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Definitely the comment of a secure, reasonable, mature man. Definitely.
If he isn’t capable of treating you as an equal then it’s not a good relationship to invest in.
He is literally treating her as an equal.
She chose this apartment. Her trying to burden him with her poor decision making makes her the bad partner, not him.
Handling firearms while upset IS worrying behavior. Potential indication of either homicidal or suicidal intent.
At first I thought it was just that he had guns and I was like “what’s the BFD?”
Pay attention to the people who watch it// sexualize their family members (especially their own kids) weirdooooosossssss
Why aren’t you first talking about marriage. You are going to uproot your life and move across country for a simple boyfriend. What if he dumps you? Now you have enriched his life by $30K! This is backwards thinking. If you get married and you both get a loan in both your names, this makes more sense. I would never ever spend so much money on a house to be shared with a boyfriend. You are putting way to much emphasis on a man who has not committed to you and is asking you to improve his house you have zero claim to.
The girl’s visa expires in March 2023. The guy’s deployment is until April 2024 and no idea where the next station would be
You are a piece of work!
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Absolutely! I also have problems with reading emotions of others, but crying is TOO obvious sign that something is wrong and the person extremely needs support. My boyfriend cried on my shoulder several times – it never felt awkward, quite the opposite: a moment of absolute trust and emotional closeness when a person is not afraid to be vulnerable with you.
BTW The Explosive Child by Ross Greene is a really good book that all of you could read.
It's really not an excuse to be abusive. Although I also wonder how many years has the daughter explained that loud tv sounds physically hurt her and has her mom not really taken it seriously…
I find it extremely odd that you haven't naturally come up in a conversation over an entire semester. Having friends of opposite sex – particularly in heavy schooling – is healthy, but those boundaries NEED to be in place. From the beginning.
End of semester drinks? Nothing abnormal about that. EXCEPT that you are not in the equation at all. I can understand her venting to her school friend about her school placements, because maybe he can relate? This is an experience THEY are sharing, so I wouldn't harp on that alone. Its the absence of you that makes that more painful I think.
I was in school while dating and then being engaged, and made many male friends. Not only were they aware of my partner, almost all of them have met him (and are friends now, rats! lol) and deeply respect our relationship as a couple, and my friendship with them. She is leaving opportunity open for temptation.. intentional or subconscious she is. She has to make those commitments and mind her side of the street otherwise, I would really consider if this is a person you want to marry.
I've been in the medical field for over 20 yrs. Nurses that aren't open, get hit on, etc a lot. She needs to be comfortable with this. I've had male MARRIED doctors hit on me, ask me out, even try to kiss me UNWARRANTED – knowing I was in a relationship, had never given any notice I was interested etc. BOUNDARIES ARE KEY. Best of luck.
I feel like it's not fair to my wife
Is this your longest relationship? How does it feel doing other intimate things like holding hands, undressing each other, making each other smile?
That's it, I'm convinced the majority of these are trolls. I give up. I'm going to spend an indeterminate amount of time coming up with my own shtick and post one.
Having said this my advice is divorce. No. I take it back. It's all trolls, nothing matters. My advice is to become the Rocketeer. You don't see him farting or taking shit from anyone for that matter.
Next thing you know he's going to ask OP to spend the holidays in motel.
Thank you, I am at the end of allowing myself to be part of this treatment
You know why you don't have a diagnosis… It's because you won't go see a doctor again.
Your husband already suspects. You don't think it's obvious why you might be avoiding an ancestry test?
If you were a woman and your bf slapped you in the face three times like she's had I would tell you to dump him as that slap will eventually escalate into more violence. So I am going to tell you to dump your gf, there are no excuses for hitting a partner, your gf is an abuser and it's going to get worse for you. As a parent of 2 boys one the same age as you and one 2 yrs older , I'd hate if either were in your situation and you need to end your relationship with her asap. Talk to your friends who witnessed her slapping you as I'm sure they'll agree it's abuse, if they don't they probably are one of the minority who think men can't be abused, they can and you are being abused. I really hope you get out of that relationship
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Lol you can sue for a dollar plus without his permission to use the card, it’s theft and he can have her charged with that. She needs to get away but she also needs to take into account that from her own words she has no proof but he does have things on her like the credit card theft.
Just remember that if you have kids, who are half of you, they’ll probably experience similar issues from their grandparents unless this is dealt with.
My advice isn't much help I'm afraid, I'd throw the whole man out.
He's clearly very insecure, and had attributed you having a toy to cheating?! (That one baffles me). Yet doesn't want to initiate, rebuffs your advances, and is willing to throw the relationship away over an unused object?
How exactly does he think it would work going forward? You'll online together in a confined space, hurt and resenting each other, eventually one of you may find someone else you're interested in and what? Bring them home?
Is this something he'll bring up and hold over you in future arguments?
