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How long have you guys been together?? If you were still f*cking your ex a few months ago, you must not know her all too long right? If I were the girlfriend and I saw something like that in a fairly new relationship, I probably wouldn't have the patience to work through that. Not worth it. That would just cause so much heartbreak and sadness.
It's tough because I don't think either one of you did anything wrong
God, really? Do they have a term for everything now?
Fuck that. Get him those stickers (usually for children) for the loo that he can aim for.
I’m 40 years old and I couldn’t picture, or even fathom having a baby at 40. That’s a massive commitment and change in lifestyle that I really don’t blame him for not wanting to be responsible for. I also see your point. My son (12) means the world to me. There are times that I just look at him and it’s enough to get me to shed a tear or two. Seeing him come into the world was huge and I couldn’t picture my life without him. It’s a feeling that isn’t describable.
Anyone can throw out advice on this, but what it comes down to is your own personal happiness. If kids are a deal breaker, you run the risk of divorce and then meeting a new partner who isn’t worth shit…but you have kids. If you love this man and he loves you, you have to take what comes with that love. Not wanting kids to me isn’t selfish, because being a parent is such an awesome and massive responsibility that you have to have your entire heart invested in it, as a team. You don’t want him resenting you for the change in your lives, because it will absolutely impact the way you parent as a team.
So what’s it worth to you?
Good luck with this dolt. Just say you can’t. No.
If he can’t or won’t accept- that is what makes him a dolt.
He may be a dolt in general when it comes to your view.
Glad to see someone with the same thoughts as me. Like…Even if she didn't flat out say stop, she flat out said she wasn't comfortable. Like the moment she said that, it should be completely stopped, and flat out asked “Do you want to continue or stop?” If he did not do that, and he just continued thinking it was just worry of people hearing…It very much was without her consent.
I'm so disturbed so many people are saying the things they are…Like…Treating it like she is crazy? Treating it like “consent is hard to get” as I've flat out seen someone write in this thread. Consent isn't that very hot to get. Before ANY sexual encounter, you need to ask flat out “Is this okay, should I continue?” Before just assuming that it's okay. It's that easy to do. They say no? You back off. They say they aren't sure? You back off. People are acting like it's so naked to do that basic caring…
She is prob going through a lot having had her dad pass…
Pull a drake and put sum hard sauce in the condom
Pull a drake and put sum hard sauce in the condom
*breaks out in various religious christmas carols*
If he’s into exhibitionist shit then why didn’t you go to Hedonism? You can wear as much or as little as you want and fuck wherever from what I’ve been told. Like he should’ve given you more input into what he wanted to do.
Regardless, you didn’t consent and he’s being manipulative. That’s not ok at all. I’m guessing this isn’t the first time he’s acted like this. You deserve better. Don’t fall for the sunk cost fallacy. Cut your losses and move on.
In a previous post it said it was confirmed 3 years after the accident
Dont stay with him. Both you and him have changed a lot in the last decade. Plus mentally he's not ready yet. He needs to get divorced and be in a better state of mental health unless that happens you shouldn't have a future with him.
Imma side with this one. I had to do a triple take on this post, just to make sure I read it right.
Like, what are you apologizing for OP? Loving your husband to the point of death? I do agree with the above as you may need to seek some therapy as that was your first means of coping with the situation. But above all, your sister can take a hike, not only for this so called “prank” which was really just a malicious attack on you but especially for saying “yes” to still having the gun.
I like this answer the best, OP you should go with this!
You don't have to say anything special. There is no magic set of words.
“I am no longer comfortable doing this, so I will not be doing it any longer” is perfectly fine.
It is not your job to manage other people's feelings.
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I think you just have to let this go. If he feels like he’s being “kept tabs on” he’s not going to go along with your desire to have him text. And honestly I get it. If my partner expected this of me I’d never enjoy a night out because I’d be thinking about how they were home sitting up and that would make me either leave the night out earlier, which would breed resentment, or text “home now!” at 10p just to get them off my back so I could go enjoy my life, which is dishonest.
