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But he never asked me to be his gf
Seeing you changed your post to be in your favor from other comments… you know you're in the wrong and this is why you shouldn't just fuck around and be seeing other people the same time, always gonna bite you in the butt because it's what you deserve. Hoes will be hoes
You, my friend, have WAAAAY too much time on your hands.
Find a hobby….other than brooding over the past. Sheesh……
That or he's mad that his relationship is over so now he's trying to ruin theirs
Yeah that would probably work, but wouldn't that ruin our friendship if i start ignoring him like that?
I feel like this could definitely be a 23 year old way of thinking BUT your are allowed to have boundaires and be comfortable with what you want for your future. Men I guews don't think so far ahead, I know my guy doesn't even think about a week ahead if he doesn't have to. But thats why I do lol
Sex wise. safe sex is good sex right? Whatevr your comfortable with is most important.
The living together thing could work if your on the same page forsure, but what if in the instance you get married, move in together and you find out you just don't work together well? Reagrdless of how much you wanna make it work? Surely you'd like to explore that before comitting yourself to something like marriage. Spending time together really isn't the same. Trust me.
You don't have to share anything with him in terms of socials/banking even if your married. Its probably better to keep them separate.
I don't think there was anything wrong with how you explained it apart from saying its 'boyfriend v husband territory.' Your alllowed your have your preferences. Things just generally change once you're married and thats all you were saying, but in a different way? Its not like it was personal to him right? You'd say the same thing to anyone else you were dating if it wasn't him yeah?
I guess it also depends if you two are going to get married, settle down, have kids, share finances etc you've just opened up space for that dialogue to happen. Which is a good thing!
Okay. So he might have been scared or overwhelmed. Cats get overstimulated sometimes, too, without the human realizing it until it’s a done thing. So unless your partner shows continued harassment it’s safe to let this one go.
Out of all these comments I’m reading I guess my question is:
Why don’t YOU propose?
I mean sure, he has made it clear he doesn’t want to marry. So outside of an updated conversation confirming that’s still his opinion on the matter, your options are limited. I say either check in again or pop the question yourself.
you can literally say hi to any guy in public and theyll take you home. youre way more likely to get mediocre sex than murdered
You need a supportive man who will put you ahead of himself and work with you.
Sounds like a friend. Could be more. Tell her how you feel.
She is using love, not giving it. She is toxic.
That's sweet
Yet the one that is the source of all that mess, the one that broke his vows of fidelity to you, barely is mentioned in all your post. I think you should get rid of the three of them.
I'm sure we have some moving ground between pretending they dropped off the face of the earth and not talking about their relationship status. A pregnancy is also different to a relationship status update.
Also remember that just because that's the standard in your relationship doesn't mean it's the standard for other relationship or that your relationship is somehow the pinnacle of healthiness because of it. Respecting boundaries is part of healthy relationships.
She's not interested buddy, make new friends or try to meet new people. She's ain't the cure for your loneliness.
I love this idea
Nothing. She was honest, you cannot control other people’s lives. After recognizing that every girl has a past, you will feel better. It’s not a big deal unless you make it one.
Is she not allowed to go out with her friends? Would you complain about her going out to a friend to a non gay bar? Are you buying into shitty stereotypes about bisexual folks being promiscuous and cheating? Is she supposed to not have a good time because you aren’t there?
Leave…
No. She made her choice and now she has to live with the consequences. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. If she had PPD she could've gotten help as opposed to sleeping with someone else. Now she needs you to provide for her. PLEASE DO NOT ENTERTAIN HER!!! Let her figure out a way to stay in the states
Lots of things to cover here.
How can I become normal xD? I have tried doing it in the “normal” way but it takes wayyyy too long and it is frustrating. Is this the only way?
This is normal. This is both of your first sexual experience, so neither of you have seen sex outside of porn/movies and yourselves. Let me be the first to tell you: people masturbate in wild and weird ways. Every person has a different place, speed, movement, grip, etc that they like. Some people like anime porn running in the background, some people like being paddled on the ass, some people like being tied up, some people like being tickled, some people need a balloon animal watching, etc., etc. There's literally infinite ways to get off, infinite kinks, positions, toys, costumes, etc. As long as everyone is a fully informed human adult giving enthusiastic consent, my belief is that there's no “abnormal” way to have sex or masturbate.
