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Date: December 12, 2022
I would recommend that stop helping her immediately especially since you mentioned she doubled down when asked to apologize for you to help her again. You need to remain firm on this. She’ll struggle, she’ll complain, she’ll likely get overwhelmed and cuss you out. Do nothing. She doesn’t appreciate what you did for her nor does she deserve your help. You might even suggest she hires help. She seems to make plenty and can hire her own help.
If she does come back hat in hand after getting overwhelmed, set a hot boundary that 1. She never speaks to you like that again. 2. I’d suggest that you limit the amount of time you spend working on her. You say that you are no longer working the same schedule as before and you work for her 2 nights a week MAX and that it’s a courtesy meaning if you want a break, you take one. You work nude and deserve to relax.
Additionally if she wants more than that, I wouldn’t be opposed to requesting payment for your help or suggesting she hire someone. She’s making 11k a month, she can afford to hire her own help.
If you decide that this is the end, consult a lawyer this week.
Yeah she knows she has you wrapped around her little finger like a good little pet doormat. She has zero respect for you and basically sees you as her beta doormat. Prove her wrong and kick her to the curb permanently. She has proven she is trash and can not be trusted. Don’t be the nice guy weakling she thinks you are.
He’s abusing your animals. He’s mean and has no empathy for 2 living creatures. He’s an absolute monster and you need to get away from him before he amps up his abuse on you too.
Literally
Trust me we men don’t care how your body looks we love all body types
I grew up in Stanislaus county California. I don't know how it compares to Humboldt, but things are pretty bad there too. A friend of a friend just barely avoided being kidnapped while shopping, the only reason she was saved is because her classmate saw her being carried away after she was drugged. A girl from my home town was kidnapped and murdered in some kind of cult ritual. I myself have been stalked, and assaulted, and just generally harrassed starting at 9 years old. I know the world is scary, I know my parents want me to be safe. But just because the world sucks that doesn't mean I should be too afraid to on-line in it, especially when it comes to something important. And it would just be nice if my parents didn't treat me like I'm oblivious to the danger altogether. I know I'm relatively young, but I'm not a child, and I've done a decent enough job protecting myself up to this point.
*any red flags beside the saved selfie of another woman in chat ?
Really hope you leave this woman. Once physical abuse starts it only ESCALATES. you need to fight for custody of your baby. You are being abused and you better pray to all the deities that she never ends up abusing your child. The fact that she tries to control your shower time is insane and then for her to “take hours long baths” wtf??? I don’t care if she is PPD. She is treating you like garbage. It’s time to split. It’s not healthy to raise a baby in that atmosphere.
This is unhelpful. She already knows the body count so that ship has sailed—the question is why is this causing her discomfort and how can she deal with these feelings—looking for advice from someone who might’ve gone thru something similar.
Then work on that part where she's not ready to date, talk to her about a potential future.
this is probably terrible advice tbh if I were you I’d get an abortion, tell them it’s a miscarriage, then break up
I married my HS sweetheart 11.5 years ago.
Agree
☝️☝️☝️ All this So well put. Never date someone who needs convincing.
She wants to fuck your bf and is tryna make moves in front of you. Ain’t no salvaging that lol
Just ask her out. Be honest. Its better for you in the long run
I'm not “on a high horse”. This is a sub for advice. I'm giving it. If you cannot be committed when you enter a committed monogamous relationship, you shouldn't be in one. End of story. It might upset you, but it's the truth. It doesn't matter if it's your first real one. You're a grown adult, and you obviously know better. I never said “don't get into anymore relationships” either, I said “don't get into anymore monogamous relationships”.
Cheating isn't just a mistake. And, no, no one knows that you “obviously” aren't going to cheat again, especially because statistically, cheaters do cheat again after doing it once. The point that I'm making is that you obviously have a pattern of cheating, especially when your wants aren't fulfilled, so if you look elsewhere when sex isn't good, instead of cheating, simply don't enter a monogamous relationship, and get into a consensual open one instead so that you don't utterly destroy someone.
