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Model from: za
Languages: en
Birth Date: 2000-06-07
Body Type: bodyTypeThin
Ethnicity: ethnicityEbony
Hair color: hairColorBlack
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Subculture: subcultureGlamour
Date: October 16, 2022
That's so weird, gabapentin is not a take for a couple of weeks and then stop drug. It should be built slowly up into the system as a long term drug and then reduced slowly if you want to come off. It's so dangerous to take like that. I know this because my Dr took me off it incorrectly and I had a seizure.
It sounds like she maybe needs to be something like that full term. I get severe limb jumps if I'm off my pregabalin even for a couple of days waiting for a refill (my Drs is useless at making sure i get all my prescriptions), like they shake constantly and sometimes so badly it's like something is trying to pull me out of bed. Honestly if this was 100 years ago folk would think I was haunted. She maybe needs to look into this as a full time thing and see a neurologist if it's possible. I am always aware of it though, even if asleep as it interferes with my dreams and keeps me at a level of light or rem sleep, i never drop into deep sleep when these attacks happen.
You need to communicate with him about what you're feeling otherwise this is just gonna fester for you and ruin the relationship
I had this with an ex of mine. Complete lack of enthusiasm and emotion for our relationship. I thought I would be sad after initiating the breakup, I actually felt free, and borderline happy.
I would recommend having a serious conversation where you lay out what you want from the relationship and exactly what will happen if your reasonable expectations aren't met.
I had this with an ex of mine. Complete lack of enthusiasm and emotion for our relationship. I thought I would be sad after initiating the breakup, I actually felt free, and borderline happy.
I would recommend having a serious conversation where you lay out what you want from the relationship and exactly what will happen if your reasonable expectations aren't met.
That's controlled behaviour major red flag
Run
You should tell him that you are upset and his words really hurt you. If this is the kind of marriage where your thoughts and feelings aren’t respected, valued or acknowledged, and you’re supposed to just shrug off anything hurtful he does or says, you might want to take a moment to consider the trajectory you’re on with him. If this behavior continues or escalates, I don’t see this relationship having a happy ending.
At 16, I would think most boys are one big flag. Well girls too at that age.
We all learn how to navigate this world. help where you can, trust where you cant
If you give up your dreams to continue in the relationship, you'll never forgive him and you'll never forgive yourself.
If he can't deal with how naked you're having to work right now, imagine how much he'll whine when you actually get into med school.
He needs to deal with it, or leave, because nobody who truly loved you would ever want you to give up on a lifelong dream.
It’s not cheating, but if it makes your wife uncomfortable and she’s brought it up a few times, it seems like the easy fix here is to stop working out with this person.
If you’re not willing to do that, that’s a different conversation
Unconditional love means you continue to love them and see the good in them, even when there is also bad. It doesn’t mean you’ll always be with them. You can love them, believe in the good, but know that it’s better that you’re not together. If that’s what you meant and that’s how he took it, then you’re both fine.
If however you meant it as you’ll always be with him, regardless of what he did, you over promised and under delivered. If he took it that way and expected that, then that’s also a problem.
I had a bromeliad named Chad. I name my plants. My mom always did too.
Ask yourself this question. Would you stay if he choked one of your current children the way he has to you? Because staying is risking this -if not with them, with future children.
If the answer is no – ask yourself why it’s ok then to choke you.
Best of luck in finding the power to leave him.
Ask yourself this question. Would you stay if he choked one of your current children the way he has to you? Because staying is risking this -if not with them, with future children.
If the answer is no – ask yourself why it’s ok then to choke you.
Best of luck in finding the power to leave him.
Don't even need to read the whole thing. She needs pro help. Ur all good.
you've decided to MARRY this? this relationship…for the rest of your life? that's the kind of man you want to commit to? Remember, marriage doesn't equal happiness. Your relationship needs to be healthy for that and you need to choose and evaluate a proper partner, who's good and kind and considerate and has your back no matter what. not this terrible dude.
I think he owes her 9 years of bad entertainment.
Yeah, she just doesn't disclose it the this thread , only some of it in the comments. Would you like your partner being inlove with them or your partner being inlove with?
Only you can know what’s best for you. But don’t stay with him and avoid having this conversation with him because you don’t want to hurt him. That’s how people definitely get hurt, ironically enough.
It's a boundary, it's not controlling. It's his deal breaker and you know it so if you want to do it maybe don't stay together.
I'm confused. Why can't she use the account she already has to pay her own bills from? Why not use the same account she uses to pay for grocery shopping?
As far as I can tell no, he's never done anything towards them.
Agreed
Look it’s a red flag when someone’s first reaction is always about cheating. It gives off a lot of insecurity and future “crazy girlfriend/boyfriend” vibes.
