He's acting like an immature jerk… Yeah you don't like one thing he does. It hurts. You told him to stop. For him to withdraw completely from the relationship is just over the top. His ego must be very fragile. I would stop reaching out to him. If he wants to grow up and talk maturely about it, he can call you.
You can’t force somebody to be a loving and responsible partner. Judging by your post it seems to me like you already know what you want, however I understand your fear, but trust me when you do leave him and some time has gone by, you will feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. i dated a girl with borderline personality disorder for 2 years, during the first year I felt like this person was going to be my life partner, a couple months in her true colors started showing. She never liked to get out of her room, constantly depressed, messy room, messy life, wouldn’t cook, wouldn’t clean , wouldn’t take care of their body. I took care of them, cooked food for them, would encourage them to take showers with me etc. After a while i felt like I was a caretaker more than a boyfriend, during one of our fights it finally clicked to me that I’m not leaving her simply because of my fear of being alone and abandonment itself. You however have dogs and a home together so it may be a lot harder than my previous situation, but trust me as soon as I left that girl I cried like a baby for almost a whole year. After that year went by I realized how much better I was off without this person. i finally had the time to engage in the hobbies and became the person I wanted to be. This however depends on your age as well, but never settle for somebody that’s dead weight or just holding you back in living a happy and fulfilling life , life is too short to get stuck with an unwilling person.
i’d think her being underage maaaaay have something to do with it
He's acting like an immature jerk… Yeah you don't like one thing he does. It hurts. You told him to stop. For him to withdraw completely from the relationship is just over the top. His ego must be very fragile. I would stop reaching out to him. If he wants to grow up and talk maturely about it, he can call you.
You can’t force somebody to be a loving and responsible partner. Judging by your post it seems to me like you already know what you want, however I understand your fear, but trust me when you do leave him and some time has gone by, you will feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. i dated a girl with borderline personality disorder for 2 years, during the first year I felt like this person was going to be my life partner, a couple months in her true colors started showing. She never liked to get out of her room, constantly depressed, messy room, messy life, wouldn’t cook, wouldn’t clean , wouldn’t take care of their body. I took care of them, cooked food for them, would encourage them to take showers with me etc. After a while i felt like I was a caretaker more than a boyfriend, during one of our fights it finally clicked to me that I’m not leaving her simply because of my fear of being alone and abandonment itself. You however have dogs and a home together so it may be a lot harder than my previous situation, but trust me as soon as I left that girl I cried like a baby for almost a whole year. After that year went by I realized how much better I was off without this person. i finally had the time to engage in the hobbies and became the person I wanted to be. This however depends on your age as well, but never settle for somebody that’s dead weight or just holding you back in living a happy and fulfilling life , life is too short to get stuck with an unwilling person.