Hi, So my wife the other day just randomly told me 39M that she has asked her best friend, let's call her Sarah, the be with us at the birth of our 3rd baby,
She's been best friends with "sarah" since they were little children.
Now we were sitting watching whatever, and she just goes, "so I was expecting "sarah" to be like ..ohhh wow.. that's great and so on…"
"But she started crying and saying what a privilege, how honoured and how meaningful it was to be asked" …
I turned and asked, wait what???? I was shocked, surprised, kinda offended that she just sprung it on me, without even at least running it by me for my opinion at least,
She then explained that she asked her to be with us at the birth, we didn't have anyone besides the nurses at our other two children's births.
Now I get along great with "sarah" but I'm not really sure if I'm comfortable with ANYONE being there for a very personal moment, or hours…
I'm a very easy going , get along with everyone type of person, but also very private with personal and close things to me, I'm upset she didn't at least let me know this was something she wanted to even do, and yes I know the husbands role is just a secondary role to play in a birth.
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