The fact that he sent you the picture doesn’t help, like you thought he was stupid enough to cheat on you and then send you a picture with another woman badly cropped out ?
You can’t do anything but wait at this point, but if he does get back to you , you need to address why you were so quick to jump to accusations and make it clear your working in your trust issues.
By rejected advances I mean she's rejecting my advances, not me rejected others.
A big part of it was that it wasn’t physical they didn’t have sex with another person. They sexted other people and talked to other people online. But I asked for the reason. Not an excuse. I wanted the truth and to a degree, I was lacking in some departments so I understood why they sought out feeling “wanted” (sexually or not) by another woman. Now, the cheating will never be excusable.
I only wanted to understand why which I did. I chose to stay because I saw how hurt they were realizing how bad they hurt me. I saw their true vulnerability. I saw a raw version of them that was being selfish, not thinking and only going after lust/desire. It’s one of those “you don’t know what you have until you lose it” we did have space apart for awhile but it’s about wearing your heart on your sleeve and realizing that mistakes happen. It’s whether or not you choose to forgive them and continue or end it. It’s been rocky for sure but I’ve made my own mistakes too, I’ve chosen to stay and I also know I have that risk of them being a repeated offender
You can not avenge your father. He's dead. As far as anyone knows, he never knew about the affair. He's not hurting. I think you are internalizing the pain that you imagine your dad would feel and taking it out on your mom. You have a child's view of your parents marriage. You do not and will never know the intimacies of their marriage. Your mother is not a child. It's not up to you to 'police' her or to punish her. How do any of you know whether or not your dad might have had an affair or two under his belt? Forgive and let it go.
She sounds exhausting.
i dunno. need lots of more examples that you arent giving any. this could just be two different type of humors not meshing. regardless, its not going to work out so just let it end.
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A woman with unrealistic expectations of their partner? Get outta here ?
Sending love your way. I'm sorry she said that to you. That was very unkind of her.
Honestly, I think his wife is pretty much perfect. At least, she handled this whole situation perfectly. She could have just not said anything, and OP would never have known. I suppose she could have done that and just transferred and never told him why, but this sort of transparency and honesty–and bravery to admit it!–is very rare and undervalued. The main thing is that OP hasn't been able to handle the honesty.
That's not a dig at you, OP, I would also feel icky and it would take me some time to process something like that, but like…this is the best case scenario, aside from neither of you ever crushing on anyone ever. You know, 100%, that you can trust this woman to be completely honest with you and take all the necessary steps to work on your relationship. Good luck trying to find someone that rock solid again.
Send her pictures of the text messages. You won't have to say a thing.
I'd start by asking him if he is gay or bi. If he says no, that's your answer. Put it back in your pants and move on.
For being 27 you sound awful immature. Do you have a wife that loves you and wants to be with you but you don’t wanna be with her. Do you have a one year old child which causes a lot of stress, drama and issues. Do you want the marriage to work? Then spend time talking to her isn’t she supposed to be your best friend? Isn’t this the person you want to spend the rest your life with? Instead of spending all your time electronics and then complaining about how you do that all weekend why not get a babysitter and take your wife out on dates. As somebody who has gone through this and was left behind by the other spouse because they didn’t want to spend time you’re setting yourself up to lose your family. Are your video games more important then having your family? That is the question you need to ask yourself
My ex used to do this to me often. He'd just suddenly stop responding to my texts, reject phone calls, all with no explanation. Or he'd make it clear he was annoyed st something I said, tell me to F off them not talk to me for days or weeks. He'd always come back when he needed something and act like he did nothing wrong, after I spent days worrying.
Turns out this was one of many red flags I should not have ignored. He became very abusive towards me: physically emotionally, financially and otherwise. Looking back now it was one of many ways he would punish me and manipulate me for tiny mistakes, or when I did nothing at all, sometimes just because we felt like it.
Short answer: this is a red flag. Dump his butt
Well, I mean there's different levels. There's crush, then there's “plastered walls with their posters, right love poems and erotic fic, tried to mail them you're used panties”. Not that I'm accusing OP of that ?
Completely agree here. Sounds like from the way he's described he will argue to stay
Seriously. Why would you yell at your mom. Tell your wife something. She sounds awful
I don't get the emotional payoff of writing about one's fetish as if seeking advice on the massive interpersonal problems that fetish would create in real life, yet every advice sub is choked with them. So tedious!
Do you… have any trauma? I prefer partners who have been through some shit because I have also been through a lot of stuff and they understand better. If you dont, and you just want men who have trauma its kind of messed up of you. I understand wanting to give someone who hasnt experienced a lot of love in their lives care and affection, but I agree with other commentors that it seems a little fetishization-y
Get through it knowing it was necessary and the right call.
