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Date: October 16, 2022
Someone got raped and you’re laughing about it. What sort of person does that make you?
“Once a cheater, always a cheater” doesn't actually mean that person will always cheat, it's more along the lines that while it's possible to forgive, you'll never forget they cheated and that will always linger in the back of your mind everytime they're somewhere without you as they could easily be lying again. Trust is nude to rebuild.
It’s best to just divorce. A lot of the comments want the satisfaction that she’ll “cry and run/crawl back to you” when she’s older but the thing is. She might not, she might thing getting divorced is the best decision she’s ever made and that’s fine. Just cut your losses and keep it moving.
Don’t be vindictive because you WILL be disappointed when she still doesn’t feel that way
Ok the other comments are valid
And this may seem like fucked up advice
But when she does something nice to you
Treat her like you would a cute dog
And maybe it will come off as you seeming more excited
we have had sex for about 6 years and we did not use any protection! I don't know how did I control. I am sure if we want another round we need protection.
But it's a relatively “normal” kink to watch videos of heavy women eating – they're not “doing porn,” but people are definitely getting off to them just sitting and eating.
And then to extend: what if that was the case here? If OP was morbidly obese, and hubby was really into her? The question of “is he also into her personally?” would exist out side of the idea that he's super turned on by her being who she is and doing a thing that she does – it can be a sweet bonus on top of the relationship, or it can be a creepy fetish thing only (or it can be both: humans are weird and complex!).
How?
We would have liked to rent ideally, but with the rental market here(UK) it actually works out financially better for us to buy a house than rent one!
We were looking at a tenancy in common for the house, just in case anything was to happen, at least we both have an equal share in what comes next. (Would have been moot, should we have married in the future, with the way property law works in the UK)
Story also seems to have different/changing details.
You were in a break therefore your girlfriend didn’t cheat on you.
You did not forgive her because a) there is nothing to forgive as you were by your own admission on a break.
You then started plotting your revenge which was most definitely cheating as you were not on a break. Also you do not forgive someone and the plot revenge.
This tit for tat approach to making things fair is not mature.
Just split up for good.
Therapy for lying hundreds of times, therapy for spending our money on OF while we were struggling, therapy for preferring women on a screen while ignoring your real-life wife, therapy for the loss of intimacy, for the years of trust broken by lying over and over and over… You're awfully short-sighted. Definitely a bad partner. And I'm not American.
You clearly have major trauma from childhood and self esteem issues IF you think this man is a 'good man'
It seems that he has dangled separation and ultimatums over you, for a while now. Its rather amazing for me, to read your perspective. Like, you actually think he is a good man. It's very sad.
Look, I used ro be a model. A size zero. I also got sick recently and am a size 8 American and 12, European.
The highest I have been was a 14. Which, at 5. Foot 6, wasn't too bad but, it just wasn't me. People are allowed preferences. For sure. But, he met you when you fluctuated. He knew this about you. He obviously knew you had been through some trauma. You are also actively trying. He is not a nice person.
My advice is to seek out therapy, such as IFS and EMDR. Sure, keep losing and get fit but, as a woman who also suffered trauma ( which is often code for ” some man molested me as a child), I can say we often have a very insecure attachment style, we often feel that the rug can be pulled from us, at any time. This sense makes us retraumatised. That's why it is VITAL for healing to avoid those situations. Unfortunately, you are there again, being traumatised, being destabilised by your 'loving' husband and you cant even see it.
Even if you maintain a perfect weight, you will always have that hanging over you. Please stop hurting yourself. Let him leave. Sort yourself out , be it financially, physically and so forth and eventually you might invite someone onto your life who is actually worth your time, when you are healed and when you realise that your current husband is an abuser.
