Him fleeing the scene should make you realize he’s full of shit and if he really was trying to be a better person then he’d take full responsibility of his actions.
If she is going to the extent of calling a welfare check on you, then sorry mate but this relationship is over.
Relationships should not be this nude and with her, it's been cranked up to 11. Way too much drama for any one person and even if you do get back with her, it'll just be more drama filled days ahead.
I'm not a big fan of “leagues” but if you wanted to look at it this way, you are actually way of hers. You deserve someone who meets you both emotionally and intellectually and with the same maturity level as you. Your ex is not that person.
So maybe in a way she has done you a favour by breaking up with you. You can now see her beyond the facade of the looks and see her for what she actually is. She is someone who likes the status, who wants the “stuff” and who thinks not in terms of love and honesty and respect, but rather as someone who sees others as things to accomplish, tick boxes on a life list, etc.
Your feelings for her will disappear over time and one day you'll find yourself fine to start dating again. Give yourself a break for a while, work on yourself and send her one last message that you are blocking her and moving on and to please respect that.
You keep mentioning that you want to be strong enough to stay, but you’re looking at things the wrong way. Leaving him and sticking to your dealbreakers would be the strongest thing you can do in this situation.
You’ve already said that cheating is a dealbreaker for you, but you’re still with him. You also said that you had to force him to tell you the truth and you still don’t believe him. If he’s done this before and didn’t tell you, how are you ever supposed to feel comfortable and believe that he won’t do it again?
It sounds like your wife is telling you that she doesn't want your relationship to be one-sided; she wants to be YOUR rock, at least sometimes. I get the impulse to be the calm one when shit is going down, but how about situations that primarily affect you (like your grandma)? Can you express your sadness to your wife and let her give you support?
If that feels too daunting, maybe start with something small. Tell her when some little thing at work made you sad. Or maybe focus on sharing genuine joy about a really delicious cookie. It doesn't have to be earth shattering, just honest.
Him fleeing the scene should make you realize he’s full of shit and if he really was trying to be a better person then he’d take full responsibility of his actions.
If she is going to the extent of calling a welfare check on you, then sorry mate but this relationship is over.
Relationships should not be this nude and with her, it's been cranked up to 11. Way too much drama for any one person and even if you do get back with her, it'll just be more drama filled days ahead.
I'm not a big fan of “leagues” but if you wanted to look at it this way, you are actually way of hers. You deserve someone who meets you both emotionally and intellectually and with the same maturity level as you. Your ex is not that person.
So maybe in a way she has done you a favour by breaking up with you. You can now see her beyond the facade of the looks and see her for what she actually is. She is someone who likes the status, who wants the “stuff” and who thinks not in terms of love and honesty and respect, but rather as someone who sees others as things to accomplish, tick boxes on a life list, etc.
Your feelings for her will disappear over time and one day you'll find yourself fine to start dating again. Give yourself a break for a while, work on yourself and send her one last message that you are blocking her and moving on and to please respect that.
You keep mentioning that you want to be strong enough to stay, but you’re looking at things the wrong way. Leaving him and sticking to your dealbreakers would be the strongest thing you can do in this situation.
You’ve already said that cheating is a dealbreaker for you, but you’re still with him. You also said that you had to force him to tell you the truth and you still don’t believe him. If he’s done this before and didn’t tell you, how are you ever supposed to feel comfortable and believe that he won’t do it again?
It sounds like your wife is telling you that she doesn't want your relationship to be one-sided; she wants to be YOUR rock, at least sometimes. I get the impulse to be the calm one when shit is going down, but how about situations that primarily affect you (like your grandma)? Can you express your sadness to your wife and let her give you support?
If that feels too daunting, maybe start with something small. Tell her when some little thing at work made you sad. Or maybe focus on sharing genuine joy about a really delicious cookie. It doesn't have to be earth shattering, just honest.