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Date: October 14, 2022
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This reply has weird vibes. I personally have a similar set up (little to no contact with my siblings, my wife is one of my very few best friends), but I think this is an bizarre worldview that only insecure people could possibly want more than one good friend besides their spouse.
to everyone saying, I should go to therapy. I tried before and they sent me away. Besides I can’t afford it right now so that won’t help.
“They” is a pronoun not controlled by gender. It can be used for gender-neutral people OR as another way to defer to anyone regardless of gender. Getting upset over someone saying “they” in any context will always genuinely confuse me, in no way is it incorrect unless you're doing it Excessively and with the intent of never using others, to be transphobic.
Coming from a gender confused person, currently using she/they pronouns. This shit is why I don't fuck with labels in general.
He thinks sex is for his pleasure, and you are required to provide that. He is an asshat, move on.
Run. You’re trying to fix a problem you can’t fix.
Sounds about 16 1/2
In the immortal words of Dennis Hopper in Blue Velvet, IFATM!
I wouldn’t necessarily call him an asshole. One can only take so much abuse before exploding, and as soon as he did, he apologized and said he didn’t mean it. That doesn’t make him an asshole. It makes him human.
Ring up a guy best friend you have and pretend to confess a crush to him and see how he responds.
I have a theory that men who don’t think men and women can be platonic friends, and men who claim that they wouldn’t have a female friend they aren’t attracted to, do not see women as equals and in worst cases: fully three-dimensional human beings. If my partner had an issue with me having platonic male friends I would be second guessing a lot about his character and how he views women.
Depending on the state, it's still cheating even if they filed divorce. If it's not final, he can use it against her
You and your female friend hanging out with 2 guys isn't a party… 6 years tho. How old are y'all? I'm guessing like 20.
It sounds like a mental block of some sort. Have you tried rekindling? What made you fall in love with him in the first place? May be a weekend of romance, spice things up a little bit. I have been with my wife for 10 years now so I can say, this is a feeling that happens from time to time and I’ve even experienced it myself. I find when this happens it’s usually a deeper issue or some thing completely not even related to the love for my wife going on inside, but this is how it shows to manifest itself. I’m not saying this is your exact situation, but it is what has worked for me when I have dealt with something similar. Good luck!
Just because someone asks you to do something, doesn't mean you have to agree to it.
Tell her you have been thinking this over, and you don't feel at all good about the group sex while you wait.
What? So you keep saying yes because you’re afraid he will feel a tinge of unhappiness, but you are feeling gross and guilty? What about your happiness? Does he consider that? Do you? Stop doing things you aren’t comfortable with.
You say if you outright said no he would accept it but it sounds like you said no several times and he didn’t accept it. If this isn’t the case, and you never said no, you need to start. At this point, if you keep saying yes, then he can’t know how it makes you feel, and may assume you’re into it as well.
Use your words, friend. If you’re afraid someone will be upset because you aren’t comfortable with something, there are more issues than this role playing.
Thank you
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Saw in a comment that you said you make $120k and he only makes $20k and your upset because he didn’t spend slot of money on you ?? Get real the man is barely making anything especially in this economy . It should be the thought that counts not the $$ Christmas should not be all about gifts .
Honestly, leaving would be best. He has made up his mind & even with you showing him birthmarks, him still not listening. Nothing will change his mind.
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My parents tried the whole stay together thing. Better to be single and show them how they should be treated in a relationship.
Start your toxic phase and start keeping stupid little things from her. Toxic relationships heal the soul
I agree… honestly I know I made the right decision to break up but I want to see others views as well
Do you own the house?
Clearly you do not, yet you're still trying to argue over ownership semantics.
I admire the hell out of this woman. Good for her! She wants to travel solo, and she’s making that happen. I desperately wish I had had the courage to do something like that when I was young.
You didn't over react bud, she's definitely not ready for a physical relationship. More fish in the sea and what not.
Yes its valid to leave over this. My ex did something somewhat similar. Get a lawyer asap!!
Yes its valid to leave over this. My ex did something somewhat similar. Get a lawyer asap!!
Why doesnt he block her and delete from his contacts?