I mean, he has said that he wouldn’t like for me to be with anyone else, and I think the same of him. But we also are aware that we live in different spaces and it is possible that we may meet other people. But that is not really the point of this post. Also, I don’t think he has stopped talking to me, I think he is just taking space. I don’t think you fully understand our relation enough to comment on it, but I have no intention of “moving on” and I don’t think he does, either
Your BF sounds like a jerk. But if you need to reframe it a little bit to come to terms with it, imagine you don't like Cross Fit, and your boyfriend is really into Cross Fit. And instead of being like “ok that's not your thing but I like it and will do it in my own time” he is constantly talking/texting/sharing Cross Fit stuff with you. If you try to redirect, he will change the subject back to Cross Fit. Would you want to date that person? If your answer is no, then this is not any different.
Hey friend, I dated an addict long-term and you lose a lot of yourself to keeping those relationships together. Taking some alone time is pretty much the best thing you could do:
A) It gives you the opportunity to rediscover who you are beyond a caregiver who gets paid in insults and broken promises;
B) It gives you time to heal so you're ready to be a participant in an equal, healthy relationship when the opportunity comes along.
Alone doesn't mean alone forever (unless that's what you want). If he told you that you'd never find anyone else it's because he wants to make you feel worthless so you'll keep taking care of him. At 41 you've still got a lot of life left to live, and to share with a partner that values you for who you are as a person instead of what you can do for them.
We are supposed to spend Christmas with the kids at their place, but after this my therapist and I insist we don’t stay with them at their house. They offer a friend’s condo next to theirs that is open for the holidays- great! That will work perfectly! When I feel horribly uncomfortable, I can just leave and take time to myself. I can do this.
Fast forward to two weeks ago, we’re told the condo is no longer available but we can stay with them. This is quite unacceptable in my opinion. I’ve only met these people 3 times and 2 of those were very very bad experiences and I still feel like they hate me based on how they talk to me and interact with me. Unfortunately everything in the area is booked and we don’t have the money for the only things that aren’t.
Fast forward to a few days ago. We arrive for Christmas. I walk in and I get the same cold hug and feeling of unwelcomeness I did the first time and every time, but I ignore it. I’ve been keeping up with his mother and having good phone conversations, we’ve brought edible gifts that his father can participate in. He’s diabetic so I brought special ingredients for his coco bombs we made together. We buy them pajamas to participate in our family tradition of nude coco, new pajamas and a Christmas movie on Christmas Eve. Every second feels nauseatingly uncomfortable but I do my very best to remain in that low-standard mode I promised I would. They compliment my children on how polite they are a few times in the first two days but I notice them reacting the same way to them as they do to me. Annoyed at everything we say and do.
Each of the first few nights were there I let my guard down I have to keep up all day and breakdown in bed. Anxious, uncomfortable, but doing my very best to keep thing civil.
We get out with the kids a bit and that’s very enjoyable. We run to the grocery store without them and even that’s enjoyable.
My bf tells me they have loved having us and that the kids are wonderful. But this all still feels so fake. His mother tells me she loves me again and I say thank you because it feels so forced and I wouldn’t mean it if I said it back.
Night three comes along and we have some drinks and start watching a movie after the kids are sleeping. Bf tells his mother he would be buying me an engagement ring as soon as we get home which is news to me but feels really nice. I get more inebriated than I should to try and feel any semblance of calm and content. It works and I fall asleep during the movie.
We go to bed and I wake up the next morning before everyone to do some yoga in the living room. I notice mother’s phone sitting on the fireplace immediately next to me. I want to look at it. I want to see if how I’ve been feeling is real or if I’m crazy like everyone else is telling me I am. That everything I’ve felt for the past 9 months has truly just been in my head. I do yoga for 15-20 minutes before I give in. I grab the phone on it turns on and the last thing that was searched was my name. Odd, but ok. I search the same thing in text messages.
In texts between his parents they detail how terrible they think I am for many many more petty reasons, calling me lazy, a bitch, rude, being angry I don’t like a chandelier in the new house (bf doesn’t either). But the message that gets me to finally feel relief instead of anger is the one where they both agree to lie to my boyfriend and I about how they feel towards me ‘for ever ever’.
That was it. I was right. Every shitty feeling I’ve felt for the last 9 months was correct. I wasn’t imagining it, it was all just bullshit.
