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Date: September 20, 2022
Hello OP There is enough information to help you. There is no context If you are in a exclusif long term relationship. It will be necessary to establish boundaries with your friends and this go for your BF too. Friend are rare and a bad entourage is as toxic as a bad relationship. If you don’t believe me you can go the divorce, cheating, infidelity sub.
Did I have a stroke or is this not in English?
She seems to like the attention and she even encourages it. She hides your relationship or stays in contact with these random men.
Personally, I wouldn't let random men follow me and I certainly wouldn't reply to their messages. I wouldn't want to be with a person who needed/wanted a lot of online attention from strangers.
You can't control her though. She is, who she is. You need to consider if you could be happy and secure in this situation long term.
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My bf makes a good salary, around $350k a year as such he fancies high end restaurants however whenever we go I get super embarrassed by the way he acts.
We went to a Michelin star fine dining restaurant that had a set menu. He asked the waiter if he could tweak some of the recipes on there and asked the chef to make his food extra spicy. The waiter responded back saying that they don’t tweak their food and gave him a side of chilli flakes.
We go to a fine dining Koran bbq place where we got to bbq our meats. He takes the side dishes such as corn, jalapeño peppers, white rice, broccoli, raw onions and mixes it up in the tin tray that the meat came in and puts soy sauce and ketchup in it and lets it cook on the bbq where the meat is supposed to cook. He then proceeds to offer his mixed up gunk to everyone around the table (mind you this is something that a 5 year old would make).
A group of us went to a high high high end steakhouse and everyone ordered their own entrees. When he got his plate he started to chop up his food and starts spoon feeling his food to everyone around the table.
I feel so embarrassed that he doesn’t have any table manners and idk how to confront a grown man about this.
TLDR: My (30f) bf (30m) likes going to high end restaurants but doesn’t know how to act and it’s embarrassed
Boy bye
Just because you don’t want it to be doesn’t mean it isn’t. Ultimately it’s your choice what you decide to put up with im just saying you should really reflect
He's an idiot then
There isn’t anything wrong with you. Sometimes people grow apart or change in different directions, and it’s ok. I was engaged and had a similar situation occur at 27. I thought it was something I did wrong or he did, but at the end of the day it boiled down to us being young and changing in ways that didn’t work with one another during our 20s. It’s difficult now, but it will be a learning experience and you will be ok. The biggest thing is to try and navigate the end of the relationship with kindness and empathy. It doesn’t have to be a horrible end and if you can preserve some form of kindness, you can hopefully salvage some form of friendship in the future (future being keyword here).
“You just sort of came out with it”? Why? What was the purpose? You led him down a path of insecurity for what reason? If this was AITA, you’d be that.
And does size really matter to you? I’ve never noticed anyone’s size, just their caring/attention etc. if I were him, I’d leave you
He needs to go! And u need to have someone with u even if its a cop and tell them u don't feel safe with this dude because girl u shldnt feel safe with this dude.
He sounds scary and again i always say a dude that can't take no from the first no is not someone i want around.
Ur body is to be respected and ur no should be a no!
Getting upset over sex is gross. Not stopping when u say stop is gross! Acting like a brat over it is gross!
He's gross.
Just takes a bit of time brother. Focus on the things you enjoy, and that make you happy. Surround yourself with friends and family.
Thanks for the article. Learned something today.
Seriously. This thread is wild.
I think the brother is solidly way more in the wrong, but is the bf quick to use violence?
Clearly. Lol.
It was an immature and inappropriate thing to do, and he clearly has some comfort with casual violence that I think speaks poorly of his character.
But you know, according to thousands upon thousands of comments/upvotes on this thread it’s perfectly cool to immediately physically batter people saying rude shit the first time, especially if they’ve been mildly annoying beforehand.
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Have you talked to him about it? 4 months is still pretty new and that’s also the time you learn to communicate. Do you know if he’s comfortable with seeing you once a week or doesn’t want to push for more?
It’s over it’s just a matter of logistics
>>That because of this feels like he can’t say things to me because I end up crying bc then he has to comfort me and it is emotionally draining.
One thing that you can explicitly work out with him is that, even if you are crying, he doesn't have to comfort you in the moment. You can cry, and you both can continue the conversation about his issue. Because yes, a person who always cries can come across as emotionally manipulative and derailing in a conversation about difficult subjects. I don't think that crying at evreything is part of yourself that you should accept at face value? Because are you going to cry in a work meeting if you get somewhat difficult feedback. Or in any other context that isn't relational. If you're with your boss and you see something that moves you, will you cry? If you're talking to a loan officer at a bank and you are overhwlemed at the thought of getting a mortage, will you cry?
“nope out”… I love it!!
three months or less
Did he ask you to pay him back? Take the W!
Don’t let your pride get in the way of having a great time with your boyfriend. He wouldn’t offer if he didn’t want to do it!