It’s really not reasonable for you to wait up for a text from him on a night out. Especially if at 11p you start panicking because you haven’t heard. If he wants to get drunk with his friends until 4a, that’s his prerogative.
I disagree with others here saying he doesn’t think about you or care about you. Plenty of people love, cherish and care about their partners and still don’t want to have to “check in” every time they go out with friends. YOU are the one with the issue due to past trauma, that’s something you should explore with a therapist and not project onto him. Adults across the world go out with friends all the time and very few end up having something bad happen to them. If you are panicked about something bad happening to your boyfriend all the time that’s really unhealthy and probably creating undue stress for him as he clearly doesn’t have the same worry.
All you can really do is express how his actions make you feel and what you’d like him to do to help you. Then he can say what he’s willing to do or not do. Maybe that keeps the status quo, maybe it ends in compromise where he texts you “having fun, will head home late but I’ll be fine, go to bed, love you!” at 10p on nights out, or maybe you decide that’s a deal breaker and dump him (that’s your prerogative!). But if you continue to press the issue and create conflict over it I don’t think it’ll get you what you want, I think it’ll just push him away.
He told you you don’t satisfy him on top so you got off. You told him he doesn’t satisfy you without foreplay and he got offended and told you you’d insulted his masculinity. He insists on blowjobs when he’s nasty and sweaty but doesn’t care if you cum. He’s 30 years old.
Girl. What are you doing.
it really boils down to if you can get over it. If you are completely unattracted to him it doesn't really matter if it's a “valid” reason or not. No sense staying in a relationship with someone who has flicked your off switch. It will just end up making you and him really bitter/resentful.
Its times like this that you find out who your friends are. Unfortunately for you, you have found out that you are not the SO of your partner. Better to find out now than when your married.
Why is it always put on the woman?
Sounds like a charming fellow, great catch and just the sort of guy you can't wait to take home to meet your parents!
Yeah, all the guys agree because they’re selfish, immature man-babies who are all shite in bed.
And it might be true. I would consider dumping somebody over this because it would lead to a lot of concerning questions.
What if we lived together? Would she just be cold to me for two weeks when she was experiencing emotional troubles? Would she go stay with her parents or something?
Can I trust that she'll be there for me even when she's experiencing emotional pain? Could I rely on her to be present, both emotionally and physically?
Is withdrawing her go-to method for handling tough emotions?
I'd need to be convinced that this “I need to not even see you for two weeks because sad” bullshit was a one-time deal that would not be repeated.
And it might be true. I would consider dumping somebody over this because it would lead to a lot of concerning questions.
What if we lived together? Would she just be cold to me for two weeks when she was experiencing emotional troubles? Would she go stay with her parents or something?
Can I trust that she'll be there for me even when she's experiencing emotional pain? Could I rely on her to be present, both emotionally and physically?
Is withdrawing her go-to method for handling tough emotions?
I'd need to be convinced that this “I need to not even see you for two weeks because sad” bullshit was a one-time deal that would not be repeated.
If this is the full story, I'm at a loss for why he is angry. Partner being on the phone the entire time was the only problem I vibed on… So confusion sounds exactly where you ought to be.
All you can do is ask why he is upset, and if he doesn't answer… Shrug, you can't fix anything.
If this is the full story, I'm at a loss for why he is angry. Partner being on the phone the entire time was the only problem I vibed on… So confusion sounds exactly where you ought to be.
All you can do is ask why he is upset, and if he doesn't answer… Shrug, you can't fix anything.
Hey. You’re not asking too much. It does seem as if he’s not willing to put in the effort. It sounds as if this relationship is coming to an end. You aren’t happy and he’s not making any effort. You shouldn’t have to continually ask for affection. I’m really sorry things are this way. It may be time for a very serious talk.
Never give him another chance to hurt you. Take photos and consider going to the police or a domestic violence support if you have one.