I go to the bedroom and tell bf what I’ve done that I shouldn’t have snooped but I just NEEDED to know. I tell him I’m going to find a hotel and that I’d like it if he came with. I tell him I hope his parents hating me doesn’t mean he will break up with me. He reassures me that isn’t the case at all and not to worry about that. That what his parents think doesn’t matter.
That changes after he speaks to them.
We spend the rest of the day arguing about logistics and how this is the worst thing any girlfriend has ever done and that he doesn’t know if he can be with me anymore. I tell him this seems like something that just needs to be worked through and that he can’t just throw around the ‘I might break up with you’ immediately after saying he wanted to marry me. That I understand he is upset, and that I shouldn’t have snooped, but as a couple we should be choosing to get through the mistakes we make, just like I have with the really horrific things he’s said and done in the past. That I can’t keep having him go back and forth between ‘I want to marry you, I promise I want you forever’ and ‘I want to break up with you’ every few weeks. He asks to pause the conversation until we get back and I say ‘yeah, of course, but can you tell me you love me? I feel really insecure about this whole thing. And he refuses. Says he’s ‘not feeling it’.
not sure why she is still your girlfriend…
No
Fwb. Shut that down and ask him what’s up. If you’re uncomfortable tell him to stop
Well, I know for a fact that one cheated at least emotionally and the other both emotionally and physically. One of them is a trained psychologist which is interesting imho.
Sound like you just need to be single
Start by asking her out casually as friends. Especially good for on campus activities. “Hey do you want to go to [that thing] together?”
If she asks if you're asking her out on a date then you can either say “yes” or ask if she wants it to be a date.
You are very young and this entire post screams how insecure you are. You are going to keep inventing issues in this relationship to make yourself more anxious, insecure and bring down your already low self esteem. You should prioritize finding access to therapy to work through this so you can have realistic expectations of yourself and others.
This is the kind of thing that really young teenagers do when they're romantically interested in someone. At 24, he should have learnt better, and you shouldn't want anything to do with him.
Him saying he doesn't want to talk to you again is the best outcome
She's using you for sex. She's a dickhead. These are two separate things. Either accept her as a fuck buddy and forget her douchery – or move on and let her find a penis with an arts degree to play with.
While this won't be the case for all introverts, having an extroverted partner can not only be neutral, but an active benefit.
First, in case anyone is unclear on terms: extroversion and introversion don't describe people who categorically do or do not enjoy social gatherings, rather they (broadly) describe people who feel energized by socializing (extroverts) versus drained by socializing (introverts). Introverts are less likely to seek social gatherings than extroverts because there is a cost to them rather than all benefit, and they're (we're) more likely to get as much socializing as we want/need in the normal course of life, and we certainly need more alone/home time to recharge from big events and maybe even daily life (whereas extroverts are going to want to go out in order to recharge from the daily grind). That said, introverts can and do enjoy social events, just less frequently than extroverts, because of the factors mentioned.
I don't think there's any reason you need to tone down your lifestyle to date this guy. As I said, it can be a boon to an introvert to have an extroverted partner (or even a good friend) because that person can and will handle logistical planning of events because ze will be more driven to do so (and may not even see it as work because the layoff is so high or the anticipation of socializing makes it fun planning). I think you need to drop what might be some unstated assumptions that you have, chiefly that you can only go out together if you start seeing this guy, or that you must spend all of your free time together. The way to make that work is to invite him along with you when you want to go out, and just go out on your own if he's not interested. That way, he can recharge when needed, you can still party as much as you like, and you can party together when he feels up for it.
I also think the awkwardness you experienced has less to do with introversion and more to do with you coming off as embarrassing (your word), forward (his word), or even creepy (not necessarily the case, but I know that people who are really sexually open and assertive can seem inappropriately so to people who don't really do flirting, even if you would be unremarkably forward to most people). I'd advise you to think about this less as a problem that you are flirtatious, confident, and assertive and more of a need to consider how you are asserting yourself. Are you clocking his reactions in your interactions? Is he, for example, more comfortable with you flirting verbally versus something like touching his arm, or vice versa? Does he react better to compliments than sexual jokes or innuendo, or vice versa?