But the problem is that now I am not at all able to finish inside of her (obviously we use protection) and she is very conscious about it and feels that i do not like her which obviously is not the case. I have tried explaining it to her but she still feels insecure about it.
This is normal! My suggestion is have her get you off the way you like to get off. Tell her that it's not about how you feel about her, it's just about how your specific body gets off. Show her how you touch yourself, move her hands the way you want, get really dramatic and moany when she does something that feels good. At the end of the day, I think she just wants to feel like you find her attractive and she's doing things right.
Additionally, cis women are raised with this idea that the penis is “undeniable proof” of attraction. We don't always understand that sometimes you get hard but don't want sex, or get nude at random times, or can be loving the experience and not orgasm. Explaining “My dick is dumb and will do what it wants, but I care about you and don't want you to measure how much I love you based on how my genitals react to you.”
Even though I can last for very long, my girlfriend does not really want that (yeah idk why). She does not finish either but then I am not worried about that as much as she is worried about my case.
This is also normal and you should talk to her about it!!! Speaking from personal experience, I hate PIV sex, especially in missionary, and I also hate when it goes on forever. Ask her what she likes! Get her off! You being fine with her not getting off may be feeding into her doubts (“Does he really like me? He doesn't even care if I get off.”).
Communicate more, both of you! It can feel awkward at first, but embrace that. Laugh at the awkward interactions, try new things, and don't be discouraged when option 1 doesn't work out.
I hope this helps. Good luck!
I'd probably cut my losses only two months in. I don't like the look and definitely wouldn't want to deal with it bumping into my face when we kiss.
Your boyfriend is abusing your cat, not just bullying. He is ABUSING her.
His reasoning of “it’s just a pet, if you can’t do whatever you want to them then what’s the point of having them?” is something a SOCIOPATH would say.
He does not care about your cat or any other animal. He does not express empathy or consideration for the cat. He gets mad when you tell him to respect your cat. This is not a man who is going to ever gain a respect for your cat or any other animal. You will not be able to change him in this regard.
Why are you still with him?
I don’t know why people are feeling the need to point out the obvious. Yes women want sex too. But it is predominantly men who have trouble committing. Maybe I just don’t meet a bunch of promiscuous women. Even the ones I know will settle down once a man acts right, which is rare. Some choose to want sex because it’s more often than not that the man just wants sex. You should keep your standards high and I believe you will be rewarded for that. It’s not your fault at all honestly it’s just the way things are. Establish clear boundaries and weed them out
Now I wanna know the incorrect way you were wiping ?
Wishy-washy. Ambivalent? wavering? Indecisive? Look just make plans and stick to them. Stop all the hemming and hawing. You want to go out? Yes. That's all. No more “if you want to or if that's all right”. Go out have a good time or not and if not or if he keeps canceling or whining maybe you need to rethink this relationship. Look if a guy likes you like really likes you he will be there with you regardless of the obstacles.
If it annoys her, just ask her to stop and say you aren't interested in the kpop stuff but she can send you other stuff.
Yeah, that’s what I’m leaning towards currently.
If shes “crushing” on him and going out after-work for drinks its over bud. Shes looking for an excuse and her telling u this was her way of slipping the info out so its not going to blind side u when u find her crush balls deep in her inbox.
Where in that post do you see abuse? Ha said he needs to “re-evaluate”. This is not abuse
So neither one of you is honest and you snooped.
she's just naturally not built to provide any type of emotional support.
A more accurate way to look at it is that it’s a skill she hasn’t learned. It’s often learned via how a person is raised so if she wasn’t raised with emotional support she wouldn’t have learned the skill. But like any skill it can be learned. She can google emotional support skills and six levels of validation to get a better idea of what it entails, and if she practices, over time she improve. But it often takes years and sometimes even therapy to get good at the skill, so even if she wants to do it, it’s not a guarantee she will.
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you mean, when you go back to work and see samantha?
