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I wouldn't want a wild party thrown in my home while I wasn't there either. Not even if I was there. I'm your boyfriend's age and own my own place too. Maybe he's concerned about his property, neighbours being disrupted etc when you've just moved in. Maybe he doesn't trust your friends to behave. Maybe he wants the first big party to be a house warming if you haven't done that yet? It's not about him controlling you, it's about mutual respect for the shared space. You're not entitled to do what ever you want in a home you share, these things should be negotiated. I don't know why you would start an argument over this if the situation was hypothetical and you weren't planning to do it anyway.
You put yourself out and tell him “hey I like you” and open yourself up for possible rejection and risk the friendship like everybody else does, not that complicated.
Yeah its scary but he's not a mind reader. You wont know how you feel unless you tell him. “Signaling” it and hoping he gets it simply will not do.
Yeah, I tried. I realize you guys cant exactly help here, but i dont want to be pushy by asking again. But most people (all 2 of you lol) seem to say to do that, so i asked again.
Is your girlfriend actually 16 ? – one finding it a problem you don’t have the exact same emotions as her is bad but extrapolating all these claims of whether you love her less from simply enjoying your WEEKLY 8hr break. If I was you’d Id need more and would be pushing for it so I really can’t see the problems arising from just this. Your hobby time is incredibly important for you, and your gfs “hurt” from it shows she probably should go see a therapist or just you two need to talk things out more.
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He's jealous over your admiration of an actor, 2. He is actually trying to say you're saying you're in love with the actor when that's not the case at all, 3. Human attraction to others is natural and normal, acting on it if in a monogamous relationship is not. 4. He's a damn liar for saying he doesn't think any celebrities are attractive because he ONLY has eyes for you. That's a way to try to control you.
This coupled with info you've given in comments all points to this guy being a controlling, insecure and potentially abusive dude. This will likely keep escalating. You should not be in this relationship.
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I wrote him a letter and took it to him with a Lego flower bouquet two weeks after I broke things off in October and he wasn’t wanting to get back together. I texted him a few days ago, asking him to give the dogs a squeeze from me and that I missed him, which is when he told me not to text him about my feelings for him and that I wasn’t good for him.
It's clearly going to take more than a day to recover from this. The man's whole world came crashing down. He probably won't be ok for quite some time. All you can do is be there for him.
Update: I found further evidence to solidify my claims that she’s been sleeping with and seeing someone from work; just waiting for a more convenient time to confront her about all my findings. Thanks for all the words and advice!
Yes. But he wants to have kids. There’s a very real possibility his current wife(39) had to have the abortion for medical or health reasons. Women at that age can struggle to conceive and bring to term healthy babies. It sucks but it’s just a fact of life. 35+ is a geriatric pregnancy.
I didn’t say he should date a 22 year old. Just that at 39, That possibility is real. If he wants to develop a mature relationship that is healthy enough to bring a child into it, that’ll probably take at least two years. So if he meets a 37 year old woman(I’ve been told using the term girl is offensive now up above) then by the time they start trying she’s already 39 again. Doesn’t mean it can’t happen. But your odds are diminished. So then, if having kids is like his #1 thing in the world (which is completely fair and reasonable. It’s how our population is at 8 billion or whatever now), he’d be better off dating some one his age or slightly younger. That’s a totally valid preference. Many women set their profiles to search for their age and above. Not below. My partner had hers at one year below her age and above. I snuck in at one year below somehow (she thought she set it at her age and above but a slip of the finger and fate was irrevocably changed. we were also late 20s when we met)
I don’t support shotgunning a relationship to have a child cuz of age. That’s most likely going to end in divorce, a broken home and a child lost in the mix potentially. Early to mid
You kinda got a Princess Bride vibe going here it seems from your ex-husband's actions. All this is missing is for him to be saying “as you wish” every time you “summon” him or he is around spending time with your son. So Buttercup, put on your big girl britches and talk to your ex-husband. He hasn't dated since you split up and is still comes running. I'd tell him to not take you back because you are unstable, unreliable, and allowed yourself to be manipulated by family and friends to RUIN your marriage, your family, and an innocent loving man. You robbed your son of his father being in his life full time. But I have a feeling that if you asked him to come home to be your husband and full time father to his son, he would say yes. Give him something tangible like an ugly one sided prenuptial agreement to show you mean business. Don't worry, as long as you don't cheat and don't let your family manipulate you into leaving him again, the ugly agreement is only a silly piece of paper if he never has to use it. You failed to communicate with your ex and it led to the divorce. It is up to you to build up the courage to talk with him. The sooner the better.
