Riiiiiight?! I was going through that list like “super interesting”? Well, let's see what the OP believes is “super interesting”… Army? Okay, I guess that can be “interesting”… “Addiction”? Uh oh “jail”? Uh oh! “got married and divorced”? Uh oh on OP, why tf do they find that “interesting”?
Then I saw them say something like “and he was acting like he wasn't too old to be on a date with a young woman like me!” And I was like… “Girl! You thought this while you were actively out on a mutually agreed upon date (a date that you were super excited for by your own admission), what the hell?”
I think they both are pretty immature. Thinking “addiction” and “jail” are just quorky life experiences rather than the probable, gi-gundo red flags they could possibly be is some serious naiveté (and I'm saying this as a long term addict who is currently in recovery.)
I think the better way to approach dating an ex-addict ex-con is with extremely cautious optimism. To be hopeful that they learned from their experiences, but to not count on it in any capacity. Ideally you would approach dating them after you got to know them in a non-romantic capacity. That way you can more easily judge if they still have any of the dysfunctional behaviors “comorbid” with addiction and/or criminality.
lady, I got news for you. People propose all the time without thinking it trhough, otherwise there'd be very little market for divorce lawyers.
But seriously, I think you might need to have a real accounting of the relationship together and see where each other lie on certain issues.
Riiiiiight?! I was going through that list like “super interesting”? Well, let's see what the OP believes is “super interesting”… Army? Okay, I guess that can be “interesting”… “Addiction”? Uh oh “jail”? Uh oh! “got married and divorced”? Uh oh on OP, why tf do they find that “interesting”?
Then I saw them say something like “and he was acting like he wasn't too old to be on a date with a young woman like me!” And I was like… “Girl! You thought this while you were actively out on a mutually agreed upon date (a date that you were super excited for by your own admission), what the hell?”
I think they both are pretty immature. Thinking “addiction” and “jail” are just quorky life experiences rather than the probable, gi-gundo red flags they could possibly be is some serious naiveté (and I'm saying this as a long term addict who is currently in recovery.)
I think the better way to approach dating an ex-addict ex-con is with extremely cautious optimism. To be hopeful that they learned from their experiences, but to not count on it in any capacity. Ideally you would approach dating them after you got to know them in a non-romantic capacity. That way you can more easily judge if they still have any of the dysfunctional behaviors “comorbid” with addiction and/or criminality.
Hopefully the OP learns from this experience.