Your parents right at all but this is still a major red flag. Lack of funds or a degree doesn't relate to someone's character and ability to be a good partner but their honesty in terms of their situation does. It's strange to there to be so many discrepancies between what he says and reality. You might not have to cut him off or anything but definitely slow the relationship down and see how that goes.
In all fairness, there are probably a lot of ppl he would consider dating if you weren't in the picture. This one just happens to be someone he is friends with. I completely understand your feelings, I'm not a fan of opposite sex friendships myself. I'd suggest letting him know that you saw the messages and how it popped up. You weren't snooping or anything. But be prepared to tell him how you would like the situation to be resolved. Are you going to ask him to cut her off? Or just not hang out alone with her? Or something else? Make sure you know before bringing it up what you'd like so things don't get out of hand during your conversation with him. Good luck!
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Your parents right at all but this is still a major red flag. Lack of funds or a degree doesn't relate to someone's character and ability to be a good partner but their honesty in terms of their situation does. It's strange to there to be so many discrepancies between what he says and reality. You might not have to cut him off or anything but definitely slow the relationship down and see how that goes.
In all fairness, there are probably a lot of ppl he would consider dating if you weren't in the picture. This one just happens to be someone he is friends with. I completely understand your feelings, I'm not a fan of opposite sex friendships myself. I'd suggest letting him know that you saw the messages and how it popped up. You weren't snooping or anything. But be prepared to tell him how you would like the situation to be resolved. Are you going to ask him to cut her off? Or just not hang out alone with her? Or something else? Make sure you know before bringing it up what you'd like so things don't get out of hand during your conversation with him. Good luck!