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Date: October 4, 2022
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clearly you're not on the same page. You've opened up to this man and his response was to tell you the truth about his feelings and that despite him not wanting to say the “L” word, he still wants to get to know you and spend time with you.
OP not everyone develops the feeling of love at the same rate, it might take longer for him to develop and reciprocate the feelings. If you are invested in this guy, give him time and continue to date him. if after an unnacceptable amount of time, he's unable to say the “L” word, you might need to revisit your feelings and look into breaking up with him.
Good luck OP and just take it one step at a time.
Since both of you have physically demanding jobs, this is not surprising.
Pay no attention to articles positing so-called “normals” as normality can vary so widely as to negate the term.
So, y'all are happy with your sexual encounters and their frequency? Then that's YOUR normal and perfectly okay.
Sex is an activity to be enjoyed mutually. Since it sounds like, as a couple, you are well-matched with similar libido and preferences, that's great!
And don't let anyone tell you any different!
It wasnt enough.
I would tell him everything. He deserves to know what his mother does since it's interfering with him life. Also, if he gets another gf she may do the same and then he knows what's happening and to set boundaries.
Ditch her she can get a job and fund her own main character syndrome.
2 days.
2 days is too long for her to think about this and she's supposed to get over this shocking news. OP seems incredibly impatient to me.
You did all the right things
Don’t get back together with him
yeah clearly a huge communication breakdown. thank you.
Agreed. And anyway, I wouldn’t view you as the bad guy either way. You’re breaking up with him because you’re being honest and admitting that this is not what you want. It’s not your fault that you don’t want this; you don’t have to apologize for having emotions. They just are what they are, much like natural phenomena. You may be the messenger of bad news, but you didn’t cause it.
I wish you luck!
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Are you really gonna settle and give the rest of your life and the life of your children to this liar
She obviously has a crush on you. If you feel the same way, make a move.
Yeah lol. Ita just strange cause we were actually hitting it off in my opinion, but maybe not ig.
I think you’re asking for a world of trouble. I think if you want to do it in secret, you know you’re not doing the right thing. Nobody hides things they are proud of. Put all of this energy into your current relationship. Take this as a sign that your marriage might be in crisis and start working to fix it. Because what you’re planning to do will blow it tf up.
Accused? Disrespectful? You had to cry over this? Everything in this post sounds super weird to me…
No ?
This! That was my first thought too.
And the fact Op said he had gotten out of a rough relationship too, he could be still recovering and jumped too soon into this relationship without taking time to really heal himself and might be sweeping under the rug the real issue at hand with his mental health.
So you’re in an abusive relationship ??♂️. If he was warm there was no need to make you keep your vent a) open and b) pointed at you.
Leave him.
At least he told you the truth. That means he wants to fix it and improve the pleasure factor. Chill out and be a little more submissive, you dirty girl you ???
I'd tell her now. You'll be the bad guy whether you tell her while pregnant or shortly after.
Have you talked to her about her statement?
If my wife said that, I would sit her down and ask her if she meant it. Could be she was having a bad day. Hormones. Etc.
If she sticks to it, tell her that's not a relationship that is balanced and you won't be in one. Then dump her and work on coparenting.
How did you hear about his messages and conversations?
An addiction is when it starts hurting your life, work, and relationships.
Rubbing one out to help get to sleep is not a sign of an addiction.
I'd leave because it's overly controlling. As long as you aren't having sex with anyone else, it's none of her business how you have sex with yourself.
Nobody should stay in any relationship where masturbation is regulated.
Next, she'll tell you you're not allowed to fantasize.
For once I want the Yakuza assassin to use a throwaway because he’s shy.
Thats the thing, I've brought up her seeing a doctor about it. Sometimes she'll get angry that I'm accusing the post partum on stuff like this, sometimes she'll say she does need help, but never follows through. For a little bit, I was hoping things we're becoming normal again, but then she would start getting angry at everything again.
They probably already are and now feel a bit guilty and are trying to get retrospective permission.
He can’t be an ass to them, but that doesn’t mean he has to drive them home and give them his Snapchat.
Other than that, agreed. If she can’t trust him/he’s not being trustworthy, the relationships not going to work out.
The narrative is 'my husband picked a fight, lost and now I'm worried I won't be protected by him.” You picked what you wanted, even suggesting that she is ignoring 'all the good things' about him that none of us know about. We only know what she wrote about and its this violent (not possible as you suggest) outburst that we are judging.
I'm not sure why you are trying to separate his actions from her conclusion.
She sounds like a loser tbh.
I’m thinking of some presents I got that made me feel better when my emotions were keeping me from being who I wanted to be or accomplishing what I wanted to accomplish:
One friend gave me a little matchbox bulldozer when I said I felt like I couldn’t get past walls blocking my goals. It made me laugh, and feeling anything was a blessing.
One friend gave me a balsa wood model of a printing press when I had writers block (it actually helped).