He would still find a reason not to treat those.
And it is too costly to permit people to neglect their health, then demand top grade care. His teeth would merely be removed.
Your wife is correct. Grandparents don’t get to be entitled and ignore the wishes of the mother
Did you get picked yet, sweetie? 😂
But there are presumed boundaries. Like if I'm going into a relationship with someone new, I presume the following aren't cheating: watching porn, masturbation, speaking to someone of the opposite sex, going to see a movie with someone of the opposite sex e.t.c.
I don't expect to need to run it by my new girlfriend that I have to have her permission to watch porn…
Your worth is not dependent on your relationship with him. You have so much going on in your life. You are a Mom! You are nude working ! You got a good life being made for you and your son. You need to cut out anyone in your life that treats you with so much toxicity. Keeping this up is also not a good look for your child who looks up to you. See if you can get some therapy, because you need to rebuild your sense of self worth. Everything you are building around you are signs that even if you “fail”, you can rebuild yourself. You need to redirect that sense of hope into something that's positive and will help you better yourself. If you're scared of being alone, you aren't. I'm sure you have loved ones around you.
Desperately trying to fix and accept , I have seeked therapy . But how do I fix something when he denies there is a problem ?
Now you know why you aren't friends anymore. Keep it in mind for next time. She is the one who ended the relationship, not you. You can't really try again at this point without pushing her boundaries that she's set. So don't.
Yes i brought this up on Sunday to him. On Tuesday he said “we’ll talk about it” I brought it up yesterday and he said “this weekend” And how he’s saying Sunday. So i told him i postponing looking for a new place to live with him until we have this convo. I don’t want to have this conversation on Sunday incase it goes bad. And him continuing to push it off is giving me a bad feeling
Sounds like he failed the boyfriend test to me. Give him the boot, you'll find someone who treats you properly instead.
Manage it by using your legs to run far, far away from this gigantic, bright billowing red flag
Exactly – now you've gotten yourself a “reputation” at work that won't easily go away. This could affect your career path – very bad decision.
He is severely emotionally abusing you. He wants to see how much abuse you will take from him. Tell him you have found the correct emotional response and it’s happiness to see him out of your life!
Yes, she is flirting with you. Ask away. Good luck.
Wait for what?
You are being downvoted 😂
I want to marry and share my life with a man someday. I see them a few times a year, but almost always at Christmastime, because it’s a tradition for us to have a family reunion then. It’s especially frustrating because if I were to marry a woman, they would celebrate that relationship. But if I were to marry a man, they would condemn it and possibly disown me.
BDSM is done with consent. You told him you weren't into it meaning he did NOT have consent. He lacks respect which is needed for BDSM.
I think sleeping with someone that is prolife is such a huge risk as a woman. I'm guessing an unexpected pregnancy right now isn't something you're prepared to commit to given your age (though I could be wrong). What would happen if you did get pregnant and wanted an abortion?
The thing is often our political leanings are rooted in core values and those values do come up and do cause conflict if they are conflicting, usually at the worse possible times. Also in my experience conservative/conservative-lite men do tend to have some underlying patriarchal views so be careful in general.
You broke up. He needs to respect your boundaries. I would consider going no contact for a while. You don’t owe him an explanation. He can be upset all he wants he doesn’t get to bully you into speaking with him. Especially as you said you want time alone. 7 years is a long time. Both of you will be hurting or reflecting in different ways. Sounds like he is not taking the breakup well. This may become an issue. I would make it known you are not asking for space but cutting ties and block him if necessary. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to.
It’s a bad idea. You’ve dated such a short period of time that you don’t really know each other. The problem is that if everything goes to hell, you’re stuck/trapped. Smart money is on waiting another year.
I want to say I throw up when I'm extremely anxious and it's not a behavior I had until after trauma as an adult. It is involuntary and not done for attention in my case.
If he doesn’t follow me back it’s gonna be so horrible because i see him at the gym and i’m going to a social event which he might be at next weekend..
He's only obsessed with controlling you.
I'm glad to hear it! Focus on self-care and getting yourself in order so you're making active instead of reactive decisions. It makes it much easier to weigh options and less likely that you'll regret things later.
If he cheats on his current partner with you, what makes you think he wouldn't do the same thing to you? There are very loving and faithful people out there. Just because cheating is common now doesn't mean there aren't people out there with values and a conscience. If I were in your position, finding out about his partner and kid is the day our relationship ends. He didn't just cheat but he actively kept his home life secret from you and you for your part continued to sleep with a man who's in a relationship. It isn't your relationship and logically, you do not owe her any loyalty but morally, you know this is very wrong. I was in love with someone too at one point and I thought they loved me too until I found out about their partner in an anniversary post on instagram and it hurt like hell but a switch flipped in my head and every ounce of love I felt was gone and replaced with disgust. Truth is, anyone who can do this to their partner can never be trusted and he probably wouldn't trust you either on a subconscious level because he now knows that you're someone who'd cheat or someone who'd stay with a cheating man so he'd probably never trust you either. This is a mess. It's one thing if he just had a partner. He could just walk away and never look back but there's a kid involved meaning that other woman would always be in the picture forever and what about the kid? Do you know what infidelity does to a kid? Do you know what coming from a broken home does to children? You messed up big time. Walk away. Let him find someone else and you do the same. If you stay, you'd regret it.