If you think it can be salvaged, couples counselling. Honestly, it sounds like he needs some one on one with a therapist.
Some people just aren’t comfortable with having a best friend of the opposite sex ??♀️ if you see you a future with her, then you have a decision to make. Why is Amy determined it’s just the 2 of you.
I would love to be a fly on the wall for that double date.
Surgery means she has more health issues on top on endo. What was the surgery?
Also op! Either buy and store your own condoms(do NOT give her access to them) Stop having kids or get your balls fixed.
I'm not saying she will But it's surprisingly common for people to purposely sabotage their spouse just to get a kid
Also op! Either buy and store your own condoms(do NOT give her access to them) Stop having kids or get your balls fixed.
I'm not saying she will But it's surprisingly common for people to purposely sabotage their spouse just to get a kid
Take a few things into consideration:
99.9% of highschool relationships end before marriage.
If he loved you, he would want you to go to the school you'd be happiest at.
You're so young, explore the world and expose yourself to the school of your dreams.
A relationship is about more than feeling love for someone. It should also be about respect and treating each other well. If those things aren't there, love is not enough for a relationship to work.
Unless your wife has the option of staying home, working part-time, or is into fitness. The reality that she is going to stay small is slim to none. And think about all of your friends and family who are women. How many of them are fit by the time they hit 40? The older you get the harder it becomes to maintain being slim unless you have a VERY GOOD diet. And even then it's still a challenge for most women to maintain staying slim without diet + exercise.
We can't help you with this. You just need to get over yourself.
Honestly, I've heard of cheaters going to lengths of staying at a friend's house or even renting their own apartment to cheat in secret while they also have a home with their SO. It's wild
Some pet owners, in particular dog owners, think the whole world should have to do what their pet wants. Of course it’s okay to bring a dangerously unfriendly Rottweiler into the Apple Store! Of course you can just bring a non housebroken yorkie into someone’s carpeted home without asking! The people who think like this are extremely entitled and selfish people who are not worth dating.
I've met with some of his friends but not all of them. He doesn't meet up with his friends often – mostly because everyone is all around the world at the moment. I've met his whole family and his family friends and often joined them in social events
…. you are looking at paying $2000 over a year to make your boyfriend happy and YOU are the one paying for it?
This relationship, is NOT perfect. At all…
You're not doing your hair for you, clearly… You're doing it because he nagged you so much that you felt like you had to…. and you are spending a LOT of money to do it.
He wants you to be who he wants, but your opinions do not matter.
NO, no, no, no.
Yes it’s disrespectful but you kinda deserve it for being so patronising and condescending.
You couldn’t ask in a nicer tone? Because you sounded like you gave an order and thought please would somehow make that command okay. Instead of saying “can you do me a favour and please not turn the lights and tv on in the room while I’m napping, thanks”
Or you go to the guest room yourself to sleep if she was in the bedroom first?
And was it really a very hot earned nap? Does she get to nap whenever she wants to?
All this in two months of dating? Oh my…
oh thanks!
I’d be pissed off
I did like him, I was moved by how respectful and understanding he was to my boundaries in the beginning. He even made sure I studied before he did what he did. I know it sounds weird. I am still focused on my career and always will be because its less risky and more beneficial than dating. Thanks for the comment, hope I made it easier. to understand.
That’s actually bare minimum.
“Trust me on my word”…. Yeaaaaaaaaa, and a lot of people went around with STDs for months, because their partners said that BS to them. Get tested together. And, if you keep refusing I hope she ends the relationship. Just because the blisters “disappear” doesn’t mean you don’t have an STD.
The thing is, I have tried to stay out of it so neither one knows that the other has spoken to me. It's literally this valentine's thing that I am worried about. The rest I can handle. I'm buying somewhere near so we'll still be friends but not this intense.
He didn’t tell you before because he didn’t know if you’d still want to have sex. His “no matter how I do I fuck up” is bs. You deserved to have all the info up front.
Like if you were in a relationship, you came over and had sex, and then after sex he broke up with you that’d be a load of shit. I don’t think this is that different of a situation. He withheld info to get sex because he wasn’t sure if he’d get it if he disclosed.
Why are you micro-managing her hobby for her? This isn’t her job, it’s what she does for fun. It sounds like you are much more stressed over what people think of her than she is.
That’s not how relationships work.
You don’t insult another person and then “win people back” like leveling up in a video game.
Whether or not she deserved what you said, whether or not you deserve what she did, she’s done, mate. She told you so. Believe her.
When people get angry enough to break up with you, always believe them when they say they’re done.
The thing you have to understand about a narcissist is that they don't care. You are a commodity and a resource to be used, abused and when you don't act like a resource, thrown away.
She does not give one thought as to your feelings. She is only giving you just enough to keep you around to garner your resources. With that in mind, you should immediately leave. Get up. Your stuff leave. Block her on whatever platforms you have. But leave, right now.