U went on 4 dates with this guy and he's ready to commit but u ain't feeling the physical attraction. Got it. Well, here's my take. U gotta be honest with the bro and yourself. If u ain't feeling that spark, then there's no point in dragging it out. Trust me, I've been there.
Option 2 sounds like the better move. U can reject him but do it in a way that doesn't burn any bridges. U said u enjoy spending time with him so maybe u can let him know that u value his friendship but u don't see a romantic relationship happening. Keep it short, simple and to the point. No need to beat around the bush.
But, if u do decide to give it a few more shots, just be clear with him about where u stand and what u're looking for. Don't lead him on, that's just cruel. And remember, it's better to nip this in the bud now rather than waste both ur time.
Prepare yourself for him to choose his daughter.
Yeah NOPE!
If you go there you will destroy your happy calm life.
Let her down gently but firmly. She'll grow up one day and thank you for being cool about it.
What if instead of engaging with the fight, you instead said, “Please don't snap at me” and gave him the chance to check himself?
If you're frequently having fights because he just suddenly gets mad at you for no reason, he needs to look at why he's doing that.
Your current boyfriend sounds absolutely exhausting. He doesn’t trust you at all despite the fact that you’ve done nothing to break his trust and have been completely honest with him.
Personally, I think your bf unblocked him and is lying about it to see how you’ll react. That stuff doesn’t just happen on its own and it’s very suspicious.
You don't have any real choice in this situation. Your family has turned abusive towards you. And yes, playing favorites so openly is abusive. Go no contact with them all. There is no reason you need or ought to suffer any longer. Best to you.
Go ahead and walk, buddy. I'm sorry your family is crap. You will find a deserving person to make your own family with.
He’s 40 years old, you have plenty of experience with him to see he’s not changing. Block him now so you won’t have to hear it when he starts whining that you aren’t pleading with him to talk to you.
Dump him. Sexual compatibility is VERY important. If you wait till marriage and it is horrible, you are stuck.
And ( I am a 49 year old woman) every one I know who waited, regretted it, AND divorced. Everyone. I don't know a single couple who are still together. I know 3 couples who divorced within a year because of sexual incompatibility. So trying before you buy is a good policy.
Just prepare the condom in advance by opening it like 5min before actually putting it on. It should be within reach of course. Then put it on quickly. You should be familiar with how they work and which side is the right one. Some brands(most?) are designed so that they are always facing the same way inside the wrapper. It's actually not easy to tell which side is the right one, especially in the dark.
The secret is doing it fast and right. No unnecessary waste of time. I don't think leaving that job to her will help. She'll probably fumble around more than you.
I looked at the photo. All the body language points to her being attracted to him. Sorry bro this looks inappropriate to me and I would be very unhappy in your shoes as well. She sounds like a serial cheater, and I would question whether her ex was the one that was really good at gaslighting. Easiest way for people to hide their past shitty behavior's is to accuse their ex of being crazy, that way even if you did talk to her ex you'd be less likely to believe him.
Maybe you’re right. I’m just overthinking it. It has came up multiple times
He's clearly going to be one of those middle-aged men who swear up and down that he can still “bag” a college coed and tells himself that it's because he's “still got it” and deny that any 20yo girl would see him purely in a sugar daddy capacity
OP, you are being financially and emotionally abused. This is such a cut-and-dried example. Dear younger sister, do not bother adjusting your perfectly good body to appease this nit. Make your exit plan. You are not safe with someone who will blow a gasket if you ask for your own bank account.
This is bloody brilliant!
Thanks. yeah my brain is telling me so- its just personally i am rather a person with mot many friends to be honest- not to say i dknt have great friends- the 3 i have moved away- but theyre the best and all old me to run- i guess mayne the loneliness makes me hang on to something that is obviously bad
You communicate you're disappointed in all of that behavior by breaking up with him.
You need to change your perspective on having a relationship.
It does not matter who you will be with – you will always be in the same position. He has told you he wants to be with you, so stop thinking what he might want to be. However you can ask him to be honest with you- if he wants to break up – then he should tell you right away and how you want ot done.
In stead od looking at this as a formal relationship – You need to look at your relationship as romantic dating and NOTHING serious!! You are with him to have fun for some years hopefully – but only take this seriously if it last at least two more years.
But you are rejecting her because she is trans. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, At all.
Babes, if anyone I knew ever screamed at me that they were going to kill me, I WOULD TAKE THEM AT THEIR WORD.
That is not how adults in healthy, mature, respectful relationships talk to one another. EVER.
You need to assume he’s telling you the truth: he is going to eventually kill you.
You need to leave.