I am the only one who works, and I do most of the chores (inside and outside). I am exhausted…and when I get disrespect in general thrown at me, it just hurts even more since I really don't know what more I can do.
I've answered in other comments that right now the next step is therapy (couple's and solo).
Yeah I'm sure it's a nice experience for her but don't imply that I'm the reason for her self esteem issues. She has them generally and my relationship with sex gives her some reasons to overthink
There will always be people who are able to do things better than you (I’m assuming I’m not talking to Michael Jordan) and worse than you. Focus on whether you are maximizing your own potential.
Also reframe winning. It isn’t about being employed (which might get really hot in the next few months) but whether you maintain being a good person throughout. It’s easy to be kind and thoughtful when it’s all going well. Make your goal to be kind and thoughtful now.
And, as other people said, they key to enjoying your GF’s successes are to make them your own (not in a bad way). Someone who is succeeding in life chose to be with you. Awesome. You have a great job in the family. Be sunny with her.
People date differently but at the very least it seems that she is not building much of a daily life with you, even after two years. A lot of life shared with a partner is “hanging out,” doing the little things together, not doing anything at all sometimes just to enjoy being together, etc. It may be that you’re incompatible or in need of more communication on the subject, sounds like a compromise is needed.
My frenulum is made out of relocated foreskin(I had hypospadias), and I haven't suffered any issues with enjoyment. I can't speak for everybody, mind you.
It was a self fulfilling prophecy then huh, when your “feeling” was wrong you decided you’d make sure you were right by attacking her and demanding her “surrender” to you. Way to go big guy, you’re an abuser.
Hey OP, I am 40F, had one child and have a similar body, stretched stomach area. For the longest time I personally thought of getting a tummy tuck. However life happens and other things were more financially important. Few years ago, I started dating someone who couldn’t care less and said “if you want to sure if not that’s ok, I love you and think your beautiful the way you are but I’ll support you if you want to go ahead with it. “ mind you have never heard any of those words from a partner before. I even had one person tell me (right after sex) that I needed to “ fix my stomach” ?? needless to say I never spoke to them again.
It’s been 18 years since I gave birth. I lost a lot of weight and fitness has become a huge part of my life. I think I will be getting one but for my own reasons and no one else’s. This is something you should never be pressured into. If he’s not supportive about it, it’s not his business and no one else’s.
I would guess that she’s interested, but slow and steady wins the race. Maybe try to grab lunch with her one day or bring in a special treat to share. Friendship is the best possible foundation for a relationship
Everything will be okay eventually. I want you to know that. I know it hurts and your scared but things will get better, I think it’s best if you let go of her. There’s no point of staying because she doesn’t value you. Just take your time man and take it one day at a time
My ex caught his wife cheating on him 3 months after they got married. It started before they got married, she was sleeping with the guy my ex chose as his best man………he drove him to the church FFS
How many times has this happened? What were you crying about that he heard you from another room? I do have a hot time understanding this because I cry alone more than I’ve ever cried with others.
I wouldn't want a wild party thrown in my home while I wasn't there either. Not even if I was there. I'm your boyfriend's age and own my own place too. Maybe he's concerned about his property, neighbours being disrupted etc when you've just moved in. Maybe he doesn't trust your friends to behave. Maybe he wants the first big party to be a house warming if you haven't done that yet? It's not about him controlling you, it's about mutual respect for the shared space. You're not entitled to do what ever you want in a home you share, these things should be negotiated. I don't know why you would start an argument over this if the situation was hypothetical and you weren't planning to do it anyway.
Preganté!
That mindset is a red flag and not very grateful for the kindness your parents are showing. He's a taker and I wouldn't be with him
Not sure if you'll get this but see my edit
No she's crazy you're fine man. Just jokes
You put yourself out and tell him “hey I like you” and open yourself up for possible rejection and risk the friendship like everybody else does, not that complicated.
Yeah its scary but he's not a mind reader. You wont know how you feel unless you tell him. “Signaling” it and hoping he gets it simply will not do.
