[update] Overheard a conversation between my(F24) child’s father(M32) and his partner(F31)…I don’t know whether to address it or not.

link to the original: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/16chno9/overheard_a_conversation_between_myf24_childs/

Hellooo, 2 1/2 weeks ago I posted about overhearing a conversation between my son’s father and his fiancee. Context: My son’s father and his fiancee were having a *surprise* engagement party during his family reunion. Because they were going to be gone for 4 days and I have never been without my son for more than a day, he offered that I could come (this was before I knew about the engagement party). Upon picking up my son one day, I overheard his fiancee saying that it would be embarrassing having me there and I don’t always need to be around.

I just wanted to mention, that I was not mad in the slightest bit at what she said! I noticed that a lot of comments read my post in a way that I was offended by what she said, but I wasn’t. I stated in the og post that the reason of me wanting to bring it up was to know if there was anything I was doing that felt like I was intruding. I took it upon myself to spend significantly less time over there, and she ended up asking me why I no longer come and sit down. Although I didn’t mention the fact I overheard , we talked about my reasoning behind it, and she said I'm always welcome to come in and stay when I'm picking him up . Cordial convo, like I said, she is a really nice woman.

I also ended up letting my son go for the 4 days. I was a little wary about it at first, but this is my son’s dad. My son is with him and his fiancee almost every day, so I stayed back while the 3 of them went. They sent so many pictures, their party looked so beautiful, and all of them looked amazing. I was worried about how my son would be at the night, but he slept great. That was really good to hear.

I on the other hand went outtt during the weekend. I had him at 23, so prior to that, I was pretty much doing what young adults do. Ever since I had my son, my friends have been begging me to just go out, but I’m constantly declining because in the back of my mind it’s “If I’m not at work, I have to be with my son”. Since my son was with his father, my friends and I went on a weekend trip and it was really fun. We went dancing, had drinks, and went to a couple restaurants. I did miss my son A LOT, but it also showed me that I can take breathers every once in a while. I feel as if everything worked out. Thanks to all that helped!