Agree on the last few sentences tho. You both need to get away from each other. I'd recommend therapy, and TRULY working on yourself. You obviously can't expect her to work on herself tho because the only person that you can control is you, so focus on you being better.
Definitely fart on his head
No /s
I'm not sure how huge your gf's vagina is, but she's got a big mouth
One of the best ways you can handle it is by humanizing sex workers. Remind him that it's all a job, that it's just a fantasy, and that by searching free sites, sex workers aren't making money for the content they create. There's not much to do other than that. It's porn and he's curious. But if you don't make him feel ashamed for these curiosities, and help him understand that sex workers are people don't a job, it'll be so much better in the long run. He won't feel like he can't tell you things, and will have respect for others.
I mean she still likes plushies….she definitely is immature …but he BF knows that as well, and because he knows that he probably thinks he can get away with being an asshole.
A lot of people (of both genders) have their diet and lifestyle catch up with them weight wise in their early to mid 20s. It’s a fairly normal time of life to increase weight.
I’m afraid that i won’t find another girl who i really love for at least some years and i pass my 20’s being alone and single and not experiencing love That’s why i can’t let her go in addition to loving her truly
this
I’m not saying everyone should want me back. I want the person I’m seeing to be on the same page as me. I just don’t need anyone’s judgment. Just say I’m not for you and move on.
On other words they don't want to give but expect to receive. They are selfish in bed. Don't expect to get your sexual needs met by anyone with this mind set. However expect to met theirs because only theirs matters.
Your concerns about how he might act are valid, but mind games ARE manipulative. Imagine if he had a secret test too, where if you didn’t notice his haircut on the second date it meant that you will never notice him because he has a friend whose ex never paid attention to him. It’s just like ??? Why play games. Just ask.
Instead of playing mind games, just ask “What do you think about guys who don’t let their gfs wear what they want when they go out?” And see what he says. Open a conversation about the importance of independence within a relationship and how you want to be treated.
Be an adult!
You need to be there for him so he knows he can come to you when he needs you. You can tell him you're going for him but not for the marriage because you'll always be there for him. Not going will alienate you from him.
You better get a vasectomy or you’ll be getting a big surprise, life finds a way, just like Jurassic park
Now that you know this, it’s your “fault” too if it happens
I'd say run TF away because they're a lying liar who lies and is only waiting for the wedding fuss to settle down before lying some more about how they are so, soooo unhappy, how it was all a big mistake and can you please comfort them with some sex?
Assuming you still love her, you could certainly TRY spending less time with her first, rather than jumping to breaking things off, but I agree she seems pretty co-dependent at this point. You should absolutely not feel guilty for wanting to do things by yourself, and you shouldn’t let her use such tactics into spending more time with her when that’s not what you want to do. “Honey I’m trying to have an important conversation with you about the fact that I need more alone time, and I think you’ve become unhealthily emotionally dependent on me. If you’re going to stonewall me and continue this behavior, then this relationship just isn’t going to work out. Would you like to discuss actual solutions to this issue, or should we just end things amicably and go our separate ways?”
maybe try not marrying a creep?
They have a twin bond, whilst that’s hot on you they can’t help it either. Maybe have a conversation with them and let them know how it makes you feel. Let them know you would like to build a better relationship with them. You can always go no contact down the track if it doesn’t improve.
If that doesn’t work maybe some therapy will help you to come to terms with the loss of your relationship. Good luck with everything.
No worries. The feeling of jealousy is painful, but more often than not it is a feeling, not intuition, and the only ones in control of our feelings are ourselves.
I've spent years working on this, and still struggle sometimes. Having feelings isn't wrong, or bad. But shifting the blame for those feelings, because they are aimed at someone, or that we're scared, is. We need to take acountability for our feelings to be able to grow and work through them
Female here in the future try “hey I would like to get to know you better what music are you currently enjoying?” Next time you see them ask them what book they enjoyed last if they are still receptive get to coffee good luck ?
Your wife said you can have sex with anybody just dont tell her, you immediately ask should you tell her. Well, no.
