I think for your 40th birthday you should gift yourself with a divorce cause damn your husband don't even think you are valuable enough put effort into a basic ass dinner date.
You probably have to get past the idea of starting your life with him. That’s on hold and you better be 100% sure it will resume because it’s year apart with questionable contact.
It would be probably better to break and have him contact you when he’s ready. It removes any worry or commitment.
That said; you need a plan with what’s going to occupy your time for a year. Since you are currently engaged, you will have to avoid romantic distractions. What will be your focuses? How will you get your social non romantic support? Figure it out.
I know it's naked now, but you're young and still learning life. You'll be fine. You'll learn a lot for your next relationship. Someone else who will treat you right will come along (even if she's still two or three relationships down the road). And just remember, every minute you're spending thinking if her life now is one minute less focusing on making your life happy.
It'll get better. That's about the only thing I can promise you.
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I'm so, so sorry.
He's a f*cking disgusting perv!!
I think for your 40th birthday you should gift yourself with a divorce cause damn your husband don't even think you are valuable enough put effort into a basic ass dinner date.
You probably have to get past the idea of starting your life with him. That’s on hold and you better be 100% sure it will resume because it’s year apart with questionable contact.
It would be probably better to break and have him contact you when he’s ready. It removes any worry or commitment.
That said; you need a plan with what’s going to occupy your time for a year. Since you are currently engaged, you will have to avoid romantic distractions. What will be your focuses? How will you get your social non romantic support? Figure it out.
I know it's naked now, but you're young and still learning life. You'll be fine. You'll learn a lot for your next relationship. Someone else who will treat you right will come along (even if she's still two or three relationships down the road). And just remember, every minute you're spending thinking if her life now is one minute less focusing on making your life happy.
It'll get better. That's about the only thing I can promise you.