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it’s still fresh. it happened last night. he claimed that it was too much drama and he was guilting me for everything. he continued to make me feel like shit but he said “i’m not trying to guilt you. reminder i’m not trying to bring you down”
I haven't even hinted to friends I need dating help… I've straight up asked for advice and it wasn't helpful. All I got was “ask more girls out”, which isn't really helpful since I have a thing against asking girls out unless I know they're interested (obviously I've never asked out anyone).
He badgered her HIS way a dozen times which caused her to shut down. That is not helpful at all. And she isn’t 120lbs anymore? Ok. She isn’t grossly unhealthy, she’s young and she needs NO pressure right now and he’s putting it on.
If the answer to a 20 lb weight gain is end a long term relationship over it because she doesn’t want pressure of something I am sure is difficult for her, then geez. Our society is screwed.
Yeah, gotta say the irony is pretty intense here. OP might've fucked up with his gf, but other people responding in an even more insufferable way without the slightest hint of self-awareness is pretty hilarious.
This. I’ve had a couple exes get really upset when I’d flinch when they touched me. If any physical contact becomes the cue for “let’s screw,” it’s demoralizing. If I’m not at that very moment DTF then go away, I’m not some chew toy for use when he’s bored or horny. Same with conversation or bringing flowers. If you’re only “nice” to when prompted by an erection or guilt, my reflex is going to be “I’m not in the mood” or “what did you do this time?”
I see people in comments are all saying he is right, I kind of disagree. He has a point, you shouldn't be hanging out with your friends who ALL shut you out and made you feel like shit and reported you for mental health stuff. They purposely made you feel bad. I had my fair share of friend groups IRL I cut off because they hurt or deceived me in ways I could not get past. It's nude, but necessary.
But I don't think it's fair of your BF to threaten breaking up over this. It's none of his business as they're your friends and you choose who you hang out with. He could be more supportive in certain ways, talk to you about this or suggest alternatives such as you and him going on holiday together instead of you with them. I understand in extreme cases people propose an ultimatum. But this type of stuff is not that extreme whatsoever.
So I think both you and your BF are wrong. He is wrong to propose such an extreme ultimatum over something like this. And you're wrong hanging out with friends who fucked up your mental health and play mind games with you.
Unfortunately reasoning doesn’t work with him. When I try discussing the topic he becomes defensive and says nothing wrong. That I know nothing and I should just shut up and let him do his thing. He screams and yells at me when I intervene and step in front of the dog because I won’t let him “beat him.” Like OK.
LEAVE HIM!!! He will not get better it will only get worse. This is not a healthy relationship seriously stop wasting your time because you think you are in love. Also almost every single time someone starts harshly accusing the other of cheating it is because they are the ones actually cheating. They get super paranoid knowing that they are getting away with it so automatically try and push the blame on you so u don’t start to look into them.
I’m sorry but men doesn’t come with a manual that tells you who is going to treat you badly because you say you’re not interested. I would love to online in the world you seem to where ‘a woman should be free to say no, and feel safe doing it.’ Let me know when we on-line in that world.
Women on here are telling you what they experience and you’re invalidating their experiences by bringing your idealistic bullshit world view. This is reality. Women do fear telling men no in the wrong setting and when women do say no they may get hurt, they may be stalked, they may be cursed out and harassed, they may have nothing happen. But please let me know how to spot the crazy mother fuckers who will go nuts? Women are cautious cause we don’t know. I’m so sorry if it hurts your feelings that women choose safety rather than risk being hurt.
Maybe you want the satisfaction of having him try to get you back and you saying no. But this is just as good. For your own self-respect, just block him. There's no word more final than that.
I'm sorry you feel that way. I don't have Facebook, Instagram, snapchat, or a main reddit account. I didn't want to get into it, but yes, I did just disappear one day. My mom and I got away from my extremely abusive and toxic dad. No contact from anyone in town, just in case someone reported information back to him. If you could please post the links to the 3 other stories so I could see if there is any actual helpful advice on their threads on how to proceed or what to do.
I really do hope you have a good day and hope nothing you think is fake or a “drama fiction rage bait” ever happens to you. I never expected to be in a position like this.
I like and have had individual counseling. It is the couples counseling I am not sure is effective. Usually one person is working harder than the other. Good luck.
OP, my mother has a condition where it's so easy to bruise her if a minimal amount of force is applied. Guess what? My dad, her husband, has never once bruised her. I have, due to being a clumsy kid, but never my father. He would rather cut off his own hands by himself than hurt my mother.
For someone to knowingly mark an intimate partner for days is not only dehumanizing and abusive, it's also meditated. He knows what he is doing. He just doesn't care.
OP, get out while you still can. Please. This isn't right and has no excuse.
Take this costly and upsetting event to give him a good old fashioned shock therapy. Either he starts carrying his own weight and the proportional housework and childcare or he’ll be alone 10 seconds flat.
it’s still fresh. it happened last night. he claimed that it was too much drama and he was guilting me for everything. he continued to make me feel like shit but he said “i’m not trying to guilt you. reminder i’m not trying to bring you down”
I haven't even hinted to friends I need dating help… I've straight up asked for advice and it wasn't helpful. All I got was “ask more girls out”, which isn't really helpful since I have a thing against asking girls out unless I know they're interested (obviously I've never asked out anyone).
