Sometimes people don't want to admit there's an issue, and for a lot of people having tough conversations feels like the harder path to take if they can just carry on as usual . I know in the past I've needed sense knocking into me. Likewise with my wife!
I'm not taking sides, I'm just explaining what I would do.
Actually…there’s a shit ton of shared property lol. But idk I don’t want to leave I want to figure how to work it out. I’ve had a shitty life and have met shitty people. Some ppl will on-line their entire lives with someone that makes them feel like shit everyday and that’s not us. It’s just that when it’s bad it’s not just bad it’s horrible. But it’s not very often. We hadn’t had an argument that big in the 4 years we’ve lived together. Tbh I think that argument really changed us to mature a wholeeee lot. But I’m not good at letting shit go. I don’t want to divorce him, I know he’s a good guy. It really feels like he shuts his feelings off a lot because that’s what he was told to do his entire life. I think the reason he reacted like that was out of pure frustration from being laid-off and I think that might’ve triggered some past trauma from his parents. My point is I don’t want a divorce, I just wanna know where is a good place to start and what are some good habits to improve our relationship BUT the last thing I want is couples therapy. I hate that shit, it’s too fake and staged for me. It would absolutely be inviting a 3rd person to opt into our marriage and that’s a big fat no from me. (Easy Love by R5 describes exactly how I feel about long term relationships in general)
Also P.P.S. I am on antidepressant and adhd medications. Yes they help so damn much. No I don’t want or even like the idea of therapy. If anything I’ll try journaling lol.
“Could you get dinner this time?” Say that when the check comes.
Sometimes people don't want to admit there's an issue, and for a lot of people having tough conversations feels like the harder path to take if they can just carry on as usual . I know in the past I've needed sense knocking into me. Likewise with my wife!
I'm not taking sides, I'm just explaining what I would do.
He’s not looking for a partner. He’s looking for someone to manipulate with mind games.
Actually…there’s a shit ton of shared property lol. But idk I don’t want to leave I want to figure how to work it out. I’ve had a shitty life and have met shitty people. Some ppl will on-line their entire lives with someone that makes them feel like shit everyday and that’s not us. It’s just that when it’s bad it’s not just bad it’s horrible. But it’s not very often. We hadn’t had an argument that big in the 4 years we’ve lived together. Tbh I think that argument really changed us to mature a wholeeee lot. But I’m not good at letting shit go. I don’t want to divorce him, I know he’s a good guy. It really feels like he shuts his feelings off a lot because that’s what he was told to do his entire life. I think the reason he reacted like that was out of pure frustration from being laid-off and I think that might’ve triggered some past trauma from his parents. My point is I don’t want a divorce, I just wanna know where is a good place to start and what are some good habits to improve our relationship BUT the last thing I want is couples therapy. I hate that shit, it’s too fake and staged for me. It would absolutely be inviting a 3rd person to opt into our marriage and that’s a big fat no from me. (Easy Love by R5 describes exactly how I feel about long term relationships in general)
Also P.P.S. I am on antidepressant and adhd medications. Yes they help so damn much. No I don’t want or even like the idea of therapy. If anything I’ll try journaling lol.