He punished you for being upset at something he said. This is abuse and getting away will be the best thing you ever did. He isn't the person you thought he was, he may never have been but he pretended in the beginning that he was your ideal partner. Which is very common btw. Now he is showing you the real him and he won't stop if he thinks you will not report him or leave.
What kinds of men's right bullshit is this. Your boyfriend HAD a choice. When he decided not to use a condom. ?
Sounds exhausting. I'm to old for that shit… move on
I feel strongly that partners should divulge their kinks to each other eventually. And the time to do that should be before something difficult to undo, like moving in together. The fact that it is gnawing at you is reason enough to tell him. You're in a good situation if you don't need or want your partner to help satisfy your kink.
I hope some of these stories are fake because they get worse and worse.
I was wondering why more people didn’t comment on this
I love him so I still want to be with him but I definitely think he should start therapy.
When you say it was a joint decision, what does that mean? Was he super excited to have a child and be a dad and brought it up enthusiastically with two thumbs way up?
I would tell him to stop gaslighting you and ask if he's having an affair.
This isn’t 99% perfect. Not agreeing on children is a pretty big thing. You’re gonna resent her if you stay childfree because you want kids. She’s going to resent you if you push her to have children she never wanted.
Sadly, the best for both of you is to end it here.
Sorry to be flippant but he was definitely thinking as a woman at that time. Men are not mind readers and we cannot discern the hidden meaning behind questions.
He should have been up front, from the start of the relationship.
What the heck? I thought rough sex was just hard fast sex, as in thrusting very hot? No? I guess I've been doing it wrong all this time.
There are loads of “old” people that use TikTok
Sounds like he’s still with his ex if he’s living with her. Don’t tell him anything. Quit the flirting until he lives on his own.
Get your ducks in a row, see a lawyer and go nuclear on them both. Take him to the cleaners. If your state allows alienation of affection, sue her. No mercy.
Updateme!
You're welcome. I think the fact that you were friends for two years can help you decide if you want to give this a try or just let it go.
If she realizes it was a mistake, & regrets it, that would be one thing. But the fact that she sees nothing wrong with it shows that the two of you are not morally aligned, & that's a serious problem for a relationship.
That's a big leap he's making from being upset that you looked at his public social media to asking if you used analytic tools or a tracker. And it's not exactly an invasion of his privacy if his Instagram is public.
His reaction is a red flag in my opinion. So is the fact that he has told you he loves you after 2 months and is pushing for a closer relationship.
If you want to communicate your concerns to him, I would suggest telling him that you've been burned before by guys pretending to be something or someone they aren't. You can also say it makes you uncomfortable to be with someone who leaves “thirsty” comments on other women's posts when he's pursuing a serious relationship with you, and that's a firm boundary for you.
If he's not willing to stop commenting on these kinds of posts, he's not going to change for you. You will have to decide if he's worth putting up with that behavior.
Okay… if this is what your peak relationship looks like, all you become, this is the next 5 years… are you going to be happy?
No.
You're going to be miserable.
Eventually breaking up because you'd rather be single, then neglected.
Then cursing yourself for wasting years on your life on a meaningless relationship.
So, you have two options really.
End it now. Get it over and done with. That way you're not wasting anymore of your time approaching 30s. Be serious with him and tell him… Hey, I am not happy with this. We need to fix this or you will lose me. I want more out of my relationship so you need to step up and start participating. I want to feel like you want to be with me.
Don't accept this as is… you will resent him and yourself down the road for wasting time on each other.
Relationships can be so much more, literally the best thing in your life type more.
Stop settling for this nonsense. Challenge it, correct it, or check out.
This might be a case where its better to take the L and move on. My froend was in a similar situation with a cop and things got much worse before they got….. well… not shit.
That's where my mind went, too. You don't have to be doing anything wrong for a cop to ruin your life. And we already know the ex bf has l, shall we say, shaky morals. If you can notify the wife anonymously, perhaps.
