I read thru a ton of this. If I missed it, OP, why didn’t you ask or she share pictures on her phone? I don’t social but I share stuff face to face to people I’m interested in. None of this makes sense? Have you had a house tour? Seen his room?
You are probably overthinking. If you’re pretty, it’s common for guys not to ask you out due to their assumptions that you’re taken or not interested. For this reason I’d be a little more obviously flirtatious if I was into someone. (Read “Why Men Love Bitches” for some great tips on this)
I know a lot of girls your age (you’re a bit younger than I am), who are in a similar situation. Many more young people today did not have romantic relationships in high school, but focused more on friends and activities. This was true of my siblings and many friends, but even more true for their kids (your age now).
I think a big part of that is younger women realizing they don’t need a man or relationship for security, so it has become less of a priority over time for youth and parents to push towards romantic endeavors. As a result they simply have fewer, but more likely much higher quality relationships when they do occur.
This is not a malformation of anything, and not a reflection of your desirability. It’s just simply true that many people your age feel similarly. People date later, get married later, if at all, and have kids later nowadays, so try not to compare yourself to an old fashioned idea of what “should” be happening with you. It’s changing even now!
You’re barely getting started, don’t think for a moment you are “behind” in anything. You likely haven’t been used up, damaged, or learned many very hot lessons usually found in those very young and heated relationships – you’ve managed to dodge a lot of bullets I’d say!
You sound clear headed and are asking good questions. I would turn those questions towards your friends and ask for their honesty. “Would you date me – what causes you to lean one way or the other?” ask them to help set you up for a date or two to get the ball rolling and get some practice.
I read thru a ton of this. If I missed it, OP, why didn’t you ask or she share pictures on her phone? I don’t social but I share stuff face to face to people I’m interested in. None of this makes sense? Have you had a house tour? Seen his room?
You are probably overthinking. If you’re pretty, it’s common for guys not to ask you out due to their assumptions that you’re taken or not interested. For this reason I’d be a little more obviously flirtatious if I was into someone. (Read “Why Men Love Bitches” for some great tips on this)
I know a lot of girls your age (you’re a bit younger than I am), who are in a similar situation. Many more young people today did not have romantic relationships in high school, but focused more on friends and activities. This was true of my siblings and many friends, but even more true for their kids (your age now).
I think a big part of that is younger women realizing they don’t need a man or relationship for security, so it has become less of a priority over time for youth and parents to push towards romantic endeavors. As a result they simply have fewer, but more likely much higher quality relationships when they do occur.
This is not a malformation of anything, and not a reflection of your desirability. It’s just simply true that many people your age feel similarly. People date later, get married later, if at all, and have kids later nowadays, so try not to compare yourself to an old fashioned idea of what “should” be happening with you. It’s changing even now!
You’re barely getting started, don’t think for a moment you are “behind” in anything. You likely haven’t been used up, damaged, or learned many very hot lessons usually found in those very young and heated relationships – you’ve managed to dodge a lot of bullets I’d say!
You sound clear headed and are asking good questions. I would turn those questions towards your friends and ask for their honesty. “Would you date me – what causes you to lean one way or the other?” ask them to help set you up for a date or two to get the ball rolling and get some practice.
It sounds like you’re going to be fine to me. 🙂
talk with your wife.