You will never be more than a resource, you have to online with that. There is nothing more you can get from her then what she will give you now.
There's a lot of flak going around on this about her having a other partner, Im not so sure. It might just be a mismatch of expectations for what she wants your relationship to be and what you want.
I totally understand your desire for hangouts to not be so structured or deliberate, especially if you're the one planning them all the time. It's work and intention and thoughtfulness that isn't necessarily being returned. Is that one day a week a firm limit form her or is that just the pattern you're in right now? Have you asked to spend more time together, even just more dates in the same fashion, to get more of that casual intimacy? Has she ever planned dates for the both of you? Does she have a super demanding job that only gives her so much downtime?
You're a recovering alcoholic. She hasn't said that she loves you in months.
She's chatting with another dude and indulging him as he disrespects you and your relationship.
This is a ticking time bomb. Boundaries need to be established now.
No one says “I love you” twice, and makes plans to online together in a breakup letter…
No. It’s 6 months in, it should be the honeymoon stage and he’s pointing Percy in all sorts of other directions. He’s not ready or mature enough for a monogamous relationship, try and save yourself from his hurt.
No one wants to be in a relationship with someone who had to convince themselves to stay because they thought you weren’t good enough for them. It doesn’t matter that he never intended for you to know, the fact he feels this way is the problem. To make matters worse, he’s saying this to Paul from work. That is so beyond disrespectful. Only you can decide if you’re willing to go back to this relationship, but you have every right to be hurt by this, and it’s not your fault for reading his messages. If he felt so strongly about protecting your feelings, he never should have been running his mouth to Paul from work, let alone being stupid enough to leave the messages open and then asking you to use his laptop.
No one sleeps at his exs without her not being an ex. Why on earth would she accept him back after years separated, unless they haven't been separated at all.
I think they need to communicate more. He needs to explain himself more on why he doesn’t trust his friend. Also maybe they should all hang out together so he can see their energy
Mending a relationship is not possible until AFTER someone gets help. You have a lot of work to do on yourself before you can be in a safe and healthy relationship. She shouldn’t (and likely won’t) get back into a relationship with you before you’ve actually made real changes to your life. Right now you just feel a lot of regret, but you haven’t actually made any changes or improvements beyond making an appointment. She’s not letting you hurt or dragging your pain out, as you unfairly suggest. She’s trying to heal, and she can’t do that with you. You need to accept that you’re single for now and work on your own mental health and toxic behavior so that you have a chance at a healthy relationship in the future.
A man tried that request with me – I just gave him a look and said, “absolutely not.” And it was fine after that.
Thank you so much
For a moment lets forget all the other problems this relationship has.
What kind of answer do you expect when you ask someone a question like that? Like DUH of course he would have been with his ex if they hadn't broken up. What did she expect him to say – no bae, even if she hadn't cheated I would have magically fallen in love with you the moment that I saw you?
Again, you made your bed now lie in it. Your focus right now should be on your wife, not your “best friend”.
My guess slight hiccup is cheating. I think the hives are karma…
Mate there’s 25% higher risk of cancer.
I'm glad that you have been happy with some of these changes and things he’s taught you, but it all comes off as very controlling. Hygiene is important, yes. But there's no rule where you HAVE to shower every day and it HAS to be before bed. When he says it is your “responsibility as a woman” to smell good, it reads to me like he has a long list of your responsibilities to him as “his woman”. This is probably where the cultural part comes in. Maybe in his culture, the woman exists for the man and everything she does is to please him. So you have the decision whether you agree with him and want to become what he wants. Personally, I would listen to other women and my doctor and such other more legitimate sources if I was concerned with my hygiene. It’s not really his place to be an expert on what you need to do for yourself. That is your own bodily autonomy and it’s no one else’s decision. You are welcome to do what makes him happy, but it is your choice. If the controlling aspects are red flags to you, I would recommend looking into his culture and expectations for the future.
We are both CNAs in a psych hospital by. we work different units. While some nights can be hectic, most of the time we’re just there to monitor while people sleep. I can guarantee most nights I do not smell bad when I get home, and any time I’ve had a more active night or gotten stuff on my clothes, I shower as soon as I get home without prompting. I have no issues with body odor I’m not noticing.
I agree with you.
Definitely leave him. And in the worst case scenario that he did infect you with the std, do not stay with him out of fear. I was also unknowingly infected with an incurable std and I did not have any issues finding partners who were understanding and willing to be with me anyway. Matter of fact, not one person ever rejected me bc of it.
If I’m assuming correctly which std, it’s WAY more common than most realize and easily controlled with medication. Also- sue his ass if he did infect you. He deserves the worst after what he did to you. Wishing you peace and healing.
I think if it's one thing and you forgive her and you two work on your relationship. That's fine. We all make mistakes. But this has been over the course of years and multiple things and different things.
What is his reasoning for not wanting to try intercourse? Is he waiting until you are married?