This man raped you. On top of all the other disrespectful things he’s said about you. Please leave him.
Also, you’re not loose. He’s lying and degrading you in an attempt to get what he wants out of you.
I wish I could give you better advice but I haven’t been in your position.
The fact that you got back with her without feeling 100% about it, and that you feel like you “should” be with her, is telling. I kind of wonder if you at the end of the day feel like you don’t want to be together anymore and want permission to leave? And that you’re also afraid of being alone?
If she was your partner since the age of 18 maybe you need to experience the dating world for a while and learn more about who you are / what you want.
If it’s meant to be maybe you guys will find your way back to each other — but not till you’re older.
Your other option is to accept that this is how you’re feeling and not try to force something.
Maybe you need some time to figure out how you feel. It’s ok to give yourself that time. You’re only human.
I say this kindly: if he hasn’t understood by now, what makes this time different? Nothing has changed. You have expressed your disgust yet again and….
Do you wait until the next time he disrespects you AGAIN! Or the time after that? Or after that? He’s showing you who he is and it’s not nice. Hopefully he can change but you probably shouldn’t hold your breath.
You don’t. This was a violent assault.
Get some therapy and maybe reevaluate being in a relationship until you’ve healed. You have some issues that you need to work through on your own and not put onto those around you.
1) Block her number, block her on social media, block her on everything. 2) Do not text her or call. 3) Buy a notebook and start journaling. If you feel that urge to say something to her, write it down in the notebook. Keep it analog and keep it at home. This is a pressure release for you. You will be amazed how over time it will make you feel better. 4) Take all her pictures and anything she gave you and hide them. Put them in a box and put it somewhere you can’t get to easily. Frequent reminders burden the soul. 5) Exercise, walk, move – your body makes natural endorphins in movement and that will help you keep a clear head. Even if it is a five minute walk, just get out. 6) Be prepared for the journey. Your emotions should be respected and acknowledged. Listen to sad breakup songs and belt it out. Have a good cry. Write terrible poetry. Mourn the end but don’t obsess. If you find yourself obsessing do something to distract yourself like playing a game. You want to break your mind of the habit of thinking about her.
She broke up with you. You can judge if her complaints are valid or if she was being a jerk later, but she doesn’t get to have her cake and eat it too. Don’t wait for her. Learn from this, grow, and move on. There’s nothing you can do to fix things. She doesn’t want it and for you to heal you gotta cut her out.
It hurts now. I get it. But it will get better if you allow yourself to let go and move on.
You are a doormat.
Idk, but personally I’d just write him a letter. Nothing malicious or devious, just that “I am aware you knowingly slept with my wife while we were still married. I don’t appreciate it, just like you didn’t when YOUR spouse did it to YOU. I hope you use this as an opportunity to be better for any future/current partners. Best wishes, and fuck you.”
You will ALWAYS be the third wheel in a BFF relationship OP. This is the rest of your life. Either accept it or leave. Having a heart-to-heart will achieve nothing. She will always choose Jenna.
But what if they outright refused any Mexican food ever? Because that’s what this dude is doing and that could be found more offensive then just writing off one thing
You can love someone and still recognize that they are a terrible partner.
She doesn't love you if she's cheating on you.
She doesn't love if you she's intentionally hurting you.
She doesn't love you if she's lying to you.
She doesn't love you if she's manipulating you.
You may love her, but she does not love you back.
the only way we were going to leave was through death. And that to me is marriage.
Or murder..?
I feel like it should be enough to just agree that you'll talk to her about things like this in private next time?
A drunken one night stand I could forgive. Or if you have a long relationship that you can draw strength from but you are 19 its not worth your time.
Lied and gaslighted you. Did not take responsibility for his actions. Do not trust this mans words only trust his actions.
But you are a young girl and will probably take him back anyway. So go slow and tolerate no bullshit or disrespect. He should give you his phone instantly if you ask for it. He should be bending over backwards to rebuild trust, sharing locations ect with NO ARGUING.