Eh it could go either way at this point. It's in her court. Don't be pushy. Don't be a jerk. Don't ruin this for yourself. When you see her, be nice, talk about normal things. Don't bring it up. Don't hang around waiting for her to bring it up. Just be cool, man
Weddings do make sense, it's the over priced ones that put the bride and groom into debt before they even start their lives together that don't.
I have nothing but questions.
Why do you want to buy a place with your new GF when you aren't even divorced yet? Surely you should wait until you're properly divorced, otherwise your wife could claim a stake in the new house too.
Why are you treating your wife like a child? If you'd died instead of separating, she'd have had to learn to deal with the bills. She needs to learn to do her finances. I hate dealing with money but I go over our finances with my partner regularly, because I have a recurring nightmare that he will get crushed by a lorry and I need to be able to deal with everything if ever he is not there.
I get that you need to help your wife financially because she earns less after being a SAHM, and she is raising your children. But why offer your wife a mortgage-free home? Do you think you can get her a house and a house with your new GF and still get by financially? Will you be paying for her mortgage??? Why can't she find a smaller house? Your kids are teens, they won't be around for long, she doesn't need a house big enough for a whole family any more. You said you lost your well-paid job, have you found something else since?
Tbh it sounds like Melissa made it just as weird. 15 seconds to respond? Coulda easily just said, “idk I’ll let ya know!”
But unless someone has already agreed that they want to do something or that they like you, I wouldn’t ask when.. id ask if. When implies that they are in fact down which leaves little room to gently deny someone.
Stop dating barely legal girls with family issues.
okay, I was getting a vibe like that, but now that I know for sure, they probably deserve every insult and accusation their family hurls at them.
If he cheated, the answer is to dump him, not keep him borderline ugly so that nobody else will want him.
That’s not a promise you can punish him for, it’s an impossible promise which won’t always work. Also why does he feel the need to promise you that? Because you’re being horrible to him.
You sound like me in high school. You're in your head. We're not in highschool anymore. Clear communication. I remember waving to someone I liked and wondering why they didn't get my hint. I never wave to them, how did they not pick it up? I even did my cute finger wave, not the politician wave!
It's nice he asked but you have no say in who they bring in as a roommate in their home. Also I'm not sure why you feel uncomfortable or why this would warrant you being anxious all day long. Men and women on-line platonically together all the time, if you can't see another woman as anything more than a sexual temptation you really need to see a therapist to get over that kind of mindset.
Lmao oh honey.
This is a maturity moment. You wanted her to chase you so you felt important. She didn’t. You now want to make sure she knows the ball is in her court. What when she doesn’t make the play the way you want her to?
Many people don’t want to fight to make things work. They want to enjoy their lives. Nothing happened. You felt you weren’t a priority. She probably did feel like you were but you didn’t feel prioritized enough. So- you’re at an impasse.
If you want her back you have to accept who she is and how she loves. And then the ball is in your court. Nobody with self respect will chase someone who dumped them. That being said “I love what she could be”… don’t love for potential. People are going to grow into who they want to be- not who you want them to be. At 21 she still has a lot of growing to do (you do too)… love her for who she is or let her go.
Good luck. It's going to be a lifelong struggle if that's not innate in him. Get used to being the one taking the lead at best.
At three months, do you think you know all that there is to know about him?
You are rushing this girl. Don't make a big deal out of this. Don't be ashamed of whatever you have done – Your past is passed and it's not relevant to a new-ish relationship.
I'd wait at least a year, and even then I'd probably test the waters first a couple of times, bring the subject up “about other people” and if he has a strong reaction, I may decide it's better to end the relationship myself than to risk my big secret with someone else.
More context. I am 1 bad decision/event from homelessness currently. My parents have cut me off completely. I have no friends. Not to be pessimistic but i have very little going for me in life. Day consists of working 12 hours and 1 meal a day. Any advice to help me stop messaging her may help. Probably not
And even if you have 100% proof that she was pregnant, OP doesn't have any proof whatsoever that the baby was his. Either way, the whole story sounds too pat. Sounds like Abc trapped OP.
You’re right. And I totally called the gf his wife when she isn’t. Damn… yeah I hope his lady is smart enough to not tolerate this nonsense
And I feel remorse at not pointing out the opposite. She could be asking not to alienate the father but to not alienate her son. Her son having a different name from you and her could lead to ‘uncomfortable’ questions or people calling him bastard, or something else. She may just want to protect him. We just don’t know.