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Yep. She can have boundaries but so can you. It’s perfectly fine to leave if you’re unhappy
Send her back to her parents.
she can stay as long as she needs and we can work on it if we’re both on the same page with what went wrong and addressing it. She says she can’t put in the effort, she’s depressed, but if i want to put in effort then maybe it can work.
This is the key thing right here. She is not willing to make an effort. She's 22, she needs to think like an adult, not a child.
Yeah, that would be a violation to me. And I would stop that and tell him never to do that again. Are you sure that’s all he did there with her?
Be an adult. Call the sister and ask why she doesn’t like you. Don’t defend yourself, don’t try to counter what she says….just listen and take notes…and correct your behavior. If my husband made fun of me for how I pronounced a word, I’d be pissed…even if it was only a little bit.
I imagine wielding a machete isn't plan A?
Yea, we do have different hobbies/interests. Which is fine. I just think she's been especially unwilling to compromise lately.
I could sit down with her, and set up a plan of how we can try stuff out, to make both of us happy.
What usually happens is 1) we'll say that, 2) actual concrete plans will get thrown around, 3) there will be excuses
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some examples of the specific ideologies?
Likely this is coming as a result of her expressing love two weeks in. Any adult person can tell you that two weeks equals infatuation which may eventually become love, but it's not love at two weeks.
You are rightly reticent but it's also ok to hold off with the expression of love yourself until you are sure and if that took another year it should still be ok.
If shes putting pressure on you to say it and feel it so soon,then that's not really healthy.it would be better if she understood that people move at different speeds and that just because she is feeling it right now,doesn't mean that you wont eventually get there in your own time.
It would be perfectly fine to continue in the relationship for a while yet to see if you get there. But there should be no pressure from her if you cant say the magic words just yet. I probably takes at least a full calendar year to get to know someone well enough to really be sure of how you feel about them and even so, probably it's only after year two that you could seriously entertain the idea of forever being a possibility.
But trust yourself, see how you feel after a while. I think what you are feeling is fair given the timeframe, going too fast is nearly always an issue. What's the rush anyhow? Is there a timeframe for some reason?
First off, don't worry about typos. I do the same when on my phone. I make typos left and right and I end up apologizing to everyone. Second, it's never good to be the side dish. It's best to be the entre. Fourth, stay away and end it. Don't let him try to explain.
I was in a similar boat as you. I went out with the this woman for months. I really liked her. We had great chemistry. We had great conversations. Everything clicked. Nothing seemed force. She had some kids which I'm okay with. She got over being divorced. She was amazing. She came to visit me and I came to visit her. She made me so happy. I talked with with her mom and her sister who backed up her story and wait to meet me. I even was with her on her birthday giving her emerald earrings as emerald was her birth stone, with a matching necklace for Valentine's Day. Then I found out the truth. She and her sister kept on blowing up my phone. With the help of my friend, I cut her out completely and I don't care to send someone to hell especially a woman but my friend eagerly did so. Maybe I should have asked for divorce papers. I'm not sure. I chalk it up to a learning experience. And instead of the 2 kids she claimed she had, she had closer to 5. Never told anyone about this before.
Good for blocking him. I wish you well. You will find someone else and maybe you can pick up any on red flags if any or know what questions to ask. It's a crappy world out there and people take advantage of it. I wish you well and good luck.
Orgasms seal me shut personally, OP just definitely needs to go to the doctor.
Kick him out. He's done-zo. Irredeemable. And why was your sister ok with him sitting so close to her? That's sketchy. But it. Is. Over. Please.
Have you tried actually talking to HER about this?
Do you have friends or family nearby that you can stay with for a few month intervals until you get your financials in order?
As someone with a looong time partner, I can’t imagine feeling the way you’re feeling and staying. No kisses?! No intimacy? Bad sex? Sneaky behaviour and hiding shit? No thank you.
You will be absolutely miserable forever if you stay, so make a plan and get it running.
Does he consume a lot of porn? Because that isn't normal behaviour ?
they don't care
How do you know this?