One friend hired an organizational expert to spend three hours at my place to help me think about what was keeping me from feeling like my home was anything but a disaster. I was resentful when the expert first showed up, but by the time they left, I felt energized and helpful.
Once when I was being a determined hermit, one friend dropped off several containers of wholesome, hearty spaghetti sauce and several boxes of pasta. I felt really loved and supported without feeling suffocated.
I once came home to a bathroom filled with tea lights and the minute I walked in the door, the hard bath water started flowing into the oils and such that were prepared. I felt very relaxed and cared for.
I once came home to a clean, neat living room with music that he knew I loved playing. He was wearing a suit (very unusual), and there was a dress and shoes sitting on the couch. He bowed and made a flourish. I put on the dress, felt awkward, but he was sure, and he held out his arms in dance position, I shuffled in, and we swayed together quietly. It, like some of the others, started awkwardly, and finished wonderfully.
What does she love? What does she miss from her hometown? What has she wished she could do or where does she wish she could go? How can you make her life more pleasant or more easy or more magical? Can you be sure for both of you? Can you help her past her awkwardness? Her guilt? Her self-doubt? Can you show her how very, very, very much she means to you?
I’m not in a relationship with either of them and they both know the other guy exists. So I don’t think I should be classified as a cheater
Why are you wasting your twenties on this fool anybody who would not tell you that you're dealing with an ex-girlfriend has something to hide. He lived his twenties go online yours he's dating your nice young self while he's not dating anybody closer to his own f****** age what is he waiting for his ex-girlfriend to become available again you shouldn't trust him he lied to you by omission
Do you like her as a person? She said she doesn’t see you romantically, so take that at face value unless she says otherwise, and adjust your expectations. If you both agree to casually date short term, sure, go for it. Maybe don’t worry about how you will appear. As long as you guys are honest with each other about expectations, what’s the problem?
You're getting angry about something that is easily resolved by an open, honest conversation. There's no point in speculating about his intentions tbh. Just get the answers you need straight from him.
Team OP!!!
He’s great with my son
Wow….what's the actual rush? Many parents only introduce a new SO to their child after 8-12 months….you already want to move in after barely making it out of the early honeymoon stage?
Another shitty AI post.
Is this a waifu pillow or a pillow you use to prop up your arm and or leg so they wont be sore?
Really? Just thought if a small child was becoming sexually active before development it would affect them later. ??♀️
Really? Just thought if a small child was becoming sexually active before development it would affect them later. ??♀️
Good for you! My point is that if you think things are going south in your relationship, then you need to make a plan for that potentially happening and not just wait until things come to a screeching halt. Talk to a family lawyer and know what your responsibilities would be for child support and what kind of custody arrangement would work best for you. As an example, it would be perfectly within your rights to have your Mom as your childcare support system. Or just let her come over and hang out at your residence with you and your kid(s).
34 and “older” even WITH reasonable financial security?
Your whole life is ahead of you.
Unless you are naturally not ambitious (which is 100% fine), where you might be settling is in the range of your ambitions.
Yep. He doesn’t seem trustworthy
Don't be paying off anyone else's debts. Like y'all aren't even married. He needs to be in control of his own financial situation. And you need to be in control of your own financial situation. That's it.
You need to get out of the mindset of feeling the need to be validated for being “right.” You describe her as being a horrible partner. It’s great that you took the high road and wanted to be amicable, but she responded in the same manner she treated you during your relationship; as someone who doesn’t care.
This single situation shouldn’t be the deciding factor on how you look back at your relationship. You’ve essentially said here that she was shitty to you in your relationship, but if she handled the breakup maturely you could just ignore all that and look back on the positive things. But since she didn’t, you’re now focusing on reality.
However she sees you or presents you to her circle is irrelevant. She no longer exists in your life. It doesn’t matter.
As it relates to the unfollows, it’s social media. Were you going to be friends? Obviously not. You’re her ex. Why would they continue to be connected to you?
Separately, you’re being a bit disingenuous here. While I can logically agree that they’re shitty people for continuing to associate with a shitty person, you’re really only pissed about it now that they unfollowed you. But they’ve always been shitty. To add to that, why would you want to be connected to shitty people like that anyway? Be happy they did what you should have done and saved you time.
So your ex is spreading bullshit about you to them? Who cares? Oh no, her friends think it’s your fault it ended. So? They no longer exist. It’s another cycle of her avoiding accountability? Why would this surprise you? This is the reason you broke up with her. She’s being the person you know she is.
How do you get over this? Time, no contact, keeping busy, and unfollowing her on social media. Good luck.
It does suck I’m very sorry. Something as silly as geography can unfortunately be part of comparability!
If you really want to make it work can he still move there but online with a roommate or something?
Ok, but needing a divorce a few years from now or staying in a bad relationship because you’re married, will be a lot messier.
First thing I want to say is that dragging it out for longer will help no one and will probably hurt her even more. Been there, done that, and it wasn't good for anyone, it just bred the resentment from my side for a person who did absolutely nothing wrong by me.