Yeah, I tried. I realize you guys cant exactly help here, but i dont want to be pushy by asking again. But most people (all 2 of you lol) seem to say to do that, so i asked again.
person with borderline personality disorder. sorry
Is your girlfriend actually 16 ? – one finding it a problem you don’t have the exact same emotions as her is bad but extrapolating all these claims of whether you love her less from simply enjoying your WEEKLY 8hr break. If I was you’d Id need more and would be pushing for it so I really can’t see the problems arising from just this. Your hobby time is incredibly important for you, and your gfs “hurt” from it shows she probably should go see a therapist or just you two need to talk things out more.
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Ok. Say you hate beards. But your bf grows a ZZ top James Hardin beard. All good?
OP seems like they are desperate to obtain attention from him.
At one instance he told me he’ll come at 3pm and arrived at 6.30pm because “he had to make a quick stop at the post office”.
Please tell me you are not this naive. You didn't question him on this and get the truth?
I'm hoping this post is fake and someone isn't this blind.
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He's jealous over your admiration of an actor, 2. He is actually trying to say you're saying you're in love with the actor when that's not the case at all, 3. Human attraction to others is natural and normal, acting on it if in a monogamous relationship is not. 4. He's a damn liar for saying he doesn't think any celebrities are attractive because he ONLY has eyes for you. That's a way to try to control you.
This coupled with info you've given in comments all points to this guy being a controlling, insecure and potentially abusive dude. This will likely keep escalating. You should not be in this relationship.
No I don’t have other things I can do. And that’s what you don’t understand. I don’t have the money or friend group to safely go out and do things.
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I wrote him a letter and took it to him with a Lego flower bouquet two weeks after I broke things off in October and he wasn’t wanting to get back together. I texted him a few days ago, asking him to give the dogs a squeeze from me and that I missed him, which is when he told me not to text him about my feelings for him and that I wasn’t good for him.
It's clearly going to take more than a day to recover from this. The man's whole world came crashing down. He probably won't be ok for quite some time. All you can do is be there for him.
Updateme!
Nothing to steal when she’s giving it away.
Update: I found further evidence to solidify my claims that she’s been sleeping with and seeing someone from work; just waiting for a more convenient time to confront her about all my findings. Thanks for all the words and advice!
Yes. But he wants to have kids. There’s a very real possibility his current wife(39) had to have the abortion for medical or health reasons. Women at that age can struggle to conceive and bring to term healthy babies. It sucks but it’s just a fact of life. 35+ is a geriatric pregnancy.
I didn’t say he should date a 22 year old. Just that at 39, That possibility is real. If he wants to develop a mature relationship that is healthy enough to bring a child into it, that’ll probably take at least two years. So if he meets a 37 year old woman(I’ve been told using the term girl is offensive now up above) then by the time they start trying she’s already 39 again. Doesn’t mean it can’t happen. But your odds are diminished. So then, if having kids is like his #1 thing in the world (which is completely fair and reasonable. It’s how our population is at 8 billion or whatever now), he’d be better off dating some one his age or slightly younger. That’s a totally valid preference. Many women set their profiles to search for their age and above. Not below. My partner had hers at one year below her age and above. I snuck in at one year below somehow (she thought she set it at her age and above but a slip of the finger and fate was irrevocably changed. we were also late 20s when we met)
I don’t support shotgunning a relationship to have a child cuz of age. That’s most likely going to end in divorce, a broken home and a child lost in the mix potentially. Early to mid
You kinda got a Princess Bride vibe going here it seems from your ex-husband's actions. All this is missing is for him to be saying “as you wish” every time you “summon” him or he is around spending time with your son. So Buttercup, put on your big girl britches and talk to your ex-husband. He hasn't dated since you split up and is still comes running. I'd tell him to not take you back because you are unstable, unreliable, and allowed yourself to be manipulated by family and friends to RUIN your marriage, your family, and an innocent loving man. You robbed your son of his father being in his life full time. But I have a feeling that if you asked him to come home to be your husband and full time father to his son, he would say yes. Give him something tangible like an ugly one sided prenuptial agreement to show you mean business. Don't worry, as long as you don't cheat and don't let your family manipulate you into leaving him again, the ugly agreement is only a silly piece of paper if he never has to use it. You failed to communicate with your ex and it led to the divorce. It is up to you to build up the courage to talk with him. The sooner the better.