It could have started with revenge on boyfriend but now she is just enjoying being POS. Try talking about it with her, suggest therapy and healing. Ultimately it's your choice to stay if you can't find anyone better, but her behaviour is reflection on you if you tolerate it for too long.
Women are oppressed in some fields, and lifted up in others.
But it's not systematic, but rather a subconcious bias society has that creates these inequalities.
Women aren't less likely to get a job in stem, but they are more likely to be dismissed or harassed, which results in fewer women desiring such positions.
Women are also less likely to get a raise because they are not seen as leader figures. A confident woman is seen as bitch, a confident man is seen as a leader type. But it's not systematic like written in the rules, it all comes down to how society perceives men and women.
Shameful bump
you're young enough and find the kind of connection you want, and it would be entirely fair for you to end this marriage so you can try
I feel like she's probably in the parts of tik tok that talk about the letter Q a whole lot
i am currently in therapy but i haven’t dove too deep into this specific subject but i plan to at my next appointment:( i’m just scared of a professional response and help i think:(
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Totally. I wouldn’t like this communication style either for what it’s worth, but some ppl are like this.
My partner wasn’t great at texting when we first started dating. I asked him for a, b, and c later in the relationship and he was happy to do so, a total 180 flip.
NTA but I’ve dealt with similar. It took a lot of fights and such so I know how you feel. A lot of conversations too as to why it’s done. Came down to his dad did it to his mom. So he saw it growing up. And his mom “liked” it, although I think otherwise. Not really hurting but just fucking annoying. His parents also never fought in front of the kids, so I’m guessing she hated it but never said anything. He saw his parents in love and it was a loving joking thing between them. But never apologize for what you did. Make a big deal about it ever single time.
Use your words and ask him.
How is anyone here supposed to know why these things are in a drawer?
RemindMe! 5 years
Meaning, he grabs the next one? Why not leave it where he drinks it? If I drink coffee or tee trough day I keep using the same cup which stays on my desk or wherever I drop myself.
He doesn’t need to but if his dad is with his AP then he’s clearly not with his son is he?
Stop having sex with him if you aren't going to stop seeing him. He seems to have been asleep during sex ed and you need the reminder that plan b should never be used like this. Unless you are being prescribed something by your doctor after a serious conversation, you cannot throw those meds at your body repeatedly without doing some damage. Please, stop screwing this idiot. He doesn't respect you whatsoever.
Troll post?
You need to leave the relationship
It doesn’t matter because the story is bull shit anyway.
She doesn’t pump:( she only wants to breastfeed
Is it possible she's insecure about her looks and therefore doesn't want to have much sex? It could explain her looking at her body in that way and telling you to leave when you caught her?
Could you explain how I’m in the wrong? The first time I around he blew me off with no warning while I stayed up waiting on him. The second time around it he went to another city when we were supposed to hang out
…you're making over twice what many are. 3x, if that is American money.
…you're totally fine.
As someone dating someone from the Balkans (Bulgaria) right now, aggression is not the way to show you're “not a pussy”.
Yes, there is a pretty deep patriarchal culture in a lot of the Balkans, but you don't have to lean into that shit. I am trans, and as you can guess, that does not bode well for my assimilation into Balkan traditional masculinity. But why would I give a fuck when my partner loves me regardless?
The way to win that game is not to play. There is nothing more masculine than just doing your own thing, rather than getting insecure over goddamn hearsay.
Secondly, even if you were that worried…why the fuck did you not just ask your ex-partner to translate? At least verify the accusation before you go gun-ho getting into this dudes face.
As it is, you've clearly shot your bolt. Take the L, leave her be, and don't pull this kind of thing in your next relationship. I also recommend working on your own self-esteem, because lashing out this spectacularly over hearsay based in a culture you're not part of says to me that there may be a lot of insecurity on your part.
I like that way of thinking of it. Thank you so much. It means a lot
You’re young, it will happen. Good for you for standing up for yourself and having some self respect. Call this man’s bluff and let him leave, and keep that shiny spine and stay strong.
This comment section is INSANELY ANTI-CHOICE. I’m sorry you’re getting downvoted.