Yes, thank you. It’s natural to feel like, I don’t know about this but I’ll see how it goes without making any rash decisions. But the thing you very sagely and helpfully point out is, the longer you stay; the less your ability to leave.
Yeah you're right I guess it's just stuff on-line I see where people are saying if u wanna be high value and make a guy stay you have to wait until he's committed to you to let him in your intimate space, I do genuinely want to wait cause I think it will be more enjoyable that way but at the same time I guess it's just self esteem feeling like a guy won't want me unless I hold something over his head, I know that if hes just looking for sex hes gonna leave me either way once he gets what he wants be after being used so much by guys who I gave into early on I just feel like I'm the one doing something wrong
I can’t see anyone comments for some reason so I can’t respond. If anyone sees this, please message me instead. I see people commented but I just can’t see what you said.
Even though this happened in 2000?
So then you’re desperate when you ask a woman out?
Why would she lie about that?
Most likely she was paranoid that you were seeing other people, so she concocted the fake story to try and get you to admit it.
Knowing more I can say your BF was out of line. Kissing is way over that boundary. Idk if I would trust him.
I do intend to tell him. I don't think it would be possible to hide that forever, especially when I still have to deal with some medical stuff and paperwork to deal with.
Can I put it off past the first date? Would it be fair to wait until we're a bit closer to tell him since it is sensitive? I don't feel comfortable with putting myself out there like that just yet.
She brings up that he also talks about his “own money” when that is not something they agreed to. I wouldn't take sides here, both of them need lawyers to work this out.
Maybe you should go get an STD test. I'm sure your current boyfriend will be excited to pay money to get one too
hes flirting with you. Dont take it so seriously.
Yes, hear her out. That does not mean that he stays in this relationship. It could be great closure for him, and an eye opener. Maybe even allow him to open his heart again to someone else instead of building walls. But only if she’s willing to own up to her BS. I don’t think she’s a good partner for him but he was asking for advice. And without knowing them personally that’s all I could give. I think reactions speak volumes in these situations. I hope she owns her stuff and has her own moment of realization that the way she’s treated this is so far from what a relationship is supposed to be.
You approach the situation by growing the fuck up.
It's a regular-ass diary, not just some personal, penthouse forum collection of her own exploits. She's allowed to record her own private thoughts about her life which includes her sex life.
Why does it matter at all to you? It has zero impact on your relationship.
It’s understandable that you feel really frustrated by it and I think it’s great that you have tried to communicate this. It’s also quite difficult for someone with a low libido to understand where the higher libido partner is coming from. It can feel like pressure, it can feel like an attack. It can feel like being appreciated for just their body alone.
That said, I worry about how she’s taking it. And the only way you can manage this is by communication and compromise. I feel like from her previous reactions, if you bring it up again, her reaction would be negative, hence I understand your reluctance.
I think you do have to bring it up again. If she understood better from the article you sent, maybe there can be some progress this time.
I also hate to say this but you may need to accept this may never change and be ready for that possibility.
I was thinking you should put it in his girlfriends car.
I wish I could say that’s the case. I feel like this his another one of his narcissistic ways of shift blaming me for being the cause of his crazy behavior. I was being “mindful” only listing one of a million things he put me through this past year.
Both men and women make this dumb choice. Hell, I did it with my first wife. Later discovered she was a lesbian in denial. In any case, you just have to treat it as a learning experience and don't do it again. Don't marry someone you aren't sexually compatible with, unless you both just have very low sex drives.
This is a great point! And think I would specify, does he get you off in ways that don’t include just PiV? Is your pleasure always wrapped up in his pleasure or does he go out of his way to take care of you?
I think the essence of what her friends are saying is that a selfish sexual partner is a red flag. However, there are ways to be a good partner sexually that don’t involve ora.
My partners usually end up cheating so that’s the reason for the ending of the relationship.
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That is not a thing that happens.
Honestly, I'd push for a full year of therapy before bringing this discussion back up about a third child. But yes, I fully agree with this person above. Couples therapy helps, but individual therapy will make the difference. Yes she's 36, and a year may effect her fertility, but theoretically she should have much more than a 1 year window for a third child.
I know it doesn’t make sense. He told me he wanted us to have Life360 and that that’s why he did it because I guess he wanted me to be toxic and untrusting of him. It just doesn’t make sense why he would do this to me. I don’t get it because he could have told me.
