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Date: October 12, 2022
Hi friend,
There could be so many reasons you're feeling this way – I'm not a therapist and I don't know the full details, so I'm not even going to speculate.
What I do have to offer is – honor your own feelings. You've already done the naked work of NOTICING the dynamic and being clear about it in your own head. When you're around her, anxiety / avoidance feelings arise.
Can you… let that be ok? There's a woman I don't know well in my friend group who I have strong avoidance feelings toward. She isn't doing anything wrong / bad – for whatever reason, the pitch of her voice, the things that she says, are like nails on a chalkboard for me. There's no logical reason for it. I can judge myself for it. I can make myself feel guilty for it. I can think all sorts of thoughts about it, make it a huge deal… but that just adds stress to my life. Right now I'm trying to just acknowledge when it happens and shrug it off.
She's around. Oh, there's my feeling of avoidance. Oh, there's the feeling of strong irritation. Deep breath. Let it go. It is just is what it is.
From there, it's just about deciding what to do. How do I want to behave? To what extent do I want to avoid her? But it's a lot easier if I make that decision without having a whole bunch of distracting thoughts / feelings that make it a bigger deal than it needs to be.
I hope this is helpful, and am wishing you the best. Also, if your friends start making this harder, tell them to knock it off.
I see you said that he won’t kiss you, but have you tried kissing him? How does he reacts to when you initiate the physical stuff ?
The part where her decisions have consequences.