The nude pill to swallow for most couples in this situation.
Nobody really knows knows if they're SO is the one until they're decades into the marriage. HOWEVER, it's your call and his call if you're the ones for each other right now.
But LDRs are very hot. How long until you can hypothetically move in together (or move to the same town) if the LDR goes well?
Long comment ahead.
First off, it's common knowledge.
Secondly, I have personal experience with this in my own relationships/encounters. I was the younger one in a large age gap situation twice, when I was 15 with a 28-year-old and at 21 with a 31-year-old; both cases were characterized by heavy deception and manipulation. I won't go into detail about when I was 15 because underage is illegal and is different in that regard.
My experience with the 31-year-old included verbal and emotional abuse, sexual assault, stalking, isolation, and using his female friends to manipulate me and get information to make sure I wasn't telling anyone anything about him sleeping with someone so much younger (he had worries about the age gap himself initially and he made sure I knew it was important to keep it a deep, dark secret. I told him it was fine but I was too inexperienced to see the red flags at the time. I had never been in a relationship (not counting when I was 15, since that was grooming), friends with benefits, or had any sexual encounters before).
The 31-year-old routinely targets teens 18-19 and young adults in their early twenties, and was talking to at least one underage girl at 17 that I know of a couple of years ago, all while having a long-term girlfriend as well (we were not together but we had a sexual, flirtatious relationship and close “friendship”). I learned all of this after the fact from his best friend and was unaware of it all. His best friend told me because I told him about what happened, so he decided to fill me in in turn. He disapproved of what the guy was doing and was angry because the guy made inappropriate comments about his younger, 16-year-old sister.
Other people in my life have gone through similar situations. I am highly wary of these age gaps because I was and still am that young though I have learned the hard way, and I have been in them and witnessed them. I know how naive, immature, and inexperienced young adults are/can be, and how it can negatively affect them. My experience is not a single, uncommon outlier, as you might suggest.
I am a graduating Psychology major who has studied and learned the details on maturity and brain differences between age groups, and the research that I have read describes a vast difference from the teenage years (13-18) to young adulthood (18-25) to 25+ (18-19 year olds are still teenagers). There are distinctions with older ages as well but we're focusing on young adults and about 30-35. The research discussed large age gaps between teenagers/young adults and far older adults and the common detrimental effects. Brave classmates also discussed their experiences with such situations, both males and females. More often than not, the relationships were unhealthy and had many problems.
Different people have different ideas about what constitutes cheating in their relationship, so no one can tell you it is or isn’t. I will say, however, that I’d feel it was cheating and I’m sure most others would, too. A kiss with a friend doesn’t usually involve tongue and I feel like you acknowledge this by following it up with ‘A is a very sexual person’.
Why is she even able to send you crap? Block her and be quick about that!
Well like I said, I probably wouldn’t stay with him. You’re young. You have so much life ahead of you. Why waste it with an adult who is dragging you down and whom you have to babysit?
But you could easily let him keep using the current acct and you open another that he doesn’t have access to.
It's def a deal-breaker and a big one at that.
well if he consented to having sex with a cis woman she omitted the fact that she trans, then he did not consent to having sex with a trans woman.
in the same vein, if a woman consents to having sex with a man wearing a condom, then she did not consent to having sex with a man without a condom
You are not scummy. This is terrifying. Knowing that any kids you have with her would be on the same roulette wheel of mental illness and life would be one long waiting game to see if fate would ever call their number? Unbearable.
She doesn’t want to take medication for the rest of her life, but she has a permanent illness. I think that in your heart, you already know this is not going to end well.
You are allowed to walk away. You are allowed to have a life without this kind of uncertainty.
No one is gonna lie to you and say you have a giant schlong. There is nothing wrong with average, the problem isn’t what she said. Get the fuck over it. That’s the only way forward
You have more restraint than I do, I would have knocked his out before leaving.
As for your parting shot of telling him that you hate him. I think you actually do.
What you love is the idea of your father, of someone who loved and cared for you, who looked out for you, helped you grow.
Whether or not this person existed or not before you moved in with him at 15 – he didn’t exist afterwards.
The fact that they still don’t believe that they did anything wrong while you were growing up is further proof hat they don’t actually love you, they just want people to think they do.
If you were to tell the community that they on-line in, their friends and relatives exactly what abuse you suffered at their hands growing up, they would soon be grovelling for your forgiveness.