I am the only one who works, and I do most of the chores (inside and outside). I am exhausted…and when I get disrespect in general thrown at me, it just hurts even more since I really don't know what more I can do.
I've answered in other comments that right now the next step is therapy (couple's and solo).
I’m sure a camera is a better way, but I can see my butt in a mirror. Not that I’m looking that often.
You ask him out on a date. Unfortunately, you have to be direct. Good luck.
Yeah I'm sure it's a nice experience for her but don't imply that I'm the reason for her self esteem issues. She has them generally and my relationship with sex gives her some reasons to overthink
I have secondhand embarrassment just reading it.
Glad I wasn't the only one thinking that.
Married women, friends of yours, and coworkers are propositioning him for sex? Wtf. That's gross.
There will always be people who are able to do things better than you (I’m assuming I’m not talking to Michael Jordan) and worse than you. Focus on whether you are maximizing your own potential.
Also reframe winning. It isn’t about being employed (which might get really hot in the next few months) but whether you maintain being a good person throughout. It’s easy to be kind and thoughtful when it’s all going well. Make your goal to be kind and thoughtful now.
And, as other people said, they key to enjoying your GF’s successes are to make them your own (not in a bad way). Someone who is succeeding in life chose to be with you. Awesome. You have a great job in the family. Be sunny with her.
People date differently but at the very least it seems that she is not building much of a daily life with you, even after two years. A lot of life shared with a partner is “hanging out,” doing the little things together, not doing anything at all sometimes just to enjoy being together, etc. It may be that you’re incompatible or in need of more communication on the subject, sounds like a compromise is needed.
This story is made up. Stop doing this
This story is made up. Stop doing this
I think there’s different levels to it, idk
One slap isn’t that bad, but beating your child is obviously deplorable.
My frenulum is made out of relocated foreskin(I had hypospadias), and I haven't suffered any issues with enjoyment. I can't speak for everybody, mind you.
Hopefully he stays gone. He went full on psycho with those texts after she returned his “gifts”.
Lmao OK you're obviously trolling, i should have noticed earlier. My bad
It was a self fulfilling prophecy then huh, when your “feeling” was wrong you decided you’d make sure you were right by attacking her and demanding her “surrender” to you. Way to go big guy, you’re an abuser.
Hey OP, I am 40F, had one child and have a similar body, stretched stomach area. For the longest time I personally thought of getting a tummy tuck. However life happens and other things were more financially important. Few years ago, I started dating someone who couldn’t care less and said “if you want to sure if not that’s ok, I love you and think your beautiful the way you are but I’ll support you if you want to go ahead with it. “ mind you have never heard any of those words from a partner before. I even had one person tell me (right after sex) that I needed to “ fix my stomach” ?? needless to say I never spoke to them again.
It’s been 18 years since I gave birth. I lost a lot of weight and fitness has become a huge part of my life. I think I will be getting one but for my own reasons and no one else’s. This is something you should never be pressured into. If he’s not supportive about it, it’s not his business and no one else’s.
They will figure it out. Because at some point they will see him cheat on his next partner.
Be as honest as you can with them as it's age appropriate.
Throw away account, comment history that is pretty consistent with how a male talks, unreasonable story, no actual request for advice.
This post is fake brah.
You don't need strangers to say what you already know bro, ?? sorry bro time to move along ?
You don't need strangers to say what you already know bro, ?? sorry bro time to move along ?
I would guess that she’s interested, but slow and steady wins the race. Maybe try to grab lunch with her one day or bring in a special treat to share. Friendship is the best possible foundation for a relationship
and one that isn't long distance
Everything will be okay eventually. I want you to know that. I know it hurts and your scared but things will get better, I think it’s best if you let go of her. There’s no point of staying because she doesn’t value you. Just take your time man and take it one day at a time
My ex caught his wife cheating on him 3 months after they got married. It started before they got married, she was sleeping with the guy my ex chose as his best man………he drove him to the church FFS
Their marriage didn't survive
How many times has this happened? What were you crying about that he heard you from another room? I do have a hot time understanding this because I cry alone more than I’ve ever cried with others.
Why do you need encouragement? Woman up and kick his sorry ass out the door!