Yeah something is definitely going on with him. Based on your other posts he has a past of cheating so that could definitely be it. No matter what is going on he should not be like that. It was clearly an accident. So unless you are not telling the entire story then he is definitely in the wrong.
Reg the parents, we used to have a lot of arguments about she telling her parents our private stuff, which initially she didn’t agree with. She used force me to spend some time with her parents, which was never great. Although lately she has stopped doing that. I have a strong feeling that they don’t like me and I don’t feel great with them.
We have sat down so many times, after almost every argument, we come to the common ground but we find a new issue to argue with.
But my boyfriend has his own mind and feelings and if it's not weird for him than why should I stop him?
Because theoretically he loves you and is considerate of your right to be comfortable while in your relationship. You do not have to match in every aspect of being. You're allowed to not feel great about something that wouldnt personally bother him. With how distant they supposedly are would this even be some huge sacrifice?
That's just my opinion. I have been very clear with my boyfriend about where my boundaries lie and he's been happy to accommodate me because he loves me and I don't usually have any excessive or unreasonable demands. I would not tolerate being in a relationship that made me feel as insecure as you are in yours.
The fact that you are afraid your boyfriend will develop feelings for her is a pretty significant problem you seem very intent to sweep under the rug in the name of being “fair” to him. That's kind of concerning to me considering these feelings stem from your own personal experience with him crushing on you while with other women.
I think your feelings matter and I think you should think this too.
No, it absolutely would not be a mistake. Masks are starting to come off, he’s starting to show his true face, and now you might be getting a hint of why he’s divorced.
Also, this butthurt about Christmas is ridiculous. I’ve been divorced for almost 8 years and mostly my kids have been with my ex on dec 25. So then we do “Christmas” on new year and I have never felt like I was missing out on anything.
In his situation, he should WANT them to be with their mom so they can see cousins, etc. that’s why my ex always gave me thanksgiving, because we had a big one with extended family and on his side it was always just him, and as a dad he wanted them to have that time.
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Except he hasn't actually apologized. He's said sorry, but just sorry, once in a condescending tone as if I was bothering him, and shrugged his shoulders. He will only come up with a grand apology when he wants to come back. I seriously think he's on something other than weed, but he's denied it and I have no exact proof.
He's paid back nothing. I've got as much back as I could by canceling and contacting, but it's not even half.
Do they seriously have courses like that because I think I need them.
I do, I'm more adventurous than he is (or I thought so), I'm very sex positive and on average we have sex at least once a day. All the things he asked those girls (deep throat mostly) I did without him even having to ask. I initiate more often than he does but that's a good question.
Adding the coworker isn’t what you need to be worried about — it’s the way your partner talks about women with his friends. Guys who partake in “locker room talk” are usually not the type to respect women as people.
My partner and his male friends talk about video games and espresso machines when they’re alone. If I overheard him saying shit like that I would not want him to be my partner any more.
There isn’t much you can do at this point. Her mind is made up & her morals are in the dumpster some where. love at a distance, express how it’s her choice & life but you’re disappointed. She’ll push & even threaten with going NC.
Birth control has a lot of side effects. Some of my friends don’t even have a choice of being on it because of how it affects their body. Hair loss, weight gain, depression, just to name afew.
You are right she probably thinks she's gonna lose him and honestly wouldn't be much of a loss if a man ur supposedly inlove with can't accept your body.. u knw the same one u had when u met them ?
He's not even that much younger tho a whole 40 something year old man thinking hes entitled enough to say this and OP special enough to actually make a consultation with a surgeon for it.
If he was some boytoy.. id get the insecurity maybe still wouldnt be okay obviously bt like this is just dumb.
Yes now i know we are in the same boat it was kind of selfish of me to only think about myself,always thought her smiling was her being happy in this relationship but i am definetly going to work on this and treat this relationship as a group effort.
I know i sound greedy when i talk about inheritence money but you have to realise i was there when we had next to nothing i worked alongside my brother and father to rebuild these companies even to the point that it jeopardized my education for couple of years,i should have been through 4 years of my 5 year degree but here i am still at 1st year of my degree.so it was kind of personal for me to get these companies or atleast be a part of it.
That is true generally men struggle to be faithful
It can also be said of women
When couple are married It's so strange one or other can be unfaithful
It's they take marriage not seriously and treat it like a joke
Why get married if you cannot make committment
Some say human are very hot wired to be unfaithful
Yeah something is definitely going on with him. Based on your other posts he has a past of cheating so that could definitely be it. No matter what is going on he should not be like that. It was clearly an accident. So unless you are not telling the entire story then he is definitely in the wrong.
