhold that support I will withhold my love”.
That should be the biggest red flag you have EVER seen. Because even in situations where people are stay at home partners, where one is supporting the other financially, there is still the obligation to treat each other like a partner because that's what you are to one another.
Please, do what's best for you and your kid and kick him to the curb.
oh, same, i get lost all the time. I've only really started recently getting active on it. THere are some places you can check deleted posts for people to catch those deleted posts for reasons just like this. It happens
Frankly, I feel that you're coming off a bit self centered. It sounds like he did something perfectly normal for a 22 year old guy to do on a Friday night, and this is rare for him. Your final is Monday. Not in the morning. You've never seen him drink like this. Jell-o shots will do this to someone who is not a heavy drinker. He needed you for a couple hours tonight. This is life. Something like this will happen to you sooner or later and you will want him to care for you. You're just stressed because of the school work, which is preventing you from being capable of the patience, care, and grace that you would expect from him if the rolls were reversed.
She needs therapy – almost sounds like a PTSD type reaction.
At that point just send her a hot and see how she reacts. Its not like a hot from you will end the relationship or cause problems. At worst she will just close the hot immediately and leave you on open
We broke up. She said her mental health was struggling and she couldn’t work on herself while being in a relationship, because she couldn’t put the energy into the relationship. It’s just so harsh when I see her developing these close relationships with other people. She refused to get therapy because she said she wasn’t ready and wouldn’t do couples therapy.
I don’t feel like she tried at all.. I just feel so broken and unloved. She told me I was her safe space this week, that she wasn’t taking space to break up. She said she still loves me and still wants to marry me?? I don’t even understand how she could say that to me. She said even if we took a break she wouldn’t know how long she needed and it wouldn’t be fair on me.
Yep that’s a red flag, his expectations are nutty and controlling
Yeah but she is too cute. Like I can’t control myself.
Means shes not interested and you gotta move on
Happy birthday man, sorry about that
Sorry if it seems like Im arguing, but I’m not. I just pick things apart to understand. But the bottomline is everyone is right and has a lot more experience than me. Yes, I’m insecure and I like the attention. I like how much he likes me. But it sucks so bad that someone I thought was nice may be evil. It sucks so bad to accept that I’ve been assaulted twice in one year. And please don’t make me feel like the unprotected sex thing is something I enjoy… He didn’t put one on and as everyone knows I didn’t want it in in the first place. Of course I don’t want to be pregnant or have an STD, and I don’t know why you would pretend that I do.
Dude, if she is willing to throw your relationship away because of this, then she's not the one brother. I understand wanting a big wedding, but if she really loves you, she'd be willing to marry you anywhere
But he was passive agressive over me not hooking up or chasing him and I told him straight away that I want a relationship
lol “he's not an asshole but here's how he's an asshole”
Thank you! It was ended as smoothly as possible!
Can’t say whether that’s normal. Never seen an erect dick that wasn’t circumcised. I wouldn’t think it’s a big deal though.
I have heard from women that sex isn’t as good with an uncircumcised dick because there’s more skin, so when the guy thrusts in and out, there isn’t much friction. Like the skin stays in place while the dick moves back and forth inside the skin. Take it for what you will.
For good reason, cheater. He should be give 100% custody, really.
“In the simplest words possible, a rule restricts the other person from doing something. A boundary doesn't restrict the actions of the other party. A boundary is a proverbial line in the sand of what someone will tolerate.”
It's a rule, not a boundary.
Oh honey! He likely won’t hear it when you say you don’t want to have group sex. Don’t EVER do anything you aren’t comfortable with. There are so so many red flags here: your age differences, the length of your relationship, the fact that he asked you to make a sex tape, the pressure to have sex with others. Get out before it’s too late!
This relationship sounds unhealthy. She’s have mental health issues over your disagreements. She needs to be seeing a therapist and a doctor to help her.
Sarah sounded reasonable for Cathy to dislike given it was weird she got mad at Cathy for doing something for your birthday. Sarah sounds jealous.
The 27yr old best friend and her fiancé I do not understand Cathy’s issue with one bit. To me looks like you were always in a double date situation so I don’t quite get the issue there.
You shouldn’t have to give up meaningful friendships in any relationship let alone only 8 months in. Ultimatums are not cool and only lead to resentment and issues.
Our… parents….
I'm sticking with my advice. I recommend you do some other things to get your mind off of her and the break up.
