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Date: October 26, 2022
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focus on school please
Can you explain why you might not like him anymore? Any specific actions or things he’s said to turn you off? That might help in determining what advice to give. If you can’t think of anything specific, I don’t see the harm in at least giving things a chance. Dating is the experimental stage to see if you’d be a good fit. You don’t have to commit yet. It’s not leading him on if you don’t even know for sure yourself. Plenty of people have a few dates before deciding this is or isn’t the right person for them.
I was in a deep depressive state for about 2 months straight after she ended it. I'm in a lot better state than I was then.
If you're paying attention, you'd see it's not working for them.
Get out. When you put gaming above someone who loves you, you're a fucking chump. Ditch the chump and start living
He’s a troll – none of this true.
He’s probably just using you to get some action but doesn’t want to commit. Take that how you will, find someone who will commit or continue being strung along.
He could also be keeping you around incase his plan A fails. Do you want to be someone’s plan B?
My advice? Tell him you don’t want to talk anymore and focus on improving yourself l, your life and building your future.
Good luck!
This must be model Specific. I just tried this and it didn’t work for me. However, in SETTINGS- GENERAL-iPHONE STORAGE there I an option for auto delete when storage is getting full.
Not necessarily. Me and my youngest sister are also (south) asian, but where I have long and thick body hair like my dad and elder sister, her hair is very sparse and light like my mothers. I'd say it really depends on genetics
Stranger things have happened. I'd more question their relationship over how fast they moved in together. Also how long they're waiting to get married. If they're engaged but waiting years that's cool, they're just expressing themselves. If they're trying to get married day she's probably just trying to stay with him legally which isn't invalid either. Remember the movie lol “marry me so I can date you”
The thing is with 3 kids your lives are so intertwined you can’t really get time apart. Unless they live in a big house and/or have family close by. Same holds for therapy. Money is also a factor. Going out on a limb and say that OP probably doesn’t have the financial means to do so or move out.
Dating has several levels, and it is purpose is to choose a mate. You can keep trying, or decide he is not the one for you. No judgments on your self. When you bump into someone you are compatible with, you will know.
Yeah no, it seems much more likely that he’s manipulative than it does that you “aren’t enough for him”
I know my comment will get buried but I was a dog trainer for a year and a half professional and I hate people like you. People like you should not get a dog. Dogs should not be crated all day at all end of the fucking story.
I don't care that it comes out when you're home. You're keeping your dog in a crate all day and a work day in the US is usually 8 hours plus travel time so maybe 8.5-9 hours.
How would you feel locked up in a crate unable to go to the bathroom for 8.5-9 hours 5 days a week? It's ridiculous. The fact that it's normalized is freaking ridiculous. You have an active dog and you take it out 30 minutes minimum? That's it. Ridiculous. Most people shouldn't own dogs unless they can take them out on a regular basis and train them properly. Clearly you haven't done that.
Training is an ongoing process. It doesn't stop because they know basic commands. It happens everyday with little situations. I've never crated my dogs while I'm at work. It's freaking cruel. You learn to train them how to be home alone without tearing up the house. You also don't be gone that long without seeing them.
Hell I used to miss my lunches everyday at work to take my pups out. I have a strict they are not to be left alone longer than 6 hours because it's cruel to make them hold it any longer.
My dogs do babe a crate to sleep in at night. That's their bed. But I trained them for that to be a safe place. If people are over if they don't want to deal with us humans then they can go there on their own and I can't mess with them. And it's only for sleeping at night. I tell them to go to bed and guess what. They gladly walk in their crate. Or if they want an undisturbed nap they go in their crate willingly.
That's how it should work. I have an Australian shepherd and they are high energy. The first 3 years of his life he was a menace. I could walk him for 5 hours total in a day and he'd still have energy to chew up the couch. But guess what. I worked on his separation anxiety and exercised him and trained him properly so now it's not an issue.
If you wouldn't want to be locked in a crate for 8+ hours a day with a lot of energy why is it okay to do it do hour dog?
