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To change his behavior, I would take him up on his offer to plan things together.
The trick, I think, is positive reinforcement. To avoid playing Teacher, or otherwise talking down to him. To quickly show encouragement when he says or does something right, and when he ventures an idea that seems questionable to you, keep your disdain under tight control. And when he makes mistakes, as he surely will, let him learn by himself where we went wrong, while you hold your tongue.
I realize that after 6 years your patience has run low, and you may feel that this is an unreasonable burden. AFAIK there is no shortcut.
Tell them Mommy died. ? Morbid joke. Seriously, though, she's a piece of shit if she's willing to abandon her kids but she already proved that bh cheating in the first place. It's really not a loss to any of you.
Okay, so your entire thing is that you think this is a betrayal to the late wife. That you feel betrayed for her. Because he's processing his grief differently from how you want him to, because he's lonely and sad and wants companionship.
Go get therapy.
Oh, and btw, you can be drunk and still remember everything that happened. Just because you aren't blackout drunk doesn't mean you aren't drunk.
He has very clearly shown you who he is on 3 separate occasions. Do you really think you will be living in a foreign country cut off from friends and family and his behavior will not get worse? Give the man what he asked for and get an annulment. Do not uproot your life for someone who brushes away his words and actions with 'I didn't mean it' and blames you for it. Life is too short to let hindsight prove true when so many red flags are waving.
Yea but as it turns out you must say something to the person your seeing at least once a day or it is perceived as uninterested so at least a silly meme is all I have to find id like to say something but I’m just having “analysis paralysis” and the longer the day goes on the longer she’s dwelling on this shit Thinkin I’m mad so 2 days of her Thinkin I’m mad probably won’t be good. But yea I agree “we’re cool” she should be reaching out to me.
She just wants to be friends with you. So either be her friend, but an actual friend, not just hanging around, hoping she'll sleep with you, or cut your losses.
Don't “give her time.” She only wants to be your friend, so if you don't want to be her friend, cut your losses now. It's awful as a woman to learn that your good friend isn't a friend at all, they're just trying to sleep with you.
Yeah was about to say this, i read another post here before this asking how can they breakup now that someone close to their partner died. Breakup sucks but you can't force someone to stay.
Did you read my comment? I have adressed it both, apology is useless asvthese are only words. Words are cheap and can mean nothing. She should quit her job asap if she wants to stay with you. No compromises or half measures.
Take the hint you gave yourself : you were giddy and excited after you got done crying after breaking up. And now you feel sorry for him. Let him find someone else who shares his bullshit value that a woman’s body belongs to men. Enjoy your feelings of joy and excitement for life as a single person for a bit. You’re so young. You do you and discover yourself and fall in love with yourself before falling in love with someone else, and never ever let someone else dictate how you exist in the world
Can't cure an addiction simply by acknowledging you have one. And for many an addict “quitting” equates to doing the problem behavior less and/or differently and then convincing themselves they have it under control when they haven't. Which seems to be the case here too.
To change his behavior, I would take him up on his offer to plan things together.
The trick, I think, is positive reinforcement. To avoid playing Teacher, or otherwise talking down to him. To quickly show encouragement when he says or does something right, and when he ventures an idea that seems questionable to you, keep your disdain under tight control. And when he makes mistakes, as he surely will, let him learn by himself where we went wrong, while you hold your tongue.
I realize that after 6 years your patience has run low, and you may feel that this is an unreasonable burden. AFAIK there is no shortcut.
While you have also gained weight? How much do you calorie restrict yourself in a day? How many hours do you work out?
Oh gosh he just won’t stop. I need to sleep
Wow, you are a class act. Hope you have a wonderful holiday, unlike OP, I guess. ???
OP didn’t even say where they are, so you have literally no way of knowing what’s illegal there.
Secretive, dismissive, and mean… aka he’s cheating and deflecting.
Tell them Mommy died. ? Morbid joke. Seriously, though, she's a piece of shit if she's willing to abandon her kids but she already proved that bh cheating in the first place. It's really not a loss to any of you.
Downvoting instead of people giving a rebuttal shows they can't refute it without coming off as inconsistent or possibly sexist.
Okay, so your entire thing is that you think this is a betrayal to the late wife. That you feel betrayed for her. Because he's processing his grief differently from how you want him to, because he's lonely and sad and wants companionship.
Go get therapy.
Oh, and btw, you can be drunk and still remember everything that happened. Just because you aren't blackout drunk doesn't mean you aren't drunk.
He has very clearly shown you who he is on 3 separate occasions. Do you really think you will be living in a foreign country cut off from friends and family and his behavior will not get worse? Give the man what he asked for and get an annulment. Do not uproot your life for someone who brushes away his words and actions with 'I didn't mean it' and blames you for it. Life is too short to let hindsight prove true when so many red flags are waving.
NTA. Absolutely not. Break away before you are married so she doesn’t take you for everything,
Yea but as it turns out you must say something to the person your seeing at least once a day or it is perceived as uninterested so at least a silly meme is all I have to find id like to say something but I’m just having “analysis paralysis” and the longer the day goes on the longer she’s dwelling on this shit Thinkin I’m mad so 2 days of her Thinkin I’m mad probably won’t be good. But yea I agree “we’re cool” she should be reaching out to me.
She just wants to be friends with you. So either be her friend, but an actual friend, not just hanging around, hoping she'll sleep with you, or cut your losses.
Don't “give her time.” She only wants to be your friend, so if you don't want to be her friend, cut your losses now. It's awful as a woman to learn that your good friend isn't a friend at all, they're just trying to sleep with you.
Yeah was about to say this, i read another post here before this asking how can they breakup now that someone close to their partner died. Breakup sucks but you can't force someone to stay.
Did you read my comment? I have adressed it both, apology is useless asvthese are only words. Words are cheap and can mean nothing. She should quit her job asap if she wants to stay with you. No compromises or half measures.
Do you read many of the posts here? There are a lot of fucked up people with fragile egos out there.
I’ve never met his parents , siblings, or friends. I’ve never been to his house .
Honey, you're not his girlfriend
Text the fiancé – “if he’ll cheat with you, he’ll cheat on you.”
See if she still wants you there
No. This isn't the right way.
You're giving her mixed signals – you on-line with her, but you won't have sex with her.
Move out until she's willing to make a commitment.
Take the hint you gave yourself : you were giddy and excited after you got done crying after breaking up. And now you feel sorry for him. Let him find someone else who shares his bullshit value that a woman’s body belongs to men. Enjoy your feelings of joy and excitement for life as a single person for a bit. You’re so young. You do you and discover yourself and fall in love with yourself before falling in love with someone else, and never ever let someone else dictate how you exist in the world
What are you doing? You're in internet fantasyland; you don't have a girlfriend. Get away from your computer. Please focus on real life relationships.
Can't cure an addiction simply by acknowledging you have one. And for many an addict “quitting” equates to doing the problem behavior less and/or differently and then convincing themselves they have it under control when they haven't. Which seems to be the case here too.
Sounds like your friends don't know what a mature, healthy, stable relationship looks like. Don't listen to them. They sound like drama queens.