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Date: January 14, 2023
That is not complicated.Thats textbook cheating. You're just 24 yo break up and learn from this mistake.
Anybody worth their grain of salt also knows that you say a lot of things in throes of passion, and communication in this aspect either during the event/scene/vanilla sex is truly the only way to have the discussion. Otherwise, you're uncomfortable throughout the rest of the scene and you are not doing your partner a service at all.
You need to watch yourself, how you go about things. She’s 19. You’re 19.
Am I really doomed to live like this for the rest of my life?
No, cos you're going to break up with her & move on with your life (at least, I seriously hope so). It's not your fault that she has these issues. It may not even be her fault. But it IS her problem, & she needs serious, trauma-informed, trauma-focused therapy to heal. The sooner, the better.
BUT, you should NOT wait around for her to be “better.” You can find someone who you like right now. If it's truly meant to be, you & her will find each other in many years, when she's healed & you're both more mature. You must know most people don't marry the person they date at 19 anyway, & there are myriad good reasons for that.
I think that it would be really helpful for you to have someone neutral to talk with. I like therapy, and I think you would too. I also feel like there are a few different emotions being overlapped here. I think that you are a little bit insecure about how introverted you are. And that maybe these comments from the gf aren't as targeted as they seem. Some people say, “what would you without me?” When they are scared their partner is going to leave them as well. Maybe she can feel you slightly pulling away?
I think it would be great if you sat down with her and had a “roommate talk.” I put that in quotes because it's important to separate relationship issues and roommate issues and right now your clearest problem is a roommate problem. Tell her that you have been feeling a little couped up in your solitude, and that it would be really helpful for your mental health if you could discuss the division of roommate responsibilities in concrete ways. You should also say it's because you feel like it's more lopsided right now.
I don't think there's enough here to see if she's taking advantage (personally doesn't seem like it to me. Some people just have a hot time noticing their slop:clean ratio), but I definitely wouldn't say to just break up over it.
She told you not to sleep with anyone and then did the same herself, so no, you were right to break things off.
However, take this as a lesson that you need to have the 'so what are we and what are the boundaries?' conversation ASAP. Long term situations where you haven't established expectations are doomed to failure.
Gotta bite your tongue & roll out.
Grow up and do better, OP. I’d be grossed out by you too
You ignore it. You’re not 4 years old. You know how. It’s like asking someone how to walk.
I’m okay to provide as long as he is struggling career wise. Like if he says that I have an unpaid gig but it will help me in career I can provide but when he I see him texting with a girl and scrolling insta it burns the hell out of me
Thank you for replying and validating me. I feel the same! That he is controlling but then i would stand up for myself and he will call me mean. So i start to go in loops in my head and just feel guilty. Im talking to him tonight and im going to try to stand my ground and not let it get to my head!! Thank you
Thanks. Yes, one of my issues here is him not communicating to me exactly why he doesn’t want to get married. The argument «It just doesn’t mean that much to me» is not enough because there MUST be something else behind it if he’s willing to knowingly hurt me by not agreeing to marry.
If you don’t want to be with him I think you should just break up. If he makes work uncomfortable afterwards, bring it up to a manager/HR.
Withdrawal is not a contraceptive
Regardless of the reason, this is emotional abuse and he is trying to manipulate his way out of adulting (taking accountability and apologizing). You don’t need this shit, drop the package. I read something about a lease, if your worried about him trashing the place when you leave, see if you can just sign the lease over to him, take your belongings and move on.
How can i convince her/negotiate with her on this issue? We are so compatible, but the main cockblock (pun intended) is this issue.
You don't. You DO NOT “convince” someone who doesn't want children to have them. You do not “negotiate” them into having children. This is non-negotiable, and the worst possible idea in the world.
And I'm very sorry, but you are NOT compatible. She checks a lot of boxes for what you are looking for, and I do believe that you care about her very much, but that's very different from being compatible in terms of being able to build a life together or being right for each other as marriage partners . . . which you very much are not.
First of all, you don't seem to recognise or be willing to acknowledge that your GF is suffering from serious, possibly suicidal depression (how on earth you can type that she intends to live “a short and sweet [life]” and not be having an absolute panic about her mental health is shocking to me). Why on earth would you even be DISCUSSING bringing children into the world with her when she has told you repeatedly that she is struggling to value her own life or find meaning in it? She needs serious mental health support, NOW. That needs to be the one and only priority. Not bringing more vulnerable lives into the world and your relationship who will be dependent on her. That she says she “intends to find a meaning in life” isn't hopeful, it's a cry for help. She's telling you that she needs help because she cannot currently see a reason to online. Jesus. Stop worrying about future plans and start worrying about your partner.
Secondly, and related, you shouldn't be having children, or a long term relationship, with someone who you respect so little that you DON'T LISTEN TO THEM or value their choices for themselves. Again, she is struggling with her mental health, and you're flat-out ignoring that because you want to talk about what YOU want and how to get it. You're not mature enough to be a long-term partner to someone, and certainly not to be a parent. To do those things, you need to be able to be unselfish, which you clearly cannot do.
And finally, no child should EVER be born to a parent who had to be talked into having them. This is how kids grow up resented, raised by parents who never really wanted them. Contrary to what you are imagining, she isn't going to magically fall in love with a child the moment she agonizingly squeezes it out of her vagina. If you push her into having one, her likelihood of having post-partum depression and/or anxiety increases, she may not bond well with it, and your child will suffer emotionally (and possibly in other ways) for it. Children are not trophies or gifts, they are human beings. And your GF has told you that SHE DOES NOT WANT TO HAVE THEM. If you do, you need to find a new partner. You don't “convince” people to create new human lives against their will. Everything about this is horrifying.
Look at where all the years of growth together took you, and imagine this happening again and again over the rest of your years together.
She already gave up, the right move is to move on.
We’ve all been there buddy. It’s okay. This feeling will pass my guy. My advice is if you have some sort of hobby sink your time into that. Also try to go to all the places you used to frequent with her that you like by yourself. I know it might be painful at first but I’ve found that decoupling those memories helped me a lot. I felt surrounded by things I wanted to do but couldn’t because the memories were painful. Also try to join some sort of volunteer group in the city or something. Just remember that this is still your life and you’re still allowed to enjoy it. Meeting new people helped me a lot. Good luck my friend. It’ll be okay
You can still get out of this hellish life
After 3 months she only realized just now? Nahhh Besides, she didn't feel guilty about the cheating, she felt bad because she had to tell you.
She was going on perfectly happy until she told you. Then she suddenly put up some crocodile tears. and yes, trust your gut, she didn't lash out at her dad, she lashed out at you.
How would this affect her dad in any way? In fact, she already told you why she did it, she wanted “validation”. Imagine the next time she's in a validation-needing mood..
Furthermore, just imagine being in a relationship, swiping through tinder multiple times a day, and still not being swept away by guilt since you're in a relationship. No, instead, you match, meet up and have sex. And then later, after you're FORCED to tell your partner. “Oh yeah, sorry :(” Does it sound like bs? That's because it is!
End it!
Even if you don't, the trust that has been broken is always going to affect your relationship
No hon, that’s residual from his abuse and your low self esteem. You have to honor yourself first and foremost. This man isn’t for you, it’s scary to be on your own at first, but it’s absolutely essential for your mental and emotional healing. Please, drop him and his family for your own sake.
He needs incentive to think of his partner after 5 years? Give me a break. OP is a person, not a rehabilitation centre for selfish men.