Two things here: first, it’s not you who is throwing away the relationship; second, you‘re making the sunken cost fallacy. Say you brush this off and stay with her another year, and then this issue crops up again and you finally realize you need to leave her. At that point you’ve “wasted” two years with her.
lol I think maybe I’m in a perfect situation to provide some advice. I grew up in the west, am an Asian man and have fair skin. My wife (gf at the time) is darker skinned Asian. She was never 100% my type but honestly I didn’t care about how fair her or anyone else’s skin was. I’ve dated darker and paler Asian women in the past.
We moved to Asia and the beauty standards here are horrific. If you don’t have fair skin, you’re uglier. That’s just how it is perceived. I’ll admit I’ve been swayed a bit, I do find paler women more attractive now.
Does it matter? Hell no. Skin tone to me probably is one of the least important parts of someone’s attractiveness.
If his type really has changed, he’ll dump you and find someone else. If not, I wouldn’t worry.
That’s sexual assault plain and simple. He did not consent to that. You should be thrown in jail for rape.
Two things here: first, it’s not you who is throwing away the relationship; second, you‘re making the sunken cost fallacy. Say you brush this off and stay with her another year, and then this issue crops up again and you finally realize you need to leave her. At that point you’ve “wasted” two years with her.
lol I think maybe I’m in a perfect situation to provide some advice. I grew up in the west, am an Asian man and have fair skin. My wife (gf at the time) is darker skinned Asian. She was never 100% my type but honestly I didn’t care about how fair her or anyone else’s skin was. I’ve dated darker and paler Asian women in the past.
We moved to Asia and the beauty standards here are horrific. If you don’t have fair skin, you’re uglier. That’s just how it is perceived. I’ll admit I’ve been swayed a bit, I do find paler women more attractive now.
Does it matter? Hell no. Skin tone to me probably is one of the least important parts of someone’s attractiveness.
If his type really has changed, he’ll dump you and find someone else. If not, I wouldn’t worry.