Any other red flags? Like being secretive with his phone?
He’s negging you
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He badgered her HIS way a dozen times which caused her to shut down. That is not helpful at all. And she isn’t 120lbs anymore? Ok. She isn’t grossly unhealthy, she’s young and she needs NO pressure right now and he’s putting it on.
If the answer to a 20 lb weight gain is end a long term relationship over it because she doesn’t want pressure of something I am sure is difficult for her, then geez. Our society is screwed.
i know. i am going to tell him to move on. i’m just worried he’s never going to trust me again but then again that’s my own fault
Yeah, gotta say the irony is pretty intense here. OP might've fucked up with his gf, but other people responding in an even more insufferable way without the slightest hint of self-awareness is pretty hilarious.
This. I’ve had a couple exes get really upset when I’d flinch when they touched me. If any physical contact becomes the cue for “let’s screw,” it’s demoralizing. If I’m not at that very moment DTF then go away, I’m not some chew toy for use when he’s bored or horny. Same with conversation or bringing flowers. If you’re only “nice” to when prompted by an erection or guilt, my reflex is going to be “I’m not in the mood” or “what did you do this time?”
I see people in comments are all saying he is right, I kind of disagree. He has a point, you shouldn't be hanging out with your friends who ALL shut you out and made you feel like shit and reported you for mental health stuff. They purposely made you feel bad. I had my fair share of friend groups IRL I cut off because they hurt or deceived me in ways I could not get past. It's nude, but necessary.
But I don't think it's fair of your BF to threaten breaking up over this. It's none of his business as they're your friends and you choose who you hang out with. He could be more supportive in certain ways, talk to you about this or suggest alternatives such as you and him going on holiday together instead of you with them. I understand in extreme cases people propose an ultimatum. But this type of stuff is not that extreme whatsoever.
So I think both you and your BF are wrong. He is wrong to propose such an extreme ultimatum over something like this. And you're wrong hanging out with friends who fucked up your mental health and play mind games with you.
Your brother rules
It’s not so much differences of opinion it’s different facts. Avtivax is also completely ridiculous and selfish.
I’d break up with her for that alone
Oooooh I knew I was right about your friends in my other comment. Absolute fucking clown shoes
Unfortunately reasoning doesn’t work with him. When I try discussing the topic he becomes defensive and says nothing wrong. That I know nothing and I should just shut up and let him do his thing. He screams and yells at me when I intervene and step in front of the dog because I won’t let him “beat him.” Like OK.
Lol, why thank you.
midwife is not a good source of legal information
Better than random person on Reddit. 😉
I don't think it's an unspoken rule, it's pretty damn spoken.
Your fiance needs to deal with his mother.
LEAVE HIM!!! He will not get better it will only get worse. This is not a healthy relationship seriously stop wasting your time because you think you are in love. Also almost every single time someone starts harshly accusing the other of cheating it is because they are the ones actually cheating. They get super paranoid knowing that they are getting away with it so automatically try and push the blame on you so u don’t start to look into them.
I’m sorry but men doesn’t come with a manual that tells you who is going to treat you badly because you say you’re not interested. I would love to online in the world you seem to where ‘a woman should be free to say no, and feel safe doing it.’ Let me know when we on-line in that world.
Women on here are telling you what they experience and you’re invalidating their experiences by bringing your idealistic bullshit world view. This is reality. Women do fear telling men no in the wrong setting and when women do say no they may get hurt, they may be stalked, they may be cursed out and harassed, they may have nothing happen. But please let me know how to spot the crazy mother fuckers who will go nuts? Women are cautious cause we don’t know. I’m so sorry if it hurts your feelings that women choose safety rather than risk being hurt.
Maybe you want the satisfaction of having him try to get you back and you saying no. But this is just as good. For your own self-respect, just block him. There's no word more final than that.
I'm sorry you feel that way. I don't have Facebook, Instagram, snapchat, or a main reddit account. I didn't want to get into it, but yes, I did just disappear one day. My mom and I got away from my extremely abusive and toxic dad. No contact from anyone in town, just in case someone reported information back to him. If you could please post the links to the 3 other stories so I could see if there is any actual helpful advice on their threads on how to proceed or what to do.
I really do hope you have a good day and hope nothing you think is fake or a “drama fiction rage bait” ever happens to you. I never expected to be in a position like this.
I like and have had individual counseling. It is the couples counseling I am not sure is effective. Usually one person is working harder than the other. Good luck.
OP, my mother has a condition where it's so easy to bruise her if a minimal amount of force is applied. Guess what? My dad, her husband, has never once bruised her. I have, due to being a clumsy kid, but never my father. He would rather cut off his own hands by himself than hurt my mother.
For someone to knowingly mark an intimate partner for days is not only dehumanizing and abusive, it's also meditated. He knows what he is doing. He just doesn't care.
OP, get out while you still can. Please. This isn't right and has no excuse.
Take this costly and upsetting event to give him a good old fashioned shock therapy. Either he starts carrying his own weight and the proportional housework and childcare or he’ll be alone 10 seconds flat.