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Date: October 25, 2022
Don't dwell on what you have done. Keep working on who you are. Failing every time is OK as long as you keep trying. A success after a thousand failures is still a success.
I've been fooling around for quite a few months before something switches on, and I've also been with someone who's quite attached to me and kept it going for a while, and I'm in great terms with both of them, as long as you are open and upfront with what you are feeling and what's going on, I don't see a problem. If you know you will never feel anything for him maybe it's another story. In any case you need to talk to him about what you want and feel, and let him choose too. If you make it look like anything that it isn't it is manipulating and lying, and from that nothing good comes.
…why the hell are you with this man…?
Its funny that an Asian is looking down on someone for being short when they are naturally short. It's like no self awareness.
I don't think you can get what you want without making him feel bad. He should feel bad because he's not being a good partner.
You can say, “I need X, Y, and Z from you.”
You can remind him that he promised to do X and hasn't been doing it.
You can possibly talk to the therapist and see if the therapist can help him with strategies so he makes and meets commitments.
In my experience, most therapists suggest depressed people try to stay active and develop a routine. They do NOT recommend sleeping all day.
Sounds like you will be having to parent him and that's also exhausting.
Sorry this is happening to you but there is no easy answer here.
Please know – from one add human to another. You’re not bad or wrong. You seem to actually care A lot! You will find a way to solve this problem! I believe in you!!! I don’t know what I would do if I were you – but I see you and you’re not alone in the challenge of getting the new info it’s own room in your brain that you want to go decorate with all those details… if you know what I mean?
Your marriage is over
YOU are a huge red flag.
What's the cost on those?
Is like asking for a favour. In this case, he is imposing his will on her, being dependent on her will. If she goes with it, he feels happy. If she won't, he should feel neutral. But he isn't, and is even starting to feel the urge, as he says, to cheat on her.
Better just casually try to talk to her about it and see whats going on. Last thing she should feel is guilt-tripped to sleep with him
So, I was always friendly with my exes. Years roll on, I get older. Facebook becomes a Thing, so suddenly maybe they are a bit more present in my life, and I end up working for one of them. No romance, and I worked from home so we didn't much interact.
I eventually get engaged. My new husband is fine with all of the other exes, except for this one. Eventually he asked me to stop working for him, unfriend, and block. I did it, I felt my marriage was more important, but it all really bothered me.
Looking back, this was an early red flag about my husband's controlling behavior. It took years for it all to fully come out. And we're divorced now. So if there's no reason to think he is cheating, why not just trust him?
Yes. That’s exactly what you do. This is no longer a social matter, it is a criminal matter.
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I’m definitely going to give him a chance since he hasn’t done me wrong in any way and genuinely seems like an amazing guy, but I think I’m gonna tread lightly if that makes sense. Happy to hear your relationship ended up being the real deal :))
Yes, I'd agree with slowing it down.
I met my GF off tinder. One thing that made it great was that we have a TON of people we know in common. It was like finding something safe/familiar in a shit show(tinder). Quite the blessing tbh.
When you have a great connection like that, its better to take things slow and build it up. It would be a disappointing for things to fail because you two approached your connection in a way that caused the other to stumble.
You're here on reddit asking if you moved to fast… that shows for yourself that you're rushing it. If you keep this up, it might result in too much for you to handle.
You don't need to see each-other less. Just avoid adding weight to your connection when its not ready. Keep it light. Keep getting to know each-other. Have direction. Build it piece by piece. Work on your foundation. Once the foundation is stable and strong, then you can add more weight because your foundation will be strong enough to hold it.
Relationships are not a race. They're a home. And homes take time to build, they require planning, materials, foundation, furnishing… it's a process that you don't want to rush.
You two are incredibly fresh, you have a lot to unpack about each-other.
I will always advocate for taking things slow.
Who gets a better grade on an exam? The kid that rushes it and hands it in first? Or the kid who took their time, double checked all their answers and handed it in last? The reletionship is your exam.
Plain and simple: You need to work at this at a pace that feels right for you.
Sorry, but if voting Republican is a problem for you, and if you ACTUALLY let people like this poster influence your thinking, you should break up with him. For his sake.
Seriously. One of my friends has olive skin, giant brown eyes and dark hair, her brother is platinum blonde with blue eyes and a pink and white completion. They're definately biological siblings.
Genetics is wild.
You are both shallow as fuck. There is nothing wrong with having a personal preference with regards to looks….he can have a preference with looks just like you can. Height, skin tone, weight, hair, whats the difference? A personal reference doesn't mean that person is racist. Your bf needs more tact, and you need to stop being a feminist. Best of luck to you both!
we don't do any relationship-y things for
He makes you and your daughter dinner, picks hey up and drops her off at school, has a key to your place, have been intimate for 6 years. I think you're in denial. If might not be a traditional relationship, but it's a relationship nonetheless.
If it quacks like a duck…
I am the one who believes all the survivors kind irrespective of their gender and sexuality. I won’t say the same about you though.