I can't on-line without water. Doesn't mean I'm gonna marry it. ?
Professionals have standards, OP. Be professional and leave this guy, like, immediately.
There's zero reason to stay with a person who contracts parasites and diseases from the fact that he touches feces and doesn't wash his hands, and then allows you to get sick before telling you.
For that matter, just the not handwashing is gross, even if he didn't have actual shit covering them. Girl you need to fucking run
Let’s break it down into parts.
You were a people pleaser, and this is the person that your bf knows and fell in love with. So yes he loves the “perfect” version of you, this doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you as a whole though.
You are now being more assertive, and he he is saying that while what you ask for is good, how you ask isn’t, and rather than explore that, you ignore it – basically confirming what he is saying. Being assertive is good, but in a relationship, which is supposed to be about compromise, sharing your lives etc, you have to listen and take onboard what the other person is saying (within reason of course) you sound like you have gone from one extreme to the other, rather than stopping in the middle, which is where a good relationship should sit.
His actions when you want to talk about how you are feeling, these are way less than desired, and definitely not what anyone deserves. His role isn’t to ‘fix’ anything, it’s to be there, to listen, to support, and if he can’t see that, then he is not ready to be in a relationship.
So regardless of if he loves you as a whole, it’s probably best to end your relationship, be it for good, or a short time while you both work on yourselves before getting back together.
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Dude this is going to sound harsh but GROW A SET. Ask her how she would feel if you were writing the same things to another woman. Her interactions with him are inappropriate. You already set an ultimatum/boundary an didn't follow though on it. assert yourself. “How you are acting is beyond disrespectful to our marriage. You need to leave for a few days and think about how fucked up you are acting.”
Asking a question but not liking the answer doesn't make the answer untrue.
It's the porn.
We lived 8h apart so after 6 months I “moved” in. Not officially because all my stuff are still at mine, but I stay at his place most of time because traveling between his place and mine is expensive and takes long.
Best tip is don’t waste your time on people who don’t respect it. Within 10 mins late is one thing, hours is just rude and is probably indicative of larger issues anyway; maybe he’s already in a relationship or he’s incredibly disorganised/irresponsible.
How can you not see the writing on the wall? This is supposed to be the honeymoon and love phase of the relationship. He is treating you like a side piece and squeezing you In between kids basketball games and running errands. He isn’t courting you like a future girlfriend. He’s 31 trying to get with a 22 year old because he’s a snake.
I’m taking all of your advice. I’ve read your response a couple times over and it’s really what I needed to read right now. I honestly can’t thank you enough. Thank you ♥️, and I am definitely getting rid of him.
I know plenty of dudes who like black girls, some dudes have skin color preferences and some don’t, no reason to beat yourself up over that. Own who you are don’t try and change it
They're around
If it gives you hope my aunt was a lot similar to you couldn't find a good man for years, dark skin, similar insecurities and although it took her a while she married the man of her dreams in 2017 when she was in her 40s
Her situation may be different than yours because she never wanted kids but the lesson she taught us is still the same as long as you are the best version of yourself the right person will come into your life at the right time so you have to be able to be happy alone so you don't jump into the wrong situation
Also it might help to expand the distance on your dating apps and find somebody outside of your immediate area
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If you dump his ass make sure you get all your nudes and delete his other nudes.
They’re great dogs if you’re willing to put in the work, just be prepared to extra puppy-proof your home and keep it that way for a while because they REALLY love eating things they shouldn’t.
How did everyone react? What was the vibe in the room? Were there any follow up comments or questions? So many questions lol
You literally posted this exact conversation yesterday lol go away
It’s tough, but if he’s looking elsewhere then he will continue to do so. You deserve better.
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She can run around in whatever she wants in her home and still not want sex. If he's so horny it's becoming a problem for him and she's not up for sex, he can masturbate like a normal person.
him being there doesnt mean he felt like being included..
are you sure he was 100% honest about going to sex party?
you aggreeing to play hot twister with 4 guys? …. cmon
Personally, I’d just be upfront because to me it would be more awkward to have this unsaid thing affecting my relationship. Just let him know you’re aware of the messages, you don’t want to continue the relationship but you’d like to remain civil until your flight.
You sound very young and immature. Work crushes are just funny.
Yeah you gotta be honest – what if this friend just does this again to another mutual friend?