First name Izza, last name Amann
He needs that test regardless of whether he wants to be a parent. If he doesn’t he’s financially stuck with that kid for 18 years regardless of whether it’s his.
And it’s not pessimistic to reconsider your options in this scenario. If you don’t want to be with a parent, that’s fully within your rights and in my opinion smart considering you’re 21. At bear minimum you should be taking a step back and reevaluating the situation
I’m sorry but this is such a shit take. She’s protecting herself, which is completely valid. She isn’t responsible for his actions. It’s easy to say she should tell people when you’re not the one risking your reputation, friendships, and safety.
Sounds like you never fully healed the hurt your original comment of “it’s your money” caused. You working and her staying home, she’s putting a LOT of trust in you to provide and share. That comment wasn’t just hurtful but also probably greatly shattered her trust in your ability to see you both as a team. And though it got better with time, it seems like it’s pretty raw to her still. I’d suggest googling how to sincerely apologize then use that to address this situation. Acknowledge that her hurt feelings now are probably a reflection of the broken trust from before and tell her you want to re-earn that trust back, not just hope the hurt fades with time. And then really do your best to repair and rebuild that trust. If that doesn’t work, might be time for couples therapy.
Hey I think you’ll be okay especially if you haven’t been together that long! Depending on your partner’s sexual history maybe they are anxious about going down and that is something they have to work up to. I think that many young people (myself included) thought that sex was the scary big deal when in actuality oral (for me) has been more intimate and intimidating. Like it’s kind of stressful to go down on somebody for the first time, the room might be quiet, there might be an expectation for noise/enthusiasm, you can get in your head. If your partner long term is averse to oral and you need it to be sexually fulfilled then that’s a good reason to end something with someone, but it may just take some time if you’re both young and esp if your partner has sensory issues! Good luck
Since you are already close, I think you should tell her, but do be prepared for her not reciprocating due to age difference. I’m 43 and if I were single I would not be interested in someone young enough to be my kid. If she does reciprocate, you're both legal adults and there's no issue legally, but be aware of societal challenges, like some people not accepting the relationship due to the age gap.
It will hurt but you are both so young. I got married as a teen and it didn't last past my early 20s as we simply were not the same people by the end of that time. Nor will you guys be.
I would say just be completely honest, you love her but you are both young and you feel you just want to be alone to learn about yourself and what you want from life
You summarized all the main important points, it would be foolish to let any of these things slide which is why I never will. I will never let a man who pushed me at the brink of suicide ever have the privilege to talk to me again and take advantage of my loving and giving nature. I know someone else out there will appreciate me and what I have to offer. I blocked him as soon as he told me to block the really nice person I was texting. There’s not a chance I would ever block the guy because he was actually there for me when I went to the hospital and was the reason I went ahead to get treated. A person who doesn’t love me has more compassion for me than someone who has been telling me he “loved me“ daily for hundreds of days
“I pushed the idea but I didn't force him.”
If you're going to make a troll post, don't be this stupid.
You guess? Come on, man. Stop thinking with your dick and wake up. Nice people are nice to everyone all the time.
Dump her.
She cheated on you. And the having sex in the next room part is just icing on the get rid of her cake.
If you want a little piece of the revenge pie, either have sex with her then dump her straight afterwards, or get on with one of her friends.
Besides some shit house on useless land. What has this man done for him? He had a job, this guy's turned around his business.
If I didn't have my daughters, her actions would be telling me to hit the road. I love wandering alone.
Or OP said or did something that made him suspicious of a baby trap when he wasn't before.
Financially speaking, this is free land. Five acres. That's nothing to sneeze at. Maybe compromise? He's spent years living in your hometown. You can compromise by living there and visiting your hometown occasionally. Then revisit making it a second home and possibly renting it then living somewhere else. You have your lives ahead of you. Good luck!
it isn’t anywhere near as bad as lying to your partner
The irony is people who lied will justify their behaviour: “I lied because I knew you’d get upset”
“When things are good…”. Yes, we get that. But you’re here on Reddit because things aren’t good enough to weld yourself to it for the rest of your life. If those times when things are good we’re enough you wouldn’t be here or in couples counseling either.