Many say to stay broken up. I’m kinda in agreement. You simply don’t seem compatible.
It really sounds like he's already moved and has no intention of returning. Its over and he's just too much of a coward to say so. Move on with your life.
You don’t seem to think so. Either that’s a normal expectation, or she needs to run it by you first. It can’t be both.
Awww congratulations!! Thanks for the update!
Have you filed for custody?
Definitely get into couples counseling as well as individual counseling. Your wife is not handling this in a healthy way and you both need to figure out why.
My ex wife was not jealous until she was having thoughts about someone else then eventually having an affair. I couldn’t fathom cheating but she was fantasizing about it and eventually doing it without my knowledge and during those time she was projecting her ability to cheat on me. The crazy thing is she knew I would never cheat but she really started projecting whenever I was with a female friend. So hopefully your wife isn’t thinking about another guy and projecting onto you.
But if she is just jealous, she is going to build resentment and continue to convince herself that you are having an affair and she will self sabotage the marriage. This needs to be addressed asap. Tell her, honey I’ve been thinking about this, I would never cheat with anyone and the fact you are accusing me is upsetting and I am going to therapy to see how I can heal and better communicate with you, would you also like to go to couples counseling so we can better communicate? If she says no, than you follow through with your own counseling. I will tell you when the resentment builds it is almost impossible to end well without really understanding what caused it and why and getting help for it.
Because maybe the situation has changed. That plays into it
You have a drinking problem and your abuse is also a problem.
and when I get drunk I usually yell, slap, and get mad at him for stupid reasons and etc
IM DRUNK I can't control myself
I'm only a little bit “abusive” when drunk when I am sober I'm a good gf. I want to prove to her I'm not abusive and I only act that way when drunk.
You told on yourself there. Stop fucking drinking if you can't handle it. Your poor Bf
Why can't you go to his place? Is he married? But you're just calling an affair FWB
Right? She straight is just trying to ghost him
Good to know. Hope you can work on it.
Hire a hitman?
I kid. It’s a joke. I’m joking.
This level of disrespect and deceit – there’s no coming back from that. Why did he tell you now? Did a friend who knows threaten to tell you? Did she?
6.5 years. Your entire relationship, from Day One. There has not been a single day in your entire relationship that he hasn’t been cheating on you. Think about that.
Break it off, walk away, NOW.
You’ve wasted 6.5 years with this POS. Don’t make it 6 yrs, 6 months and 1 day.
You deserve better. Much better.
More people need to be willing to take care of themselves, too, then if they wanna be talking bullshit to someone housing you. If he wants to start talking bullshit he should take OP in, that way they don't have to deal with mom at all? Unless two 30 year olds that can't on-line on their own need to stfu and save some bread and make life easy.
I'm all for standing up for yourself and yours, but even if my mom was being as asshat to me, I've lived with my mom my whole life and she's here taking care of my grown adult ass and in my realistic situation I can't be mouthing off like I run shit. He gone mess her whole situation up.
Even if my mom is a narcissistic bitch, she's my mom and I've chosen to weigh her good deeds more I don't need someone I just met a year ago to tell me about my mom.
That's absolutely fantastic oh my goodness
People's actions reflect their priorities. His minimal efforts show that he doesn't value his relationship with you very much. He's even told you he doesn't like the “responsibility” of someone loving him (da fuq?). So why is he dating someone who loves him? Does not compute. Except that he sounds like an emotional toddler who seems to enjoy invalidating his sex partner.
Come on now. A LOADED QUESTION? Oh my word. We have gone off the rails here.
I think real men don't even ask because they don't care. No guy I've dated has ever asked me my body count.
So option 3 because rejection is eminent
Yes I’d understand in-laws over-excited about new babies, but this started when we bought our house, about 5 months before the babies were born. Even when I was 36 weeks pregnant with my twins, my husband and his brother sat drinking and grilling on the deck while I mowed the lawn. I brought it up when I was explaining to my MIL and BIL that they are not helpful so I don’t appreciate their visits, and his mom told me that my BIL would have mowed for me but he has a history of depression which makes it nude for him to help.
We need a valid reason to end relationships now?
Damn.
Maybe work on that while you’re single