Thank you, this is the most sound advice I’ve gotten so far and I appreciate you taking the time to try to understand the situation before making a judgement. Maybe I should have added that context to the original post.
Yea he WOULD say you’re overreacting so he doesn’t have to actually do anything.
Just bring it up. “Hey when are you planning to get me back that grand I loaned you? Do you need to do it in installments? I do need that coming back.”
Wow. Her therapist is an idiot. I don’t think you have any power here. Saying something will just alienate you. Be there when things go south, which they will. It’s majorly effed up that a 45 year old man chooses a just legal 18 year old girl.
Honestly she should end the relationship, he CLEARLY intended to cheat. So even if he doesn’t end up going because she prevents it she’s only succeeded in preventing this particular affair, he is going to continue to be a cheater
He believes everything needs to be combined and I would like to have a separate savings specifically for myself.
Almost everyone should have a seperate savings or investment account in a relationship. It is healthy and everyone should feel like they have personal financial autonomy. If one partner is constantly running up credit card debt or has addiction issues than having a seperate savings account/credit card is not a good idea. But outside of that your partner is in the wrong.
I did. He said he would, but then we went LD and he was meant to come see me, but then cancelled and started panning to go on this holiday with his friends instead.
He invited me after doing all that, so it’s not like.. idk, I don’t know how to explain it. All that isn’t really the issue though, I’m just more like.. I just want to go with someone who hasn’t been, and I’m happy to do that but my bf is sad and I don’t know if i’m just so set in my ways that it’s unfair
At the time of writing, you have not had many comments but I can't believe that many of them are saying, or implying, you should tone down your stories.
No-one wants to hear blow by blow, intimate, detailed accounts of sexual experiences with previous partners but telling stories about what you were like, what you did and how you felt/feel about it are part of who you are, indeed, who we all are.
As a bloke, I could never imagine being so fragile as to feel offended by my partner telling me stories about the things she used to get up to before we met. It's patently absurd.
OP, you've either got to forget you had a life before you met your BF, ask his permission to recount a story or at least run it past him first or find a more mature and emotionally stable BF.
He sounds exhaustingly immature and he will absolutely suck the fucking life out of you in the long term
We are all still programed form the 50s. Ladies sometimes don't know how to make the move.
“Hey, so dinner (that other date), I know a great place”.
You did nothing wrong!! He isn't a good BF if he is blaming you for him causing you pain.
Nope just ask her out. In fact let her know how you feel. “Hey times up, I would love to meet up as soon as you are available.
Nah its an irrelevant one.
My dog I celebrated 15 years of companionship just the other week ?
Thank you
Yeah he probably is gonna find a 18 year old next lol
Thank you, this is the most sound advice I’ve gotten so far and I appreciate you taking the time to try to understand the situation before making a judgement. Maybe I should have added that context to the original post.
that's your opinion but clearly this commenter and your boyfriend don't agree
No
She commented in one of her other posts that her daughter has already cut her off.
Yea he WOULD say you’re overreacting so he doesn’t have to actually do anything.
Just bring it up. “Hey when are you planning to get me back that grand I loaned you? Do you need to do it in installments? I do need that coming back.”
He tells me he loves me, he couldn't be without me, works hard to support us financially, he's protective, idk what ways is he supposed to?
Nothing low level about it
Wow. Her therapist is an idiot. I don’t think you have any power here. Saying something will just alienate you. Be there when things go south, which they will. It’s majorly effed up that a 45 year old man chooses a just legal 18 year old girl.
Honestly she should end the relationship, he CLEARLY intended to cheat. So even if he doesn’t end up going because she prevents it she’s only succeeded in preventing this particular affair, he is going to continue to be a cheater
I asked her because she was just the closest person I could contact cause she was in person
Grow up. Seriously.
So no spouses go, you don’t even want to go yourself and you don’t really like these people?
At this point you’re arguing for no reason. Wanting an invite just to turn it down might feel good, but it’s still stupid. Let it go.
Yup it is possible that once you were hanging out again it just was awkward and he didn’t want to hurt your feelings.
No contact with EXes is the best thing to do It Saves me from so much unnecessary drama and stress
Pfff i live all my life on credit, everything is borrowed, even this phone i’m typing on, borrowed…
What is wrong with borrowed? Liquid money you have now are more valuable than liquid money you’ll have in the future
Yes.
My boyfriend is obsessed with Dave Ramsey
Example #1 that he is an idiot.
He believes everything needs to be combined and I would like to have a separate savings specifically for myself.
Almost everyone should have a seperate savings or investment account in a relationship. It is healthy and everyone should feel like they have personal financial autonomy. If one partner is constantly running up credit card debt or has addiction issues than having a seperate savings account/credit card is not a good idea. But outside of that your partner is in the wrong.
But would you totally freak out on your SO when asked about it? The BF’s reaction is sooo telling.
That doesn’t mean anything.
I did. He said he would, but then we went LD and he was meant to come see me, but then cancelled and started panning to go on this holiday with his friends instead.
He invited me after doing all that, so it’s not like.. idk, I don’t know how to explain it. All that isn’t really the issue though, I’m just more like.. I just want to go with someone who hasn’t been, and I’m happy to do that but my bf is sad and I don’t know if i’m just so set in my ways that it’s unfair
At the time of writing, you have not had many comments but I can't believe that many of them are saying, or implying, you should tone down your stories.
No-one wants to hear blow by blow, intimate, detailed accounts of sexual experiences with previous partners but telling stories about what you were like, what you did and how you felt/feel about it are part of who you are, indeed, who we all are.
As a bloke, I could never imagine being so fragile as to feel offended by my partner telling me stories about the things she used to get up to before we met. It's patently absurd.
OP, you've either got to forget you had a life before you met your BF, ask his permission to recount a story or at least run it past him first or find a more mature and emotionally stable BF.
He sounds exhaustingly immature and he will absolutely suck the fucking life out of you in the long term
She has been encouraging me to discuss my problems with friends/family so I don’t keep things ‘bottled up.’ So, that’s what I did…
Is this accurate? Because that is what he did. Good idea or not.
Sorry dude , but people suck ! None of this is on you