On the other hand, I would think about where the issue lies and if it's something that can be fixed. Because being attracted to your partner is your mindset and it can be worked on, if you really want to. As you said, you lost interest because you kept looking at things outside of your relationship, it's also possible to gain that interest looking back into it. But you must be sure you want it and you want to work on it.
Some issues in relationships are irreparable and irreconcilable, but I think the key to having a long lasting relationship is to learn to love your partner through the life changes and through different stages of their growth (obviously doesn't apply to toxic and abusive situations, but even there can be exceptions)
Spending time with friends and visiting loved ones aren’t “hobbies”, they are life necessities. And isn’t isolating one’s partner away from their family, friends and outside interests straight out of the emotional abuser’s handbook? I think you already know what you should do, don’t let your partner try and make you feel bad for wanting to online.
Just leave him for good. He tried blocking you in hopes you’d beg him to contact you. When that didn’t work, he claimed he had changed his mind, and love bombed you hoping you’d take him back. In a few weeks he will start being controlling and demanding again once you’re comfortable. He’s shown you his true colors once. Don’t give him a chance to show you twice. “Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me…”
Unfortunately I think the baby would have been happiest to be born into a stable environment but you seem to be very intent on robbing them of that?
I mean it’s an okay conversation to have I guess, but it sounds like the two of you see different paths for yourselves which is fine. He probably thinks those are admirable personality traits, which is why he was bragging about wanting kids, being a good father etc. but you just don’t care much so it made you feel weird. Maybe just don’t hook up with him again lol
Dude. Why would you tell her that, it's so obviously the wrong thing to say? Also, not helpful. People often gain weight because they are unhappy. Making them more miserable won't necessarily help. You might find you're making the problem worse, after all food is a quicker fix for a bad mood or miserable life than exercising, dieting and hoping your husband changes his mind about how unattractive you are.
Next time she asks you if you find her attractive, tell her yes. Don't say “physically” attractive or whatever. You love her, right? You love her even though she's fat right now, right? So you tell her that. And tell her you want her to be around and active in your life with you and your kids for a good long time and you're worried about her.
So figure out how to visit her instead of trying to figure out how to force her to visit you.
Aww I love this. Tell him! I would kill to hear my brother tell me that I am important in his world.
This honestly sounds like a problem you need to see a therapist about.
It's normal to have the occasional bout of self-doubt or poor self-esteem, but it's not normal to have those things affect your everyday life to this extent or make you sabortage your relationship(s).
Even if you don't consciously mean to sabortage your relationship, that's exactly what you're doing every time you ask your boyfriend loaded questions such as “Am I the most attractive person you've been with?” or fixate on little things he says or does for weeks on end. It might not pose a great threat to your relationship as a whole just yet, but it will eventually, and then it will turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy.
If you'd like for your boyfriend to compliment or reassure you more often, then by all means talk to him about that. You say he has autism, so that likely makes it all the more important for both of you that you approach this directly instead of just hinting at it.
Just don't put all the responsibility on him. As much as he might know you're an insecure person, it's still not up to him to fix that for you. When you say you know deep down that he does love you and is attracted to you, you're also basically admitting that you know his feelings towards you have nothing to do with how you perceive them and how you perceive yourself.
Didn't bother reading. Cheating is cheating, there is no justification. Just leave. If you need to, stay at a friend's house.
I don’t know him but they went to college together and have all the same friends she said they never had any romantic past. They’re still friends and she sees him occasionally. She slept there bc she was out with friends late and missed her train so she slept there for two hours until the next one
Burn bridges? What do you mean?
I was pleasant and upbeat when she said it to me
So I never showed annoyance or anything I even said ‘thanks for your help and time’ and she replied ‘you’re welcome but you did it all yourself really’
Also I read forums of these ppl they do gain from ppl getting a job
They have targets to meet
100% she got something from this
I hope you heed the advice you've been given. I'm a hispanic from the same type of community as him, same economic background, and exposed to similar issues as he was during my childhood. I did not behave the way he did. I pulled myself out of that, pursued multiple advanced degrees, did better, and have done better in my life than the majority of those I grew up with, family included. I would never ever stoop so low as to date a degenerate from my Hispanic community, because that is what he is. And instead of doing something about it, he justifies his self destructive behavior with poor me rhetoric or excuses in an attempt to normalize it. He has a tremendous amount of self exploration, growing, educating, and self improvement to do. And he won't do it, not while you're there.
You didn't point out anything, you made a fake quote based on the assumption that a married woman can't take a grappling class with men without wanting to cheat on her husband.
Which by itself is flawed logic. Women take grappling classes to learn how to defend themselves, not because they want to fuck other people.
Oh thank goodness, so happy to read this update! Glad you have your boy back.
This doesn’t sound fun or loving at all. He’s turning into your child and he’s 10 years older! You absolutely have my approval to walk away, it might be just what he needs to get his life in order. Also, you’ll need to be with someone who’s making a salary when you start the cafe because it might not be profitable for at least a year. He’s not the one.
its perfecting timing then. It will keep you occupied.