Dude just got sexually assaulted. There’s a time and place for advice, not when he’s trying to figure out what’s going on…
Thank you so much! I didn’t know how to start
You came (in) like a (home)wrecking ball.
Don't encourage cheating men. Also, a shirtless pic is not a big deal, there's a bunch of dudes posting those on instagram.
Everyone is on a different timeline. Maybe his is just slower than yours. Try talking to him outright instead of hinting around it. See what his thoughts on sex are before you work yourself up.
Is it worth questioning the relationship over this. God yes.
He's acting in a punishing way for SEVEN MONTHS bc he doesn't like something you're doing? That is nonsense and strikes me as narcissistic behavior. If you stay with him, it will only get worse.
This is a HER problem.
She needs to deal with her retrospective jealousy elsewhere.
Especially after just four months? Nah.
Cut the loss.
This is a HER problem.
She needs to deal with her retrospective jealousy elsewhere.
Especially after just four months? Nah.
Cut the loss.
Well if you make up a rumor like that and get someone in trouble or they harm themselves, you can be held responsible either through a defamation suit, libel, even in an extreme case manslaughter should the person off themself. So yeah making up something like that isn’t something the school would take lightly, especially considering they could be sued also.
Maybe I've got no idea what I'm talking about, but wouldn't it be better to go into it trying to figure out if she was instead of assuming? I feel like that assumption skews the tone discussion.
Your wife needs to grow up. You brother and his fiancé did nothing wrong. Everyone else’s life doesn’t stay on hold for someone else’s wedding. So what if people talked about their engagement at your wedding? Your wife allowed that to ruin her wedding day? This isn’t a family problem – this is your wife’s problem.
What kind of man agrees to allow his wife to have a relationship with another guy. What did you expect to happen. Play stupid games win stupid prizes. You won a wife who is a cheater. Shocking
You could call them needs and wants or terms and conditions it doesn’t matter. The only thing I would say is – aligned in goals and clear communication are vague you might clarify what you mean more specifically because men often need a clear message of what you mean. But I don’t think this is unreasonable. What I would have done before giving him this, I’d ask him to also create his own list so he doesn’t feel like you’re being his mom telling him what to do but instead that you are both equals
Just an update, I did talk with him and he was very understanding and apologized. Wasn’t defensive at all. He agreed that the shower texts were unnecessary but he said he just wanted to let her know that he wasn’t going to be responding for a bit. He did give a reason for what he did and I can see where he was coming from. I won’t get into it all it’s a bit odd lol but he agreed to stop that type of conversation.
My family is a drama?? How old are you? I don't think you're qualified to repond to this, thanks but no thanks.
He’s been “patient enough”? About read receipts??? Wtf? I literally just felt a cold chill reading that.
Run away, this guy is psycho.
It was your first time having sex so you’re obsessed and repeatedly posting about him? No. That’s creepy as hell and 4 days ago you were posting in the same tone about a completely different guy. You need help. It was a guy at the bar who doesn’t even know you
Some people can be acutely or chronically emotionally unavailable. Acute situations can be a bad day, important person passed away, or any temporary period. Chronic situations though are tougher because it can go on forever. Especially chronic depression. You know her better than most of us. If you know she is chronically depressed then the emotional unavailability could be a permanent thing. It is up to you if you want to stay in a relationship constantly feeling bad that it isn't healthy or have emotional availability. Or you end it for good and move on. Emotional availability is a key component of a long term relationship. Just like trust, communication, compatibility, etc. You will never have a proper relationship if any key component is missing. You can bute force for a short period but it will never be as good as a normal relationship.
He put his hand over you because he felt he couldn’t get a word in, however, that’s extremely dismissive, demeaning, and controlling. Like someone else said, like trying to stop a dog from barking.
I’d have made him walk home. A two year relationship isn’t worth that disrespect and embarrassment.
Thank you very much. This is worth me thinking about.
She needs to abort for the greater good. Jesus…
USA, but no company will do this.
Do not tell her right now!!!!! These people could get you in serious danger! When you move you can tell her. Keep everything and then tell him you are cutting him off.