The fact that you know it sounds wrong seems to show the area between the understanding. Your wife is ok with you having meaningless sex but you want to have sex with somebody and in your gut you know it will be meaningful. Idk dude
Your wife said you can have sex with anybody just dont tell her, you immediately ask should you tell her. Well, no.
The fact that you know it sounds wrong seems to show the area between the understanding. Your wife is ok with you having meaningless sex but you want to have sex with somebody and in your gut you know it will be meaningful. Idk dude
I immediately tell her she isn't making sense because I constantly tell her I like touching her nose and how much I like her nose
That’s defensiveness on your part, she’s telling you how she feels (though not very nicely), and instead of trying to understand her, you invalidate her and say she doesn’t make sense. So she IS incorrect in that you aren’t saying it’s an over reaction but you are invalidating her which is what saying she’s overreacting does as well, so she’s not incorrect either.
What would have been a better approach would be to ask her why did it bother her. Maybe she’s sensitive about her nose like your weight, maybe she was having an off day, who knows but by saying she doesn’t make sense instead of asking her about it to try to make sense of it, you put the blame on her for the misunderstanding rather than work together to figure it out. And now you’re just ignoring her. If you’re that close, seems a petty thing to lose a friendship over, but your funeral I guess.
Can a neighbor help?
i have a friend who had multiple abortions (zero judgement. it's health care).
and then, in a chaotic relationship with someone she really loved, she got pregnant. and she immediately knew she would be carrying to term if she was able.
her partner flipped the fuck out, became even worse than before, she moved across the country, her partner's rights were terminated after a really shitty two years (that was kept 100% away from her child)
her kid is the best kid! bright, funny, smart, interesting – 10yrs old and already one of the coolest people i know. my friend is the best single parent, always prioritizing and supporting her kid.
was the situation ideal? nope! but that pregnancy was different than the others before and she did what she had to do.
She is 100% going to get raped/fucked by dudebro in her tent on the camping trip.
family first . pay your bills food electric whatever and save for it.
sometimes hobbies haven’t wait .. i’d be pissed too ..
I don't think you mean to be awful and I'm glad you are looking at how to adjust your thinking.
That said, I hope you will look over what you wrote and give some thought to how heavily self-focused much of it is. You are not a party wronged by the abortion, but your feelings seem to lean that direction.
Especially the idea that she is “impure” or “tarnished.” You may well have had such concepts pounded into your head as a child and young adult, and I'm glad you realize they are wrong, but now you need to actively challenge them. Perhaps it would be helpful to spend some time considering that these thoughts come from a sense of ownership and entitlement. Not consciously, but something a bit deeper.
All of that said, I also think you need to zoom out from the issue of the abortion and take a broader look at your relationship. Regardless of the cause if she has a tendency to emotional outbursts that go above and beyond some tears and a need for comfort, that will present a problem in your relationship. You imply that these outbursts would potentially harm your hypothetical future children, so I am assuming they are severe, prolonged, and I volve harmful behavior.
Likewise, if she habitually shuts you out, behaves in ways that make you feel you did something wrong, and allows you to believe it's your fault for extended periods of time, that's a problem, regardless of the trauma that originated the behavior.
You're absolutely right that there are some problems here but your focus is misdirected. She needs to get help and so do you. If local therapists can't be trusted, then consider an on-line option, at least to start.
Oh I am definitely stealing this.
I think any adult would be horrified and angry if a friend had been assaulted. That takes a minute to process before sharing it with your girlfriend. I think her reaction is very immature and self centered. You did talk to her about it but needed to process first. All you can do is reassure her. Her reaction is a bit much.
My point is that these arguments for these absurd boundaries(You can't be alone with someone you have the potential to be attracted to) falls apart immediately once queer people enter the picture. As another commenter said, they and their partner are bi- so if they followed such silly ideas then they would be left with no one to hang out with.
The idea that you can't trust your partner with someone of the opposite sex is insane. To me it is indicative that either A: You don't trust them and thus shouldn't be with them or B: You are not ready for a relationship with such insecurities.