Trying to explain this on the back foot whilst being accused of being “jealous” if that does happen would not be fun.
Best course is to be honest with everyone now, so they’re aware of the realities of their actions.
He's already a liar and i dating someone half his age which is an excellent indicator he's a manipulator. Dollars to doughnuts he did not get babytrapped. Leabe him
I'm autistic too and this would be a deeply upsetting proposal for me to receive, so I feel you entirely. To me, the proposal being everything you didn't want, that was uncomfortable for you, means your partner either didn't think about your limits or care enough about them to keep them in mind. And that is a real issue, one you have a right to feel hurt about, because it is so very hot to find someone who really gets it and you can be comfortable with, so this must really hurt your trust in their ability to do that for you.
Thank you so much for this.
Look, you survive stage 4 bottle cancer. And now he's a cancer upon your life. If he thinks that little of you, should be easy to get a divorce. Divorce him, move on with your life and be happy.
Have you ever actually met face to face?
If you need time on your own to discover what you really think, feel and want, of course that's fine, but if you're doing it to punish her, that's a different thing. Ultimately you need to talk and decide if you stay together.
The thing when being in person is that you are EXCLUSIVELY reserving your time to that person, but when in message you may be doing a lot of other things, so not dedicating your time to one person or a few people
If it makes you feel used or that she owes you her time to answer in a steady manner to everything you say it would be better if you let her know and just break the friendship or take it to a less tightly one where you arent expecting that from her. But for the way you are talking about her just be honest at this point
Please have a conversation outside of bed when you are both fully clothed.
State what your boundaries are here.
A boundary such as “I won't do anal without the appropriate prep” is 100% reasonable to make. If that isn't “authentic” enough for him so be it.
Don't forget a boundary has consequences when it is crossed. So if he asks for anal and suggests you shouldn't do your prep then you need to be strong enough to enforce a consequence. One that would make sense in this scenerio would be to stop the love making session. He doesn't get continued access to your body for the rest of the day.
Stop hanging out with your co worker.
We're all different of course and this may be a deal breaker for her, but as long as I was sure it wasn't reflective of anything untoward I'd honestly find this funny. She may be over thinking it. Give her space and try not to develop a complex about this so that it affects your future sex life.
Where is the laundry? Is it possible he was folding laundry on the couch and that's how the clothes ended up there?
I’m sorry to break this to you, but he is 100% gay. The cocktails over beer things was the clear red flag. If he is not a beer chugging, car loving sports fan then there’s OBJECTIVELY no way he is heterosexual.
Sure, she was able to lied to you about your friend in your face for 20 years, but she is completely honest about not cheating on you. Yes, you are right in trusting this person.
I mean you two should be able to sort out some generic things he can do when he picks up on you being sad.
Chores, bringing you some tea, giving you some space (this depends on if you like to be alone with your feelings or not, ofc), etc. They should absolutely be able to confirm that you aren't doing well, but a, “Yeah I'm not doing well, work sucked today, and I'll fill you in later this evening,” should be sufficient. If they ask, “There anything specific you're wanting from me,” I'd say that “The regular,” and let them do what they will.
You will have many you and her experiences.
In the middle of the night.
Sleep deprived, tired.
Listening to a 120dB screaming infant that's covered in excrement and/or vomit.
While you or your wife are likely also partially covered in excrement or vomit.
Trying to wrestle that surprisingly strong baby out of a poop covered onesie while trying to contain the bodily fluids to the immediate area and not expand the biohazard zone.
Enjoy, I doubt MIL will want to deny you that experience!
I'm really sorry that you love and need him so much but he's telling you the truth about who he is. He wants to see other women. He doesn't like you telling him he shouldn't do that because the two of you are in a relationship. In a sense he's right that it isn't your fault. You want monogamy; he doesn't.
I think you're both feeling miserable because you aren't compatible. He's not done with having other women. That isn't fair to you. You need to calm down and realize it's over and you need to find the strength to move on.
She probably has BV or a yeast infection or isn’t washing properly. Maybe you can even make her a gift basket see if it works first to get her a bunch of her favorite bath products and then include a PH balanced shower gel to use on her bits.
RePhresh gel or good clean love are insertable gels that can help eliminate odors by restoring the PH. (However if she has yeast or BV best to get it treated by a doc or else the problem will persist and then use the gels as aftercare to keep her healthy and balanced.)
