For each time. Say the odds were 16.6% for arguments sake. It would be like rolling a 6 sided die. There is a 16.6% chance you'll roll any given number. Say chlamydia is the number 6. Roll the die 40 times and see if the number 6 is never rolled. Odds are high that it will be rolled. Now what I read gives it a 30 to 50% chance of transmission each time. Doesn't take a math genius to figure out he should have caught it if she always had it.
Don’t know if he’s a narc, but he does sound like hes defensive and the defensive tactic he uses is emotional invalidation, like saying you’re overthinking when you point out a problem. Rather than say he disagrees or apologize, he instead counter attacks you by criticizing your feelings. Each time someone argues this way, they’re telling you they’re more concerned about winning or avoiding criticism then about resolving differences or caring about how you feel.
Additionally, it sounds like you were more focused on making it work, rather than if the relationship worked for you. As you describe so many problems in how you were treated, but you still stayed through a lot of those red flags. So hopefully you’re addressing that in therapy, whether it’s from people pleasing or attachment style. Lastly, if part of the problem you’re having is you still miss him, there’s an analogy that might help. If interested let me know and I’ll share it in my next comment.
Either he’s developing feelings or he’s worried you are. Give him space. He’ll come back around. Then in a few months he’ll back off again for the same reason. Rinse and repeat as long as you want to.
I hadn’t thought to call after sex very hot cuddle time ‘aftercare’ per-say but it is an important part of the whole process. I enjoy after sex hard cuddle time immensely, it isn’t weird to want that. Talk to your partner about what you need, there is nothing wrong or weird with asking for this. It is probably weirder to just put clothes back on and go back to tik tok. Sex is suppose to increase intimacy between partners, that is part of its beauty. Good luck OP!
You can not control them. You can only control you.
Your request is very reasonale but until this man realizes that he is behaving like a massive AH, nothing is going to change and that will only come, maybe, from couples counseling.
Well at least she is honest about it! I say, go for it.
For each time. Say the odds were 16.6% for arguments sake. It would be like rolling a 6 sided die. There is a 16.6% chance you'll roll any given number. Say chlamydia is the number 6. Roll the die 40 times and see if the number 6 is never rolled. Odds are high that it will be rolled. Now what I read gives it a 30 to 50% chance of transmission each time. Doesn't take a math genius to figure out he should have caught it if she always had it.
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Don’t know if he’s a narc, but he does sound like hes defensive and the defensive tactic he uses is emotional invalidation, like saying you’re overthinking when you point out a problem. Rather than say he disagrees or apologize, he instead counter attacks you by criticizing your feelings. Each time someone argues this way, they’re telling you they’re more concerned about winning or avoiding criticism then about resolving differences or caring about how you feel.
Additionally, it sounds like you were more focused on making it work, rather than if the relationship worked for you. As you describe so many problems in how you were treated, but you still stayed through a lot of those red flags. So hopefully you’re addressing that in therapy, whether it’s from people pleasing or attachment style. Lastly, if part of the problem you’re having is you still miss him, there’s an analogy that might help. If interested let me know and I’ll share it in my next comment.
Either he’s developing feelings or he’s worried you are. Give him space. He’ll come back around. Then in a few months he’ll back off again for the same reason. Rinse and repeat as long as you want to.
She literally said hes a 10/10 but then called OP a pedo. Makes no sense
I hadn’t thought to call after sex very hot cuddle time ‘aftercare’ per-say but it is an important part of the whole process. I enjoy after sex hard cuddle time immensely, it isn’t weird to want that. Talk to your partner about what you need, there is nothing wrong or weird with asking for this. It is probably weirder to just put clothes back on and go back to tik tok. Sex is suppose to increase intimacy between partners, that is part of its beauty. Good luck OP!
I've not talked about this after that. I've kinda stopped talking.
She doesn't care if you kill yourself. Come on, dude, get a better girlfriend. Just for a game, is she really 25?
You can not control them. You can only control you.
Your request is very reasonale but until this man realizes that he is behaving like a massive AH, nothing is going to change and that will only come, maybe, from couples counseling.