Bro if you don’t dump his ass right now…. I just…. How tf do these trashy men find these amazing girls
One thing is for certain DO NOT HAVE KIDS WITH THIS MAN.
Listen to your instincts. Always.
Wait so is he flirting with these women or is he just being nice?
OP, he drugged your child. He has hit you. You need to get out IMMEDIATELY, and you need to see an attorney first, then they can advise you on getting your child tested for drugs, etc.—where are you located, OP? Depending on where you are, you may not need your husband’s consent to record him. If you can get him to admit in a text that he drugged your son though, that could be admissible in court, depending on what your attorney says. You could always send voice memos, if that’s a way around it, but, I’m not a lawyer, and this is not legal advice. This man is an abuser, he clearly doesn’t see anything wrong with drugging children, so he doesn’t need custody.
Most importantly: Is there anywhere safe that you can go? Can you safely and quietly pack your things and get out, without him suspecting anything? You need to get somewhere safe so you can file police reports, and possibly a restraining order if he escalates.
Go on 50 first dates. See if anything jogs her memory.
Probably do need to do that. Honestly I can only imagine the fight that's gonna cause. Wouldn't fix the root issue bc her mom or someone keeps giving her cash.
My ex ruined her friends wedding to the point I walked out and they were going to call the police. After walking down the street she ran after me and pulled me back while crying apologies into the road and in front of a car… managed to save her from being run over. Weeks later it’s all my fault and the bride and grooms fault honestly should have broke up that night since she did say she was dumping me but nope like an idiot I stuck around for a few more years. Hope her BF doesn’t make my mistake
The main reason childhood relationships don't tend to last forever is because it's just up to chance whether both partners' life goals end up to be in sync once they're adults. It's unlikely your boyfriend really has much of a clue what city life is like. But if he's mentally ill and his family has created a safe environment that he can handle it would be a bad idea for him to leave that. In the long run it's probably better that he contend with a breakup than to accompany you to the city then have a complete meltdown (and have to return home anyway). So explain to him that you care deeply about him but that you can't on-line a happy life without ever having experienced anything outside of your home town. If he's unable to adjust to this enlist his family to help with the process. He may need to move in with family for a while if he can't afford the apartment. It seems his family is well aware of his special needs and have already worked to craft a life for him. So they can take on this challenge too.
Lol…her per murdered one kitten, and she is furious with you for not letting the dog murder the rest. She is not a girlfriend she is a Witch, intent on sacrificing the innocent to appease her blood lust.
The fact that she is mad at you for protecting the rest tells you all you need to know about this one…
You do whatever it takes…
You had a great man and you damaged him. You need to make that right. You need to dig deep and treat him with the love and beauty that he gave you unselfishly for years. You need to tell your parents to back the f-off if they ever get in the way again. You need to make this right.
It’s great you are going to Therapy…keep going…but he needs to be repaired as well…for the first year of so of his sons life….you STOLE that from him. That will never come back. So you need to make sure you heal yourself and you are part of his healing as well.
I was that poor guy…I met a wonderful lady…and she hurt me too. She has spent the last decade fixing her mistake, and I have no idea if I ever will be whole again…but you need to own this and do everything to fight for your family. That’s what you do…
Just know it’s a long road…and even me at 10 years out, i still have issues. I hope you do this…I hope you succeed…I just want to let you know this dont be solved in months, nor a few years. This will be solved hopefully one day, but you need to work on it every single day.
Good luck, I honestly wish you the best.
You think he snubbed me because he wasn’t interested or to play games?
I think she does try quite a lot to restrict herself. I found out she wasn’t drunk yesterday, she had just one beer and that was it. My problem is the whole “literally no communication” and ignoring part.
Thanks for the reply! Yeah of course there's plenty more I find attractive about her like her intelligence and wicked sense of humor. And you're right, I need to get her away from the screen or social media at least. I'll ask her tomorrow if she wants to go for a drive out of town and take our dog on a trail walk. She usually really enjoys that. Thanks and take care.
What advice do you have reddit?
I'm sorry.
I think you should end the relationship now. You're going to get people telling you you're transphobic. You're not transphobic. You're a heterosexual guy that wants to date women, not men. You want children. I'm guessing that can't happen if your partner has full SRS. It's not transphobic to not want to date a gender you're not attracted to.
Break up now.
Find the most gossipy family members and tell them the wedding is off (you don't have to say why). The standard wording (if you've already issued STDs or invites) is “the wedding of x and Y, scheduled for [place, date] will no longer take place”.
If anyone asks, say that you and they discovered irreconcilable differences in future life plans.
She kept her communications with him hidden: Red Flag
She deleted chats between them: Red flag
They bond over tragic events at work: Red flag
These are the only red flags I see, you are right to think something is going on, trust your gut! It seems like this is an emotional affair, there is a high probability she is confiding in him with her day to day troubles. If this is happening it needs to stop and boundaries need to be put in place. No more texting after work hours, no more rides home, and no more deleted texts.