It’s a tough convo but you need to have it with her. Also stop cumming in her for awhile. That really throws off a woman’s PH especially if it’s daily.
She is only offering you friendship through pity. Don’t fall for it. Stop being so negative. The way to deal with it is to give yourself a problem. Your problem is you don’t have any friends. Now start thinking about a solution. How can you find new friends. You need to start getting involved in activities and hobbies where you have the chance to meet people and make friends. Constantly being negative is not a solution my friend. You are better than this.
So you’re married to a misogynist.
Guy and girl dad here. I’ve had many conversations like this with my wife and I totally refuse to raise my daughter to a double standard. She gets all the same opportunities and freedoms and self expression and sports and hobbies etc etc etc as our sons. Im not going to raise her to some archaic standard or behavior or social roles.
Wait… that’s what that songs about!?
That's just WEIRD
To be honest, I wouldn't try to have a friendship, because you logically can't. You have romantic feelings for each other. A healthy friendship can't work that way, because you wouldn't objectively be platonic friends.
What you should do is start the process of moving on, work on whatever you need to work on, and then get back out there. If he comes back and the stars align, great! But you shouldn't sit around assuming that's going to happen, when you have absolutely no reason to believe that will be the case. Good luck.
Usually you're at work? So your kids have to deal with her verbally abusing them on the days you aren't there?
Grow up.
You need to break up with her immediately. You are bored with her, you have the ick, and you and she have very different ideas of what you want in the next several years.
You are reluctant to end it because you don't want to hurt and disappoint her, but you are dragging this out and ultimately, making it worse.
Don't let this go on until Valentine's Day and the anniversary date.
Tell her you are too young to make a lifetime commitment and are unsure when, or if, you will ever want to marry. Tell her you want to have the freedom to enjoy your university years, meet lots of different people, and have new experiences.
Do this in a place where you can say what you need to say to her, and then leave.
I will never ever figure out how Reddit decides who to empathize with. This behavior from the girlfriend is well into breakup territory. At 8 months and age 28. this is way too much to deal with. The girlfriend can take all the time she wants to heal when she’s single.
Generally when people ask for advice, it’s in the form of a question. What exactly is the issue you want advice on? There are several things brought up here. Like do you wanna know what the ring shopping bit was about? Do you wanna know if you should try dating other people? Do you want advice on your or his behavior? What?
I like dick for brains
Lmao
Well this is a shit troll post.
The quality and believability are so low nowadays.
0/10 for content. 0/10 for effort.
However I really feel like we are meant to be
“Meant to be” is a fiction. It doesn't exist. There's love, deep connections and all that jazz but nothing is “destined.”
She has a very specific thing that is out with what you would want in someone. That's not just a hurdle, it's a brick wall.
Your feelings are strong enough that you want to get past the religious things… but for how long? At what point does the smitten feeling give way to you not being able to see past her religiousity… or her passed your lack of it?
People can get past religious differences but typically fundamentalism is fundamental. It's a brick wall that doesn't have compromise.
Unless you find a way to meet halfway it's going to be “you bother God too much” vs “you don't bother God enough.”
1) It doesn't matter if their “relationship” works or not. He's obviously toxic to your personal growth and you should avoid him going forward.
2) Do things you like, go to places you've always wanted to go, take care of yourself and visit friends. You'll recover fine. You have a very bright future ahead of you and you shouldn't sullie it with getting back with an immature boyfriend that changes gfs as often as his mood changes.
It sounds like they have a rape fetish. A good bit people are into CNC. People who are into that are obviously going to fantasize like a person would porn its their fetish. Honestly this is through a post idk the guys tone or the way he said it. Talk to him and see if it's a kink or if he's a really talking about rape. I'm not gonna shame anyone for a kink qnd if that's what it is then that's fairly normal nowadays
My comment is based entirely on what you wrote. You're at the point of dropping C bombs, which indicates this is a common theme in your relationship. You also literally came here with a title saying your partner treats you like shit.
The reason I suggested that you hate each other is because of how the conversation you provided escalated so quickly. She clearly resents you for whatever reason. Maybe it's because of your work schedule. Maybe it's more or something else. We don't know. But while you were changing him, she said a passive aggressive insult to you. Like I said, that doesn't just happen in a silo. That's something someone says when it's a longtime issue.