Thanks for your response. I don’t have much to comment here but I do agree with you. I get hesitant to voice my opinions fully as she has a tendency to blow up and get irritated very easily and I’ve never been in a relationship like that before (I’m not the kind of guy to fight fire with fire I’m pretty calm and laid back). I need to work on voicing things that might upset me even if it does mean that it would likely result in an argument
This is her CAREER and you’ve been dating her for 4 months. Presumably what she does for work is not a shock and frankly I cannot fathom why you think you have any sort of say in this??!!
Relationships are always about compromise.
For you, all you can see is how fat you think you are.
For him, they're memories he'd like to hang in to.
Yes, he should respect what you want, but respect goes both ways. He enjoys the time he spends with you. That's why he's taking pictures.
So now the question is how are you going to balance these two opposing views? You don't have to keep EVERY picture he takes, you've got to let him keep some pictures here and there. I guarantee he's not concerned with your weight, only the memories.
Better be! I linked the Pinterest in the comments because apparently you can’t dm links
Don’t let her push you into something you don’t want. Sometimes it is better to walk away.
Stand up for yourself and buy your own switch, they're not that expensive. Don't let him do this to you, it's so disrespectful.
he sounds awful, break up! he wants to see other women but ur not allowed to even speak to a guy? he’s actually pathetic. so hypocritical
Yeah, I married into a Latino family as well and this is just…yikes.
I’m so sorry your are in this situation.
You have to remember, you can only help those who help themselves.. who WANT to change and help themselves.
Your mother has shown time and again that Her words and actions do not match. Her actions show that this path is what she wants. I’m afraid you have to accept that, and let go of her. You got your brother out. You did a wonderful thing by helping him. Your mother made her choice. Now, it’s time to focus on the people who chose you- your brother, wife and child.
It’s an incredibly painful thing but you made the right decision.
“my bf says he doesn’t want to touch me, is disgusted by me. He says he’s not going to forget about it”
Girl. Your boyfriend is an asshole. Dump him.
How is this a question? File a police report! He took advantage of a child!
I would say get a new one
Jesus. Cold hearted
That’s your problem. You shouldn’t be with him if you think he will leave you at the drop of a hat
As a man, I'm telling you that is crossing the line. I am sure he would not be cool whatsoever if the situation was reversed and you were visiting an old fling of yours.
I would dump him. That's disrespectful imo
What IS the point in you reaching out if you haven’t even changed your mind about living in the moment? If you’re not gonna throw caution to the wind and give it a go, leave my mans alone and maybe unfollow or at least mute him on socials until you can control yourself.
But definitely don’t reach out if you’re not serious about trying. That WOULD be unfair to him.
((HUGS)) Lawyer and STD test!
Because there is an opportunity already so i grabbed it
You're right. He has learned behaviour. When a child grows up hearing that it usually continues in a generational pattern until someone breaks it. It sounds like he wants to but has triggers. It is not okay for him to treat you like that though and if you don't follow through with leaving his verbal abuse will carry on to your child.
You have to realise in yourself you are worth far more than been called names and been a pawn in the war going on within him. It doesn't mean he's a bad person, but he's not your person.
You've helped him plant the seeds of his breaking his past trauma, now it's time to move on and let someone else water them.
We dated for about a year prior to him moving here. He gets more than enough in loans (since living here he’s managed to buy at least 10 pairs of dunks, weekly not even exaggerating clothing purchases, records monthly, 100s on random soaps and colognes, a new gaming system, and a new car). I also helped him get a job with my doctor but he only did that for a few weeks.
I didn't miss the detail about their Open relationship conditions – it's just not relevant for having lower sexual boundaries. For that being in an open relationship is the only relevant thing.
And that they fucked is only your assumption. There are actually people out there who decline such offers / requests – especially when it's a set boundary in your open relationship.