That would 100000% be a no from me
Exactly ! Lol .. the issue is now no one obsessed over him ??
Reg the parents, we used to have a lot of arguments about she telling her parents our private stuff, which initially she didn’t agree with. She used force me to spend some time with her parents, which was never great. Although lately she has stopped doing that. I have a strong feeling that they don’t like me and I don’t feel great with them.
We have sat down so many times, after almost every argument, we come to the common ground but we find a new issue to argue with.
But my boyfriend has his own mind and feelings and if it's not weird for him than why should I stop him?
Because theoretically he loves you and is considerate of your right to be comfortable while in your relationship. You do not have to match in every aspect of being. You're allowed to not feel great about something that wouldnt personally bother him. With how distant they supposedly are would this even be some huge sacrifice?
That's just my opinion. I have been very clear with my boyfriend about where my boundaries lie and he's been happy to accommodate me because he loves me and I don't usually have any excessive or unreasonable demands. I would not tolerate being in a relationship that made me feel as insecure as you are in yours.
The fact that you are afraid your boyfriend will develop feelings for her is a pretty significant problem you seem very intent to sweep under the rug in the name of being “fair” to him. That's kind of concerning to me considering these feelings stem from your own personal experience with him crushing on you while with other women.
I think your feelings matter and I think you should think this too.
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“You are, at the very least, having an emotional affair. Either you take steps now to remedy that, or steps to divorce. Which one?”
No, it absolutely would not be a mistake. Masks are starting to come off, he’s starting to show his true face, and now you might be getting a hint of why he’s divorced.
Also, this butthurt about Christmas is ridiculous. I’ve been divorced for almost 8 years and mostly my kids have been with my ex on dec 25. So then we do “Christmas” on new year and I have never felt like I was missing out on anything.
In his situation, he should WANT them to be with their mom so they can see cousins, etc. that’s why my ex always gave me thanksgiving, because we had a big one with extended family and on his side it was always just him, and as a dad he wanted them to have that time.
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I am able to without a problem, i sometimes use porn but i'm perfectly fine without it too
Yeah i would will do thanks
Funny enough, those with the 5-10 extra pounds often are the ones that live longer.
Except he hasn't actually apologized. He's said sorry, but just sorry, once in a condescending tone as if I was bothering him, and shrugged his shoulders. He will only come up with a grand apology when he wants to come back. I seriously think he's on something other than weed, but he's denied it and I have no exact proof.
He's paid back nothing. I've got as much back as I could by canceling and contacting, but it's not even half.
Do they seriously have courses like that because I think I need them.
I do, I'm more adventurous than he is (or I thought so), I'm very sex positive and on average we have sex at least once a day. All the things he asked those girls (deep throat mostly) I did without him even having to ask. I initiate more often than he does but that's a good question.
Okay, I see your point. Thank you.
Adding the coworker isn’t what you need to be worried about — it’s the way your partner talks about women with his friends. Guys who partake in “locker room talk” are usually not the type to respect women as people.
My partner and his male friends talk about video games and espresso machines when they’re alone. If I overheard him saying shit like that I would not want him to be my partner any more.
There isn’t much you can do at this point. Her mind is made up & her morals are in the dumpster some where. love at a distance, express how it’s her choice & life but you’re disappointed. She’ll push & even threaten with going NC.
Tell him to tell gf ( not side piece ) or you will. Follow thru. She deserves better than this.
Question: Has he had it checked since? You're supposed to get it checked at the 5 year mark.
Birth control has a lot of side effects. Some of my friends don’t even have a choice of being on it because of how it affects their body. Hair loss, weight gain, depression, just to name afew.
You are right she probably thinks she's gonna lose him and honestly wouldn't be much of a loss if a man ur supposedly inlove with can't accept your body.. u knw the same one u had when u met them ?
He's not even that much younger tho a whole 40 something year old man thinking hes entitled enough to say this and OP special enough to actually make a consultation with a surgeon for it.
If he was some boytoy.. id get the insecurity maybe still wouldnt be okay obviously bt like this is just dumb.
Yes now i know we are in the same boat it was kind of selfish of me to only think about myself,always thought her smiling was her being happy in this relationship but i am definetly going to work on this and treat this relationship as a group effort.
I know i sound greedy when i talk about inheritence money but you have to realise i was there when we had next to nothing i worked alongside my brother and father to rebuild these companies even to the point that it jeopardized my education for couple of years,i should have been through 4 years of my 5 year degree but here i am still at 1st year of my degree.so it was kind of personal for me to get these companies or atleast be a part of it.