6 months. And thanks.
“Now I'm lying to her family about the two of them talking, and I don't feel good about that either.”
Everyone, literally everyone, she talked to said that she should ghost her and block her immediately. Her mother, sisters, friends, counselors, everyone told her that this person was bad for her, and that she shouldn't pursue it. My wife even admitted it herself, and I thought that'd be the end of it.
Stop lying for your wife. You're preventing her from feeling the consequences for her shitty choices which only allows her to keep spiraling further downward. You should treat her like an addict and that isn't being unkind. She is clearly in the grips of something that has the potential to destroy a lot of things in her life, including your marriage. If you wouldn't go out and buy an alcoholic booze, let her family know who is back in her life. They all love her, just like you, but they can't help her if you're lying to them.
I think your new partner needs to stay out of you and your ex's arrangements. If she doesn't like the way things are, she needs to wait until this issue resolves it's self in the summer. If she can't wait that long, then maybe this isn't the relationship for the two of you.
You have an unusual set up with your ex but it has worked for you two for this long and I think it is unfair of someone else to come and tell you what you should be doing.
Would I advise your GF to get into a financial/ownership with you right now? No, I would not advise her to do that. I would advise her to wait until the house is sold and then you would be free.
You and your ex have an arrangement that no one else should get into the middle of, especially out of the blue for your ex.
There’s a difference between you and her.
You like people with a similar history to yours because you can relate to them and you understand each other better. That’s perfectly fine and healthy.
She’s admitted to not having any trauma of her own, she doesn’t relate to them in the slightest.
I appreciate it, thanks for the support. It’s been making me sick to my stomach, we’ve been in love hardcore and to have this happen feels like a blow. I’ll definitely be following your advice.
With HIS shit
Does seem like a lot of overcompensating. She may have not crossed any lines but it may have passed her mind during the outing.
Yeah that’s what i’m so upset about is that it’s about more then him. His mom was an alcoholic and she took her own life so i’m just thinking that his dad might be the person that would acc get some sense knocked into him.
She is also bipolar
Think about it— what is more likely? That a close family member suddenly passed away on Valentine's Day, or that he was spending Valentine's Day with someone else?
The guy is an asshole. Send him back, and order something else
Get your money back. Then break up with her and block her. She's an adult, neat 30. She knew full well what she was doing. Who suggested this arrangement? If it was her, I'd not be surprised if this was premeditated as well.
I don't think anyone did anything wrong here.
I don't want to be with him if it takes that to get him to pay me back. So I guess I know what I need to do
You married too young.
Facts. Probably 100% true. And to answer your question, I'm not sure yet. I'm just having a problem with it because I find it unfair in a way. That he really never tries to get snazzed up for me. And either if he is dressed up or not my feelings and attraction don't change. So idk
Maybe that would be a good thing. She’d slap some sense into him.
A lot of mothers would be disgusted with their sons for treating their partner like this when she’s having a miscarriage.
I don’t know his mom. But consider tattling.
If you’re in the US, Mexico is like, what, a 4hr flight? He should be flying home even if it’s just for one day.
I guess it depends on whether you think you can truly get past it or not? What outcome are you looking for?
Obviously you'd be within your rights to break up. But you're here so maybe you don't want to do that. If she swore it would never happen again, would that be enough? Trust is nude to win back. What would you need from her? A genuine apology? To cut off those friends? For her to stop drinking?
I am NOT blaming you, but I saw in another comment that you didn't want to step in and ruin the fun even though you wanted to. You need to get comfortable advocating for yourself and truly have a think about what you're okay with and what you aren't.
