Okay, well you still have to break the silence. Maybe schedule a FaceTime. You need to hash it out and get back to normal. The longer you go without contact the worse it will be.
I’d send a message right now. “Hey I really want to talk to you”
I'm not gonna say if it's a delabreaker or not because that's highly subjective, but what I will say is: 20 pounds is not a lot. That is not a very big body difference. So… what happens when your body changes a bit for other reasons? Reasons you have no control over?
You will get wrinkles, your skin will become saggy, your hair will thin. This happens to us all, time knows no mercy. What about pregnancy? Or if you get sick and that changes your body negatively? But even if you never get pregnant or sick, you will get old.
If your bf can't feel attraction to you just because your body changed a bit*, then your relationship has an expiration date even if you lose the extra pounds.
*I say a bit because common. 20 pounds is not you entering morbid obesity. At least in my opinion, that's a noticeable but small change – so it seems you missing his Absolutely Prefered Body Type even by just a bit is enough for him to lose interest completely. He's not a person to get old with. Body change… not to be crude, but if he can only get it up for someone who is in Peak Preferred Condition and not a bit off, then he should date a cardboard cutout, not a real person.
You okay bud?
Okay, well you still have to break the silence. Maybe schedule a FaceTime. You need to hash it out and get back to normal. The longer you go without contact the worse it will be.
I’d send a message right now. “Hey I really want to talk to you”
Okay so you threw a chair, your daughter threw a milkshake and your boyfriend grabbed your daughter by the shirt after the milkshake.
All of you throwing red flags.
I'm not gonna say if it's a delabreaker or not because that's highly subjective, but what I will say is: 20 pounds is not a lot. That is not a very big body difference. So… what happens when your body changes a bit for other reasons? Reasons you have no control over?
You will get wrinkles, your skin will become saggy, your hair will thin. This happens to us all, time knows no mercy. What about pregnancy? Or if you get sick and that changes your body negatively? But even if you never get pregnant or sick, you will get old.
If your bf can't feel attraction to you just because your body changed a bit*, then your relationship has an expiration date even if you lose the extra pounds.
*I say a bit because common. 20 pounds is not you entering morbid obesity. At least in my opinion, that's a noticeable but small change – so it seems you missing his Absolutely Prefered Body Type even by just a bit is enough for him to lose interest completely. He's not a person to get old with. Body change… not to be crude, but if he can only get it up for someone who is in Peak Preferred Condition and not a bit off, then he should date a cardboard cutout, not a real person.