You might as well put it out all on the table and ask her point blank if she is still committed to the marriage. She might not even realize how sketchy and shitty her behaviors are because she is justifying them to herself. BUT, if you were to act the same way with a woman at work, would she be as understanding?
32f here chiming in. Let her leave. She's controlling and toxic. You don't want to be with her. Go to the game and have a good time.
Oh I agree! I’m a firm believer that most men should not get married until they are 30. My husband was 3& when we got married and had our first kid and he was 42 when we had our second. He got married the first time at 21 and shocker, it was a huge mistake.
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If I were in OP's shoes I'd hire a PI first. If he's doing anything illegal it's better to know before getting a divorce.
sorry but if it is anything illegal it is better not to know at all. If they are doing anything illegal and they find out that his wife has sent a PI to follow them usually is the scenario that you want to avoid.
if the story is real though, which I doubt because it is just a very well written creative writing exercise.
It sounds like she was very very very uncomfortable about it and didn't enjoy it and wanted to tell you because on some level she felt guilt or shake about it, even though she did nothing wrong and would never have known. She really fucking cares about you, man.
Those with penises can randomly cum, so can those with vaginas. It's just a thing that can happen. And it means nothing. It wasn't “this man” that made her cum. It was a massage. A random reaction. Could have been a wrinkled old hag. Means nothing and says nothing about anyone.
I completely understand your reaction. Sexual intimacy between you and your partner is very personal and we stock our pride and ego in the exclusivity and sexual e joyment of our partner, so when it feels like that's been broken, it can hurt, even when there's no logical reason to feel that way. But when we put our ego aside and evaluate the situation we see that your wife to be didn't cheat, didn't desire this to happen, and left immediately. She was victim to forces beyond anyone's control. It's more actually described as an embarrassing story and moment for her than it saying ANYTHING about your sexual abilities or her sexual desires.
I don't believe she's told them so they shouldn't know. They've all been raised as sibling and treated each other as siblings. They're all really close and I've honestly been surprised how well they all got along.
Sorry man, but you're just not the one. She's not interested in making it work because she doesn't care if it doesn't. She also put it on you saying YOUR issues, not our issues. I'd let her go.
I think a good old sit down about specifics… he needs to spell it out for you as if you need every single thought and feeling spelled out. He needs to say out loud what the issues he has are. He needs to be transparent.
You’re trying, he should too.
Also you’re correct, he IS making his personal problem your issue. On top of that.. anyone who would forbid you to do something is also got bad habits. The fact that he even thinks he can just say “no you aren’t allowed to do this” and you then in turn do not do it, that’s a problem.
With great compassion, this is far above Reddit’s pay grade. Please seek professional advice. I wish you freedom and happiness, and hope you find that soon.
Consider this a win, someone that freakin controlling has no place in anyones life. He went through your phone, and somehow you're the one violating trust and boundaries? Take your stuff and RUN!
I don’t really know if I should stay in my dorm or go back to my father’s. Both are relatively close to uni so idk. He knows both addresses, but I haven’t heard anything back so idk. I genuinely am just lost rn
I don't get it – they asked their partner to date your gf and you didn't care?
Please do not get married at 19 years old.
I mean, if you divorce you are not responsible for her.
You will split what you need to split according to your country's laws.
There isn't much of a choice, you either do this or keep being trapped in your current situation. What do you want to do?
Or she could just use condoms. They work just as well as any form of BC and they actually protect against STDs.
Not only would you feel justified but the police might also. Cause it's a crime.
Well, be careful. While an earnest conversation with him may seem reasonable he is also someone that may just lack the self awareness to really acknowledge what he does and says. In that sense what he says matters less than how he treats you, and based on your list of concerns you have to factor them higher than his assessment of whether he is a good partner or not [he will probably insist he is, after all].
I’m sorry but this is the stupidest fucking take I’ve seen in the thread. She intentionally never mentioned it because she knew it would cause issues. Deliberately avoiding all mention of something that you know would likely negatively affect you is textbook lying by omission.
She doesn’t just get to go “Yeah, but you never asked if I fucked your brother!” and weasel out of it. This isn’t a courtroom where she can handwave the issue away on a technicality with no hurt feelings. He has a right to feel betrayed that she felt zero compulsion to mention fucking his brother, and unfortunately for her his feelings do matter.
Lmaooo I can’t ?
Imagine being a women in a early 30s and not giving a concrete answer instead gaslighting a teenager.
she sounds very unstable and potentially dangerous. you’re better off ending this relationship.
She honestly sounds like a toxic bullet you can still dodge.
OP, if no one in the family has a problem with it, then it seems fine to me. So what if your mom will technically be your sister in law? It’s not like that will change your relationship with her – she’ll still be your mom. I say go for it!
how are you even asking the question you two are literally violently incompatible break up and move the fuck on
I agree, lol I dont want to seem like an asshole but I feel like me and my brother arr better suited to rent that home