Send it to her when you are in the clear
Only time will tell, as well as how willing you are to change your behavior in times of stress. I'm betting she feels deeply betrayed, trust is a difficult thing to earn, and an easy thing to lose.
We aren't defined by how we deal with the good times, but rather how we deal with bad times. Work on yourself, you will end up a better person for it. You could try to contact her, but I suggest an attitude of contriteness on your part. A good first line could be “I understand how much I have hurt you, and I feel absolutely terrible that I treated you that way. I'm sure you dont want to see me, but I'd like to try to make it up to and express my extreme regret.” If shes done with you then you have to accept it and leave her be. The loss felt could be a good motivator to change behaviors.
That's great advice, thank you. I agree it gets confusing and splitting this up makes it easier to discuss.
Men gossip more than women? Any evidence to back that up? Cause it sounds like crap
Well i understand your pounts. I asked her to marry me becouse she is in fact kind, smart, funny, really good with kids and pets, she is hard working, motivating me every day, she always tell me how clever and handy i am, we are great team outside bed really.
I mean everything u said is relevant but on the other hand i dont want to throw everything away bcouse of sex. I dont need pornstart who is lazy etc. I am just trying to coupe with my insecurities.
I think your gf just told you what she really feels about your relationship. The liquor just loosened up her tongue. If it were me I would cut her loose and let her find her Mr. Right.
You brother is your best friend and he knows what kind of value system you have. He chose to do something diametrically opposed to your moral code in your presence. If he valued you or his gf he wouldn’t have cheated and he surely wouldn’t have given you this type of turmoil.
Me too.
Thank you
She's insecure of a picture?!?!? Man, buy an ever bigger one and frame and mount it professionally.
Thanks for the reply. There are some…less savory…places on this website, so I do understand what you mean.
Or they could apologize to him for expecting him to put on a company face with a massive headache and no warning whatsoever. It's not his fault he had a rough day AND his wife couldn't be bothered to give him any heads up at all.
I am going to honest here and it may not be what you want to hear. If you are not comfortable talking to him about it, then you two are not ready to have it yet. I am an American, but my parents made sex and other things an open topic. Any question my sister or I had, we knew we could ask our parents and they would give us the best age appropriate answer. I know this isn't much of a norm, but my parents always stressed that if I wasn't ready to talk about it with the guy I was with, I wasn't ready emotionally to do it with him. I am also very shy, introverted, an am also on anxiety medications, so I understand how daunting this conversation seems, but trust me, if you have the conversations before, it will be better.
Get a lawyer. DO NOT speak to her again. Record anything.
It has been years, this will be considered child abandonment. But, I wonder if she went for any custody if the courts would make her pay past & present child support.
Could be a stolen account. For me it would be a sit-down to talk and then probably a breakup.
I’d give it to the cops. This is stalking & 99% sure placing a tracker on someone without permission is illegal
We’re both pretty self-sufficient, I cover some costs and she covers others. Also to clarify, she did admit to her wrongdoing, but she seemed pretty dismissive of it, and put more of an emphasis on her being drunk and my comment rather than the punch itself. And about the age gap, it doesn’t really concern me, I feel like we are already on equal footing.
Great, you're also one of the people who have trouble understanding that people may advocate for other people's rights to do what they want without doing the thing themselves, what a surprise. No, I don't vape nor smoke, but that's completely irrelevant here.
The reality is the vast majority of people do unhealthy things for entertainment. No one forces you to be in a relationship with someone who smokes, vapes, drinks alcohol, marijuana, or whatever else, but if you restrict yourself to only people who don't do any of these things, you're not gonna have a wide range of options. That's all there is to it.
There's a saying that is as true today as it was when I was a kid. What you think first is how you were raised to be, what you think next is who you learned to be. In the parents case, they were obviously raised homophobic, but the fact they've never shown that to your brother does show that they at least aren't the sort who go on the attack constantly.
Sadly you never unlearn prejudices; you only learn how bad and wrong they are and therefore to act differently than you were taught, but the prejudice itself still simmers under the surface. Tangent here: the aim, of course, is to keep that hidden away and raise your kids without it so that they aren't as poisoned as you were.