It could be perfectly innocent or not. He should know that there is too much scope for it to look suss and only go there with you. He has left himself open to this suspicion and ridicule, and in doing so has risked the harmony of his family life.
Once someone realizes they can control you in this way and that you'll always be there, do as they want and keep coming around that is the only treatment you'll ever get from them. I've been here before.
Respect yourself because he doesn't and enough is enough. We teach people how to treat us and right now he thinks this is acceptable. Tell him a time that you'll be there to get him and then wait HOURS after the fact. Just one time. Then stop going at all. He is 21 years old. He should have a license. Let him figure out a way to come and see you.
Wow mate, I don't have much advice to give, but while we wait for people to leave more relevant comments, I want to say I completely understand your decision.
Personal/free time is essential to a relationship, especially if you're somewhat introverted/used to being by yourself to relax/unwind.
It looks like you guys had a profound incompatibility on that point, which can happen.
Not everyone has the same needs for personal time, and some people hate being alone even for an hour or two. So, whether you guys manage to work it out and find a balance or not, you made the right decision. I know saying that won't erase the guilt, just wanted to let you know I feel you and support you!
they're my parents, i online with them, i spend every moment with them and i care for their wellbeing especially my moms so what even gives you the idea that im going to “snitch”?
“Dad, I love you, and I really, genuinely like Alex and her kids. But they're not my family. It's okay that they're not. They can be YOUR family, and I can be your family, without us being EACH OTHERS' families. That's totally fine. But I didn't grow up with them, and I won't be living my life with them. And I'm happy with that and will become a lot less happy if anyone pressures me about how I feel. Please respect that.”
Is this your first relationship?
How did your last one end?
It doesn't matter if he's in the wrong because putting the blame somewhere isn't going to fix the issue, which is that it made you feel uncomfortable. You were excited about having a rare night out and you put a lot of effort into it, and you expected him to do the same.
I would recommend having a conversation with him to explain exactly that. Don't approach it as if he did something wrong because that's not helpful. Let him know you understand he was probably tired from working all day and you appreciate that he took the time to take you out, but that you were excited and felt (however you felt – be specific) when he didn't put in the effort to shower and change. Then, you can set the expectation that he will shower and change for any future dates you plan.
Being mad about it now won't change anything, but you can use it to set boundaries for the future and practice healthy communication.
yeh I also felt she should’ve been better with her boundaries as well. but all their mutual friends say I’m insecure so it made me feel like the problem I guess? cause how could they not see what I see. But really appreciate your take here
Get over it. Weirdos will thirst over anything, trust me. As long as SHE doesn't mind, that's her choice. You accept it or move on.
Best of luck going forward ?? dating is not easy but we still got our youth. Go have fun and find that right one.
Perhaps even work on yourself to maybe understand what you want out of a future partner.
Not enough, apparently.
Do you happen to have a history of addiction on either side of your family?
If you read above, he has apnea issues. So it COULD potentially be a mental problem where he's psyched himself up and stops breathing enough. But the chance that it could be a heart issue is still big enough that he should see a doctor, regardless, “Am a doctor.”
I'm sorry, but this whole thing is just wild to me. Sure she's upset, but she's also not entitled to have sex with him just because she put effort in. If the tables would be turned, I feel like people would still be jumping down OP's throat. Imagine he gets that upset and offended and talks about how any other woman would fuck him just because she's not interested. That is a ridiculous statement to make. I'm sorry, but I just can't get behind this one.
“to give me time to find myself”
You know this was her breaking up with you gently, right?
Time for him to move out and learn how household finances work.
yeah how dare people choose a childfree life. wont someone please think of the children!!1
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I wish it was a “story”…it’s a damn nightmare. What would you do?
You said he choked you on another comment on here. He will probably end up killing you if you don't leave. The statistics are not on your side. You can't fix that.
In those 5 years did you ever talk about what the future looked like and where you fit into his life in the long term? Seems like you've already sacrificed a lot over the years.
I think you know the answer and hope you can find peace and love wherever it may present itself. Good luck with law school!
I think you have been dumped.
You should assume you’re no longer in a relationship and block him and move on.
If he loved you he’d have contacted you by now.
The question is, why do you want someone like that in your life?
My best friend had a ex who threatened suicide and did reckless driving every time she wanted out or something did. get his way. Eventually both managed to move on without anything happening but with the next gf he did the same and then eventually killed himself. He always did the same with any girl until if eventually escalated to the point of no return.
This wasn’t your fault. This was his choice.
Wow. You’re really going to dwindle this down to a microscopic level to dance around admitting you’re defending him. Moving the target however you see it benefits you. Just quit now, dude.
You’re 26. Why the fuck are you married if you’re already at this level of disdain for each other?
My friend just hit the gym. You will only become better. Her is irrelevant.