No way around it, you're going to wind up telling her a number. Whether you tell her the truth or not is up to you, I guess.
I don't condone lying about it. I do think being truthful is best but she will be the judge of whether or not she understands. If you can't be honest with her, then the relationship isn't going to get off to a good start.
You didn’t freely and willingly give consent, you were coerced into by being put on the spot in front of the friend who wanted to kiss her. Coerced consent is not consent. And then she crossed the boundary that you gave your non-consent to and ran for another mile. The fact that you two are in a bdsm relationship should make consent an automatic priority yet she didn’t prioritize it.
No way around it, you're going to wind up telling her a number. Whether you tell her the truth or not is up to you, I guess.
I don't condone lying about it. I do think being truthful is best but she will be the judge of whether or not she understands. If you can't be honest with her, then the relationship isn't going to get off to a good start.
Ex deceived me
You didn’t freely and willingly give consent, you were coerced into by being put on the spot in front of the friend who wanted to kiss her. Coerced consent is not consent. And then she crossed the boundary that you gave your non-consent to and ran for another mile. The fact that you two are in a bdsm relationship should make consent an automatic priority yet she didn’t prioritize it.