You got upset and fair enough. No one likes to be insulted, let alone like that. But again, you said it was “cunty” which we all logically know is the ultimate word that will upset a woman. You don't say that during an isolated incident. You say that when again, it's a longtime issue and you're at your breaking point.
You're then here saying she “always” makes up negative narratives about you and that you're the worst person. When you try to talk about it, she blows you off. So this is the person you want to build your life with? Put things into perspective.
To back up, anecdotally, I'm a guy and I'm happily married with a toddler and one on the way. I tell you this so that you know I'm not here being negative for the sake of being negative. I love love and I wish you nothing but the absolute best. But you're here essentially ignoring reality. You're doing what just about everyone does in focusing on the good, or especially the good of the past. Unfortunately, that's not the present. You can't stay in a relationship where you're largely miserable but have occasional moments of happiness. That's not how healthy relationships work. Do you really want to live like this forever?
What a douchebag, wow.
Also just curious here: Is he the best sex partner you've had?
It’s killer, she gets stressed, I get stressed. I try to remind her I’m not upset but my scowl always shows. We have tried to budget but it falls though. I can try again. Keep a personal calendar or something.
My degree is in sociology, it’s just a class
“She doesn't believe in therapy” means she has deep seeded issues that she's not willing to resolve or work on for self-improvement. If she's not willing to go to couples therapy, it's a huge RED FLAG. Refusing intimacy for 18 months is another RED FLAG. Refusing to acknowledge your feeling or concerns is a RED FLAG. Trying to turn them around against you is another RED FLAG.
My best advice is to see a therapist by yourself and talk about these concerns if your serious about getting a divorce. Even if you're not necessarily having mental health issues this can help clarify your mindset and help you find the best course of action for you and your family. It sometimes helps to talk to a professional who has seen and dealt with other people in similar situations as yourself and maybe get a better understanding of your wife's mindset.
You can't change your wife or fix what's broken inside of her but you can work on yourself and take control of how you respond to these problems. That in itself is liberating to a lot of people and I've seen it work for a friend of mine who went through his own divorce due to an abusive ex.
So if my maths right thats a 16 year old dating a 12 year old…. tf?
You have a small child, suck it up. Start doing more around the house (your SHARED house, with your wife and child) and do more childcare so she can have a rest. Focus on supporting your partner and parenting – the rest will follow. Sexual intimacy decreases after birth quite some time with lots of people. You're a parent now. Grow up.
This is some toxic, childish logic.
If their partners discomfort is hyperbolic, unhealthy, etc. Then is that really the right metric?
Put the wedding on hold and focus on the relationship. You guys aren’t ready for marriage when the relationship is barely working.
MY GUY!! Get those XP gains brother
It is not true. Lots of relationships open up and do just fine
I'm not saying that's for this dude but it's blatantly a false idea that if it didn't start that way it's not gonna work
Ah sorry. I do get what you're saying but I do feel like I can have him as I don't want a relationship at all. I've come out of a 5 year one, I'm super busy so casual is exactly what I'm looking for and the fact I get to do it with him makes me super happy. I dont want a boyfriend I just want good sex and a bit of fun flirting so I'm excited that it's him and not someone else. I'm definitely infatuated for sure but now I've explained that… what do you think?
I’m going to talk to you the same way I would talk to my sister. You’re about the same age.
Sweetheart, I need you to think very carefully about what you’re doing. I almost married a 26yo man when I was 18. Leaving him was the best decision I’ve ever made. This man you’re with is love bombing you so hot. He wants to lock you in, and I wouldn’t be shocked to find out he’s abusive. This is what these men do – find a younger woman who won’t stand up for herself, and love bomb them, and the lock them in and isolate them from their family. There’s a reason women his own age won’t date him. It’s because they’ve got enough life experience to smell something that isn’t right.
Please, don’t throw your best years away with this man.
I’ll get a peck and then get jealous of her smiling, laughing, etc because it reminds of when she used to be like that with me + more. I guess she is masking when she’s out with them so it makes sense, but I find it naked to believe she was masking for months on end at the start of the relationship. And if so that makes me feel even worse like everything’s fake.
I think it's very important to let her know that this relationship is going downhill because you're unsure what is real or masked at this point, I'm not sure how much help she has gotten in her life regarding her autism, but I would definitely suggest for you and her to figure out her autism and how you both can work with it, unless you are in this state of “is this even worth it anymore” because honestly autism is a lot of work, for both the person who has it, as the person who lives alongside it.