So no, it's not an appropriate reaction by any measure. However, if they are homophobic to that degree, and they were caught off guard, it is kind of an understandable one. That your husband's first reaction was that she should have warned them up front says something along the lines of he “knows what they're like and how they'd react and that it might have been different with that prior warning”.
As for the rest of it, I'll preface this by saying I wasn't there and am just going on your description of events. Honestly, it sounds like he leapt to his parents defence when you were rightly horrified at their actions, and then rolled himself up in a little ball of their hatred during the fight while trying to defend an honour they stamped on with that hate.
I'd talk to him and tell him calmly that this is an important issue for you and ask him to talk to you calmly about it. No accusations, no name calling, no telling him how wrong they clearly are, and no apologies expected from either side. You go in expecting that and you'll get one person maybe acquiescing to another to end the argument. Instead, go in trying to understand the position he actually holds, where he stands compared to his parents, and his actual thoughts and feelings on LGBTQ+ people. And while you won't be telling him this part, you do need to fully understand those feelings and how he's going to handle them if only because it's going to determine whether this is someone worth staying with.
And if he is and he was caught up in the heat of the moment, maybe make your place a safe space for his sister to bring her girlfriend. Because, quite frankly, he owes her that.
Does she make $$ doing this?
Maybe she's thinking of going that way to make $$.
If you can't accept this, you shouldn't be dating her. You have every right to not feel good about it, but yeah, it's also her choice to do what she wants to do.
Can you get access to your husband's phone without him being aware? When he's sleeping or in the shower, etc? Open his social media accounts and see if she turns up on his. He may have preemtively blocked her on your phone, or she may have blocked you herself, so you can't see the two of them interacting live. Very common and straight outta the cheater's playbook. This is all sketchy af.
Look for hidden messaging apps as well. Be sure and check his battery usage. It will show you what apps are being used and how much they're draining the battery (the more the app is used the more it drains the battery). Some cheating apps are hidden away or look like something else. So, if it says he's using something like, the calculator or compass excessively, and you know there'd be no reason for that, open up that app and check it out.
She may be involved with your husband and lying to you about it, or she may have shot him down and wants nothing to do with him/you. Who knows at this point. What I do know is cheaters lie, a lot. Then they lie some more. She may be a willing accomplice and the OW (other woman). If she is she certainly wasn't going to admit that to you when you knocked on her door.
Exactly!!!!!! I mean, how intrusive! Coming to your home and knocking on your door.
I would have pretended not to know.either of them.
You’re the side piece
Op…he's using you for sex.
There is no relationship here or intermingling of lives and hearts. He's just somehow convinced you that you're just his bedwarmer.
If you want to be fuckbuddies with no links or emotions. This is cool.
If you actually want to call someone your bf, then you need to move on and move up.
You need to value your wants and needs and VIP: cultivate the selfworth to not let people treat you like this.
Casual sex can be fun if both are on the same page.
But at this point – You're not a late night dick blacket to keep in the dark. Don't let someone treat you like this, if this is not also your aim.
Oh come on. You knew you had that sex tape. And you knew it probably isn’t the brightest idea to keep that shit on your phone. You fucked up. Stick with that. Unless you want to really get your gf rip roaring bullshit, then by all means tell her you didn’t know it was you and your ex. Jisses
this was literally what popped into my head when i read the title
Let’s not forget posh wanks, it is nice from time to time
I do have a really big plush toy… but he’s the one that gave it to me ? haha irony.
Seems like it, or perhaps worse, the old “dating someone just to make someone else jealous” ploy. But to be fair, someone in their 50's should have long since figured out that dating coworkers is beyond self destructive. It sucks but she's a ditz. Just be professional and don't go for coworkers anymore.
I wouldn’t even talk to her. I would make it obvious too.
FWIW, after dating a muslim girl in college for close to 2 years, she ended up breaking up with me because her parents didnt accept the fact that i was not a muslim. Heartbreaking at the time, but i moved on. And that was with us actually being in the same country. Do you have a chance? Maybe if you move to Egypt and convert to Islam, “cover up.” What are the odds of you doing that?
Thank you!