While this may or may not be the case for you, I have encountered people who describe themselves like you do who are using euphemism to cover their failure to read the room or modulate their behavior in response to other people's reactions to it. You seem self-aware fband considerate rom what's here, so I think thaths less likely to be the case with you, but it will still help you to pay particular attention to what kind of behaviors go over well and what does not, and behave accordingly. I don't mean you should completely alter your personality or censor yourself – that's not healthy at all – just that his own reactions are going to be the best guide of how to be considerate to him, and knowing what does and doesn't work for him in terms of conversation, flirting, etc. will help you judge whether you're actually compatible. (Because crushes are often attached to near- or total strangers, one generally needs to follow up that initial feeling of attraction with a more sober, rational assessment of compatibility if one wants healthy and/or lasting relationships.) And if you think you are compatible, then you need to find a healthy balance of behavior around each other that doesn't leave either of you feeling like you can't be yourselves with each other while also being accommodating of the other person's preferences and needs. (In fact, that's basically a summary of what good compatiblity is, and what a healthy relationship looks like – being with someone with whom it's mostly easy to be yourself, and treating any disconnects or disagreements as things to tackle together to find mutually agreeable solutions or accommodations rather than one of you against the other.)
Good luck!
The only thing in this story that matters is the last sentence
At 5’ 4” and 145, you are not even slightly “big”. If you weighed 35 lbs less when you met him you were likely bordering on being underweight. Your size has nothing to do with your migraines OR your snoring. Your husband is a jerk.
I’m not asking her to put them back up there, I’m asking for 20 minutes for a coffee.
It's disgusting to do it on a PUBLIC account. It's not gross to want to look at beautiful people. But can you like, not be sleazy as fuck when you do it? It's not shameful. But consider the context, my god. If you have a wife that's already insecure about herself, maybe have a private account to follow half nude women? I know I'd rather not know. Sure, she knows in her head that he is looking at other women. But it doesn't need to be so public. And yes, it is gross to me that near 50 year old men lust after 20 year olds, but whatever. That's only my personal opinion.
Just ask her about it? Or if you don't care, then don't.
If you are asking us about it, I feel like there may be a subconscious issue or concern you have with it, so I would lean towards asking her about it.
So, you have your proof then… She admitted it to you, he forced her to “take it back” and told you he “has her trained to keep quiet” – it's right there, what more do you need than this?!
Leave, please. Leave now while you're still young and haven't wasted your entire life with him. You can have such a fun, full, rich life loving yourself, spending time with your friends and family who love and respect you, and then when you're ready you'll find someone who wouldn't treat you like this, and still have a long life with them too! Don't choose this cheater for your future.
Not saying it doesn’t happen but it doesn’t happen at the rates most of you think it does
Real men can handle a man, having sex with women is pretty gay when you think about it
Is this the same bf you've had for 5 years? You think he's a mama's boy, and it seems your family didn't like him. Now he's basically telling you he's a misogynist. He's emotionally unstable and can't support you financially. Let me guess: he wants you to submit to him so he can be the man of the house? Girl, this relationship sounds horrible. Don't put up with a garbage bf out of fear of being single. Yes, you've been together a long time but you matured and he didn't.
Some people are insecure because are related to unworthy people. 27 yo goes to the hospital to support to his family but spent the time making friends…. Wtf? And the family at home.
Yeah, and if you guys are talking for hours on end in person that sounds much better. It's probably healthier to catch up like that rather then getting updates constantly over text. I don't know why your friend would find it weird, sounds healthy if anything to me.
I would be more sympathetic if your previous post wasn't about being 'friendzoned'
100%
Most of these comments make me wonder how the posters were acting at 14, because whether she was abused or not, she was an abuser. Period.
When I was 14, I babysat kids and never, ever in my wildest thoughts would have considered harming them, because I am not and wasn't an abuser.
Will her husband know that she is hanging out with you and exploring new places?
Because, if not she is still lying to him. It WILL come out someday, somehow. You would not be avoiding drama, simply postponing it.