In public for instance her treating me equal or even worse than all her friends,
This is not an excuse for Autism honestly, you don't deserve to be treated like you are worth less. And this is something that she should know by now, given her age. She implies with her body language I should leave if I’m hugging her while she’s cooking or something.
My fiancé has definitely felt my wrath when he decided to bother me while I'm over an hour in the kitchen making food for the fam LOL. He knows he's banned from entering the kitchen in the golden hour. But this is because cooking is very stressful for me, overwhelming and I know I'd hate myself if I messed up.
Or even admit she’s bored but still have no desire to do anything with me, but doesn’t want to go out.
Oh yeah I feel this, being bored but want nothing, it's literally that feeling of bored that you want to get rid of. Still haven't found a fix for that sadly, this is something she needs to fix herself. Or suggest 2 things maybe? Bored? Ok let's either do this, or that. You can choose. If she says she wants none, then she can mope about it by herself because you suggest and did your part. She's an adult, not your child.
A lot of the time my favorite part of seeing her is leaving because then she’ll give me goodbye attention and a real kiss…
I'm so sorry for this because you clearly want to be loved more, and she needs to put in her part as well, autism is not an excuse to not improve yourself. And honestly, if you have already talked to her about it and she doesn't want to put in any effort into the relationship, is this still worth your time.
There is nothing more toxic than staying in a parody of a friendship born from broken relationship.
You should completely cut her from your life. Yes it will hurt a lot, but this way you can eventually move on instead of being stuck where you are.
She is younger than you and it might take her years to really mature to a permanent relationship (at which point it won't be with you even if you decided to stay in her friendzone).
And to not even be embarrassed??? My my my ?
Never get a body modification for someone else than yourself. If you don’t explicitly want one, don’t get it.
Having said that, you should also never have made it a pawn in your games, making him pay for your debts etc. Basically, by accepting money for it, you made yourself obliged to get it done.
So make a decision for yourself, and then talk to him and offer to pay back what he paid for you so that you don’t have to get that piercing.
I feel like this is kind of skewed to show him in bad light. He may have a point about your work being too important for you, as you literally just kind of said that in your thread. He definitely is to blame for some things as well though.
Being mad because someobody doesn't reply to lovey dovey texts instantly while at work is stupid for sure and the dude needs to be brought in line about that. When it comes to being picked up after work…it depends if you schedule that between the two of you and you know he's coming and then still end up being late on purpose, or is this a case of him just trying to surprise you and being angry that you're late.
Skips gym, and skips diet.
Hey that’s not how you lose weight!
Actually it's just a work between us. Like contractual type so no hr involve or anything. And also we have ended it already so the issue is more of he's saying something about finances
She got Andrea Tate'd
You nailed it on the head with the fake people being nice and defensiveness taking the form of deflection. The abusive language is not new, but calling me fat is new. He said he only did it because my ex-husband used to call me fat and he wanted to see if it bothered me if he said it as well. It did bother me the first time, but now he says it all the time and it doesn't bother me anymore. I don't even care if he's attracted to me. I am beginning to feel lonely though.
It literally doesn’t matter and has nothing to do with you, let it go. It’s not like you could do anything about it anyway
Tell your boyfriend, it would be super shitty if he found out and then found out you knew and didn't say anything.
She is right to back away from you, sounds like you should give her time to get over it.
You don't have to dislike dogs to not want to live! with one . Personally , i always liked to interact with other people's dogs . But there is no way in hell i would be getting one . I know for a fact that i would not be able to spend my time caring for one or dealing with the massive mess ( especially from dog breeds as large and energetic as OP wants ).
If you don’t understand what you did wrong, don’t apologize, simply say you don’t understand what you did wrong but you want to understand and ask to talk about it more. An apology means you’ll do better next time, but you can’t do better next time if you don’t understand what you did wrong.
Sounds like you accept it well or accept it poorly.
Your marriage is rocky for a reason.
Your worth doesn’t come from him. He is irrelevant and you are timeless.
Just kicking myself for ever letting it get to this stage tbh
At most, send a text explaining how you feel due to distance and difference in opinions.
At least, either quit replying or just ignore her. Depending on what lead up to this split, you mentioned you thought things were good, she might not bother reaching out or at least not for awhile. Most people wanting a split often worry more about the next person than the former.