I’m not ready to be a dad and I did what I was supposed to to avoid it. I don’t want to start parenthood like this
I was going to tell him because I thought it'd be the best thing to do, me saying, “Hey, I'm going to xyz today” just so he knew. Idk. I guess I still feel like he needs to know where I am. I don't want to come off as disrespectful.
See, that's a start. Getting a girl won't heal your mental health.
Getting a girl that young even more so.
Girls that age don't make for a stable relationship. Even more so with an age gap that big, resulting in different view on life and experience.
And trust me, I know better than anyone how difficult it is to meet new people once you hit 20. All we can do Is keep trying.
Ps: you can try supplementing lions mane mushroom. Trying magic mushrooms. Ruling out all vitamin deficiencies. Ketamine therapy.
Plenty avenues outside of stand alone therapy.
Either way, good luck, but you better keep your hands away from that girl.
Right? Like, you can discriminate your husband and doesn't care what his feels. Where's the part that “it's your body you have every right of it”? Isn't it consider as a body shaming?
he's so incredibly kind, unconditional and generous to me
he's always had a problem about lying
Lol.
He sounds lovely i'm sure.
What do I do? I want to be with him, I don't want to break up
Then enjoy being with a liar and having doubts all the time.
Theres nothing you can do, you can't make him stop lying.
I guess the advice im looking for is that i want to know how fucked up the age gap is? Like have other people been in this situation before and has it worked it out? Or do these situations always end badly
Honestly, if you want the relationship to work long term, she has to fully understand she was your abuser for nine months, and you were going to divorce her. If she doesn't, then in her mind this will be your fault, and since we already know she has abusive tendencies, they're likely to resurface to some degree with her resentment. She also DESERVES to know what she did to you. She should be carrying the burden of fixing this relationship and doing what she needs to so that you feel safe. You should not be carrying the burden of keeping her from escalating back to abuse. If she puts any of this on you, I think you should still walk out the door, because she's not going to give you the relationship you want if she thinks she has something to be angry at you about when she should be blaming her own abusive actions.
It sounds like you didn't care about his opinion for the bathroom decorations…lol.
Maybe. How would you break it to her though? Whats a way to phrase it that i would like her to consider her health more or lose me?
He’s not insecure. He’s controlling. No amount of support from you will make him ‘better’. He will just regard it as a green light to treat you horribly.
Married at 21 and to be a homemaker is a tragedy. You plan to make home for the next 60 years.
Get a job even part time, gain your self respect. I say this as a man
Bro is throwing shit and wishing death on a baby, I'm not saying to toss him out but if any of that shit hit the wife or baby he'd be in juvenile
Well. Like I suggested, good luck making sense of them. Scientists are only starting f to figure out what the brain does at night. I wouldn’t worry to much about it.
The relationships are confusing to me. But, you should do what is best for you. Maybe you could do mother's day a day early for a Mom that you want to celebrate with.
Yeah, I guess.
I understand OP breaking up with her, but I feel bad for her too. This is life-ruining stuff.
“At least my degree carries value”! Holy shit OP!
Honey, you were violently assaulted/r*ped. Please file a police report so they have SOMETHING on him, and please utilize any and every person you know to get out of this relationship and as far away as possible
Haha definitely not the greatest haircut i’ve ever seen! But ya I agree – thank you!
You're welcome, hope it helps!
This post shows immaturity and insecurity that feels a bit high school. Either way, I think you’re both in the wrong.
Him for treating you like an afterthought and not being forthright.
You for being passive aggressive with the lyrics instead of communicating with him directly. Normally I would mention how problematic it is to expect your partner to account for their time apart from you (I will often ask my partner for alone time and do absolutely nothing useful), but I wonder if this anxiety from you has been exacerbated by his apathy and withdrawal.
He is obviously a crappy partner and you deserve better. Work on your self-esteem and feel better
This post shows immaturity and insecurity that feels a bit high school. Either way, I think you’re both in the wrong.
Him for treating you like an afterthought and not being forthright.
