Keep in mind in the original post there is no mention of the husband accusing her of doing anything sexual with her brother. I'd imagine she would absolutely have written that if it was the case.
I personally don’t think its ever fair to leave chores wise to one single person. My partner and I have our system that we discussed before hand and agreed to both of us. We do change sometimes here and there, but we talk about it and make it fair for both us.
If you don’t agree with the current system in place. You go to your partner and talk to him about it. He makes more so I do feel like who will contribute to what needs to be equitable.
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Okay sooo…… I (24f) am seeing this new guy (28m). Casually. He’s lovely and sweet, just a very new thing.
Last night he stayed over at mine. All was fine until he bolted out of bed at about 4am, half waking me up. He went to the bathroom. After a minute or so, I smelled something funny, turned on the light to investigate and found his side of the bed and my duvet COVERED in diarrhoea.
I bolted out of bed and began to strip it, trying not to gag. The guy spent about half an hour in the bathroom, and came back to a pile of smelly sheets in the corner, which I promptly asked him to deal with (I.e.) chuck out. He was extremely embarrassed and kept apologising, saying he’ll replace my sheets etc. I wasn’t angry, I was just kind of stunned (it was 5am) and kept saying ‘it’s fine, it’s fine’. He promptly left, taking my ruined sheets with him (I assumed he chucked them out somewhere). Mattress was fine, thank god for mattress protectors.
I haven’t heard from him all day. I don’t know wether to text him making a joke/ asking how he is, as it was evidently an accident, or just assume I’m never going to hear from him again and just send him the bill for new sheets.
He could not make it any clearer if he made a study of it, that he will NOT always be there for you. He sounds like a narcissist with how he is trying to force an enormous source of comfort and unconditional love out of your life to be replaced solely, and also very conditionally, by … him.
If this isn’t the easiest damn choice ever, then maybe you really shouldn’t have gotten the puppy. It deserves someone who is capable of returning its unconditional love.
First off: r/teenagers is a mess, but I understand your point.
Second: her parents got married at 18, both her grandparents at 18. My parents at 21, and my grandparents at 19. I say this not to justify our situation and choice but because I have plenty of examples in my life of young people making the decision to get married and staying with that partner for their lives. Out of all of those couples only one grandparent has ever gotten a divorce.
Third: we have suspended the remainder of the wedding planning till after we finish this semester of school
My FIL is kind of like your grandma and tries to dictate what my daughters (20 and 21) do. At Easter, he started telling my oldest one what not to do and she just looked at him and said, “cope.” Then she did what she was going to do anyway. Like no, dude, you don't get to treat people like mindless automatons. Your grandma needs a dose of reality because getting married young and having some kind of trad wife bullshit thrust upon you isn't for everyone. Start mentioning you don't know if you'll ever have kids and watch how suddenly marriage isn't her focus so much as kids are. Lol.
If you are in a relationship …for the serious topics, wouldn’t you talk with your partner/spouse about it? I everything I share to my gfs, they tell their husbands.
Just ghost him and move in.
Keep in mind in the original post there is no mention of the husband accusing her of doing anything sexual with her brother. I'd imagine she would absolutely have written that if it was the case.
I personally don’t think its ever fair to leave chores wise to one single person. My partner and I have our system that we discussed before hand and agreed to both of us. We do change sometimes here and there, but we talk about it and make it fair for both us.
If you don’t agree with the current system in place. You go to your partner and talk to him about it. He makes more so I do feel like who will contribute to what needs to be equitable.
I hope both children were tested…
Ok, so first of all… love languages are pseudoscience…. They’re not real.
Um what?
I'm 32F and just…ew. No offense to you at all OP, but 32 is lightyears away from 19. Stay within your age range for the best experience
screaming…don't do it!
OP is trying TOO HOT to defend this “friend” of hers.
This will end up being a perfect example of no good deed going unpunished.
OP:
You know what she's like, you defend her and allow her to use her early traumas as excuses, when you should be encouraging her to GET THERAPY.
You're about to be paid back for your naivete in spades.
OP is proving that you can't save people from their own gullibility.
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Okay sooo…… I (24f) am seeing this new guy (28m). Casually. He’s lovely and sweet, just a very new thing.
Last night he stayed over at mine. All was fine until he bolted out of bed at about 4am, half waking me up. He went to the bathroom. After a minute or so, I smelled something funny, turned on the light to investigate and found his side of the bed and my duvet COVERED in diarrhoea.
I bolted out of bed and began to strip it, trying not to gag. The guy spent about half an hour in the bathroom, and came back to a pile of smelly sheets in the corner, which I promptly asked him to deal with (I.e.) chuck out. He was extremely embarrassed and kept apologising, saying he’ll replace my sheets etc. I wasn’t angry, I was just kind of stunned (it was 5am) and kept saying ‘it’s fine, it’s fine’. He promptly left, taking my ruined sheets with him (I assumed he chucked them out somewhere). Mattress was fine, thank god for mattress protectors.
I haven’t heard from him all day. I don’t know wether to text him making a joke/ asking how he is, as it was evidently an accident, or just assume I’m never going to hear from him again and just send him the bill for new sheets.
Thoughts?
A boundary is a boundary. You expressed yourself, and he should respect that.
The dog will always be there for you.
He could not make it any clearer if he made a study of it, that he will NOT always be there for you. He sounds like a narcissist with how he is trying to force an enormous source of comfort and unconditional love out of your life to be replaced solely, and also very conditionally, by … him.
If this isn’t the easiest damn choice ever, then maybe you really shouldn’t have gotten the puppy. It deserves someone who is capable of returning its unconditional love.
Sadly you can’t just ask your boss not to come in sick. But luckily you can find a new job
I dont want to hurt her and she knows where i online and my schedule
Can't you just ask him ? I swear most of the problem people have here on reddit could be solved by a single question.
First off: r/teenagers is a mess, but I understand your point.
Second: her parents got married at 18, both her grandparents at 18. My parents at 21, and my grandparents at 19. I say this not to justify our situation and choice but because I have plenty of examples in my life of young people making the decision to get married and staying with that partner for their lives. Out of all of those couples only one grandparent has ever gotten a divorce.
Third: we have suspended the remainder of the wedding planning till after we finish this semester of school
My FIL is kind of like your grandma and tries to dictate what my daughters (20 and 21) do. At Easter, he started telling my oldest one what not to do and she just looked at him and said, “cope.” Then she did what she was going to do anyway. Like no, dude, you don't get to treat people like mindless automatons. Your grandma needs a dose of reality because getting married young and having some kind of trad wife bullshit thrust upon you isn't for everyone. Start mentioning you don't know if you'll ever have kids and watch how suddenly marriage isn't her focus so much as kids are. Lol.
If you are in a relationship …for the serious topics, wouldn’t you talk with your partner/spouse about it? I everything I share to my gfs, they tell their husbands.