Nope. You need to get help for your porn addiction.
You don't confront him. You don't mention it. You just found out that your husband is a psycho stalker someone like this very well could end your life.
Quickly and quietly gather the important paperwork that you have and get the hell out. If you don't have any place to go then contact domestic violence shelters in your area for help.
Your man certainly had cam girls since being with you. Because You’re not pleasing him sexually or he’s a weak man. 1 of the 2.
I know my man doesn’t get escorts because he wants to spend free moment with me and takes me places I want to go on his day off.
I know he loves me because he does everything for me. His family adores me. He’s taken me places and bought me things. His friends and have told me they’ve never seen him this happy or with a girl for this long.
I’m an integral part of his life and vice versa. We’ve cried in each other’s arms and helped each other through emotional stress….
The difference between you and I …. Your man is broke and my man makes a lot of money. Hence why you’re mad that I can choose not to work.
But you know what …. Typing all this out, I realize I am lucky to have a man like him. Because there’s men out there (like your husband) who is weak and cheats with women on-line. There’s couples out there (like you 2) who have crappy sex lives and financial burdens.
Maybe I will get a little job so I can make my man proud of me.
Thank you for all your advice ?
i can – he can’t. he will be left in the apartment alone to pay all the bills that come with it. and groceries. he won’t be able to do it alone.
and you’re right. neither of us are ready to on-line alone. i wanna go to college and he wants to keep working his job. which is fine. but we only moved in together because his parents pressured him to move out
OP I'm glad ur leaving i say this alot bt never let a cheater use ur kids against u or as a reason for u to forgive them.
My mother dealt with this shit from my dad.. and it was sad seeing her cry.. and be unhappy. She finally left and what i learned was it's better to love yourself and leave someone that has zero respect for u.
I hate cheaters! Like to my core because of how i saw it broke my mom. And i grew ur knowing never to accept anything less than love and respect in a relationship and to not deal with someone disrespecting ur relationship like that.
U wont ever! Ever do ur kids a favor by staying with a woman that manipulates and lies and breaks ur trust. Ur gona be a horribly sad dad and ur kids are gonna pick up on it. And if u stay with her also on the cheating! We see shit! We observe!
Take ur kids and get out. She can be a mother hopefully a better one than she is a wife. Bt u don't need to stay with her for that!
Run.
Are you looking forward to a lifetime of this?
His date for the wedding?? He’s seeing someone. Probably the girl who is friends with his roommates, and he’s cheating on her.
I’m confused. If he’s not likely going to get a promotion… I don’t understand why it’s so important for him to go then? Is your feeling here that he’s literally planning a vacation from you, your anticipated medical problems, and the stress of a newborn baby? Behind your back???
Thanks, can’t tell you how much I needed that
Sounds like a scammer. He's probably doing this to other people as well.
This is a huge ?. You can take it as an indicator that your partner sees this relationship as a holding pattern, at best. It's very possible he is actively seeing other people. Now, you have the initiative to either stay with him for whatever else he can offer you, or plan your exit. This is not a monogamous relationship on his part.
You are in a financially abusive relationship. How did you get stuck with all the credit card debt? Why were you the only one that went into debt to survive during the pandemic if you both lost your jobs?
You need seperate finances STAT. Stop doing all housework and focus on paying down the debt and finding a new living situation.
Is FIFA really still a thing? Didn't we evolve past sports games? We have the technology for so much more…
Stop playing FIFA, leave her and play proper games, life is too short anyway….
He doesn’t get away with cheating because it was with a man.
You'd be better off not starting with shit
His vitriol towards you saying how he'll drive off the road and kill you both…then how he will kill himself, leave, etc. Is exactly what I went through in my abusive marriage. The number of times he raged while driving, and threatening to kill all of us in the car, then the I'll kill myself comments afterwards, then the packing of his bags and leaving them by the door for days while threatening to leave. All of this is abuse and in my marriage was the gateway to severe physical abuse. Please don't be like me and continue to give this man excuses and stay married. I stayed married for 22 years, he left. I wasted 21 years of my life on being abused and making excuses. I should have left within the first year of marriage. Of course I'm so thankful for the children I have because of the marriage but when I look back, I am saddened at the amount of times I almost died at his hands. I try not to go right to the “LEAVE” but in this case, you really really really need to cut your losses and leave. Please don't be like me!
Yes, you fucked up. And yes, you are overreacting.