You for being passive aggressive with the lyrics instead of communicating with him directly. Normally I would mention how problematic it is to expect your partner to account for their time apart from you (I will often ask my partner for alone time and do absolutely nothing useful), but I wonder if this anxiety from you has been exacerbated by his apathy and withdrawal.
He is obviously a crappy partner and you deserve better. Work on your self-esteem and feel better
but I feel so insecure when I see one because I immediately feel lesser than.
A quick note that even if his type is accurate to what you have in your head, it doesn't weigh on the value you should have for yourself.
Your father has obviously not healed from his failed marriage. It will be very difficult to rebuild a relationship with him, because he now feels defensive toward you. If you really want one, you need to recognize these facts. Start slowly and make it positive and affirming, not telling him how he hurt your feelings. This is a tall order and you might not want to do it.
Can I have some advice?
Tell him that seeing the conversations makes you insecure. Then tell him it's ok to not show you the conversations.
Moving is stressful and it seems like you are putting a lot of pressure on him to go,go,go!
He may not know everything DIY. He may be learning as he goes and that’s mentally taxing. Are you attempting any projects yourself or are you standing around being insistent? Is there any reason this can’t get done in a slower pace? Is he able to decide what work he does or are you choosing for him?
All that to say, you’re annoyed, but are you being annoying?
Oh hunny. Please walk away from him and don't look back. You deserve better than that. Anyone belittling you is not worth your time. Be honest with yourself about your good qualities as well as your not so good qualities. It helps you hold on to your power in these situations. You don't have to wonder if he's right or not because you will already know.
Well, I have a unique perspective on this. It turns out most people have herpes. Most people have some form of it by the time they’re 50. How do I know this? I was recently heart transplanted and my donor had cmv. About 90% of people have cmv, but I didn’t. Cmv is a form of herpes. Don’t worry too much about it. You probably don’t have it. What’s worrisome is that you were not informed about the herpes prior to intercourse. Now she was probably embarrassed by it. But it’s a big red flag. That part for me would be the deal breaker.
If he keeps extending his stay and doesn’t invite you to visit isn’t a good sign for a healthy relationship. I’m really sorry.
You always 100% tell your sexual partner of any STDs you may have before having sex with them. That’s being respectful and responsible.
I’d move on. You broke up for a reason. It doesn’t sound like your relationship would survive even more complex issues. It doesn’t have to be a big blow up fight at the end, you’re simply incompatible in every important aspect
You are correct. It is not about you making him choose. If you have to force him to sanction his friend for her disrespect to you, his partner, than what is the point? If someone disrespects your partner he disrespects you as well. This is how it should be treated. Well, only if you value your partner's feelings mire than that of the perpetrator…
Surprises work best when you already know what to do.
That is an extremely flimsy lie he told you. There is no way he can switch off his OCD, and any attempt to tell you is probably just a lie/excuse to get you to put up with the fact he hasn’t managed his mental health at all.
That’s a decision only you can make.
The main thing is that you should stop expecting to be able to have it both ways. He isn’t wrong for not finding them attractive. He’s just wrong for you. If you two break up due to this incompatibility, that’s okay.
I think the best thing you can do is break up with her
If you don't like that she goes clubbing that's fine it's your preference
Then find a girl that doesn't go
There are plenty of girls that don't go
A man secure man would voice their discomfort
If there are no changes they leave they don't try to change the person they leave to find someone more compatible
Then he can go home to Louisiana.
How long ago was it? How long have you guys been dating?
No, here is why. He will respond why don’t you trust me? Instead join those activities. Honestly really engage with her. Let your bf know it a boundary for you. That both of you not have plutonic dates with the opposite sex. Unless they are related to him or a bestie that he has never dated or fucked a casual friend makes you uncomfortable.
Seems, she likes to stay at home all day and do nothing. To me is a lazy ass. She is manipulating him. She is not worth keeping around, dump her.
If you go again in a fight and she says about break up, say I want to break up, yes. And watch her. Tell her you do not need a woman like her.