You guys need to have a conversation, but first you need to decide what you want from that conversation. What's acceptable, what isn't, what boundaries need to be set, what behaviour changes do you need to see from her to trust that it will never happen again. Even if she agrees to all this, you need to do some introspection and ask yourself, even if she's perfect from now on, will you be genuinely okay with what happened and can you move on, or will it keep eating at you.
I hope it goes without saying that if she breaks these boundaries again after that, it's over.
…And that way of thinking is the reason why you’ll learn of your grandchildren’s births through Facebook.
You are so set on believing that because many years have gone by “it is best to just move on and live our lives as we can’t change the past”.
This only benefits you!
Your level of self involvement is a magnifying glass on your narcissism.
YOU have destroyed this young man’s family unit by choosing to be unfaithful.
YOU moved away after this emotionally explosive betrayal leaving him behind trying to find a way to pick up the broken pieces.
YOU moved away with your affair partner and her daughter starting a new family unit and making him feel like he wasn’t enough. (Then tried to brag about your happiness while not taking into account the effect it might have on him.)
Then the audacity to try to pin this on your ex-wife, that she would have been in his ear. Sir, even if she was, your actions spoke louder than your words.
The fact that an army of strangers on the internet can clearly see it and, yet, you are still in denial says a lot about you.
If you were so right, how is it that after 9 years they still want nothing to do with your AP? Here you are digging your heels in and keeping your hand in the sand.
How is that working out for you?
You are not even trying and it’s so sad because for 9 years, your son has. Heartbreakingly so.
I hope he will be able to find the help he needs that will lead him to understand that he doesn’t have to try to save this relationship.
He’s the child. You’re the parent. It was and is still your job.
You failed him in the past.
You are failing him now.
I pray that God removes the cataracts from your eyes for you to finally see the light.
What a jerk.
Your concern is the reason why I made this post. It ended up not a creepy incident at all.
About point no. 2, I have missed out a fact that in one of the parties we joked about B and I having plans for activities without G as we share some hobbies which G does not particularly enjoy. G might have been serious on this. That’s why it would have “made some sense” if B and I were to just hang out.
On point 3., I always wished for a healthy sex life with someone, and G knew that she can’t be the one for me. We talked about finding a sex partner / with benefits for me where I never seriously considered. Now that she was open about it made me feel like an option to consider. But yes, the sour feeling is what we have to figure out later. Thank you so much for pointing it out.
Start with that and see now you feel.
Watch some television, spend time with friends, eat delicious food, pray.
Well yes it is a bit weird as he could biologicaly be your father. But who cares if it works for you two.
come straight out and ask her why she lied. don’t let it fester. there could be many reason she doesn’t want you there.
Something about a pot and a kettle. Can't quite place it
You have to break up with her and find a wayof keeping things professional.
But this is why dating coworkers isn’t a good idea, you don’t shít where you eat.
It sounds like he's made his choice. He picked her, his wife and the mother of his child. I think if you can't understand she comes first then your friendship with him is over
Important: she is in the midst of a serious mental health crisis. There are a dozen problematic behaviors you’ve mentioned that all add up to this. She may seriously need treatment, medication, and maybe even hospitalization to get back to herself.
You can feel resentful, yes. You and your quality of life are being harmed. But it’s more likely a product of her disease than it is her own intent. It is important to remember that.
Ignore the “well you should just leave” people here — instead, look into what resources you can ease her into that will help her realize that she is not well and needs treatment.
My armchair diagnosis sees a lot of bipolar here, from the depressive episodes to the manic shopping… but it could just as easily be a few other conditions that are just as debilitating and just as important to treat.
This may sound harsh but it’s also something OP needs to hear along with all the other comments. Sex is part of any relationship. I understand OP may be tired or this or that, but that doesn’t excuse lack of sex. I understand OP troubled history with men. But if OP can’t provide something essential to a relationship, maybe OP needs to not be in a relationship until healthier. “I’m tired” and hiding inside pajamas isn’t a good recipe for a healthy relationship. OP has to put forward some effort, even the smallest, to SHOW not TELL that an effort is being made.