Advice? You tell her, so she can decide, if she wants to be with someone, who doesn’t respect her privacy. Meanwhile you can decide, if you want to be with someone, who you obviously don’t trust.
Personal preferences my friend
Some guys don't mind that their girlfriend has been with someone in their friendgroup and others do
Figure out who you are and then stay or go based on that
No wasted time , no hurt feelings.
I was thinking this, what happens when she leaves him and not only can be not afford to pay all the bills because she pays most of them but has to do all the housework and cooking himself. However it's ok, because he loves his job, and that's the important thing in life.
Then focus on school. I don't think you guys are compatible anymore now that's she's bringing up the age difference and comparing you to older men. Best to leave and date someone within your age bracket.
Then focus on school. I don't think you guys are compatible anymore now that's she's bringing up the age difference and comparing you to older men. Best to leave and date someone within your age bracket.
You're too young for her. That's fine; whether you know it or not she's also too old for you. You can get younger and hotter. Both of you need to move on.
Right?! Was my initial thought process too.
The vast majority of the world is cis, so you can safely assume someone is that and be correct. I think they’re only the second trans person I’ve met where we live!
Never let a man hide you from his friends or his family. That's no way to on-line. Tell him you are not going to keep this a secret and if he can't tolerate that, you're through.
From what you have said, I think he may have (or hope to have) something going on with Aby.
Anyway, it's not implausible that the circle of friends all share info with each other and the relevant people already know.
You need to take an objective view of this situation. You had a bad year with your BF the same year you are friends with your AP. The new guy is the affair partner because you cheated.
You take zero responsibility in your post. You only show guilt. Tell your BF and let him decide if he wants to work on the relationship.
You guys rushed in to marriage, he had regrets, he mentions divorce but takes it back… but he was already distant for a couple of months.
You guys are probably better off with a trial separation.
So no shade but in some cultures people think it’s normal to get married within a year of dating. In my culture this would be considered way too soon. In my country people date for 3 years, perhaps move in within 4/5 years. After five years in our country you are considered fiscally married for tax purposes, so getting legally married is just a flamboyant and expensive reason to throw a lavish party. Over here people have kids before they even consider marriage. I know friends who’ve been together for 8/10 years, had a baby, and now the kindergartener is asking if their parents are considering marriage. They said “why the heck not”. It’s interesting to us why in other countries people consider marriage within 1-2 years of dating. Isn’t that still the honeymoon stage?
In the words of Aziz Ansari; “I see people my age…getting married to people they've known for like a year and a half. A year and a half? Is that enough time to get to know someone to know you want to spend the REST of your life with them? I've had sweaters for a year and a half and I was like 'What the fuck was I doing with this sweater?'”
Nah, he just knows he'd be a massive disappointment in the sack to anyone who's already had some decent experiences, the only way he could pretendto be good is by boinking someone who didn't know that the act could actually feel good.
No. Don't do that. There is no scenario here with you emailing his work where you end up looking good.
He's not into you. Move on.
Well this ruined my appetite for meatloaf night.
Well here's the compromise…
Remind people there's no need for a gift, but allow those that wish to gift you with something to do so.
Is that fair?
Here is what you do. Ready? you fuck off from his life! You have done enough damage to him, you disgusting, vile, foul, pathetic excuse for a human. Just leave him alone, block him, and let him move on with his life. Just keep to yourself and never try dating again, because people like you only ever bring misery to those around them.
My husband have each other’s phones password and can look anytime. We both choose not to.
Trust can be broken and mended with time, counselling(guidance), and determination to try.
People don’t leave because of the phone. I suspect there are many details left out of this.
And men are not the answer…. I had a string of terrible relationships because I didn’t take time for myself. I placed my worth on having any man at all.
Grey Rock them. It takes some practice, but the best reaction is either utter indifference or no reaction at all.
The stranger was just an overstepping asshole. And i guess you told your bf how hot you had it financial, i mean, you barely could pay the rent and work yourself to bone. He maybe just worried that you put this stuff and the backburner and purchase other stuff first. So he bought it. And without the shitty comment of this stranger, you wouldn't doubt the nice gesture so much?
Crushes are very normal, it’s what you do with them that matters. If you love your gf you shouldn’t spend more time with F28 and cut her off. If instead it’s a symptom that you’re not longer happy in your relationship, you should try to solve that first.